THE  ENNEAGRAM MADE  EASY NINE  PERSONALITIES
THE PERFECTIONIST Ones are motivated by the need to live their live the right way, including improving themselves and the world around them.
BEST ethical reliable productive wise idealistic fair honest orderly self-disciplined Personality Type ONE WORST judgmental inflexible dogmatic obsessive-compulsive critical of others overly serious controlling anxious jealous
1. How to Get Along with Me   Take your share of the responsibility so I don't end up with all the work.  Acknowledge my achievements.  I'm hard on myself. Reassure me that I'm fine the way I am.  Tell me that you value my advice.  Be fair and considerate, as I am.  Apologize if you have been unthoughtful. It will help me to forgive.  Gently encourage me to lighten up and to laugh at myself when I get uptight, but hear my worries first.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 1 Type 1   The Reformer Excessive use of diets, vitamins, and cleansing techniques (fasts, diet pills, enemas). Under-eating for self-control: in extreme cases anorexia and bulimia. Alcohol to relieve tension.
THE HELPER Twos are motivated by the need to be loved and valued and to express their positive feelings toward others.
Personality Type TWO BEST loving caring adaptable insightful generous enthusiastic  tuned into how people feel WORST martyrlike indirect manipulative possessive hysterical overly accommodating overly demonstrative (the more extroverted)
2. How to Get Along with Me   Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific.  Share fun times with me.  Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus on yours.  Let me know that I am important and special to you.  Be gentle if you decide to criticize me.  In Intimate Relationships  Reassure me that I am interesting to you.  Reassure me often that you love me.  Tell me I'm attractive and that you're glad to be seen with me.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 2  Type 2   The Helper Abusing food and over-the-counter medications. Bingeing, especially on sweets and carbohydrates. Over-eating from feeling "love-starved." Hypochondria to look for sympathy.
THE STATUS SEEKER Threes are motivated by the need to be productive, achieve success, and avoid failure.
Personality Type THREE BEST optimistic confident industrious efficient self-propelled energetic practical  WORST deceptive narcissistic pretentious vain superficial vindictive overly  competitive
3. How to Get Along with Me   Leave me alone when I am doing my work.  Give me honest, but not unduly critical or judgmental, feedback.  Help me keep my environment harmonious and peaceful.  Don't burden me with negative emotions.  Tell me you like being around me.  Tell me when you're proud of me or my accomplishments
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 3 Type 3   The Achiever Over-stressing the body for recognition. Working out to exhaustion. Starvation diets. Workaholism. Excessive intake of coffee, stimulants, amphetamines, cocaine, steroids or excessive surgery for cosmetic improvement.
THE ARTIST or INDIVIDUALIST Fours are motivated by the need to experience their feelings and to be understood, to search for the meaning of life, and to avoid being ordinary.
Personality Type FOUR BEST warm compassionate introspective expressive creative intuitive supportive refined WORST depressed self-conscious guilt-ridden moralistic withdrawn stubborn moody self-absorbed
4. How to Get Along with Me   Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me.  Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value myself.  Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision.  Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little.  Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 4  Type 4   The Individualist Over-indulgence in rich foods, sweets, alcohol to alter mood, to socialize, and for emotional consolation. Lack of physical activity. Bulimia. Depressants. Tobacco, prescription drugs, or heroin for social anxiety. Cosmetic surgery to erase rejected features.
THE INTELLECTUAL Fives are motivated by the need to know and understand everything, to be self sufficient , and to avoid looking foolish.
Personality Type FIVE BEST analytic persevering sensitive wise objective perceptive self-controlled WORST intellectually arrogant stingy stubborn distant critical of others unassertive negative
5. How to Get Along with Me   Be independent, not clingy.  Speak in a straightforward and brief manner.  I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts.  Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that I am feeling uncomfortable.  Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your sincerity.  If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because it was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place.  don't come on like a bulldozer.  Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people's loud music, overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 5  Type 5   The Investigator Poor eating and sleeping habits due to minimizing needs. Neglecting hygiene and nutrition. Lack of physical activity. Psychotropic drugs for mental stimulation and escape, narcotics for anxiety.
