The document discusses basic counseling skills. It identifies 10 top counseling skills that can help build rapport between counselor and client, including listening, empathy, genuineness, unconditional positive regard, questioning, being knowledgeable, counselor self-disclosure, interpretation, and addressing obstacles to change. It then focuses on listening and empathy skills, providing details on active listening, attending behavior, paraphrasing, and reflecting feelings to communicate understanding from the client's perspective.
Trauma bonding is a psychological response to abuse. It occurs when the abused person forms an unhealthy bond with the person who abuses them.
Abuse is never your fault. Neither is the development of a trauma bond.
For anyone who may have developed a trauma bond, help is available. Many organizations provide emotional support and advice about staying safe, both during the abuse and afterward.
Trauma bonding is a psychological response to abuse. It occurs when the abused person forms an unhealthy bond with the person who abuses them.
Abuse is never your fault. Neither is the development of a trauma bond.
For anyone who may have developed a trauma bond, help is available. Many organizations provide emotional support and advice about staying safe, both during the abuse and afterward.
Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a short-term, goal-oriented psychotherapy treatment that takes a hands-on, practical approach to problem-solving. Its goal is to change patterns of thinking or behavior that are behind people's difficulties, and so change the way they feel.
Presented during the Psychology Congress, Lyceum of the Philippines, Intramuros, Manila, Philippines, October 8, 2009.
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EMDR & Mindfulness: Interventions for Trauma, Anxiety, Panic, and Mood Jamie Marich
Course Description (From www.pesi.com):
Attend this seminar and gain a deeper understanding of both Mindfulness and EMDR. Learn how and why they can be powerful tools for healing, and with whom and when it is suitable to use each. Experience various practices of Mindfulness, and leave with skills to teach Mindfulness to your clients. Increase your knowledge of how trauma affects the brain, and how Mindfulness and EMDR can improve patient outcomes. Clinicians not trained in EMDR: gain an overview of EMDR, how and why it works. Clinicians already trained in EMDR: update your skills and enhance your ability to use Mindfulness to deepen your sessions.
Dr. Jamie Marich is not only an EMDR expert, author, speaker and practicing clinician, she is the creator of ‘Dancing Mindfulness’, a powerful community-based practice that teaches people mindfulness principles through creative expression. She is known for her natural way of presenting the “complex” in very relatable terms that translates into your having real-life, effective tools to take back to your offices!
In addition to the seminar, you will take home a manual with dozens of specific strategies along with numerous recent citations from scientific literature attesting to the efficacy of EMDR and Mindfulness.
Psychotherapy is a therapeutic interaction contracted between trained psychotherapists and the patient based upon verbal or nonverbal communication for treatment of emotional, behavioral, personality, and psychiatric disorders.
Presented during 5th Psychology Congress New Era University, Diliman, QC Philippines November 21, 2008
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Cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) is a short-term, goal-oriented psychotherapy treatment that takes a hands-on, practical approach to problem-solving. Its goal is to change patterns of thinking or behavior that are behind people's difficulties, and so change the way they feel.
Presented during the Psychology Congress, Lyceum of the Philippines, Intramuros, Manila, Philippines, October 8, 2009.
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EMDR & Mindfulness: Interventions for Trauma, Anxiety, Panic, and Mood Jamie Marich
Course Description (From www.pesi.com):
Attend this seminar and gain a deeper understanding of both Mindfulness and EMDR. Learn how and why they can be powerful tools for healing, and with whom and when it is suitable to use each. Experience various practices of Mindfulness, and leave with skills to teach Mindfulness to your clients. Increase your knowledge of how trauma affects the brain, and how Mindfulness and EMDR can improve patient outcomes. Clinicians not trained in EMDR: gain an overview of EMDR, how and why it works. Clinicians already trained in EMDR: update your skills and enhance your ability to use Mindfulness to deepen your sessions.
Dr. Jamie Marich is not only an EMDR expert, author, speaker and practicing clinician, she is the creator of ‘Dancing Mindfulness’, a powerful community-based practice that teaches people mindfulness principles through creative expression. She is known for her natural way of presenting the “complex” in very relatable terms that translates into your having real-life, effective tools to take back to your offices!
In addition to the seminar, you will take home a manual with dozens of specific strategies along with numerous recent citations from scientific literature attesting to the efficacy of EMDR and Mindfulness.
Psychotherapy is a therapeutic interaction contracted between trained psychotherapists and the patient based upon verbal or nonverbal communication for treatment of emotional, behavioral, personality, and psychiatric disorders.
Presented during 5th Psychology Congress New Era University, Diliman, QC Philippines November 21, 2008
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Genuineness; Listening; Unconditional positive regard; Believing the client; Cultural sensitivity; Showing the way; Honesty; Patience; Free expression; Knowledgeable; Being in control; Empathetic; Non-judgmental
Definition of Counseling; Counselitn and Guidance; Who is a counselor; When is a Counselor not Ready to Counseling; Notion and Misconception about Counseling; Frequently Asked Questions (FAQs);Scope of Counseling; Why counseling; Who needs counseling; Steps in the counseling process.
Clients: How to Engage, Educate and Delight.Scott Runkel
Closing keynote presentation, 2014 UX Strategy Summit, San Francisco.
The following are the videos played and referenced during the presentation:
Slide 9: "Why To Believe In Others?"
http://bit.ly/1g0OJnF
Viktor Frankl, 1972.
Slide 37: "The Incredible Benefits of a "Get Better" Mindset"
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Heidi Grant Halvorson
Ultimate Guide To Job Interview Answers
Most modern employers are using carefully-worded behavioral interview questions designed to expose your biggest weakness Use my interview preparation materials to warmly and confidently answer the tricky behavioral interview questions you should be expecting from HR.
When you want to get started building a super sales team, what are things you want to tell them. Sales is not about just numbers or just saying Yes/No and Next. Sales is about building relationships, It is about creating that trust in the minds of your prospects. That can happen only when you listen.. actively. And then get into their shoes and provide them a solution. Your product or service may or may not be a 100% fit. But if you are sure that you are true to your customers, you will be a great sales guy!
Agile Tour Toronto 2013 - Communication Styles - Employing and Enjoying our Differences - presentation by Sue Johnston - Everyone is different, that's true, but we're different in some predictable ways. Knowing your communication style and that of others helps you interact more effectively and improve your relationships at work and in life.
What is Teaching; Why Teaching; Types of Teaching; Teaching Methods; Effective Teaching; How Best to Teach; How to Assess Teaching; What Teachers Can Do
ADOLESCENCE AND THEIR UNHAPPINESS; MORAL DEVELOPMENT; SELF ASSESSMENT ACTIVITY; MORAL AND CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT; RECOMMENDATIONS; WHAT CAN WE REALLY DO? TEN TIPS FOR PARENTS.
Stress Management; What Does Stress Do; How Can Stress Management Counseling Help; Coping with Stress; Stress Management Strategy (SMS); How Can Avoid Stress; Stress Management Techniques; Proven Tips for Stress Relief
Healthy Thinking; Automatic Thoughts and Cognitive; Distortions; You Are What You Think; Irrational Thoughts; Irrational Beliefs; Time Management; How to Manage Time; Tools for Time Management Counseling; Tips to Improve Time Management Skills; Benefits of Time Management; Stress and Time Management Myths
Problems with primary support group; Problems related to the social environment; DOMESTIC VIOLENCE; EMOTIONAL ABUSE; Verbal Abuse; PHYSICAL ABUSE; SEXUAL ABUSE
Definition of counseling; Guidance and counseling; Why counseling; Who is a counselor; When is a counselor not ready to counsel; Who needs counseling; Ten steps to counseling; Counseling stages
■Counseling and Guidance Services
■Theories of Counseling.
Nature of Control in Organizations
The Purpose of Control
Types of Control
Steps in Control
Operations Control
Preliminary Control
Screening Control
Postaction Control
Financial Control
Budgetary Control
Other Tools of Financial Control
Structural Control
Bureaucratic Control
Clan Control
Strategic Control
Integrating Strategy and Control
International Strategic Control
Managing Control in Organizations
Characteristics of Effective Control
Resistance to Control
Overcoming Resistance to Control
The Nature of Leadership
The Meaning of Leadership
Leadership Versus Management
Power and Leadership
The Search for Leadership Traits
Leadership Behaviors
Michigan Studies
Ohio State Studies
Managerial Grid
Situational Approaches to Leadership
LPC Theory
Path-Goal Theory
Vroom’s Decision Tree
The Leader-Member Exchange
Related Perspectives on Leadership
Substitutes for Leadership
Charismatic Leadership
Transformational Leadership
Political Behavior in Organizations
Common Political Behaviors
Managing Political Behaviors
The Nature of Strategic Management
The Components of Strategy
Types of Strategic Alternatives
Strategy Formulation and Implementation
Using SWOT Analysis to Formulate Strategy
Evaluating Strengths
Evaluating Weaknesses
Evaluating Opportunities and Threats
Formulating Business-Level Strategies
Porter’s Generic Strategies
The Miles and Snow Topology
Product Life Cycle Strategies
Implementing Business-Level Strategies
Implementing Porter’s Generic Strategies
Implementing Miles and Snow’s Strategies
Formulating Corporate-Level Strategies
Single-Product Strategy
Related Diversification
Unrelated Diversification
Implementing Corporate-Level Strategies
Becoming a Diversified Firm
Managing Diversification
Summarize the function of decision making and the planning process.
