Conflict can occur for many reasons, including differences in opinions, personality clashes, and unresolved issues from the past. There are several types of conflict, such as subject-oriented conflicts over substantive topics, communication breakdowns, and ego conflicts due to personality differences. When resolving conflicts, it is important to stick to the current issues, compromise when possible, and avoid personal attacks or trying to "win" at all costs. Timing discussions sensitively and focusing on the specific issues can help reduce conflicts between partners.

1. WHAT IS
CONFLICT?
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Speech 104
Jim Marteney

2. Conflicts is a natural occurrence in
everyday life and, try as we may, there is
really no effective way of avoiding it.
In fact, we should not avoid conflict.
The goal of any good critical thinker
should be to deal with, handle, and
effectively resolve conflict.

3. Conflict can be defined as a state of opposition
between persons or ideas or interest that exists when
there is a divergence of goals, objective or
expectations.

5. This is subject or topic oriented conflict.
The disagreement is over differences about
substantive topics of a social, political, or
economic nature.
Simple Conflict

6. Pseudo ConflictThis type of conflict occurs when there is a
communication breakdown between the sender
and receiver.

7. Ego Conflict
This type of conflict occurs as a result of personality
differences between two people. This is the hardest
type of conflict to resolve because one’s dignity, or
self-esteem, or self-respect, or pride is involved.

9. Unresolved Issues
Sometimes people find they’re fighting battles
that have far more to do with the past then the
present. Feelings of rejection or betrayal in
childhood can create hot buttons which partners
press without realizing.

10. Sensitive IssuesIf there are taboo subjects in your relationship that
always cause a storm, you need to mention them
more often. If you don’t, they can become a time
bomb.

11. Fighting for your deeper needs
Couples often use topics such as money,
sex or housework to fight for their deeper
needs within a relationship.

12. Hidden payoffs
For some couples, arguing actually plays a
beneficial role as it may be the only time you
get to share your feelings. It can add
excitement of can be a way of getting
attention.

13. Failure to stick to the issues
You’re more likely to get your partner to see
things your way if you avoid personal attacks and
concentrate on what you’re trying to accomplish.

14. Not wanting to compromise
In a successful marriage, both partners must be
able to compromise and negotiate. Sometimes,
the two of you can find a middle ground.

15. Poor timing
Be sensitive to your partner’s shifting moods.
Timing your request doesn’t mean that you’re
walking on eggshells or that you’re afraid to
speak. It simply means that if your partner is in a
negative frame of mind, he may say no to
something that he’d agree to at another time.

16. Garbage-bagging
When people get into an argument, they often
start with one issue, segue into another, and wind
up throwing in everything but the kitchen sink.
They then bring up a host of past grudges and
resentments. Discuss only one issue at a time.

17. Playing psychologist
Marital arguments often give husbands and wive an
excuse to practice a little dime-store psychology. Your
spouse needs to feel loved and respected for who he
or she is. It’s not your job to fix his or her personal
problems. Trying to do so is an especially
counterproductive strategy when you’re in the
middle of a fight.

18. Winning at all costs
When arguments between married couples become
heated, a common strategy is to throw up the one
thing that’s sure to hurt your partner’s feelings.

19. Claiming the moral high ground
When married partners have an argument, the
issue at hand often gets buried beneath a battle
about who is a better, kinder, more considerate
human being.