This document discusses characteristics of good mental and emotional health, including a sense of belonging, sense of purpose, positive outlook, self-sufficiency, and healthy self-esteem. It defines mental/emotional health as the ability to accept yourself and others, express and manage emotions, and deal with life's demands and challenges. Resilience is described as the ability to adapt and recover from difficulties. Several factors that influence self-esteem are discussed, such as media messages, goal setting, self-talk, definitions of success, accomplishments, expectations, work ethic, attitude, family, and friends. Ways to improve self-esteem include choosing supportive friends, focusing on positive qualities, using positive self-talk,

1. SELF-ESTEEM

2. Characteristics of Good Mental/Emotional Health
• Sense of belonging
• Feeling close to those who provide you with
support.
• Sense of purpose
• Recognizing you have value and importance as a
person lets you set and reach goals.
• Positive outlook
• Seeing the bright side of life reduces stress and
increases your chances of success.
• Self-sufficiency
• Having the confidence to make responsible
decisions promotes your sense of independence
and self-assurance.
• Healthy self-esteem
• Having healthy self-esteem helps you accept and
recover from difficulties and failures.

3. Mental & Emotional Health
• Mental/emotional health: the ability to
accept yourself and others, express and
manage emotions, and deal with the
demands and challenges you meet in your
life.
• Resilient: the ability to adapt effectively
and recover from disappointment,
difficulty, or crisis.

4. Bell-Ringer
“Our deepest fear is not that we
are inadequate. Our deepest fear
is that we are powerful beyond
measure. It is our light, not our
darkness that frightens us most.”
What does this statement mean to you?
Do you know where this statement comes from?

5. Self Worth
Self-worthis the inherent value that everyone is born with.
• We are all human beings, we all have worth.
• Everyone has the same amount of worth.
• Can’t be taken from you.
• You cannot lose your worth, but you can lose sight of your worth.
• We are all unique individuals with unique talents.
• We all have something to contribute and we all have faults.

6. Getting to Know Me
• Worksheet + Discussion (10 minutes)

7. Self-Esteem
Self-esteemis how much you value, respect and feel confident about yourself.
Self-esteemis the opinion you have of yourself. a combination of self-image,
ideal-self, and Pygmalion-self.
Self-Image: what we perceive
ourselves to be
Ideal-Self: how we want to be
• Hero identification
Pygmalion-Self: our perception of
what we believe other
people think of us.
I am not what I think I am
I am not what you think I am
I am what I think you think I am

8. • The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we
compare our behind the scenes with everyone else’s highlight
reel.
• Steven Furtick

9. Amy Video (1 minute)
Social Mirror Activity
• Completion + Discussion (10-15 minutes)
• http://youtu.be/LbBniswx5Ys
• <iframe width="420" height="345"
src="http://www.youtube.com/embed/gUsKIApTewQ"
frameborder="0" allowfullscreen></iframe>

10. Problems with the SOCIAL MIRROR
• The Social Mirror is UNREALISTIC
• Somehow the media has sold everyone that the lie looks are
everything….and be have BOUGHT it!
The Social accurate ISN’T ACCURATE
you are so much more than the opinions of others!!!
• The Social Mirror is always CHANGING
• Opinions, fads and fashion are always changing
• “Who are you?” said the caterpillar. Alice replied, rather shyly. “I hardly know, Sir, just at
present-at least I know who I was when I got up this morning, but I think I must have
changed several times since then.”

11. Self-Talk
Self-talk is the encouragement or criticism that you give yourself.
The Law of Positive Self-Talk states: "You can change who you are by
changing what you say when you talk to your mind.”
Self Talk:
•Normal
•Emotional reactions
•Affects Self-Esteem
•Positive or Negative
•Replace negative thoughts with
positive thoughts.
•Be optimistic about yourself, rather
than pessimistic!

12. Factors Affecting Your Self Esteem
• Media (Dove Evolution Video) (10 minutes)
• Goal Setting
• Self-Talk
• Definition of Success
• Accomplishment
• Expectations
• (Realistic vs. Unrealistic)
• Work Ethic
• Attitude
• Family
• Friends

17. •What messages is the media sending
to men?
•What effect do these messages have?

27. •What messages is the media sending
to women?
•What effect do these messages have?

28. Ultimately,
self-esteem
is a choice.

29. Improving Your Self-Esteem
• Choose friends who value and respect you.
• Focus on positive aspects about yourself.
• Replace negative self-talk with supportive self-talk.
• Act in accordance with your values.
• Work toward accomplishments rather than perfection.
• Consider your mistakes learning opportunities.
• Try new activities to discover your talents.
• Write down your goals and the steps you will take to achieve them.
• Exercise regularly to feel more energized.
• Volunteer to help someone.
• Accept the things you can’t change, and focus your energy on
changing the things you can.

30. Paper on Back Activity
• Completion + Reading + Discussion (15-20 minutes)
• REMEMBER TO HAND OUT AND EXPLAIN THE COLOR TEST
ASSIGNMENT!!