Discuss the purpose of organizational goals, identify different kinds of goals, discuss who sets goals, and describe how to manage multiple goals.
Identify different kinds of organizational plans, note the time frames for planning, discuss who plans, and describe contingency planning.
Discuss how tactical plans are developed and executed.
Describe the basic types of operational plans used by organizations.
Identify the major barriers to goal setting and planning, how organizations overcome those barriers, and how to use goals to implement plans.
Suicide; Facing the Facts; Suicide in Bangladesh; Myths about Suicide; Causes of Suicide; Suicide Warning Signs; Risk Factors for Suicide; Preventing Suicide; You Can Help!
True Meaning of Sufism
The Sufi Way
Sufism in Life
Seven Souls-Sufi Psychological View
Psychological Well-being
Cultural and Religious Considerations
Clinical Perspectives
Authentic Contact
Relationship to Truth
A Strategic Approach: GenAI in EducationPeter Windle
Artificial Intelligence (AI) technologies such as Generative AI, Image Generators and Large Language Models have had a dramatic impact on teaching, learning and assessment over the past 18 months. The most immediate threat AI posed was to Academic Integrity with Higher Education Institutes (HEIs) focusing their efforts on combating the use of GenAI in assessment. Guidelines were developed for staff and students, policies put in place too. Innovative educators have forged paths in the use of Generative AI for teaching, learning and assessments leading to pockets of transformation springing up across HEIs, often with little or no top-down guidance, support or direction.
This Gasta posits a strategic approach to integrating AI into HEIs to prepare staff, students and the curriculum for an evolving world and workplace. We will highlight the advantages of working with these technologies beyond the realm of teaching, learning and assessment by considering prompt engineering skills, industry impact, curriculum changes, and the need for staff upskilling. In contrast, not engaging strategically with Generative AI poses risks, including falling behind peers, missed opportunities and failing to ensure our graduates remain employable. The rapid evolution of AI technologies necessitates a proactive and strategic approach if we are to remain relevant.
Synthetic Fiber Construction in lab .pptxPavel ( NSTU)
Synthetic fiber production is a fascinating and complex field that blends chemistry, engineering, and environmental science. By understanding these aspects, students can gain a comprehensive view of synthetic fiber production, its impact on society and the environment, and the potential for future innovations. Synthetic fibers play a crucial role in modern society, impacting various aspects of daily life, industry, and the environment. ynthetic fibers are integral to modern life, offering a range of benefits from cost-effectiveness and versatility to innovative applications and performance characteristics. While they pose environmental challenges, ongoing research and development aim to create more sustainable and eco-friendly alternatives. Understanding the importance of synthetic fibers helps in appreciating their role in the economy, industry, and daily life, while also emphasizing the need for sustainable practices and innovation.
2024.06.01 Introducing a competency framework for languag learning materials ...Sandy Millin
http://sandymillin.wordpress.com/iateflwebinar2024
Published classroom materials form the basis of syllabuses, drive teacher professional development, and have a potentially huge influence on learners, teachers and education systems. All teachers also create their own materials, whether a few sentences on a blackboard, a highly-structured fully-realised online course, or anything in between. Despite this, the knowledge and skills needed to create effective language learning materials are rarely part of teacher training, and are mostly learnt by trial and error.
Knowledge and skills frameworks, generally called competency frameworks, for ELT teachers, trainers and managers have existed for a few years now. However, until I created one for my MA dissertation, there wasn’t one drawing together what we need to know and do to be able to effectively produce language learning materials.
This webinar will introduce you to my framework, highlighting the key competencies I identified from my research. It will also show how anybody involved in language teaching (any language, not just English!), teacher training, managing schools or developing language learning materials can benefit from using the framework.
Embracing GenAI - A Strategic ImperativePeter Windle
Artificial Intelligence (AI) technologies such as Generative AI, Image Generators and Large Language Models have had a dramatic impact on teaching, learning and assessment over the past 18 months. The most immediate threat AI posed was to Academic Integrity with Higher Education Institutes (HEIs) focusing their efforts on combating the use of GenAI in assessment. Guidelines were developed for staff and students, policies put in place too. Innovative educators have forged paths in the use of Generative AI for teaching, learning and assessments leading to pockets of transformation springing up across HEIs, often with little or no top-down guidance, support or direction.
This Gasta posits a strategic approach to integrating AI into HEIs to prepare staff, students and the curriculum for an evolving world and workplace. We will highlight the advantages of working with these technologies beyond the realm of teaching, learning and assessment by considering prompt engineering skills, industry impact, curriculum changes, and the need for staff upskilling. In contrast, not engaging strategically with Generative AI poses risks, including falling behind peers, missed opportunities and failing to ensure our graduates remain employable. The rapid evolution of AI technologies necessitates a proactive and strategic approach if we are to remain relevant.
The Roman Empire A Historical Colossus.pdfkaushalkr1407
The Roman Empire, a vast and enduring power, stands as one of history's most remarkable civilizations, leaving an indelible imprint on the world. It emerged from the Roman Republic, transitioning into an imperial powerhouse under the leadership of Augustus Caesar in 27 BCE. This transformation marked the beginning of an era defined by unprecedented territorial expansion, architectural marvels, and profound cultural influence.
The empire's roots lie in the city of Rome, founded, according to legend, by Romulus in 753 BCE. Over centuries, Rome evolved from a small settlement to a formidable republic, characterized by a complex political system with elected officials and checks on power. However, internal strife, class conflicts, and military ambitions paved the way for the end of the Republic. Julius Caesar’s dictatorship and subsequent assassination in 44 BCE created a power vacuum, leading to a civil war. Octavian, later Augustus, emerged victorious, heralding the Roman Empire’s birth.
Under Augustus, the empire experienced the Pax Romana, a 200-year period of relative peace and stability. Augustus reformed the military, established efficient administrative systems, and initiated grand construction projects. The empire's borders expanded, encompassing territories from Britain to Egypt and from Spain to the Euphrates. Roman legions, renowned for their discipline and engineering prowess, secured and maintained these vast territories, building roads, fortifications, and cities that facilitated control and integration.
The Roman Empire’s society was hierarchical, with a rigid class system. At the top were the patricians, wealthy elites who held significant political power. Below them were the plebeians, free citizens with limited political influence, and the vast numbers of slaves who formed the backbone of the economy. The family unit was central, governed by the paterfamilias, the male head who held absolute authority.
Culturally, the Romans were eclectic, absorbing and adapting elements from the civilizations they encountered, particularly the Greeks. Roman art, literature, and philosophy reflected this synthesis, creating a rich cultural tapestry. Latin, the Roman language, became the lingua franca of the Western world, influencing numerous modern languages.
Roman architecture and engineering achievements were monumental. They perfected the arch, vault, and dome, constructing enduring structures like the Colosseum, Pantheon, and aqueducts. These engineering marvels not only showcased Roman ingenuity but also served practical purposes, from public entertainment to water supply.
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How to Make a Field invisible in Odoo 17Celine George
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An EFL lesson about the current events in Palestine. It is intended to be for intermediate students who wish to increase their listening skills through a short lesson in power point.
1. BECOMING ABECOMING A
COUNSELORCOUNSELOR
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2. Basic Counseling SkillsBasic Counseling Skills
Top ten basic counseling skills which can help to buildTop ten basic counseling skills which can help to build
rapport between counselor and the client.rapport between counselor and the client.
11. Listening. Listening
22.. EmpathyEmpathy
33. Genuineness. Genuineness
44. Unconditional Positive Regard. Unconditional Positive Regard
66. Questioning. Questioning
77. Knowledgeable. Knowledgeable
88. Counselor Self- Disclosure. Counselor Self- Disclosure
99. Interpretation. Interpretation
1010. Obstacles to Change. Obstacles to Change
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SkillsSkills
ListeningListening
CCapturing and understanding theapturing and understanding the verbalverbal andand
nonverbalnonverbal information communicated by thatinformation communicated by that
client.client.