THE LOYALIST Sixes are motivated by the need for security.
Personality Type SIX BEST loyal likeable caring warm compassionate witty practical helpful responsible WORST hypervigilant controlling unpredictable judgmental paranoid defensive rigid self-defeating testy
6. How to Get Along with Me   Be direct and clear.  Listen to me carefully.  Don't judge me for my anxiety.  Work things through with me.  Reassure me that everything is OK between us.  Laugh and make jokes with me.  Gently push me toward new experiences.  Try not to overreact to my overreacting .
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 6  Type 6   The Loyalist Rigidity in diet causes nutritional imbalances ("I don't like vegetables.") Working excessively. Caffeine and amphetamines for stamina, but also alcohol and depressants to deaden anxiety. Higher susceptibility to alcoholism than many types.
THE GENERALIST Sevens are motivated by the need to be happy and plan enjoyable activities, to contribute to the world, and to avoid suffering and pain.
Personality Type SEVEN BEST fun-loving spontaneous imaginative  productive enthusiastic quick confident charming  curious WORST narcissistic impulsive unfocused rebellious undisciplined possessive manic self-destructive restless
7. How to Get Along with Me   Give me companionship, affection, and freedom.  Engage with me in stimulating conversation and laughter.  Appreciate my grand visions and listen to my stories.  Don't try to change my style. Accept me the way I am.  Be responsible for yourself. I dislike clingy or needy people.  Don't tell me what to do.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 7  Type 7   The Enthusiast The type most prone to addictions: stimulants (caffeine, cocaine, and amphetamines), Ecstasy, psychotropics, narcotics, and alcohol but tend to avoid other depressants. Wear body out with effort to stay "up." Excessive cosmetic surgery, pain killers.
THE  LEADER Eights are motivated by the need to be self-reliant and strong and to avoid feeling weak or dependent.
Personality Type EIGHT BEST direct authoritative loyal energetic earthy protective self-confident WORST controlling rebellious insensitive domineering self-centered skeptical aggressive
8. How to Get Along with Me   Stand up for yourself... and me.  Be confident, strong, and direct.  Don't gossip about me or betray my trust.  Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side.  Give me space to be alone.  Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter me.  I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically assume it's a personal attack.  When I scream, curses, and stomp around, try to remember that's just the way I am.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 8  Type 8   The Challenger Ignore physical needs and problems: avoid medical visits and check-ups. Indulging in rich foods, alcohol, tobacco while pushing self too hard leads to high stress, strokes, and heart conditions. Control issues central, although alcoholism and narcotic addictions are possible.
THE PEACEMAKER Nines are motivated by the need to keep the peace, to merge with others, and to avoid conflict.
Personality Type NINE BEST pleasant peaceful generous patient receptive diplomatic open-minded empathetic WORST spaced-out forgetful stubborn obsessive apathetic passive-aggressive judgmental unassertive
9. How to Get Along with Me   If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don't like expectations or pressure.  I like to listen and to be of service, but don't take advantage of this.  Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit.  Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It's OK to nudge me gently and nonjudgmentally.  Ask me questions to help me get clear.  Tell me when you like how I look. I'm not averse to flattery.  Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings.  I like a good discussion but not a confrontation.  Let me know you like what I've done or said.  Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life.
Eating Disorders & Addictions of Type 9  Type 9   The Peacemaker Over-eating or under-eating due to lack of self-awareness and repressed anger. Lack of physical activity. Depressants and psychotropics, alcohol, marijuana, narcotics to deaden loneliness and anxiety.
The Level of Pathological Destructiveness       Level 9       The Level of Obsession and Compulsion       Level 8    Unhealthy    The Level of Violation       Level 7                   The Level of Overcompensation       Level 6       The Level of Interpersonal Control       Level 5    Average   The Level of Imbalance/ Social Role       Level 4                   The Level of Social Value       Level 3       The Level of Psychological Capacity       Level 2    Healthy   The Level of Liberation       Level 1     
Disintegration - 142857... Integration - 758241... 9369... 9639...
