Good communication skills are important for success in life. Shyness can negatively impact communication if one does not work to overcome it. The tips provided include listening actively, maintaining confident body language, framing negative information positively, speaking clearly and making eye contact, preparing responses instead of saying "I don't know", and proofreading written work. Overcoming shyness requires believing in oneself and speaking with relaxed openness and confidence.

1. A guide to good communication skills even if you are shy.
Good communication skills are extremely important to have, through your entire life span,
and in every possible situation you can think of. If you consider yourself to be shy in nature, I
urge you to get over it.
People are shy for many reasons, they may have a withdrawn personality, be insecure, feel
like they aren't good at socializing, have a hard time expressing themselves, and so on.
People who are shy, usually do not like the fact that people point out that they are shy, quiet,
or both, and chalk it up to " That's just the way I am."
However, the sad reality is that if you don't open up, voice your opinions, and learn to be
more outgoing, your communication skills will suffer. If your communication skills are poor
you will experience a great deal of trouble in your personal, working, and general
relationships. You may have even noticed that being shy causes you aggravation in your day
to day life.
Some people experience bouts of shyness, for instance, someone who might normally be
out going, may be afraid of public speaking, or talking to their boss, or talking to a member of
the opposite sex--- you get the idea.
Bad communication ....be it written, oral, or body language, can send the wrong message in
more ways than one. Most people would rather be around those who are easy to
communicate with, and are open, than those who need "special treatment" like shy people.
Here are some tips that will improve your communication skills:
In a conversation, really listen. You can show you are really listening my smiling, tilting your
head to the side, nodding, inserting signs/words of agreement and so on. If you want people
to hear you, you need to hear them.
Have good body language. Stand up straight, it will show confidence. Smile , you will seem
approachable. Don't cross your arms over your chest, this tells people you disapprove. Keep
your hands to your side, or if you are sitting, keep them in your lap.
When having a serious conversation with your boss, or a higher up, always turn a negative
into a positive... for instance, if your boss says, I heard that they work pretty slowly, you
should say something like " That's true, they didn't meet the original deadline, but the final
product was of really high quality." I know its easy to vent, and skip adding a positive in, but
employers want you to be a "yes" person, not a complainer.
Have confidence when you speak. If you are shy AND quiet, project your voice. Always look
the person in the eye when you are speaking to them. If you avert your gaze, you will look

2. nervous and not trust worthy. Never turn your head away from someone when you are
speaking to them, it may show them you don't care enough to give them your full attention,
and it will make it harder for the other person to hear what you are saying. Don't mumble and
enunciate your words. Even if you feel intimidated, make sure you project your voice enough
so that you are being clear. If someone has to keep asking " I'm sorry, I can't hear you, what
did you say?" They will get irritated with you and the conversation. If you aren't sure how you
sound to people when you are talking, record yourself and listen really closely to how you
sound. Then pick out the areas you need to improve upon and get to work.
Don't let people intimidate you. If you feel intimidated by someone you are in a conversation
with, DO NOT let it show. Think before you speak. Speak in an even tone of voice.
Never answer with " I don't know". This will make others feel like you don't care enough to
give a response, or that you aren't knowledgeable enough to answer. When people ask
questions, they want answers. If someone puts you on the spot, you don't have to answer
them right then and there. Say something like " I'm in the middle of something, can I get back
to you?" or " I don't want to ill advise you, let me find out for you."
In written communication, always be clear. Before you send an e-mail, or any type of written
communication, read over it AT LEAST once, to be sure it makes sense. If you aren't sure its
clear, have someone else read it before you send it. Avoid spelling and grammar mistakes.
Write in clear, concise, declarative English. Written forms of communication can be tricky,
because there is no way to put your tone of voice in, so if you feel like you are writing a
message on a touchy subject that could be misconstrued, its probably best to have a face to
face conversation.
The most important part of having good communication, especially if you are shy, is to
remain relaxed, open, and confident. This will give you the appearance of being easy-going.
People like to communicate with easy going people, because its easier to communicate with
them! Its all about confidence. If you are confident in yourself, you will automatically speak
more clearly and have better communication than someone who is not confident ( and quiet,
shy, and mumbles, etc). You simply have to say to yourself " I QUIT BEING SHY" and GET
OVER IT.