Two primary sources of information –Two primary sources of information –
ContentContent -- what is specifically said. Listenwhat is specifically said. Listen
carefully for, not only what a person says, butcarefully for, not only what a person says, but
also the words, expressions and patterns thealso the words, expressions and patterns the
person is usingperson is using..
ProcessProcess -- all nonverbal phenomena, includingall nonverbal phenomena, including
how content is conveyed, themes, bodyhow content is conveyed, themes, body
language, interactions, smiling etc.language, interactions, smiling etc.
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Listening/ObservingListening/Observing
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SkillsSkills
ListeningListening
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Attending BehaviorAttending Behavior
About 80 % of communication takes place non-verbally.About 80 % of communication takes place non-verbally.
Orienting oneself physically and psychologicalOrienting oneself physically and psychological
Encourages the other person to talkEncourages the other person to talk
Lets the client know you’re listeningLets the client know you’re listening
Conveys empathy.Conveys empathy.
What Does Attending Behavior Look Like?What Does Attending Behavior Look Like?
SHOVLER (Or SOLER – the underlined)SHOVLER (Or SOLER – the underlined)
•SS: Face the other: Face the other SSquarelyquarely
•HH:: HHead nodsead nods
•OO: Adopt an: Adopt an OOpen Posturepen Posture
•VV:: VVerbalerbal FollowingFollowing
•EE: Sp: Speeechech
•LL:: LLeanean toward the othertoward the other
•EE: Make: Make EEyeye ContactContact
•RR: Be Relatively: Be Relatively RRelaxedelaxed
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SkillsSkills
ListeningListening
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Good listening involves all of the following-Good listening involves all of the following-
• Eye contact (culturally appropriate)Eye contact (culturally appropriate)
• Demonstrate attention, e.g. noddingDemonstrate attention, e.g. nodding
• Encouragement, e.g.Encouragement, e.g. “Mm-hmm”, “Yes”“Mm-hmm”, “Yes”
• Minimize distractions, e.g. TV, telephone, noiseMinimize distractions, e.g. TV, telephone, noise
• Do not do other tasks at the same timeDo not do other tasks at the same time
• Do not interrupt the client unnecessarilyDo not interrupt the client unnecessarily
• Ask questions if you do not understandAsk questions if you do not understand
• Do not take over and tell your own ‘story’Do not take over and tell your own ‘story’
• Acknowledge the client’s feeling,Acknowledge the client’s feeling,
e.g.e.g. “I can see you feel very sad”“I can see you feel very sad”
• Repeat back the main points of the discussion to checkRepeat back the main points of the discussion to check
understand the client correctly (this is known as paraphrasing,understand the client correctly (this is known as paraphrasing,
reflection of feelings, clarification, summarizing).reflection of feelings, clarification, summarizing).
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SkillsSkills
ListeningListening
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Three aspects of listening –Three aspects of listening –
Linguistic:Linguistic: actual words, phrases andactual words, phrases and
metaphors used to convey feelings.metaphors used to convey feelings.
Paralinguistic:Paralinguistic: not words themselves butnot words themselves but
timing, accent, volume, pitch, etc.timing, accent, volume, pitch, etc.
Non-verbal:Non-verbal: ‘body language’ or facial‘body language’ or facial
expression, use of gestures, bodyexpression, use of gestures, body
position and movement, proximity orposition and movement, proximity or
touch in relation to the counselor.touch in relation to the counselor.
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SkillsSkills
EmpathyEmpathy
Experience of understanding anotherExperience of understanding another
person’s condition from their perspective.person’s condition from their perspective.
Ability to perceive another’s experience andAbility to perceive another’s experience and
then to communicate that perception backthen to communicate that perception back
to the individual to clarify and amplify theirto the individual to clarify and amplify their
own experiencing and meaning.own experiencing and meaning.
Primary skills associated with the communicationPrimary skills associated with the communication
of empathy include-of empathy include-
A.A. Nonverbal and verbal attendingNonverbal and verbal attending
B.B. Paraphrasing content of client communicationsParaphrasing content of client communications
C.C. Reflecting client feelings and implicit messages.Reflecting client feelings and implicit messages.
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SkillsSkills
EmpathyEmpathy
The ways in which counselors can be “with” theirThe ways in which counselors can be “with” their
clients, both physically and psychologically.clients, both physically and psychologically.
It tells clients that you are with them and thatIt tells clients that you are with them and that
they can share their world with you.they can share their world with you.
Acronym SOLER can be used to help to show innerAcronym SOLER can be used to help to show inner
attitudes and values of respect and genuinenessattitudes and values of respect and genuineness
towards a client.towards a client.
SS :: SSquarely face your client.quarely face your client.
OO : Adopt an: Adopt an OOpen Posture.pen Posture.
LL :: LLean toward the client (when appropriate) to show yourean toward the client (when appropriate) to show your
involvement and interest.involvement and interest.
EE :: EEye contact with a client conveys the message that youye contact with a client conveys the message that you
are interested in what the client has to say.are interested in what the client has to say.
RR : Try to be: Try to be RRelaxed or natural with the client.elaxed or natural with the client.
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AttendingAttending
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EmpathyEmpathy
Attending PhysicallyAttending Physically
A Posture of InvolvementA Posture of Involvement
Appropriate Body MotionAppropriate Body Motion
Eye ContactEye Contact
Creating a Non DestructingCreating a Non Destructing
EnvironmentEnvironment
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SkillsSkills
EmpathyEmpathy
ObservingObserving
Observing means asking clients about themselves.Observing means asking clients about themselves.
It involves –It involves –
• Ask clients about their reasons for coming.Ask clients about their reasons for coming.
• Help clients decide what decisions they face.Help clients decide what decisions they face.
• Help clients express their feelings, needs, wants and anyHelp clients express their feelings, needs, wants and any
doubts, concerns or talking.doubts, concerns or talking.
• Keep questions open, simple and brief.Keep questions open, simple and brief.
• Ask clients what they want to do.Ask clients what they want to do.
• Listen actively to what the client says.Listen actively to what the client says.
• Follow where the client leads the discussion.Follow where the client leads the discussion.
• Show your interest and understanding at all times.Show your interest and understanding at all times.
• Express empathy.Express empathy.
• Avoid judgments and opinion.Avoid judgments and opinion.
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AttendingAttending
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EmpathyEmpathy
Counselor rephrases the content of the client’sCounselor rephrases the content of the client’s
message.message.
Selective focusing on the cognitive part of theSelective focusing on the cognitive part of the
message – with the client’s key words andmessage – with the client’s key words and
ideas.ideas.
Being communicated back to the client in aBeing communicated back to the client in a
rephrased and shortened form.rephrased and shortened form.
Examples - Client: I feel terrible.
Counselor: You feel terrible.
Client: I heard a noise.
Counselor: A noise?
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Four steps in effective paraphrasing-Four steps in effective paraphrasing-
A.A.Listen and recallListen and recall: Entire client message recalled and do: Entire client message recalled and do
not omit any significant parts.not omit any significant parts.
B.B. Identify the contentIdentify the content:: Part of the message by decidingPart of the message by deciding
what event, situation, idea, or person the client is talkingwhat event, situation, idea, or person the client is talking
about.about.
C.C. RephraseRephrase: key words and ideas the client has used to: key words and ideas the client has used to
communicate their concerns in a fresh or differentcommunicate their concerns in a fresh or different
perspective.perspective.
D.D. Perception checkPerception check:: Usually in the form of a briefUsually in the form of a brief
question, e.g. “It sounds like...”, “Let me see if Iquestion, e.g. “It sounds like...”, “Let me see if I
understand this”, which allows the client to agree orunderstand this”, which allows the client to agree or
disagree with the accuracy of your paraphrasing.disagree with the accuracy of your paraphrasing.
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Purposes of ParaphrasingPurposes of Paraphrasing
• Convey that you are understanding him/herConvey that you are understanding him/her
• Help the client by simplifying, focusing andHelp the client by simplifying, focusing and
crystallizing what they saidcrystallizing what they said
• May encourage the client to elaborateMay encourage the client to elaborate
• Provide a check on the accuracy of your perceptions.Provide a check on the accuracy of your perceptions.
When to UseWhen to Use
When you have an hypothesis about what’s going on withWhen you have an hypothesis about what’s going on with
the clientthe client
When the client is in a decision making conflictWhen the client is in a decision making conflict
When the client has presented a lot of material and youWhen the client has presented a lot of material and you
feel confused.feel confused.
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It is the echoing back of the last few words that theIt is the echoing back of the last few words that the
client has spoken.client has spoken.
It is a verbal response to client emotion.It is a verbal response to client emotion.
It is the process of paraphrasing and restating both theIt is the process of paraphrasing and restating both the
feelings and words of the client.feelings and words of the client.