The Direction of Disintegration  1-4-2-8-5-7-1  9-6-3-9  The Direction of Integration  1-7-5-8-2-4-1  9-3-6-9
The Direction of Integration  1-7-5-8-2-4-1  9-3-6-9  The Direction of Integration  1-7-5-8-2-4-1  9-3-6-9
Example of Integration and Disintegration Personality Type EIGHT: The Challenger The Powerful, Dominating Type:  Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational  Generally, Eights are  strong, assertive, resourceful, independent, determined, action-oriented, pragmatic, competitive, straight-talking, shrewd, and insistent.  Eights get into conflicts by being  blunt, willful, domineering, forceful, defiant, confrontational, bad-tempered, rageful, cynical, and vengeful.  At their best, Eights are  honorable, heroic, empowering, generous, gentle, constructive, initiating, decisive, and inspiring.

Enneagram

  • 1.
    THE ENNEAGRAMMADE EASY NINE PERSONALITIES
  • 2.
    THE PERFECTIONIST Onesare motivated by the need to live their live the right way, including improving themselves and the world around them.
  • 3.
    BEST ethical reliableproductive wise idealistic fair honest orderly self-disciplined Personality Type ONE WORST judgmental inflexible dogmatic obsessive-compulsive critical of others overly serious controlling anxious jealous
  • 4.
    1. How toGet Along with Me Take your share of the responsibility so I don't end up with all the work. Acknowledge my achievements. I'm hard on myself. Reassure me that I'm fine the way I am. Tell me that you value my advice. Be fair and considerate, as I am. Apologize if you have been unthoughtful. It will help me to forgive. Gently encourage me to lighten up and to laugh at myself when I get uptight, but hear my worries first.
  • 5.
    Eating Disorders &Addictions of Type 1 Type 1 The Reformer Excessive use of diets, vitamins, and cleansing techniques (fasts, diet pills, enemas). Under-eating for self-control: in extreme cases anorexia and bulimia. Alcohol to relieve tension.
  • 6.
    THE HELPER Twosare motivated by the need to be loved and valued and to express their positive feelings toward others.
  • 7.
    Personality Type TWOBEST loving caring adaptable insightful generous enthusiastic tuned into how people feel WORST martyrlike indirect manipulative possessive hysterical overly accommodating overly demonstrative (the more extroverted)
  • 8.
    2. How toGet Along with Me Tell me that you appreciate me. Be specific. Share fun times with me. Take an interest in my problems, though I will probably try to focus on yours. Let me know that I am important and special to you. Be gentle if you decide to criticize me. In Intimate Relationships Reassure me that I am interesting to you. Reassure me often that you love me. Tell me I'm attractive and that you're glad to be seen with me.
  • 9.
    Eating Disorders &Addictions of Type 2 Type 2 The Helper Abusing food and over-the-counter medications. Bingeing, especially on sweets and carbohydrates. Over-eating from feeling "love-starved." Hypochondria to look for sympathy.
  • 10.
    THE STATUS SEEKERThrees are motivated by the need to be productive, achieve success, and avoid failure.
  • 11.
    Personality Type THREEBEST optimistic confident industrious efficient self-propelled energetic practical WORST deceptive narcissistic pretentious vain superficial vindictive overly competitive
  • 12.
    3. How toGet Along with Me Leave me alone when I am doing my work. Give me honest, but not unduly critical or judgmental, feedback. Help me keep my environment harmonious and peaceful. Don't burden me with negative emotions. Tell me you like being around me. Tell me when you're proud of me or my accomplishments
  • 13.
    Eating Disorders &Addictions of Type 3 Type 3 The Achiever Over-stressing the body for recognition. Working out to exhaustion. Starvation diets. Workaholism. Excessive intake of coffee, stimulants, amphetamines, cocaine, steroids or excessive surgery for cosmetic improvement.
