Bullying Definition: "Bullying is  deliberately  hurtful behaviour which is repeated  over a period of time. It is  difficult  for those being bullied  to stop  the process."
The Victim Put yourself in  their  shoes. Think about how it must make  them  feel.
 
The Bully Has poor relationships with classmates. Gets into frequent fights.
Hurting and making others feel bad is  NEVER   cool .
What is Bullying? Nasty behaviour when you want to cause harm or suffering. Usually is repeated over time. Occurs in a relationship where there is an imbalance of power or strength.
 
Types of Bullying
Physical Bullying  – hitting, kicking, hair pulling
Social Bullying  – being left out or ignored
Verbal Bullying  – name calling, verbal abuse
Cyber-bullying  - sending  HATE  emails, text messages and posting  LIES  on the internet.
HELP
Help the victim rather than ignore the situation.
 
No one has the right to hurt you or make you feel bad.  Talk to someone about it.
Take Action Don't ignore bullying when you see it. . .  never allow  a bully to get away with thinking that no-one will do anything.
Student plan Ask  for adult help. Do not  take part in hurting the victim. Say kind  words to the victim. Do not  become involved in rumors and gossip. If you can  speak to the bully, tell the bully that he is not behaving properly. Do not  become involved in physical or verbal fights with a bully.
Part 2
Why do people Bully?
There are a lot of reasons why some people bully. They may see it as a way of being popular, or making themselves look tough and in charge.
Something or someone  is making  them feel insecure.  They bully  to make  themselves feel better.
Some people bully  to get attention  or things,  or  to make other  people afraid  of them.
Others might be jealous of the person they are bullying.  They may be being bullied themselves.
They might  not  feel like they are getting  enough attention  from parents or teachers.
Possible Future of a Bully.  Children who are bullies  become Adult bullies . As an adult they  have problems in making and keeping friends.
Children who are bullies  are likely  to experience legal or criminal problems as adults.
Be injured in a fight Steal, destroy property Drink alcohol, smoke
Drop out of school See a negative environment at school.  Are not happy at school.
Children who are Friends of Bullies They want to “side” with the bully because it makes them feel strong.
They’re entertained by the bullying. They don’t think speaking up will help. They’re afraid that if they say something, the bully will turn on them.
Part 3
How do you know if you are a bully? Does it make you feel  BIG  to hurt other people or take their things?
Are you bigger and stronger than other people your age?  Do you sometimes use your size and strength to get your way?
Do you avoid thinking about how other people might feel if you say or do hurtful things to them?
How Not to be a Bully.
I think sometimes I can be a bully, what can I do? You have the  choice  to bully others or not to.  It can be hard if everyone else is doing it and you would feel left out if you don’t join in.   It  takes courage  to step back from bullying .
I think sometimes I can be a bully, what can I do? If you find yourself bullying other people  ask for help  from someone you trust.  Find other ways  to feel respected , you will find it easier to stop bullying others.
OK!   I am a bully.  What do I do now? STOP Keep hands and feet to yourself. Respect others space.
If you are having a hard time feeling good about yourself, find other ways to like yourself.
If you feel like you’re having  trouble controlling  your feelings, especially anger,  talk to  a school counselor about it.
What now? Apologize to people that you have bullied, and follow it up by being friendly.  They might not trust you right away, but eventually they will see that you have changed.
Part 4
 
What do  you usually do  when you see a student being bullied? 38% Nothing, because it’s  none of my  business. 27% I don’t do anything, but I think I  should help. 35% I try to help him or her.
If you don’t stop bullying who will?
If you take  no action , you are saying that bullying  is OK .
If you see someone being bullied… refuse to join in tell the bullies to stop be a good friend to the victim report the bullying to a teacher
I'm too scared to go to school. What should I do? No-one has the right to stop you from going to school.  Your school has a duty to protect you from bullying and keep you safe.  Talk to someone you trust and tell them about the problem.   
What to do? Don't fight the bully- this may only make things worse.  It is not a safe thing to do. You don't want to become a bully yourself .
Part 5
Your turn
Ask yourself these questions…   Are my actions or words hurting someone else's  feelings?   Are my actions or words hurting someone else physically or making that person feel afraid?   Would I want someone else to do this to me?   Am I unfairly taking my anger out on someone?   Am I trying to control someone against his or her will?
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS   Which of these are bullying (and why)?    Making fun of somebody's looks. Accidentally bumping into someone in the hall. Calling people names because of the colour of their skin. Making the other kids play the game your way.  Teasing someone about the clothes he/she wears.
DISCUSSION QUESTIONS  continued Which of these are bullying (and why)?  Telling someone that the shirt he's wearing doesn't look good on him. A group of kids won't let you sit with them at lunch even though there's room. Telling someone that he or she is not being nice. Joking with people by "putting them down".
Discussion continued Can someone be a bully without meaning to be?  What's the difference between bullying and just  fooling around?  When does something become bullying? What can be done to stop bullying at school?  
Read the following letter. What advice will you give “ Distressed 14 year old”
Dear Agony Aunt, I don’t know who to turn to for help. My parents have just moved to a new town and have started new jobs. I think they have enough problems without me adding to them.  I started at my new school three weeks ago. I have made no friends. Two boys keep calling me names and the others laugh every time they do it. They always shout at me when the teacher isn’t around. It happens in the classroom, playground and when I am walking to and from school. Please, please help me. I can’t take any more! From a very distressed 14 year old.
Writing Assignment Write the reply to the article sent in by  “ a very  distressed 14 year old”. Give the best advise you can.
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frequent Done or occurring often. I take  frequent  breaks, so I don't get too tired.
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Bullying

