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2. One of the most crucial things to
understand about being a guy is that
guys go first.

3. Now, this of course isn't always true.

4. If you're at work, in the military,
anywhere professionally, and your not
top on the totem pole, you're going to
following orders and following in
general. Sometimes men, sometimes
women.

5. But in the world of romance, especially
in the early days, you've got to go first.
With pretty much everything.

6. Now, this is tough.

7. It's easy to go overboard.

8. If you walk up to some stranger and
tell her you love her, she'll call the
cops.

9. And if you're on a first or second date
and you open the emotional
floodgates, she'll run away screaming.

10. So on the one side, you've got to go
first, just so show her it's safe.

11. Then you've got to wait and let her
catch up.

12. The metaphor of walking down an
uncertain trail in the woods is good.

13. You lead, but not by very far.

14. If it's safe, you walk side by side.

15. When it's dangerous, you go first, but
just enough so she doesn't get scared.

16. Don't leave her behind.

17. Always make sure she's following close
behind.

18. How does this translate into the dating
world?

19. You approach her.

20. You start talking to her.

21. If you want to know something about
her that may be uncomfortable, you
reveal yours first.

22. Now, many "gurus" will disagree with
this.

23. They'll say all girls are super defensive
and will need to have their "shields"
broken through with all kinds of
slippery mind games and pick up
gambits.

24. Sure, if you approach a super model
who's getting hit on by millionaire pro
athletes all the time, you may indeed
need to step up your game.

25. But if you're a normal guy, looking to
meet a normal girl, you don't really
need too many tricks.

26. If you see her across the room, and
she sees you seeing her, she knows
you like her.

27. And if she looks at you a couple of
times, (without that look of fear in her
eyes) she WANTS you to go and talk to
her.

28. She's not going to walk to you.

29. When you walk over, introduce your
name first.

30. Say things that are easy for her to
respond to.

31. Save the "did you see those two girls
fighting outside" opener for the club
girls.

32. Reveal your interests, then ask about
hers.

33. If she seems to like talking to you, keep
going.

34. Be honest with her.

35. Tell you enjoyed talking to her, you've
got to go, but you'd like to continue
the conversation later.

36. Exchange numbers by getting her to
call her phone from your phone.

37. Then bounce.

38. Always keep the trail metaphor in
mind.

39. You go first, and then wait for her to
follow. So long as she follows, you're
good.

40. If she doesn't?

41. No big deal.

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