A Presentation to Headteachers of ISA London Schools, 14/03/2012 by Mark S. Steed, Principal of Berkhamsted School, Herts. UK

1. How Schools can
support parenting
Seminar for ISA London-North Heads
Haresfoot School
Wednesday 14th March 2012
Mark S. Steed, MA (Cantab.) MA (Nottingham)
Principal, Berkhamsted School

2. How schools can support parenting
1. Childhood 2.0
2. Parenting 2.0
3. How Schools can support parenting
4. Case Study: Cybersafety
5. Case Study: Body Image

3. Childhood 2.0

4. Childhood
When and how did you learn . . . . . .
 autonomy?
 independence?
 to get on with other children?
 to use public transport?
 to manage danger and risk?

5. Childhood
 When you were a child, where was your
favourite place to play?
 Was it outdoors?
 Was it away from the supervision of
Adults?

6. Childhood

7. Childhood 2.0
Independent School children today typically:
 live more organised and busy lives
 are rarely away from the supervision of
adults outside of the home
 are driven to school (wearing seatbelts!)
and rarely use public transport
 spend much more time in front of a screen

8. Childhood 2.0
Independent School children today typically:
 live more organised and busy lives
 are rarely away from the supervision of
adults outside of the home
 are driven to school (wearing seatbelts!)
and rarely use public transport
 spend much more time in front of a screen

9. Childhood 2.0
Independent School children today typically:
 live more organised and busy lives
 are rarely away from the supervision of
adults outside of the home
 are driven to school (wearing seatbelts!)
and rarely use public transport
 spend much more time in front of a screen

10. Childhood 2.0
Independent School children today typically:
 live more organised and busy lives
 are rarely away from the supervision of
adults outside of the home
 are driven to school (wearing seatbelts!)
and rarely use public transport
 spend much more time in front of a screen

11. Childhood 2.0
We are
seeing the
virtualisation
of play and
friendship

12. Childhood 2.0
Independent School children today typically:
 live more organised and busy lives
 are rarely away from the supervision of
adults outside of the home
 are driven to school (wearing seatbelts!)
and rarely use public transport
 spend much more time in front of a screen

13. Parenting 2.0

14. Parenting 2.0
Independent School parents today typically:
 are too busy to parent
(and feel guilty about it!)
 overprotect their children
 want to be friends with their children
 believe what they read in the papers
 only see issues from their own child’s
perspective

15. Parenting 2.0
Independent School parents today typically:
 are too busy to parent (and feel guilty about it!)
 overprotect their children
 want to be friends with their children
 believe what they read in the papers
 only see issues from their own child’s
perspective

16. Parenting 2.0
Independent School parents today typically:
 are too busy to parent (and feel guilty about it!)
 overprotect their children
 want to be friends with their children
 believe what they read in the papers
 only see issues from their own child’s
perspective

17. Parenting 2.0
Independent School parents today typically:
 are too busy to parent (and feel guilty about it!)
 overprotect their children
 want to be friends with their children
 believe what they read in the papers
 only see issues from their own child’s
perspective

18. Parenting 2.0
Independent School parents today typically:
 are too busy to parent (and feel guilty about it!)
 overprotect their children
 want to be friends with their children
 believe what they read in the papers
 only see issues from their own child’s
perspective

19. Parenting 2.0

20. Parenting 2.0

21. Parenting 2.0
Independent School parents today typically:
 are too busy to parent (and feel guilty about it!)
 overprotect their children
 want to be friends with their children
 believe what they read in the papers
 only see issues from their own child’s
perspective

22. How Schools can support
Parenting

23. Schools and Parenting 2.0
Drawing on our collective Wisdom
“We’ve had a lot of experience of other
people’s children.”
A school’s collective wisdom far exceeds
that of any parent.
Many parents look to schools for guidance,
expertise and advice
We are the experts and we should not be
afraid to take a lead.

24. Schools and Parenting 2.0
Drawing on our collective Wisdom
“We’ve had a lot of experience of other
people’s children.”
A school’s collective wisdom far exceeds
that of any parent.
Many parents look to schools for guidance,
expertise and advice
We are the experts and we should not be
afraid to take a lead.

25. Schools and Parenting 2.0
Drawing on our collective Wisdom
“We’ve had a lot of experience of other
people’s children.”
A school’s collective wisdom far exceeds
that of any parent.
Many parents look to schools for guidance,
expertise and advice
We are the experts and we should not be
afraid to take a lead.

26. Schools and Parenting 2.0
Drawing on our collective Wisdom
“We’ve had a lot of experience on other
people’s children.”
A school’s collective wisdom far exceeds
that of any parent.
Many parents look to schools for guidance,
expertise and advice
We are the experts and we should not be
afraid to take a lead.

27. Schools and Parenting 2.0
Working with Parents
Drugs
Curriculum Alcohol
Behaviour Parties
Parenting UCAS
Women and
Careers
Prep School Issues Senior School Issues

28. Schools and Parenting 2.0
Working with Parents
Drugs
Curriculum Cybersafety Alcohol
Behaviour Body Image Parties
Parenting Eating UCAS
Disorders Women and
Careers
Prep School Issues Senior School Issues

29. Schools and Parenting 2.0
Parental talks and courses
Prep Senior
 School Counsellor  Year 9 Parents’ Dinner
running a course on with “Sex, Drugs,
parenting Issues Rock’n’Roll” Dialogue.
 Cybersafety talk to  Women and Careers:
Parents (by School Work-life balance.
Librarians)

30. Schools and Parenting 2.0
Reactions and Outcomes
Parental Perspective
 Parents appreciative; glad of support and
advice
 Optional, so don’t have to get involved
School’s Perspective
 Fewer problems with which to deal.
 Greater trust of the school when dealing
with these issues.

31. Case Study: Cybersafety
Extracts from Parent Presentation

32. We MUST educate
 How to stay safe online
 How to protect their privacy and
their identity online
 How to manage their time
 How to distinguish between
“quality” and “rubbish” on the
Internet

35. Protecting your child in Cyberspace
Making Friends

36. Making Friends
PAST:
“Supervised Friend Making”:
 We met the people our parents
wanted us to meet
 The telephone was in the Hall
 Friend-making was a public activity

37. Making Friends
 Known by all in the village
 Known by many in the town
 Known by some in the city
 Known by no one in the world

38. Making Friends
 Known by all in the village
 Known by many in the town
 Known by some in the city
 Known by no one in the world

39. Making Friends
 Known by all in the village
 Known by many in the town
 Known by some in the city
 Known by no one in the world

40. Making Friends
 Known by all in the village
 Known by many in the town
 Known by some in the city
 Known by no one in the world

41. Making Friends
Consider: At what age you would let
your child
 Go into town on their own?
 Go to London?
 Go on a trip around the world?
What would you expect know to stay
safe before they went?

42. Protecting your child in Cyberspace
Digital Tattoo

44. Case Study: Body Image
Extracts from Parent Presentation

45. Body Image: Objectification

46. Body Image: Dove Onslaught

47. Body Image: Dove Onslaught

48. Body Image: Useful resources
 Dove Campaign for Real Beauty
 Dove Onslaught
 Dove Evolution
 MissRepresentation.org

49. Email: principal@berkhamstedschool.org
Twitter: @independenthead
Blog: http://independenthead.blogspot.com