Alki families and students learned how to be empowered as a bystander, and learn to stand up against bullying.

1. Family First Friday
Alki Elementary PTA
11.06.2020 @ 6:30 PM
Be a Buddy
Upstander vs. Bystander
special guest:
Jen Greenstein, Social Worker
Alki Elementary ( mon/wed/fri )
Presented by:
Melissa Spiker
Courtney Teitler
Erica Nelson

2. 6:00 PM Introductions & Creating a Safe Space to Share
6:05 PM Ice Breaker Exercise
6:10 PM B u l l y i n g: Who, What, Where, When and How
Agenda
6:40 PM Group Discussion Lead by Alki’s Social Worker, Jen G.

3. Our discussions tonight will be guided by the following practices.
Creating a Safe Space to Share
Wait to be called on to speak, everyone will
have an opportunity to speak.
BE PATIENT
Be thoughtful not to judge, discuss issues not
people.
BE KIND
Maintain confidence and privacy of what
is shared during tonight’s event.
BE DISCREET
Don’t pass judgements and have a creative
mindset for problem solving.
BE OPEN MINDED
To arrive at truth we must start with
the truth.
BE HONEST
We will assume we all come from a place of
love and good intention.
BE FAIR
Respect everyone’s personal experience
and try to relate.
BE EMPATHETIC
Thank you for being here tonight and for
learning how to be an Upstander
BE AN UPSTANDER

4. Icebreaker(s)

5. Icebreaker(s)

6. Icebreaker(s)

7. Look at the comic strip below, what do you think our hero in the making can say to intervene?
Icebreaker(s)

8. Icebreaker(s)

9. Icebreaker(s)

10. UNDERSTANDING BULLYING
In this section, we will talk about different types of bullying and we will
provide a safe place to practice being an Upstander.

11. What is bullying?
Bullying is being mean to
someone on purpose.
Bullying is unfair and one sided.
Bullying is when someone can’t
make someone stop hurting them.
Bullying isn’t always physical.
Bullying includes teasing, insults,
threats, and excluding socially.
Bullying can happen in person or
online.
Bullying has serious
consequences.
Bullying can be stopped!

12. Knowing what bullying looks like helps us stop it before it escalates.
Different Types of Bullying
01 Poking, pushing, hitting, kicking, beating up
02Yelling, taunting, name calling, insulting, threatening harm
Verbal Bullying
03 Excluding, spreading rumors, getting others to hurt someone
Relational Bullying
04Sending harmful or hurtful messages/pictures online or using cell phones
Cyberbullying
Physical Bullying

13. If you think your child is being
bullied, don’t ignore it. Talk to them.
Empathize with them, tell them it’s
not their fault and that you can help.
Help your child avoid reactions that
will make things worse, and practice
role playing at home.
Be persistent don’t give up. Bullying
is a social phenomenon that will take
long term effort to solve.
Talk to the school or the organization
responsible for the setting the where
the bullying is happening.
Keep talking until they take action.
As adults, we should work hard to
stop bullying. We can help make it
stop!

14. Doesn’t want to
go to school
Changes in
method or route
to school
Looses or brings
home damaged
belongings
Changes in eating
and/or sleeping
patterns
Drops in
academic
performance
Loss of interest
in things they
use to enjoy
Signs of Bullying

15. Friends can bully too.
01
You are made fun of, called names, or teased for your
appearance or what you wear.
You are mocked or mimicked for what you say or how you act.
You are laughed at when people know you are hurting.
You are told who you can and can’t be friends with.
You are made to feel that you don’t live up to the standards of the
friend group.

16. Don’t get caught up in anger or
frustration with your child.
Bullying doesn’t define your child.
Your child needs your love and
compassion to help figure out
what’s really going on.
Why is your child bullying? How
else can they get what they need?
Make sure they understand how
bullying affects others, and ask
them how they can make amends
for how they treated someone.
Model appropriate and respectful
behaviors.
Be patient, reinforce good
behaviors, and most importantly
keep talking to your child.

17. Be an Upstander….

18. Alki’s School Climate Student Survey (3rd, 4th, and 5th graders)
Use the Playbook function to explore ways to
improve on issues receiving lower marks than
previous years and empower your student to
make moves that brings change to Alki.
Explore the Playbook
The family survey is another valuable tool to
gain insight into Alki’s school climate and
engagement practices.
Family Survey
Due to COVID pandemic Spring of 2019 is
the most recent survey result, with 177
responses from 3rd - 5th graders.
Spring of 2019
Surveys use Panorama Education website to
display results in a way that fosters deeper
understanding. You can view district
benchmarks and compare to previous years.
Panorama Education

19. For the Birds….

20. thank you for
being here
tonight.