  • 14.
    THE ARTIST orINDIVIDUALIST Fours are motivated by the need to experience their feelings and to be understood, to search for the meaning of life, and to avoid being ordinary.
  • 15.
    Personality Type FOURBEST warm compassionate introspective expressive creative intuitive supportive refined WORST depressed self-conscious guilt-ridden moralistic withdrawn stubborn moody self-absorbed
  • 16.
    4. How toGet Along with Me Give me plenty of compliments. They mean a lot to me. Be a supportive friend or partner. Help me to learn to love and value myself. Respect me for my special gifts of intuition and vision. Though I don't always want to be cheered up when I'm feeling melancholy, I sometimes like to have someone lighten me up a little. Don't tell me I'm too sensitive or that I'm overreacting!
  • 17.
    Eating Disorders &Addictions of Type 4 Type 4 The Individualist Over-indulgence in rich foods, sweets, alcohol to alter mood, to socialize, and for emotional consolation. Lack of physical activity. Bulimia. Depressants. Tobacco, prescription drugs, or heroin for social anxiety. Cosmetic surgery to erase rejected features.
  • 18.
    THE INTELLECTUAL Fivesare motivated by the need to know and understand everything, to be self sufficient , and to avoid looking foolish.
  • 19.
    Personality Type FIVEBEST analytic persevering sensitive wise objective perceptive self-controlled WORST intellectually arrogant stingy stubborn distant critical of others unassertive negative
  • 20.
    5. How toGet Along with Me Be independent, not clingy. Speak in a straightforward and brief manner. I need time alone to process my feelings and thoughts. Remember that If I seem aloof, distant, or arrogant, it may be that I am feeling uncomfortable. Make me feel welcome, but not too intensely, or I might doubt your sincerity. If I become irritated when I have to repeat things, it may be because it was such an effort to get my thoughts out in the first place. don't come on like a bulldozer. Help me to avoid my pet peeves: big parties, other people's loud music, overdone emotions, and intrusions on my privacy.
  • 21.
    Eating Disorders &Addictions of Type 5 Type 5 The Investigator Poor eating and sleeping habits due to minimizing needs. Neglecting hygiene and nutrition. Lack of physical activity. Psychotropic drugs for mental stimulation and escape, narcotics for anxiety.
  • 22.
    THE LOYALIST Sixesare motivated by the need for security.
  • 23.
    Personality Type SIXBEST loyal likeable caring warm compassionate witty practical helpful responsible WORST hypervigilant controlling unpredictable judgmental paranoid defensive rigid self-defeating testy
  • 24.
    6. How toGet Along with Me Be direct and clear. Listen to me carefully. Don't judge me for my anxiety. Work things through with me. Reassure me that everything is OK between us. Laugh and make jokes with me. Gently push me toward new experiences. Try not to overreact to my overreacting .
  • 25.
    Eating Disorders &Addictions of Type 6 Type 6 The Loyalist Rigidity in diet causes nutritional imbalances ("I don't like vegetables.") Working excessively. Caffeine and amphetamines for stamina, but also alcohol and depressants to deaden anxiety. Higher susceptibility to alcoholism than many types.
  • 26.
    THE GENERALIST Sevensare motivated by the need to be happy and plan enjoyable activities, to contribute to the world, and to avoid suffering and pain.
  • 27.
    Personality Type SEVENBEST fun-loving spontaneous imaginative productive enthusiastic quick confident charming curious WORST narcissistic impulsive unfocused rebellious undisciplined possessive manic self-destructive restless
  • 28.
    7. How toGet Along with Me Give me companionship, affection, and freedom. Engage with me in stimulating conversation and laughter. Appreciate my grand visions and listen to my stories. Don't try to change my style. Accept me the way I am. Be responsible for yourself. I dislike clingy or needy people. Don't tell me what to do.
  • 29.