CounseleeCounselee:: We moved to Chittagong from Rajbari at theWe moved to Chittagong from Rajbari at the
beginning of last year but none of us really settled down.beginning of last year but none of us really settled down.
My wife never did like living in such a large city. I found itMy wife never did like living in such a large city. I found it
difficult to get a job…difficult to get a job…
CounCounselorselor: You found it difficult to get a job…: You found it difficult to get a job…
CounseleeCounselee: Well, it was difficult to start with, any way. I: Well, it was difficult to start with, any way. I
suppose I didn’t really try hard enough…suppose I didn’t really try hard enough…
CounselorCounselor:: You didn’t really try hard enough…You didn’t really try hard enough…
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Purposes of a ReflectionPurposes of a Reflection
• Helps clientsHelps clients
• Feel understoodFeel understood
• Express more feelingsExpress more feelings
• Manage feelingsManage feelings
• Discriminate among variousDiscriminate among various
feelings.feelings.
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Two main techniques of reflecting are-Two main techniques of reflecting are-
MirroringMirroring
It is a simple form of reflecting and involves repeatingIt is a simple form of reflecting and involves repeating
almost exactly what the speaker says.almost exactly what the speaker says.
It should be short and simple.It should be short and simple.
It is usually enough to just repeat key words or the lastIt is usually enough to just repeat key words or the last
few words spoken.few words spoken.
This shows you are trying to understand the speakersThis shows you are trying to understand the speakers
terms of reference and acts as a prompt for him or herterms of reference and acts as a prompt for him or her
to continue.to continue.
Be aware not to over mirror as this can become irritatingBe aware not to over mirror as this can become irritating
and therefore a distraction from the message.and therefore a distraction from the message.
ParaphrasingParaphrasing
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Guidelines for ReflectingGuidelines for Reflecting
Be natural.Be natural.
Listen for the basic message - consider theListen for the basic message - consider the
content, feeling and meaning expressed by thecontent, feeling and meaning expressed by the
speaker.speaker.
Restate what you have been told in simple terms.Restate what you have been told in simple terms.
When restating, look for non-verbal as well asWhen restating, look for non-verbal as well as
verbal cues that confirm or deny the accuracy ofverbal cues that confirm or deny the accuracy of
your paraphrasing.your paraphrasing.
Do not question the speaker unnecessarily.Do not question the speaker unnecessarily.
Do not add to the speaker's meaning.Do not add to the speaker's meaning.
Do not take the speaker's topic in a new direction.Do not take the speaker's topic in a new direction.
Always be non-directive and non-judgmental.Always be non-directive and non-judgmental.
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Steps of a ReflectionSteps of a Reflection
a.a. Listen closely and observe behaviorListen closely and observe behavior
• Watch nonverbal behaviorWatch nonverbal behavior
• Verbally reflect the feelings back to the clientVerbally reflect the feelings back to the client
b.b. Identify the feeling categoryIdentify the feeling category
c.c. Identify the intensityIdentify the intensity
d.d. Match the feeling and intensity of a wordMatch the feeling and intensity of a word
e.e. Feed back to the clientFeed back to the client
f.f. Add content using the formAdd content using the form
““You feel ___ , because _____”.You feel ___ , because _____”.
g.g. Check for accuracy.Check for accuracy.
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Genuineness (also known as congruence) refers toGenuineness (also known as congruence) refers to
the therapist’s ability is be authentic.the therapist’s ability is be authentic.
When a therapist is genuine, s/he might shareWhen a therapist is genuine, s/he might share
her/his emotional reactions to clients’ problems andher/his emotional reactions to clients’ problems and
experiences.experiences.
Genuineness does not mean therapists disclose theirGenuineness does not mean therapists disclose their
problems to clients; it just means the therapistproblems to clients; it just means the therapist
shares his or her feelings regarding the client’sshares his or her feelings regarding the client’s
experiences.experiences.
For exampleFor example, helping a client explore a drug or sexual, helping a client explore a drug or sexual
issue, but their behavior (verbally and nonverbally)issue, but their behavior (verbally and nonverbally)
shows signs of discomfort with the topic this willshows signs of discomfort with the topic this will
become an obstacle to progress and often lead tobecome an obstacle to progress and often lead to
client confusion about and mistrust of the counselor.client confusion about and mistrust of the counselor.
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GenuinenessGenuineness
Some of the qualities go to make up genuineness are -Some of the qualities go to make up genuineness are -
Professional roleProfessional role: Relating to others and helping: Relating to others and helping
others are part of the life of a counselor.others are part of the life of a counselor.
SpontaneitySpontaneity: A genuine person is spontaneous and: A genuine person is spontaneous and
free - but not impulsive.free - but not impulsive.
Non defensiveNon defensive: The genuine person is non: The genuine person is non
defensive and is aware of his/her strengths anddefensive and is aware of his/her strengths and
limitations.limitations.
ConsistencyConsistency: A genuine counselor has few: A genuine counselor has few
discrepancies, and does not have one set of valuesdiscrepancies, and does not have one set of values
for each situation he/she is confronted with.for each situation he/she is confronted with.
Self-sharingSelf-sharing: The genuine counselor is capable of: The genuine counselor is capable of
deep self-disclosure.deep self-disclosure.
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Positive RegardPositive Regard
Sensitivity, respect, friendliness andSensitivity, respect, friendliness and
consideration are effective as counselingconsideration are effective as counseling
ingredients.ingredients.
Showing personal warmth is basic in anyShowing personal warmth is basic in any
relationship.relationship.
An expression of caring and nurturance as wellAn expression of caring and nurturance as well
as acceptance.as acceptance.
Includes conveying warmth through.Includes conveying warmth through.
Also conveying acceptance by responding to theAlso conveying acceptance by responding to the
client’s messages (verbal and nonverbal) withclient’s messages (verbal and nonverbal) with
nonjudgmental or non-critical verbal &nonjudgmental or non-critical verbal &
nonverbal reactions.nonverbal reactions.
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ConcretenessConcreteness
Keeping communications specific - focused on factsKeeping communications specific - focused on facts
and feelings of relevant concerns, while avoidingand feelings of relevant concerns, while avoiding
tangents, generalizations, abstract discussions, ortangents, generalizations, abstract discussions, or
talking about counselor rather than the client.talking about counselor rather than the client.
Includes the following functions-Includes the following functions-
Assisting client to identify and work on a specificAssisting client to identify and work on a specific
problem from the various ones presented.problem from the various ones presented.
Reminding the client of the task and re-describingReminding the client of the task and re-describing
intent and structure of the session.intent and structure of the session.
Using questions and suggestions to help the clientUsing questions and suggestions to help the client
clarify facts, terms, feelings, and goals.clarify facts, terms, feelings, and goals.
Use a here-and-now focus to emphasize processUse a here-and-now focus to emphasize process
and content occurring in current session.and content occurring in current session.
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It helps us understand the client’s situation and itIt helps us understand the client’s situation and it
helps us assess clinical conditions.helps us assess clinical conditions.
When asking questionsWhen asking questions --
DODO ask one question at a timeask one question at a time
DODO look at the personlook at the person
DODO be brief and clearbe brief and clear
DODO ask questions that serve a purposeask questions that serve a purpose
DODO use questions to help the client talk about theiruse questions to help the client talk about their
feelings and behaviorsfeelings and behaviors
DODO use questions to explore and understand issuesuse questions to explore and understand issues
DO NOTDO NOT ask questions simply to satisfy curiosity.ask questions simply to satisfy curiosity.
Irrelevant questions may cause people to feel pushedIrrelevant questions may cause people to feel pushed
or reluctant to answer.or reluctant to answer.
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Three styles of questions-Three styles of questions-
A.A. Closed questions:Closed questions: Limits the response of the clientLimits the response of the client
to a one-word answer. It may not requires clientsto a one-word answer. It may not requires clients
to think about what they are saying. Answers canto think about what they are saying. Answers can
be brief and often result in the need to ask morebe brief and often result in the need to ask more
questions.questions.
B.B. Open questions:Open questions: Requires more than a one-wordRequires more than a one-word
answer. It generally begins with “how”, ”what”,answer. It generally begins with “how”, ”what”,
“when”, “where” or “why”. It invites the client to“when”, “where” or “why”. It invites the client to
continue talking and decide the conversationcontinue talking and decide the conversation
direction.direction.
C.C. Leading questions:Leading questions: Counselor guides the client toCounselor guides the client to
give the answer they desire. These questions aregive the answer they desire. These questions are
usually judgmental.usually judgmental.
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Questions that can easily answer with a “Yes,” “No,” or one- orQuestions that can easily answer with a “Yes,” “No,” or one- or
two-word responses-two-word responses-
““Are you going to have the test done?”Are you going to have the test done?”
