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12. Prayer for Generosity

13. The Essential 6
Rs of Bullying
Prevention
How to Create Safe, Caring, Moral Learning Climates
and Reduce Bullying on Our School Campuses
by Michele Borba, Ed. D.

15. 1. Set clear rules.
2. Teach how to recognize bullying.
3. Teach how to report bullying.
4. Teach how to respond to bullying.
5. Teach how to refuse bullying.
6. Replace current beliefs or
behavior.
The Essential 6
Rs

16. “Any failure to treat bullying, abuse
and violence seriously, because it
occurs between students, within
schools, is a violation of a child’s
human rights.”

19. A Growing Character Problem:
 School bullying
 Cyberbullying

20. Children remind me of chickens, seeking out the
weak and wounded and pecking them to death.
They have discovered that my 9-year-old son,
who is autistic, is bothered by loud noises, and
they scream and whistle in his ear until he cries.
—A mother

21. When students are victims of peer cruelty, it:
 Interferes with their learning.
 Disrupts their social and moral
development.
 Makes school a miserable experience.
 Causes some to seek revenge.
 Causes others to become depressed and
even suicidal.

22. All my life I have been teased.
I love you very much, but I
just couldn’t stand it any more.
—An 8th-grade girl’s suicide note to her
parents

23. Suicide and Bullying
 Each year, 14% of U.S. high school students
seriously consider suicide.
 Victims and perpetrators of bullying are both at
higher risk of depression and suicide.
 The effects of chronic bullying can persist into
adulthood.

27. U.S. Secret Service Study:
Two-thirds of the student shooters had
been bullied by fellow students.

28. The Societal Costs of Bullying
 By adulthood, 60% of school
bullies will have a criminal
conviction.

29. The Educational Costs of Bullying
 Peer exclusion in kindergarten is
associated with lower academic
achievement in later grades.
 Even observing someone else being
bullied can lower a student’s
academic performance.

30. 3 Secrets of Success
1.Staff involvement
2.Student involvement
3.Parent involvement

31. Parents and Cyber-Bullying
Send home guidelines to help
parents monitor kids’ online
activity.

34. Social banter
Hurtful teasing
Mean, subtle body language
Aggressive physical behaviors, e.g. pushing, shoving,
kicking
Malicious gossip, e.g. online bullying, chat rooms
Sexual, gender, racist, religious harassment
Social exclusion – in person, electronic
Mobbing
Hazing
Extortion/bribery
Phone, cyber abuse
Damage to property
Physical violence
Use of weapons
Criminal act
Murder

39. –Johnny Appleseed
“Type a quote here.”

41. STRATEGIES

42. Teach Manners and
The Golden Rule
What you accept, you teach.
What you permit, you promo
te.

43. Teaching Courtesy
 I teach my kids to greet and thank the cafeteria
workers.
 The cafeteria staff say they always know when my
kids are coming through.
 My students have a very high level of self-respect—
because of the respect they show to other people.
—Molly Angelini, 5th-grade teacher

44. Effective Classroom Management

45. Be a Buddy, Not a Bully
Shirt

46. Stand Up to Bullying
Week

47. Student Justice Committee

48. Celebration of Service
Week

49. Give Recognition to:
1. Most Creative Outreach
2. Outreach with the
Greatest Impact
3. Best Organized
4. Outreach of the Year

50. Peer Mentoring for
Conflict Resolution

51. Bibliotherapy for the Victim

52. Involve Students in
Welcoming New Kids

53. WELCOMING FRESHMEN
 Seniors plan and lead a half-day
welcome for the new freshmen.

54. Character-Based Consequences

55. The 4 R’s
of Moral
Discipline

56. 4 R’s of Moral Discipline
RESPOND calmly
and assess the
child’s intention

57. 4 R’s of Moral Discipline
REVIEW why the
behavior is
wrong

58. 4 R’s of Moral Discipline
REFLECT on the
behavior’s effect

59. 4 R’s of Moral Discipline
RIGHT The wrong
by encouraging
the child to make
a reparation

60. 4 R’s of Moral Discipline
RESPOND calmly and assess the
child’s intention
REVIEW why the behavior is wrong
REFLECT on the behavior’s effect
RIGHT The wrong by encouraging
the child to make a reparation

61. Class Meetings

62. 20 Kinds of Class Meetings
 How to Get Kids To Talk in Class Meetings
Educating for Character, T. Lickona,
Ch. 8
62

63. 20 Kinds of Class Meetings
1. Good news meeting
2. Circle whip
3. Appreciation time
4. Compliment time
5. Goal-setting meeting
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65. 20 Kinds of Class Meetings
6. Rule-setting meeting
7. Rule-evaluating meeting
8. Stage-setting meeting
9. Feedback and evaluation
10. Reflections on learning

66. 20 Kinds of Class Meetings
11. Student presentation
12. Problem-solving meeting
13. Academic issues
14. Classroom improvement meeting
15. Follow-up meeting

67. 20 Kinds of Class Meetings
16. Planning meeting
17. Concept meeting
18. Sticky situations
19. Suggestion box/class business box
20. Meeting on meetings

68. Cooperative Learning

69. FRESHMAN TRANSITION PROGRAM
 Older students are assigned as mentors to all
freshmen.
 The school trains the mentors.
 Mentors and their freshmen meet weekly.