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    Bullying Definition: "Bullyingis deliberately hurtful behaviour which is repeated over a period of time. It is difficult for those being bullied to stop the process."
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    The Victim Putyourself in  their  shoes. Think about how it must make  them  feel.
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    The Bully Haspoor relationships with classmates. Gets into frequent fights.
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    Hurting and makingothers feel bad is NEVER cool .
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    What is Bullying?Nasty behaviour when you want to cause harm or suffering. Usually is repeated over time. Occurs in a relationship where there is an imbalance of power or strength.
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    Physical Bullying – hitting, kicking, hair pulling
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    Social Bullying – being left out or ignored
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    Verbal Bullying – name calling, verbal abuse
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    Cyber-bullying -sending HATE emails, text messages and posting LIES on the internet.
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    Help the victimrather than ignore the situation.
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    No one hasthe right to hurt you or make you feel bad. Talk to someone about it.
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    Take Action Don'tignore bullying when you see it. . . never allow a bully to get away with thinking that no-one will do anything.
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    Student plan Ask for adult help. Do not take part in hurting the victim. Say kind words to the victim. Do not become involved in rumors and gossip. If you can speak to the bully, tell the bully that he is not behaving properly. Do not become involved in physical or verbal fights with a bully.
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    There are alot of reasons why some people bully. They may see it as a way of being popular, or making themselves look tough and in charge.
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    Something or someone is making them feel insecure. They bully to make themselves feel better.
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    Some people bully to get attention or things, or to make other people afraid of them.
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    Others might bejealous of the person they are bullying. They may be being bullied themselves.
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    They might not feel like they are getting enough attention from parents or teachers.
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    Possible Future ofa Bully. Children who are bullies become Adult bullies . As an adult they have problems in making and keeping friends.
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    Children who arebullies are likely to experience legal or criminal problems as adults.
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    Be injured ina fight Steal, destroy property Drink alcohol, smoke
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    Drop out ofschool See a negative environment at school. Are not happy at school.
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    Children who areFriends of Bullies They want to “side” with the bully because it makes them feel strong.
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    They’re entertained bythe bullying. They don’t think speaking up will help. They’re afraid that if they say something, the bully will turn on them.
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    How do youknow if you are a bully? Does it make you feel BIG to hurt other people or take their things?
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    Are you biggerand stronger than other people your age? Do you sometimes use your size and strength to get your way?
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    Do you avoidthinking about how other people might feel if you say or do hurtful things to them?
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    How Not tobe a Bully.
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    I think sometimesI can be a bully, what can I do? You have the choice to bully others or not to. It can be hard if everyone else is doing it and you would feel left out if you don’t join in. It takes courage to step back from bullying .
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    I think sometimesI can be a bully, what can I do? If you find yourself bullying other people ask for help from someone you trust. Find other ways to feel respected , you will find it easier to stop bullying others.
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    OK! I am a bully. What do I do now? STOP Keep hands and feet to yourself. Respect others space.
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    If you arehaving a hard time feeling good about yourself, find other ways to like yourself.
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    If you feellike you’re having trouble controlling your feelings, especially anger, talk to a school counselor about it.
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    What now? Apologizeto people that you have bullied, and follow it up by being friendly. They might not trust you right away, but eventually they will see that you have changed.
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    What do you usually do when you see a student being bullied? 38% Nothing, because it’s none of my business. 27% I don’t do anything, but I think I should help. 35% I try to help him or her.
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    If you don’tstop bullying who will?
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    If you take no action , you are saying that bullying is OK .
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    If you seesomeone being bullied… refuse to join in tell the bullies to stop be a good friend to the victim report the bullying to a teacher
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    I'm too scaredto go to school. What should I do? No-one has the right to stop you from going to school. Your school has a duty to protect you from bullying and keep you safe. Talk to someone you trust and tell them about the problem.  
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    What to do?Don't fight the bully- this may only make things worse. It is not a safe thing to do. You don't want to become a bully yourself .
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    Ask yourself thesequestions…   Are my actions or words hurting someone else's feelings?   Are my actions or words hurting someone else physically or making that person feel afraid?   Would I want someone else to do this to me?   Am I unfairly taking my anger out on someone?   Am I trying to control someone against his or her will?
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    DISCUSSION QUESTIONS Which of these are bullying (and why)?   Making fun of somebody's looks. Accidentally bumping into someone in the hall. Calling people names because of the colour of their skin. Making the other kids play the game your way. Teasing someone about the clothes he/she wears.
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    DISCUSSION QUESTIONS continued Which of these are bullying (and why)? Telling someone that the shirt he's wearing doesn't look good on him. A group of kids won't let you sit with them at lunch even though there's room. Telling someone that he or she is not being nice. Joking with people by "putting them down".
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    Discussion continued Cansomeone be a bully without meaning to be? What's the difference between bullying and just fooling around? When does something become bullying? What can be done to stop bullying at school?  
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    Read the followingletter. What advice will you give “ Distressed 14 year old”
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    Dear Agony Aunt,I don’t know who to turn to for help. My parents have just moved to a new town and have started new jobs. I think they have enough problems without me adding to them. I started at my new school three weeks ago. I have made no friends. Two boys keep calling me names and the others laugh every time they do it. They always shout at me when the teacher isn’t around. It happens in the classroom, playground and when I am walking to and from school. Please, please help me. I can’t take any more! From a very distressed 14 year old.
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    Writing Assignment Writethe reply to the article sent in by “ a very distressed 14 year old”. Give the best advise you can.
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    frequent Done oroccurring often. I take  frequent  breaks, so I don't get too tired.
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