““Did you drink before you got into the car?”Did you drink before you got into the car?”
““Do you drink often?”Do you drink often?”
““Do you exercise?”Do you exercise?”
““Do you like your job?”Do you like your job?”
Purposes of Closed-Ended QuestionsPurposes of Closed-Ended Questions
• Obtain specific informationObtain specific information
• Identify parameters of a problem or issueIdentify parameters of a problem or issue
• Narrow the topic of discussionNarrow the topic of discussion
• Interrupt an over-talkative client.Interrupt an over-talkative client.
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Questions that clients cannot easily answer withQuestions that clients cannot easily answer with
“Yes”, “No,” or one- or two-word responses.“Yes”, “No,” or one- or two-word responses.
Most often –Most often –
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Open-Ended QuestionsOpen-Ended Questions
How:How: enables talk about feelings and/orenables talk about feelings and/or
process.process.
What:What: leads to facts and information.leads to facts and information.
When:When: brings out the timing of the problem.brings out the timing of the problem.
Where:Where: enables discussion about theenables discussion about the
environment and situations.environment and situations.
Why?:Why?: brings out reasons.brings out reasons.
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Open-Ended QuestionsOpen-Ended Questions
Purposes of Open-Ended QuestionsPurposes of Open-Ended Questions
• Begin an interviewBegin an interview
• Encourage client elaborationEncourage client elaboration
• Elicit specific examplesElicit specific examples
• Motivate clients to communicate.Motivate clients to communicate.
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ExamplesExamples
CC: Are you scared?: Are you scared?
OO: How do you feel?: How do you feel?
CC: Are you concerned about what you will: Are you concerned about what you will
do if the test results are positive?do if the test results are positive?
OO: What do you think you might do if: What do you think you might do if
the test results are positive?the test results are positive?
CC: Is your relationship with your husband: Is your relationship with your husband
a good one?a good one?
OO: Tell me about your relationship with: Tell me about your relationship with
your husband.your husband.
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Counselor guides the client to give the answer theyCounselor guides the client to give the answer they
desire. These questions are usually judgmental.desire. These questions are usually judgmental.
For example-For example-
You came to consider this, didn’t you?You came to consider this, didn’t you?
You are enjoying your job, aren’t you?You are enjoying your job, aren’t you?
It can be used positively to draw out and clarifyIt can be used positively to draw out and clarify
issues relevant to the counseling session.issues relevant to the counseling session.
Over-using questions can have a negative impact onOver-using questions can have a negative impact on
the session.the session.
Wrong types of questioning techniques, at theWrong types of questioning techniques, at the
wrong time, in the hands of an unskilledwrong time, in the hands of an unskilled
interviewer/ counselor, can cause unnecessaryinterviewer/ counselor, can cause unnecessary
discomfort and confusion to the client.discomfort and confusion to the client.
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KnowledgeableKnowledgeable It is essential to have accurateIt is essential to have accurate
and up-to-date knowledge.and up-to-date knowledge.
Counselors should be wellCounselors should be well
informed about the field theyinformed about the field they
work within, including thework within, including the
services and resources availableservices and resources available
to their client group within theirto their client group within their
setting and community.setting and community.
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KnowledgeableKnowledgeable
Qualities to engage in self- explorationQualities to engage in self- exploration
Self-confidenceSelf-confidence
EmpathyEmpathy
AcceptanceAcceptance
GenuinenessGenuineness
TrustworthinessTrustworthiness
ConfidentialityConfidentiality
Competence.Competence.
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KnowledgeableKnowledgeable Pushing or threatening the clientPushing or threatening the client
Offering their opinionOffering their opinion
Judging the client or their lifestyleJudging the client or their lifestyle
Telling a client they “know” how they feelTelling a client they “know” how they feel
Imposing your own beliefsImposing your own beliefs
Sidestepping the client’s present problemSidestepping the client’s present problem
Minimizing the client’s problemMinimizing the client’s problem
InterruptingInterrupting
Taking responsibility for client’s problem & decisionsTaking responsibility for client’s problem & decisions
Becoming immersed in the client’s situationBecoming immersed in the client’s situation
Using words such as “should” and “must”Using words such as “should” and “must”
Blocking strong emotions.Blocking strong emotions.
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Good Counselors Should Stay Away FromGood Counselors Should Stay Away From
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Self-Self-
disclosuredisclosure It is a simple approach to communication thatIt is a simple approach to communication that
involves sharing information about yourself,involves sharing information about yourself,
history, present, emotions and thoughts.history, present, emotions and thoughts.
CCounselor shares personal feelings, experiences,ounselor shares personal feelings, experiences,
or reactions to the client.or reactions to the client.
Should include relevant content intended to helpShould include relevant content intended to help
them.them.
Four different types of self-disclosures are –Four different types of self-disclosures are –
Deliberate,Deliberate,
Unavoidable,Unavoidable,
Accidental andAccidental and
Client initiated.Client initiated.
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Deliberate Self DisclosureDeliberate Self Disclosure:: Therapists’ intentional,Therapists’ intentional,
verbal or non-verbal disclosure of personal information.verbal or non-verbal disclosure of personal information.
Two types of deliberate self-disclosures are –Two types of deliberate self-disclosures are –
1.1.Self-revealingSelf-revealing - information by therapists about- information by therapists about
themselves.themselves.
2. Self-involving2. Self-involving - therapists’ personal reactions to clients- therapists’ personal reactions to clients
and to occurrences that take place during sessions.and to occurrences that take place during sessions.
Unavoidable Self DisclosureUnavoidable Self Disclosure: It include an: It include an
extremely wide range of possibilities, such as therapist’sextremely wide range of possibilities, such as therapist’s
gender, age and physics. Therapists reveal themselvesgender, age and physics. Therapists reveal themselves
also by their manner of dress, hairstyle, use of make-also by their manner of dress, hairstyle, use of make-
up, jewelry, perfume, marital status, religion or politicalup, jewelry, perfume, marital status, religion or political
affiliation and other personal information may be readilyaffiliation and other personal information may be readily
available to clients.available to clients.
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Accidental Self-DisclosureAccidental Self-Disclosure: Occurs when there: Occurs when there
are incidental (unplanned) encounters outside theare incidental (unplanned) encounters outside the
office, spontaneous verbal or non-verbal reactions, oroffice, spontaneous verbal or non-verbal reactions, or
other planned and unplanned occurrences that happenother planned and unplanned occurrences that happen
to reveal therapists’ personal information to theirto reveal therapists’ personal information to their
clients.clients.
Clients’ InitiateClients’ Initiate: Clients can initiate inquiries: Clients can initiate inquiries
about their therapist. Such searches can reveal aabout their therapist. Such searches can reveal a
wide range of professional and personal information,wide range of professional and personal information,
such as family history, volunteer activity, politicalsuch as family history, volunteer activity, political
affiliations and much more. Therapists’ biographies oraffiliations and much more. Therapists’ biographies or
professional resumes may also reveal significantprofessional resumes may also reveal significant
information about the therapist.information about the therapist.
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Some dangers of self-disclosure are-Some dangers of self-disclosure are-
It can move the focus from the otherIt can move the focus from the other
person to you.person to you.
It can create a pressure to support orIt can create a pressure to support or
protect you.protect you.
It can be mistaken for advice.It can be mistaken for advice.
Therapists’ theoretical orientation andTherapists’ theoretical orientation and
comfort with self-disclosure is oftencomfort with self-disclosure is often
determined by their culture, gender anddetermined by their culture, gender and
personality.personality.
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InterpretationInterpretation
Counselor is providing new meaning, reason, orCounselor is providing new meaning, reason, or
explanation for behaviors, thoughts, or feelingsexplanation for behaviors, thoughts, or feelings
so that client can see problems in a new way.so that client can see problems in a new way.
It can help the client makes connection betweenIt can help the client makes connection between
seemingly isolated statements of events, canseemingly isolated statements of events, can
point out themes or patterns, or can offer apoint out themes or patterns, or can offer a
new framework for understanding.new framework for understanding.
It may be used to help a client focus on aIt may be used to help a client focus on a
specific aspect of their problem, or provide aspecific aspect of their problem, or provide a
goal.goal.
Keep interpretations short, concrete andKeep interpretations short, concrete and
deliver them tentatively and with empathy.deliver them tentatively and with empathy.
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BasicCounselingSkillsBasicCounselingSkills
Obstacles toObstacles to
ChangeChangeFor Information Giving and Removing Obstacles to Change -For Information Giving and Removing Obstacles to Change -
Supplying data, opinions, facts,Supplying data, opinions, facts,
resources or answers to questions.resources or answers to questions.
Explore with client possible problemsExplore with client possible problems
which may delay or prevent theirwhich may delay or prevent their
change process.change process.
