The document discusses different types of conflicts people experience in relationships, including simple misunderstandings, communication breakdowns, and clashes involving ego. It also examines common issues couples argue over, such as sex, money, children, in-laws, and housework. The document outlines different argument styles used by men and women and behavioral approaches like being nonassertive, passive, assertive, and aggressive. The conclusion emphasizes that while disagreements are normal, the overall focus in a relationship should be on mutual happiness.

1. “FIGHTING FIRE WITH FIRE”
By:Ayinda St.Holder
Communication 104

2. STANDING UP FOR YOUR POINT OF
VIEW….
Both men and women tend to resort to
tactics of manipulation in order to get
their way in important argumentative
battles.

3. THREE CONFLICT TYPES PEOPLE FIND THEMSELVES IN
Lets take a closer look into the three…..

4. Simple
Having a subject or title
with the conflict
This style have lead to
over 90 %
( percent) of divorces.
Pseudo
Deals with having a
communication
breakdown.
The send wasn’t
received in the correct
way.
Ego
The hardest type of
conflict to deal with
Involves one dignity,
self esteem and self
respect

5. RELATIONSHIP ARGUMENT STYLES
PART 1
Unresolved issues Garbage bagging
When an argument starts with
one issue and end with more.
Sensitive issue
Represents a serious breach of
trust.
Breaking of confidences.
Having to deal with someone
past relationship problems in
their current relationship.

6. PART: 2
Deeper Needs
Consist of where responsibility
lies
Who has control over what
Hidden playoffs
Where an argument has a
beneficial role
Arguing to see the reaction of
other person feelings
Stick to the issue
Avoid personal attacks
Concentrate on what your trying
to accomplish

7. COMMON ISSUE COUPLES FIGHT
OVER
S.E.X. =is the biggest problem in most relationship
Money = not having enough money and unnecessary spending
Children=when the right time to have kids conversation
In-laws= having in- laws over step there boundaries
Housework= each mate not putting in the same effect to keep the
household in order
Religion=having different beliefs

9. MEN VS. WOMEN
• Men conversation to give orders
• Men show independence
• Men provide information
• Men deal with conflict
• Women use to it make proposal
• Women seek intimacy
• Women express feelings
• Women seek compromise

10. BEHAVIORAL APPROACHES
Nonassertive & Passive
• I’m nothing
• Your superior
• My thought aren’t important
• Ignore your feeling and putting other
over yours.
Assertive &Aggressive
• This is what I think
• This is what I feel
• This is how I see the situation
• Being able to express your thoughts

11. CONCLUSION
It’s okay for you and your mate not to agree with everything but never lose the focus of what your relationship hands
for…. Being happy…