70. BUDDY CLASSES
An older class is paired with a younger
class.
The buddy classes get together weekly or
bi-weekly.
The older kids read to their little buddies,
help them with their schoolwork, do a
special project together, and so on.

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76. Anonymous Compliments

77. 77
Anonymous Compliments
1. Each student draws the name of a classmate.
2. By the week’s end, the student writes an
anonymous compliment about that person on a
strip of paper, shows it to the teacher, and puts
it in the Compliment Box.
3. On Friday, the teacher posts all the
compliments on the bulletin board.

78. Good Deeds Journal

79. Teaching Empathy Through
Literature

80. Compact for Excellence
(Students Craft the Pledge)

81. Students Pledge

82. Some Samples
of Student
Pledges
Against Bullying

86. James Stenson
Children develop character by
what they see, what they hear,
and what they are repeatedly led
to do.

90. Empathetic Children Can
Recognize Feelings
1st Habit: Teaching emotional literacy to help
students recognize and understand the
feelings and needs of others

91. Be pitiful, for every
man is fighting a
hard battle.
Ian Maclaren

93. Empathetic Children Have a
“Moral Identity”
2nd Habit: Developing an ethical code so
students will adopt caring values that guide
their integrity and empathy to help others

95. Empathetic Children Understand
the Needs of Others
3rd Habit: Instilling perspective taking so students
can step into others’ shoes to understand another’s
feelings, thoughts and views

96. Kindness has converted
more sinners than zeal,
eloquence or learning.
Frederick W. Faber

98. Empathetic Children Have A
“Moral Imagination”
4th Habit: Instilling a moral imagination so students
can use literature, films and emotionally- charged
imaged as a source of inspiration to feel with others

100. Empathetic Children Can Keep
Their Cool
5th Habit: Mastering self-regulation to help
students learn to manage strong emotions and
reduce personal distress so they can help
others

102. Empathetic Children Practice
Kindness
6th Habit: Developing and exercising
compassion to increase students’ concern
about the welfare and feelings of others

104. Empathetic Kids Think “Us” Not
“Them”
7th Habit: Cultivating collaboration to active
empathy and help students work with others
to achieve shared goals for the benefit of all

105. Kindness gives birth
to kindness.
Sophocles

107. Empathetic Kids Stick Their Necks
Out
8th Habit: Promoting moral courage to
embolden kids to speak out, step in and help
others

109. Empathetic Kids Want to Make a
Difference
9th Habit: Cultivating altruistic leadership
abilities to motivate students to make a
difference for others, no matter how small it
may be, and become Changemakers

110. Kind words do not cost
much. Yet they
accomplish much.
Blaise Pascal

112. 8 CONCRETE STRATEGIES THAT
HELP RAISE CARING CHILDREN
UnSelfie: Why Empathetic Kids Succeed In
Our All- About-Me World

113. 1. Look Face-to-Face

114. A simple way to increase face
to face connection is to enforce
one habit: “Always look at the
color of the talker’s eyes.”

115. Beginning today, treat everyone you
meet as if they were going to be
dead by midnight. Extend to them all
the care, kindness and understanding
you can muster, and do it with no
thought of any reward. Your life will
never be the same again.
Og Mandino

116. 2. Use More Emotion
Words

118. POWER OF WORDS

119. 3. Praise Caring
Actions

120. A study found that praising children’s
character traits rather than their behavior
helped them internalize caring as part of their
identities. The character-praised kids were
also more likely to be more generous than
those children who were told that they had
donated because they were expected to do.

121. 4. Use Discipline to
Redo Uncaring
Behavior

122. 5. Capture Caring
Moments

123. Make sure to display prominently
photos of your kids engaged in
kind and thoughtful endeavors so
they recognize that “caring
matters.”

124. 6. Use Real Events,
Books, and News

125. Help stretch your child’s
perspective-taking skills (the
cognitive part of empathy)
using spontaneous everyday
moments.

126. In books: “Take the bears’ side. How would
you feel if Goldilocks used your beds and
chairs without asking?”

127. In the news: “The cyclone destroyed most of
those children’s homes. What do you think
those kids are feeling and thinking? What do
you think we can do to help?”

128. In your family: “How does Dad feel hearing
that his mom is so sick?” Don’t overlook
asking: “I wonder if there’s a way we can
help?”

129. 7. Be a Caring Role
Model

130. One of the greatest questions to ask yourself
each day is: “If I were the only example my
child had to learn kindness and empathy, what
did she learn today?”

131. 8.Reflect On
Kindness

132. So instead of always asking, “What did you
learn today?” or “What grade did you get?”
include:

133. “What’s something you did
that was kind?”
“What kind thing did you see
someone do?”

134. “… children are hard-wired
to care, but their capacity
for empathy must be
nurtured …”

135. Three things in human life
are important. The first is to
be kind. The second is to be
kind. And the third is to be
kind.
Henry James

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