In collaboration with the clientIn collaboration with the client
identify possible solutions andidentify possible solutions and
alternatives.alternatives.
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39. Counseling Micro-SkillsCounseling Micro-Skills
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Counseling micro-skills are essential forCounseling micro-skills are essential for
effective communication and the developmenteffective communication and the development
of a supportive client-counselor relationship.of a supportive client-counselor relationship.
These include –These include –
Listening and EmpathyListening and Empathy
QuestioningQuestioning
SilenceSilence
Non-verbal Behavior.Non-verbal Behavior.
40. CounselingMicro-CounselingMicro-
SkillsSkills
SilenceSilence
Gives client time to think about whatGives client time to think about what
to sayto say
Gives client space to express feelingsGives client space to express feelings
Allows client to proceed at his/herAllows client to proceed at his/her
own paceown pace
Provides client with time to deal withProvides client with time to deal with
ambivalence about sharingambivalence about sharing
Gives client freedom to chooseGives client freedom to choose
whether or not to continue.whether or not to continue.
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41. CounselingMicro-CounselingMicro-
SkillsSkills
Non-verbalNon-verbal
BehaviorBehaviorIt’s not what you say but HOW you say it!It’s not what you say but HOW you say it!
Majority of communication (80%) isMajority of communication (80%) is
non-verbal.non-verbal.
Counselors need to be aware of whatCounselors need to be aware of what
they may be communicating to clientsthey may be communicating to clients
through their non-verbal behavior.through their non-verbal behavior.
They also need to give attention toThey also need to give attention to
what is being communicated throughwhat is being communicated through
the non-verbal behavior of their clients.the non-verbal behavior of their clients.
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43. Quick Reference for Counseling Micro-skillsQuick Reference for Counseling Micro-skills
VerbalVerbal Non-verbalNon-verbal
Uses language that the clientUses language that the client
understandsunderstands
Uses a tone of voiceUses a tone of voice
similar to the client’ssimilar to the client’s
Repeats the client’s story inRepeats the client’s story in
other wordsother words
Looks client in the eyeLooks client in the eye
(as appropriate)(as appropriate)
Clarifies client’s statementsClarifies client’s statements Nods occasionallyNods occasionally
Explains clearly andExplains clearly and
adequatelyadequately
Uses facial expressionsUses facial expressions
SummarizesSummarizes Uses occasional gesturesUses occasional gestures
Responds to primary messageResponds to primary message Keeps suitableKeeps suitable
conversational distanceconversational distance
Encourages: “I see”, “Yes”,Encourages: “I see”, “Yes”,
“Mm-hmm”“Mm-hmm”
Speaks at an appropriateSpeaks at an appropriate
pacepace
Addresses client in a mannerAddresses client in a manner
appropriate to the client’s ageappropriate to the client’s age
Physically relaxedPhysically relaxed
Gives needed informationGives needed information Open postureOpen posture
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44. Examples of Non-supportive Behavior in a Selected CultureExamples of Non-supportive Behavior in a Selected Culture
VerbalVerbal Non-verbalNon-verbal
AdvisingAdvising Looking away frequentlyLooking away frequently
Preaching and moralizingPreaching and moralizing Keeping an inappropriateKeeping an inappropriate
distancedistance
Blaming, judging and labelingBlaming, judging and labeling SneeringSneering
Cajoling (persuading by flatteryCajoling (persuading by flattery
or deceit)or deceit)
Frowning, scowling andFrowning, scowling and
yawningyawning
““Why” questions, interrogatingWhy” questions, interrogating Using an unpleasant tone ofUsing an unpleasant tone of
speechspeech
Directing, demandingDirecting, demanding Speaking too quicklySpeaking too quickly
Excessive reassuringExcessive reassuring Speaking too slowlySpeaking too slowly
Straying from the topicStraying from the topic Having a blank facialHaving a blank facial
expressionexpression
Encouraging dependenceEncouraging dependence StaringStaring
Patronizing (condescending)Patronizing (condescending)
attitudeattitude
Moving around too much,Moving around too much,
fidgetingfidgeting
Criticizing or censuringCriticizing or censuring Environmental barriers orEnvironmental barriers or
distractionsdistractions
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45. Being A Good CounselorBeing A Good Counselor
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1.1. JudgmentJudgment:: Although counselors have own values,Although counselors have own values,
these should not be imposed on the client – andthese should not be imposed on the client – and
the counselor must retain the ability to listen tothe counselor must retain the ability to listen to
and accept the views of clients with otherand accept the views of clients with other
standards.standards.
2. Patience and Acceptance2. Patience and Acceptance:: A counselor rarelyA counselor rarely
needs to use his/ her self control in dealing withneeds to use his/ her self control in dealing with
people, even those people who are not likeable.people, even those people who are not likeable.
3. Experience3. Experience:: Learning to grow into a more completeLearning to grow into a more complete
person from the experience of life’s hard knocksperson from the experience of life’s hard knocks
can be a valuable quality in a counselor.can be a valuable quality in a counselor.
4. Education4. Education:: Good counselors are willing and ableGood counselors are willing and able
to learn about themselves and other people too.to learn about themselves and other people too.
46. Being A Good CounselorBeing A Good Counselor
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5. Social Skills5. Social Skills:: Counselors learn through training howCounselors learn through training how
to perceive all aspects of verbal and non-verbalto perceive all aspects of verbal and non-verbal
communication, and deliberately improve theircommunication, and deliberately improve their
listening skills by using appropriate techniques duringlistening skills by using appropriate techniques during
counseling.counseling.
6. Genuineness and Warmth6. Genuineness and Warmth:: Effective counselors haveEffective counselors have
a genuine interest in other people (unconditionala genuine interest in other people (unconditional
positive regard).positive regard).
7. Discretion7. Discretion:: Counselors must show completeCounselors must show complete
discretion, never revealing what others say or dodiscretion, never revealing what others say or do
within the counseling context. Confidentiality iswithin the counseling context. Confidentiality is
paramount in counseling relationships.paramount in counseling relationships.
8. Practice, Practice, Practice8. Practice, Practice, Practice:: Counseling requires aCounseling requires a
lotlot
of training, followed by much practice.of training, followed by much practice.
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Skills that help counselors to establish aSkills that help counselors to establish a
positive environment, clarify what the client ispositive environment, clarify what the client is
saying, gather information, and offer supportsaying, gather information, and offer support
and encouragement are-and encouragement are-
1. Attending Behavior1. Attending Behavior
2. Counseling Interventions2. Counseling Interventions
3. Paraphrase3. Paraphrase
4. Summary4. Summary
BeingAGoodBeingAGood
CounselorCounselor
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Intervention is an orchestrated attempt byIntervention is an orchestrated attempt by
one or many people - usually family andone or many people - usually family and
friends – to get someone to seekfriends – to get someone to seek
professional help with an addiction or someprofessional help with an addiction or some
kind of traumatic event or crisis, or otherkind of traumatic event or crisis, or other
serious problem.serious problem.
Interventions have been used to addressInterventions have been used to address
serious personal problems, including, butserious personal problems, including, but
not limited to, alcoholism, compulsivenot limited to, alcoholism, compulsive
gambling, drug abuse, compulsive eating andgambling, drug abuse, compulsive eating and
other eating disorders, self harm and beingother eating disorders, self harm and being
the victim of abuse.the victim of abuse.
BeingAGoodBeingAGood
CounselorCounselor
CounselingCounseling
InterventionsInterventions
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Main three types of interventions use in counseling are-Main three types of interventions use in counseling are-
1.1. QuestioningQuestioning
A.A. Open-Ended QuestionOpen-Ended Question
B.B. Closed-Ended QuestionClosed-Ended Question
2.2. ReflectionReflection
3.3. ChallengingChallenging
BeingAGoodBeingAGood
CounselorCounselor
CounselingCounseling
InterventionsInterventions
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Though challenging and confronting are notThough challenging and confronting are not
associated with counseling, some timesassociated with counseling, some times
they are appropriate and even necessary.they are appropriate and even necessary.
CounseleeCounselee:: There is no one in thisThere is no one in this
organization that I can talk to at all.organization that I can talk to at all.
CounselorCounselor:: No one?No one?
CounseleeCounselee: I have always been a failure,: I have always been a failure,
never been any good at anything.never been any good at anything.
CounselorCounselor:: Always?Always?
BeingAGoodBeingAGood
CounselorCounselor
CounselingCounseling
InterventionsInterventions
ChallengingChallenging
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Collection of two or more paraphrases orCollection of two or more paraphrases or
reflections that condenses the client’s messagesreflections that condenses the client’s messages
or the session.or the session.
