Many amongst us often miss to realise that negative emotions are not always ‘linked to’ or ‘outcome of’ our external circumstances rather certain approach/behaviours when we practice in our lives, results in repeated unpleasant outcomes/results that create sad feelings/disappointments and those feelings again create unpleasant outcomes – producing a vicious circle that destroy happiness in life. The misery one suffers due to negative emotions does not end at the vicious circle of unpleasant outcomes and feelings. These bad feeling also result in an occurrence of psychological complexities, heart diseases, hypertension and weakening of immune system. Today Counsellor Shivani Misri Sadhoo shares 4 crucial tips that can help people to bring and maintain positive emotions.

1. How To Keep Your Emotions Positive and Maintain a
Healthy & Happy Life?

2. Many amongst us often miss to realise that negative emotions are not always ‘linked
to’ or ‘outcome of’ our external circumstances rather certain approach/behaviours
when we practice in our lives, results in repeated unpleasant outcomes/results that
create sad feelings/disappointments and those feelings again create unpleasant
outcomes – producing a vicious circle that destroy happiness in life.
The misery one suffers due to negative
emotions does not end at the vicious
circle of unpleasant outcomes and
feelings. These bad feeling also result
in an occurrence of psychological
complexities, heart diseases,
hypertension and weakening of
immune system.

3. Live within the territory of ‘NOW’
1. Live within the territory of ‘NOW’
A lot of people never understand the power and capacity of living and working in
“NOW”, but when they do, their life changes dramatically. This happens because
our pain and anxiety can only work when they get access to our memories.
For example, a man who is searching for
a life partner repeatedly gets rejected by
the opposite gender. Finally, when he
starts to introspect why girls repeatedly
reject him and he realises that his
rejection in life has put a deep impression
on his mind. Hence every time he starts a
conversation with a girl, his mind first
develops a strong expectation (future) for
a success and then at the same mind
reminds him of the experiences of
humiliation and how sad the earlier
dismissals made him. This caused him to
talk in a peculiar manner that has a mixed
element of anxiety, shyness and/or under
confidence.

4. Live within the territory of ‘NOW’
Finally the person, after his realisation, meets a girl by freeing himself from the
clutches of future expectations and past memories – by living in now. While meeting
the girl this time, his mind was not remembering past experiences, he was able to
observe and listen actively what the girl is sharing and what she is expecting to hear
from him and that further cemented their friendship.
It’s true that living in present frees
the mind from the dominance of
past memories and future
expectations but that’s not easy to
achieve. Persistent and conscious
attempts have to be made by the
person, initially telling and
reminding himself/herself not to
think about the past and not to
expect and gradually this will turn
into a habit.

5. 2. Acceptance
2. Acceptance
This is another part of being in the now. Most people try to run away from their
negative emotions. They eat, watch TV, play mobile games, and chat, check
Facebook or Youtube etc. It’s only when the person gets curious and tries to
find why he/she is experiencing bad emotion and put an attempt to accept it
as a part of you, it tends to disappear.
But how do you accept it when it feels so painful?
That’s the first hurdle you have to overcome because when you do, you will
realise that the pain was only half an inch thick. You can either learn to let go
of your negative emotions, or you can keep doing what you’ve been doing up
until this point.

6. Ask yourself the four Magic questions
3. Ask yourself the four Magic questions
The third important technique to get free from negative emotional is to ask self the
four magical questions.3
• Is the fear, anxiety or pain true?
• Are you absolutely sure that it’s true?
• How do you react when you believe this thought?
• What would be the payoffs of being angry or depressed?
Ask yourself the four Magic questionsz

7. Take expert’s help
4. Take expert’s help
If you have tried the above suggestions and still find it difficult to get rid of your
negative emotions, then you should immediately consult a mental help expert
like a psychologist or counsellor who would help you deal with the situation in
a better way.

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