    Eating Disorders &Addictions of Type 7 Type 7 The Enthusiast The type most prone to addictions: stimulants (caffeine, cocaine, and amphetamines), Ecstasy, psychotropics, narcotics, and alcohol but tend to avoid other depressants. Wear body out with effort to stay "up." Excessive cosmetic surgery, pain killers.
  • 30.
    THE LEADEREights are motivated by the need to be self-reliant and strong and to avoid feeling weak or dependent.
  • 31.
    Personality Type EIGHTBEST direct authoritative loyal energetic earthy protective self-confident WORST controlling rebellious insensitive domineering self-centered skeptical aggressive
  • 32.
    8. How toGet Along with Me Stand up for yourself... and me. Be confident, strong, and direct. Don't gossip about me or betray my trust. Be vulnerable and share your feelings. See and acknowledge my tender, vulnerable side. Give me space to be alone. Acknowledge the contributions I make, but don't flatter me. I often speak in an assertive way. Don't automatically assume it's a personal attack. When I scream, curses, and stomp around, try to remember that's just the way I am.
  • 33.
    Eating Disorders &Addictions of Type 8 Type 8 The Challenger Ignore physical needs and problems: avoid medical visits and check-ups. Indulging in rich foods, alcohol, tobacco while pushing self too hard leads to high stress, strokes, and heart conditions. Control issues central, although alcoholism and narcotic addictions are possible.
  • 34.
    THE PEACEMAKER Ninesare motivated by the need to keep the peace, to merge with others, and to avoid conflict.
  • 35.
    Personality Type NINEBEST pleasant peaceful generous patient receptive diplomatic open-minded empathetic WORST spaced-out forgetful stubborn obsessive apathetic passive-aggressive judgmental unassertive
  • 36.
    9. How toGet Along with Me If you want me to do something, how you ask is important. I especially don't like expectations or pressure. I like to listen and to be of service, but don't take advantage of this. Listen until I finish speaking, even though I meander a bit. Give me time to finish things and make decisions. It's OK to nudge me gently and nonjudgmentally. Ask me questions to help me get clear. Tell me when you like how I look. I'm not averse to flattery. Hug me, show physical affection. It opens me up to my feelings. I like a good discussion but not a confrontation. Let me know you like what I've done or said. Laugh with me and share in my enjoyment of life.
  • 37.
    Eating Disorders &Addictions of Type 9 Type 9 The Peacemaker Over-eating or under-eating due to lack of self-awareness and repressed anger. Lack of physical activity. Depressants and psychotropics, alcohol, marijuana, narcotics to deaden loneliness and anxiety.
  • 38.
    The Level ofPathological Destructiveness     Level 9    The Level of Obsession and Compulsion     Level 8  Unhealthy  The Level of Violation     Level 7            The Level of Overcompensation     Level 6    The Level of Interpersonal Control     Level 5  Average The Level of Imbalance/ Social Role     Level 4            The Level of Social Value     Level 3    The Level of Psychological Capacity     Level 2  Healthy The Level of Liberation     Level 1   
  • 39.
    Disintegration - 142857...Integration - 758241... 9369... 9639...
  • 40.
    The Direction ofDisintegration 1-4-2-8-5-7-1 9-6-3-9 The Direction of Integration 1-7-5-8-2-4-1 9-3-6-9
  • 41.
    The Direction ofIntegration 1-7-5-8-2-4-1 9-3-6-9 The Direction of Integration 1-7-5-8-2-4-1 9-3-6-9
  • 42.
    Example of Integrationand Disintegration Personality Type EIGHT: The Challenger The Powerful, Dominating Type: Self-Confident, Decisive, Willful, and Confrontational Generally, Eights are strong, assertive, resourceful, independent, determined, action-oriented, pragmatic, competitive, straight-talking, shrewd, and insistent. Eights get into conflicts by being blunt, willful, domineering, forceful, defiant, confrontational, bad-tempered, rageful, cynical, and vengeful. At their best, Eights are honorable, heroic, empowering, generous, gentle, constructive, initiating, decisive, and inspiring.