The document explores the concept of deep emotional connections, emphasizing the importance of truly 'getting' another person beyond superficial conversations. It suggests that finding common experiences and shared structures of feelings can enhance understanding between individuals. This approach applies to various relationships, including friendships, romantic interests, and professional interactions.

1. Develop
Deep
Connections

2. If you've even watched "romantic"
movies, or movies that have a
romantic theme to them, there's a
common thread.

3. And that is two people meet each
other, and they "get" each other.

4. They feel that nobody understands
them like their new partner does.

5. People use the same term to talk
about non-Hollywood style movies.

7. They say that people who don't
appreciate them don't "get" them.

8. It reminds me of those 3-D pictures.

9. Where you have to look at them in a
special way to "get" them.

10. If you "get" them, you see the hidden
picture.

11. If you don't "get" them, then it's a
bunch of fuzzy noise.

12. If you tell a joke, and somebody
doesn't laugh, they don't "get" it.

13. What does it mean when two people
meet, and they really "get" each
other?

14. Do they share common backgrounds?
Common beliefs? Common goals? Or
is it something deeper, something
more profound?

15. One way to enhance this is by talking
about things other than what they call
"fluff talk."

16. Talking about the weather, politics,
sports, who's hot on social media,
doesn't really let you know if you "get"
somebody or not.

17. What does?

18. This is what happens when you go
"meta."

19. When you talk about experiences, in
the abstract.

20. When you talk about the structure of
your own desires.

21. For example, say you learned how to
play a song on the guitar.

22. You practiced over and over, and
wanted to show off to your friends.

23. Then when you finally played, they
didn't act like it was a big deal.

24. So you felt a little let down.

25. You can share that experience with
somebody, so they "get" you, without
them having to have played any
instrument.

26. Just find some situation where they
did the same thing, from a structural
standpoint.

27. Find some experience where they
wanted to share something with their
friends, that they thought was pretty
cool, but ended up being a little under-
whelming.

28. So even though the two of you have
two "different" experiences, (content
wise) they are the same, structure
wise.

29. When you can find similar structures,
you can significantly increase the
chances you'll "get" each other.

30. And when they think about you, they'll
feel that YOU are somebody that
KNOWS them on a deep level, and
they'll feel they know YOU on a deep
level.

31. Doesn't matter if you're making
friends, looking for dates, or trying to
get a foot in the door in a job
interview.

32. By looking for overlapping
STRUCTURES rather than content,
you'll connect on a much deeper level.

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