Purposes of a SummaryPurposes of a Summary
• tie together multiple elements of clienttie together multiple elements of client
messagesmessages
• identify a common theme or patternidentify a common theme or pattern
• interrupt excessive ramblinginterrupt excessive rambling
• start a sessionstart a session
• end a sessionend a session
• pace a sessionpace a session
• review progressreview progress
• serve as a transition when changing topics.serve as a transition when changing topics.
BeingAGoodBeingAGood
CounselorCounselor
SummarySummary
52. PersonalPersonal
Characteristics ofCharacteristics of
Effective CounselorEffective Counselor
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GenuinenessGenuineness
ListeningListening
UnconditionalUnconditional
positive regardpositive regard
Believing the clientBelieving the client
Cultural sensitivityCultural sensitivity
Showing the wayShowing the way
HonestyHonesty
PatiencePatience
Free expressionFree expression
Non-judgmentalNon-judgmental
Being in controlBeing in control
KnowledgeableKnowledgeable
Empathetic.Empathetic.
53. Role of theRole of the
CounselorCounselor
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Rapport of the client and counselor isRapport of the client and counselor is
an important factor in counseling.an important factor in counseling.
The counselor must -The counselor must -
be likable and exhibit interpersonalbe likable and exhibit interpersonal
skills,skills,
be flexible and able to meetbe flexible and able to meet
individual needs by providingindividual needs by providing
person-specific attention,person-specific attention,
be available for multiple sessions,be available for multiple sessions,
have something very applied andhave something very applied and
concrete to offer,concrete to offer,
exhibit a caring attitude.exhibit a caring attitude.
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Editor's Notes
Becoming a Counselor
Topics Covered
3.1
Basic Counseling Skills
3.2
Counseling Micro-skills
3.3
Being a Good Counselor
3.4
Personal Characteristics of Effective Counselor.
Basic Counseling Skills
There are top ten basic counseling skills which can help to build rapport between counselor and the client.
Listening
a. Attending: orienting oneself physically to the client to indicate one is aware of the client, and, in fact, that the client has your full, undivided attention and that you care. Methods include eye contact, nods, not moving around, being distracted, encouraging verbalizations, mirroring body postures and language, leaning forward, etc. Researchers estimate that about 80 percent of communication takes place non-verbally.
b. Listening/observing: capturing and understanding the verbal and nonverbal information communicated by that client. Two primary sources of information -
• Content - what is specifically said. Listen carefully for, not only what a person says, but also the words, expressions and patterns the person is using, which may give you a deeper insight. Counselors should develop their ability to remember what was said, as well as to clarify what was said or finding out what was not said.
• Process - all nonverbal phenomena, including how content is conveyed, themes, body language, interactions, smiling etc.
2. Empathy
The ability to perceive another’s experience and then to communicate that perception back to the individual to clarify and amplify their own experiencing and meaning. Primary skills associated with the communication of empathy include-
a. nonverbal and verbal attending
b. paraphrasing content of client communications
c. reflecting client feelings and implicit messages.
3. Genuineness
Ability of counselor to be freely themselves. Includes congruence between outer words/behaviors and inner feelings; non-defensiveness; non-role-playing; and being unpretentious. For example, if the helper claims that they are comfortable helping a client explore a drug or sexual issue, but their behavior (verbally and nonverbally) shows signs of discomfort with the topic this will become an obstacle to progress and often lead to client confusion about and mistrust of the helper.
4. Unconditional Positive Regard
An expression of caring and nurturance as well as acceptance.
Includes conveying warmth through.
Also conveying acceptance by responding to the client's messages (verbal and nonverbal) with nonjudgmental or non-critical verbal & nonverbal reactions.
Respect - ability to communicate to the client the counselor's sincere belief that every person possesses the inherent strength and capacity to make it in life, and that each person has the right to choose his own alternatives and make his own decisions.
5. Concreteness
Keeping communications specific - focused on facts and feelings of relevant concerns, while avoiding tangents, generalizations, abstract discussions, or talking about counselor rather than the client. Includes the following functions-
Assisting client to identify and work on a specific problem from the various ones presented.
Reminding the client of the task and re-describing intent and structure of the session.
Using questions and suggestions to help the client clarify facts, terms, feelings, and goals.
Use a here-and-now focus to emphasize process and content occurring in current session, which may of help to elucidate the problem being worked on or improving the problem-solving process.
6. Open Questions
A questioning process to assist the client in clarifying or exploring thoughts or feelings. Counselor id not requesting specific information and not purposively limiting the nature of the response to only a yes or no, or very brief answer.
Goal is to facilitate exploration – not needed if the client is already doing this.
Have an intention or therapeutic purpose for every question you ask.
Avoid asking too many questions, or assuming an interrogatory role.
Best approach is to follow a response to an open-ended question with a paraphrase or reflection which encourages the client to share more and avoids repetitive patterns of question/answer/question/answer, etc.
7. Knowledgeable
It is essential to have accurate and up-to-date knowledge. Counselors should be well informed about the field they work within, including the services and resources available to their client group within their setting and community.
8. Counselor Self-Disclosure
The counselor shares personal feelings, experiences, or reactions to the client. Should include relevant content intended to help them. As a rule, it is better to not self-disclose unless there is a pressing clinical need which cannot be met in any other way. Remember empathy is not sharing similar experiences but conveying in a caring and understanding manner what the client is feeling and thinking.
9. Interpretation
Any statement to the client which goes beyond what they have said or are aware of. In interpretation the counselor is providing new meaning, reason, or explanation for behaviors, thoughts, or feelings so that client can see problems in a new way. Interpretations can help the client make connections between seemingly isolated statements of events, can point out themes or patterns, or can offer a new framework for understanding. An interpretation may be used to help a client focus on a specific aspect of their problem, or provide a goal.
Keep interpretations short, concrete and deliver them tentatively and with empathy.
Use interpretations sparingly and do not assume a client's rejection of your insight means they are resistant or that you are right.
10. Information Giving and Removing Obstacles to Change
Supplying data, opinions, facts, resources or answers to questions. Explore with client possible problems which may delay or prevent their change process. In collaboration with the client identify possible solutions and alternatives.
Listening
a. Attending: orienting oneself physically to the client to indicate one is aware of the client, and, in fact, that the client has your full, undivided attention and that you care. Methods include eye contact, nods, not moving around, being distracted, encouraging verbalizations, mirroring body postures and language, leaning forward, etc. Researchers estimate that about 80 percent of communication takes place non-verbally.
b. Listening/observing: capturing and understanding the verbal and nonverbal information communicated by that client. Two primary sources of information -
• Content - what is specifically said. Listen carefully for, not only what a person says, but also the words, expressions and patterns the person is using, which may give you a deeper insight. Counselors should develop their ability to remember what was said, as well as to clarify what was said or finding out what was not said.
• Process - all nonverbal phenomena, including how content is conveyed, themes, body language, interactions, smiling etc.
Good listening involves all of the following-
•Eye contact (culturally appropriate)•Demonstrate attention, e.g. nodding
•Encouragement, e.g. “Mm-hmm”, “Yes” •Minimize distractions, e.g. TV, telephone, noise
•Do not do other tasks at the same time •Do not interrupt the client unnecessarily
•Ask questions if you do not understand •Do not take over and tell your own ‘story’
•Acknowledge the client’s feeling, e.g. “I can see you feel very sad”
•Repeat back the main points of the discussion in similar but fewer words to check you have understood the client correctly (this is known as paraphrasing, reflection of feelings, clarification, summarizing).
Listening: Listening is the most important skill in counseling. It is the process of ‘hearing’ the other person. Three aspects of listening -
Linguistic: actual words, phrases and metaphors used to convey feelings.
Paralinguistic: not words themselves but timing, accent, volume, pitch, etc.
Non-verbal: ‘body language’ or facial expression, use of gestures, body position and movement, proximity or touch in relation to the counselor.
All these express the internal state of the counselee and can be ‘listened’ to by the attentive counselor.
Listening
a. Attending: orienting oneself physically to the client to indicate one is aware of the client, and, in fact, that the client has your full, undivided attention and that you care. Methods include eye contact, nods, not moving around, being distracted, encouraging verbalizations, mirroring body postures and language, leaning forward, etc. Researchers estimate that about 80 percent of communication takes place non-verbally.
b. Listening/observing: capturing and understanding the verbal and nonverbal information communicated by that client. Two primary sources of information -
• Content - what is specifically said. Listen carefully for, not only what a person says, but also the words, expressions and patterns the person is using, which may give you a deeper insight. Counselors should develop their ability to remember what was said, as well as to clarify what was said or finding out what was not said.
• Process - all nonverbal phenomena, including how content is conveyed, themes, body language, interactions, smiling etc.
