This document discusses how rejection from approaching women is preferable to the regret of not approaching them. While rejection feels bad in the moment, regret can linger longer since most men have far more experience with regret than rejection. Rejection exists only in the imagination and feels terrifying, whereas regret is a normal feeling. The document advocates gaining experience with rejection through frequent approaches to reduce the fear, since rejection is usually not as extreme as imagined and most people are fairly normal. This will help reduce worry about rejection compared to the unknown of regret.

2. They say that rejection is better than
regret.

3. Meaning if you walk up, talk to a girl,
and get rejected, it feels pretty bad.

4. On the other hand, if you see a pretty
girl, and DON'T talk to her, it feels
pretty bad to.

5. However, even if you agree with the
above statement, it may not make it
any easier to approach.

6. Why?

7. It only holds true on an experiential
level.

8. Meaning if you're like most guys,
you've got TONS more experience with
regret than with rejection.

9. Which means you're pretty used to
regret.

10. So much in fact it feels normal.

11. On the other hand, rejection is mostly
in your imagination.

12. And anything in our imaginations can
feel pretty terrifying.

13. So, what good does that statement or
any other supposed "truism" about
dating, do for us?

14. If you gain as much experience with
rejection as we do with regret, then
you'll get it on a gut level.

15. So much so that it seems totally
obvious, and even silly to say out loud.

16. Kind of like if you told your buddy, "the
sky is blue," as if it were some kind of
genius insight.

17. This is pretty common when guys start
to get pretty good with game.

18. They wonder what the big deal is.

19. Why?

20. If you don't have a lot of success with
girls, it's easy to imagine that talking to
girls on the one hand is totally
terrifying.

21. But it's also pretty easy to imagine that
it's also like cutting in line to heaven.

22. But in reality, it's nothing like that.

23. Any girl you walk up to and talk to isn't
going to scream at the top of her
lungs, get all her friends to gang up on
you and beat you to death.

24. On the other hand, she's not going to
morph into your fantasy porn goddess
and go into a trance of desperate
sexual submission.

25. In fact, when you get into the habit of
talking to cute girls, you'll find out that
they are pretty normal.

26. They ARE people after all.

27. And in case you haven't noticed, most
people are pretty normal.

28. Some are weird, some absolute nut
jobs and some you wish you'd never
met. But most are pretty normal.

29. The more girls you talk to, the less
you'll worry about rejection.

30. What about regret?

31. Imagine you were walking down the
street, and you saw something on the
ground that looked like it might be
money.

32. But you were feeling lazy, so you didn't
pick it up.

33. Then later, you'd start to wonder.
What if it WAS money? What if was A
LOT of money?

34. You'll never know.

35. Compare that to the "rejection" of
picking it up and finding it was some
pretend money or monopoly money or
something. Sure, you'd be
disappointed, but not "rejected."

36. This is the comparison of "rejection vs.
regret" that you're going for.

37. The more experience you get, the
sooner you'll get there.

38. The more people you talk to, the more
experience you'll get.

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