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1. HOW TO DEFEAT VICTIM
MENTALITY
After Your Husband Cheated
on You: Stop The Pain From
Eating Away at Your Soul,
Begin to Live Like a Survivor.

2.  Just because he cheated, doesn't mean that it was
something you did, or didn't do.
 But it's up to you to make these changes that are so
necessary to start leading a happier, more fulfilling
life.

3.  You can shut off those negative voices in you
head that are telling you that you're no good, or
you deserve whatever bad things happen to you.
 Here are some things you should start applying
into your everyday practices if you truly want to
start living like a survivor.

4. HOW TO CHANGE YOUR
ROLE
From Being a Victim, to
That of Being a Survivor.

5. OPEN UP YOUR MIND
Realize that you can change your life if you choose to.
You can do anything in life that you want, even if it just means
taking baby steps.
Regain your independence and take satisfaction in all of the
little things that life has to offer.

6. FIND YOUR CONFIDENCE
You've made it this far, you can make it a lot farther.
Recognize all of the achievements you have made in life so far
and take pride in them.
Always remember that you are the baddest chick on this
planet and that you have so much to offer to the world.

7. SHOW YOUR CONFIDENCE TO
OTHERS
Don't be afraid to show others these accomplishments.
It's not boasting, it's pride.
You surpassed the company's quota margin, you made an
awesome speech, you got your kids dressed, fed and on the bus
on time.
It really doesn't matter what it is, you did it and you should
feel good about it.

8. STAY POSITIVE
Replace the negative tapes in your mind with positive, self-
affirming messages.
The fact that your husband was unfaithful doesn't mean that
it's the end of the world and you will survive.
Whatever you decide to do in the future, you have the power
and capabilities to make it happen.

9. FINISH THE TASKS YOU START
Use a clock, or a calendar to keep yourself on schedule.
When you complete a task, it will help to remind you of how
much you can actually accomplish when you put your mind to
it.

10. TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
Remember that you alone are responsible for your life.
Yes, he cheated on you, but you are the queen of your
kingdom. Don't let him dictate the way you rule it.
You alone are responsible for your own happiness, don't ever
forget that.

11. AVOID BLAMING OTHERS
For the outcome of your life. Maybe your parents lacked
nurturing skills or were even abusive.
But you’re in charge now.
You’re an independent adult who can take steps to ensure
you’re safe. Make your own life choices.

12. LOVE YOURSELF RIGHT NOW
And remember to do this throughout your day.
Identify what you need to feel complete and surround yourself
with these positive thoughts and images.
You are a special woman that was put on this planet for a
purpose. That purpose does not include feeling hurt, angry, or
abandoned

13. ADOPT A NEW MANTRA
Something as simple as, "I'm worth it," or "I'm a survivor"
silently, or vocally expressed, will help you to stay on track.
Write it down and put it on your refrigerator, or mirror that
you look at each morning as a reminder.

14. REMIND YOURSELF THAT YOU
DON'T HAVE CONTROL OVER HIS
ACTIONS
No matter how much we like to believe that we have control
over the situation, other people's behaviors are something that
are out of our power.
One thing that we do have 100% of control over however, is
how we react to the situation at hand. It's all how we perceive
things.

15. KEEP A DIARY OR JOURNAL
Write down your thoughts and feelings, it will help you find
out more about your true emotions and as you reflect upon
these feelings later, will help you better interpret them.
It doesn't have to be a long, drawn out narration, sometimes
just a sentence or two can document how you feel.
When you look back upon it, you can gain a better
understanding of that day and how it made you feel. Try it, it
works.

16. SHARE YOUR TRUE FEELINGS
Express your emotions to those around you. Don't keep them
bottled up because you think no one cares, or they aren't
important.
Tell your husband how much he hurt you and how angry, or
betrayed you feel. Make him understand.
Also, even though you might not want to do it, try to listen as
well.

17. ASK THOSE YOU TRUST FOR
FEEDBACK
Ask others for their feedback on how you are feeling. When they give this
feedback, take it all into consideration to better help you understand how
you're feeling.
It might not always be the sort of thing you want to hear at the moment,
but perhaps in retrospect, it can give you a better understanding of what it is
that is really going on.

18. TELL YOURSELF THAT IT’S OKAY TO
EXPERIENCE SOME DISCOMFORT
Recognize that it's totally appropriate to feel angry, sad, or
any other of the emotions that bring you discomfort.
When your spouse that you love betrays you, it's natural.
Feelings aren't good, nor bad, they are simply feelings and you
are entitled to your own.
Never feel embarrassed, or ashamed for how you feel at any
given moment.

19. STAY FOCUSED
When you stay centered on your options, choices, emotions,
and behaviors, you’ll find life gets much easier.
The past is something we can never regain and the future is
something of which we have no guarantee of. There is only
now.

20. SEEK PROFESSIONAL HELP IF YOU
NEED IT
Remember that there are professionals available to help you,
should you need them. Maybe a therapist, or counselor can
help.
If you are religious, speak to your priest, or pastor. They
would be happy to assist you I'm sure.
There are also a variety of support groups out there that can
aid with the situation, if nothing else but reassuring you that
you are not alone.

21. COMMIT TO
APPLYING THESE
TECHNIQUES
FREE Printable Worksheet.
This worksheet is designed to help
you identify if you’re living as a
victim, and to learn new ways to live
with consciousness and purpose.
You can choose to be a survivor,
starting now.
In your daily life and unleash the
survivor that’s inside of you!