Good listening involves all of the following-
•Eye contact (culturally appropriate)•Demonstrate attention, e.g. nodding
•Encouragement, e.g. “Mm-hmm”, “Yes” •Minimize distractions, e.g. TV, telephone, noise
•Do not do other tasks at the same time •Do not interrupt the client unnecessarily
•Ask questions if you do not understand •Do not take over and tell your own ‘story’
•Acknowledge the client’s feeling, e.g. “I can see you feel very sad”
•Repeat back the main points of the discussion in similar but fewer words to check you have understood the client correctly (this is known as paraphrasing, reflection of feelings, clarification, summarizing).
Listening: Listening is the most important skill in counseling. It is the process of ‘hearing’ the other person. Three aspects of listening -
Linguistic: actual words, phrases and metaphors used to convey feelings.
Paralinguistic: not words themselves but timing, accent, volume, pitch, etc.
Non-verbal: ‘body language’ or facial expression, use of gestures, body position and movement, proximity or touch in relation to the counselor.
All these express the internal state of the counselee and can be ‘listened’ to by the attentive counselor.
Listening
a. Attending: orienting oneself physically to the client to indicate one is aware of the client, and, in fact, that the client has your full, undivided attention and that you care. Methods include eye contact, nods, not moving around, being distracted, encouraging verbalizations, mirroring body postures and language, leaning forward, etc. Researchers estimate that about 80 percent of communication takes place non-verbally.
b. Listening/observing: capturing and understanding the verbal and nonverbal information communicated by that client. Two primary sources of information -
• Content - what is specifically said. Listen carefully for, not only what a person says, but also the words, expressions and patterns the person is using, which may give you a deeper insight. Counselors should develop their ability to remember what was said, as well as to clarify what was said or finding out what was not said.
• Process - all nonverbal phenomena, including how content is conveyed, themes, body language, interactions, smiling etc.
Good listening involves all of the following-
•Eye contact (culturally appropriate)•Demonstrate attention, e.g. nodding
•Encouragement, e.g. “Mm-hmm”, “Yes” •Minimize distractions, e.g. TV, telephone, noise
•Do not do other tasks at the same time •Do not interrupt the client unnecessarily
•Ask questions if you do not understand •Do not take over and tell your own ‘story’
•Acknowledge the client’s feeling, e.g. “I can see you feel very sad”
•Repeat back the main points of the discussion in similar but fewer words to check you have understood the client correctly (this is known as paraphrasing, reflection of feelings, clarification, summarizing).
Listening: Listening is the most important skill in counseling. It is the process of ‘hearing’ the other person. Three aspects of listening -
Linguistic: actual words, phrases and metaphors used to convey feelings.
Paralinguistic: not words themselves but timing, accent, volume, pitch, etc.
Non-verbal: ‘body language’ or facial expression, use of gestures, body position and movement, proximity or touch in relation to the counselor.
All these express the internal state of the counselee and can be ‘listened’ to by the attentive counselor.
Listening
a. Attending: orienting oneself physically to the client to indicate one is aware of the client, and, in fact, that the client has your full, undivided attention and that you care. Methods include eye contact, nods, not moving around, being distracted, encouraging verbalizations, mirroring body postures and language, leaning forward, etc. Researchers estimate that about 80 percent of communication takes place non-verbally.
b. Listening/observing: capturing and understanding the verbal and nonverbal information communicated by that client. Two primary sources of information -
• Content - what is specifically said. Listen carefully for, not only what a person says, but also the words, expressions and patterns the person is using, which may give you a deeper insight. Counselors should develop their ability to remember what was said, as well as to clarify what was said or finding out what was not said.
• Process - all nonverbal phenomena, including how content is conveyed, themes, body language, interactions, smiling etc.
Good listening involves all of the following-
•Eye contact (culturally appropriate)•Demonstrate attention, e.g. nodding
•Encouragement, e.g. “Mm-hmm”, “Yes” •Minimize distractions, e.g. TV, telephone, noise
•Do not do other tasks at the same time •Do not interrupt the client unnecessarily
•Ask questions if you do not understand •Do not take over and tell your own ‘story’
•Acknowledge the client’s feeling, e.g. “I can see you feel very sad”
•Repeat back the main points of the discussion in similar but fewer words to check you have understood the client correctly (this is known as paraphrasing, reflection of feelings, clarification, summarizing).
Listening: Listening is the most important skill in counseling. It is the process of ‘hearing’ the other person. Three aspects of listening -
Linguistic: actual words, phrases and metaphors used to convey feelings.
Paralinguistic: not words themselves but timing, accent, volume, pitch, etc.
Non-verbal: ‘body language’ or facial expression, use of gestures, body position and movement, proximity or touch in relation to the counselor.
All these express the internal state of the counselee and can be ‘listened’ to by the attentive counselor.
Empathy
The ability to perceive another’s experience and then to communicate that perception back to the individual to clarify and amplify their own experiencing and meaning. Primary skills associated with the communication of empathy include-
a. nonverbal and verbal attending
b. paraphrasing content of client communications
c. reflecting client feelings and implicit messages.
An important component of good listening skills is the ability of the counselor to convey empathy. Empathy involves trying to understand how individuals view themselves or their world. Demonstrating empathy helps establish rapport with clients, and facilitates the client feeling “safe” to disclose the truth about their feelings and circumstances.
Empathy is conveyed by using all of the listening skills indicated earlier. In particular, the following techniques can be utilized-
Paraphrasing: which involves restating, in your own words, the essence of what the client has said. Paraphrasing assures the client that you are listening and it assists the client in focusing on his/her situation more clearly. Client: “I feel so helpless. I can’t get my housework done, get the children to school on time or even cook a meal. I can’t do the things my wife used to do.” Counselor: “You are feeling inadequate about doing things you have not had to do in the past when your wife was alive”.
Reflecting emotions: This is similar to paraphrasing except the focus is on the emotions being expressed by the client. Reflecting emotions assists the client to become aware of how they are feeling, and to explore their reactions to events they are describing. Client: “I don’t know what to do. Before he died, I promised my husband that I would take care of his mother for the rest of her life. But I no longer have the energy. I cannot seem to get myself sorted out to do anything. He knew that his mother and I did not get along and that the situation would be miserable. Why did he die and leave me in this mess?” Counselor “You seem to be feeling very low and helpless right now; but at the same time you seem to be feeling guilty and angry about your promise to your husband.”
Paraphrasing
The counselor rephrases the content of the client’s message.
Example –
Client: “I know it doesn’t help my depression to sit around or stay in bed all day.”
Counselor: “It sounds like you know you should avoid staying in bed or sitting around all day to help your depression.”
Purposes of Paraphrasing
To convey that you are understanding him/her
Help the client by simplifying, focusing and crystallizing what they said
May encourage the client to elaborate
Provide a check on the accuracy of your perceptions.
When to use it
When you have an hypothesis about what’s going on with the client
When the client is in a decision making conflict
When the client has presented a lot of material and you feel confused.
Reflection
A verbal response to client emotion.
Example-
Client: “So many things are going on right now: another hectic semester has started, my dog’s sick, and my mom’s ill too. I find myself running around trying to take care of everything. I’m not sure I can take it anymore.”
Counselor: “You’re feeling pretty overwhelmed by all the things that are going on right now.”
Purposes of a Reflection
Helps clients
Feel understood
Express more feelings
Manage feelings
Discriminate among various feelings.
Quick reference for counseling micro-skills
Verbal
Non-verbal
Uses language that the client understands
Uses a tone of voice similar to the client’s
Repeats the client’s story in other words
Looks client in the eye (as appropriate)
Clarifies client’s statements
Nods occasionally
Explains clearly and adequately
Uses facial expressions
Summarizes
Uses occasional gestures
Responds to primary message
Keeps suitable conversational distance
Encourages: “I see”, “Yes”, “Mm-hmm”
Speaks at an appropriate pace
Addresses client in a manner appropriate to the client’s age
Physically relaxed
Gives needed information
Open posture
Examples of non-supportive behavior in a selected culture
Advising
Looking away frequently
Preaching and moralising
Keeping an inappropriate distance
Blaming, judging and labelling
Sneering
Cajoling (persuading by flattery or deceit)
Frowning, scowling and yawning
“Why” questions, interrogating
Using an unpleasant tone of speech
Directing, demanding
Speaking too quickly
Excessive reassuring
Speaking too slowly
Straying from the topic
Having a blank facial expression
Encouraging dependence
Staring
Patronizing (condescending) attitude
Moving around too much, fidgeting
Criticizing or censuring
Environmental barriers or distractions
Becoming a Counselor
Topics Covered
3.1
Basic Counseling Skills
3.2
Counseling Micro-skills
3.3
Being a Good Counselor
3.4
Personal Characteristics of Effective Counselor.