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Traits of Good
Listener
Made By : Komal Kotak
 If you fail to listen attentively, you will most
likely to miss out the most significant point
from somebody. If you fail to listen
accurately, you will most likely to
misconduct an important task assigned by
somebody. If you fail to listen effectively,
you will most likely to lose the trust of
somebody on you. Whether you are an
employee or employer, acquiring good
listening skill is critical in our daily life.
 I used to have problem accepting message
from others. Most of the time, we may be
listening, to a message ‘apparently’ but are
we 'really' listening? Below are 7 traits of a
good listener.
TRAITS OF A GOOD LISTENER
 Most of the time s you couldn't grab the message from others is because of
the lack of concentration.
 Have you ever experienced the fear of being asked by the school teacher to
answer questions in front of all classmates? I encountered such fear when I
didn't know the answer due to not paying sufficient attention during, the
lesson.
 There is an effective method frequently used by the teachers even until
today. -Please pay your undivided attention to my explanation on this
chapter, I will ask questions after I finish the explanation." As a result, the
students will pay more attention during the lesson.
 If this approach was applicable to you during your school time, I believe it
will also be effective to you now.
 All you have to do is, imagine you are going to be asked questions or even to
echo the speaker's message after the conversation or talk. Then it will
indirectly help you to increase your seriousness towards the message.
ALWAYS IMAGINE You ARE GOING TO
REPEAT THE SPEAKER'S MESSAGE
 When someone is sharing about a topic, you may try to visualize his or
her message. For instance, when the speaker says, "When you are
shopping at the mall.
 You may try to conceive of the scene in the shopping mall, where there
are lots of people with shopping bags, etc. This technique is
instrumental in creating vivid images that enhance our memory towards
the message and reinforce our concentration.
 At the end of the conversation, even though you may not fully absorb
the words spoken by that person, your visualization will enormously
help you to receive the objective of the message.
 For example, somebody is talking about the news of a road accident at
the highway. When you try to envisage the actual scene of the news
when you friend is sharing, you may not be able to grasp the actual
details, such as the actual accident dates and time, but perhaps you may
have absorbed the underlying cue of the message, thus you will become
more careful when driving on the road.
TRY TO VISUALIZE THE
MESSAGE
 In order to be a more effective listener , you have to stay away from
prejudices to the speaking party. In another words, you have to empty
your cup. Just imagine if you have bias against somebody and feel like
whatever said by that particular person are just valueless, do you think
you will fully display your willingness and ability to listen to that person ?
 The fact is, in any prejudice, whether it is valid or not, it tends to obscure
the message. After overcoming the bias, your next step to obtaining the
traits of a good listener is to suspend judgment during the immediate
experience of listening.
 You are encouraged to accept what is being said during the
conversation. In this case, by being a pure listener doesn't mean you
wholly agree with what is being said.
 Instead you are simply acknowledging exactly what the speaker is
saying, despite whether it'S true or false and good or bad. After the
conversation, you may analyze and 'filter' the contents of the
conversation With your own sanity.
KNOW HOW TO AVOID
PREJUDICES
 Please don't interrupt when one is talking. Sometimes
we may get impetuous to trigger rebuttal when we
hear something which we strongly disagree.
 Most of us have our spontaneous inclination to resist
any new information that contradicts what we believe
In this case, bear in mind, you can always rebut later
to stay away from pre-judgment that forbids you from
absorbing the whole message.
 Try to imagine someone who is trying to interrupt
your talk. Then you will get to realize it is such a
nuisance when someone is chipping in your talk
inadvertently without your permission.
HINDER THE TEMPTATION TO
REBUT
 First and foremost, a proper eye contact to the other
person when talking is indicative of your respect and
concentration towards the speaker.
 Poor listeners are normally distracted by interruptions
and distractions.
 When you are looking at the other person who is
talking, you are more likely to absorb his or her
message better, simply because you know the
speaker is also observing you.
 So you are less likely to let your mind straying from
the topic being discussed.
CREATE EYE CONTACT
 When you are trying to jot down some notes when
someone is talking, the more focused you are on
writing down what is being said, the more likely you
are going to miss the nuance of the conversation.
 You are advisable to write down the keywords only
and immediately fill in whatever you remember after
the conversation.
 Remember you have to do it right way after the
conversation or talk.
 If not, you will tend to forget its content.
TAKE NOTES SPARINGLY
 Not everyone is great communicator who can
spellbind you with compelling speech contents.
 Sometimes we may get frustrated when someone
speaks haltingly with an irritating or monotonous
voice.
 As good listener, we have to go beyond someone's
delivery style and try to unveil the underlying
meaning of the message.
 You can always be a better listener if you listener 'if
you listen properly'.
 Have You possessed those valuable trait? If not start
cultivating them now!
RESPECT THE SPEAKER
Listening is so important that many top employers provide
listening skills training for their employees. This is not
surprising when you consider that good listening skills can
lead to better customer satisfaction, greater productivity with
fewer mistakes, and increased sharing of information that in
turn can lead to more creative and innovative work.
Many successful leaders and entrepreneurs credit their
success to effective listening skills.
Conclusion
Traits of good listener

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Traits of good listener

  • 1. Traits of Good Listener Made By : Komal Kotak
  • 2.  If you fail to listen attentively, you will most likely to miss out the most significant point from somebody. If you fail to listen accurately, you will most likely to misconduct an important task assigned by somebody. If you fail to listen effectively, you will most likely to lose the trust of somebody on you. Whether you are an employee or employer, acquiring good listening skill is critical in our daily life.  I used to have problem accepting message from others. Most of the time, we may be listening, to a message ‘apparently’ but are we 'really' listening? Below are 7 traits of a good listener. TRAITS OF A GOOD LISTENER
  • 3.  Most of the time s you couldn't grab the message from others is because of the lack of concentration.  Have you ever experienced the fear of being asked by the school teacher to answer questions in front of all classmates? I encountered such fear when I didn't know the answer due to not paying sufficient attention during, the lesson.  There is an effective method frequently used by the teachers even until today. -Please pay your undivided attention to my explanation on this chapter, I will ask questions after I finish the explanation." As a result, the students will pay more attention during the lesson.  If this approach was applicable to you during your school time, I believe it will also be effective to you now.  All you have to do is, imagine you are going to be asked questions or even to echo the speaker's message after the conversation or talk. Then it will indirectly help you to increase your seriousness towards the message. ALWAYS IMAGINE You ARE GOING TO REPEAT THE SPEAKER'S MESSAGE
  • 4.  When someone is sharing about a topic, you may try to visualize his or her message. For instance, when the speaker says, "When you are shopping at the mall.  You may try to conceive of the scene in the shopping mall, where there are lots of people with shopping bags, etc. This technique is instrumental in creating vivid images that enhance our memory towards the message and reinforce our concentration.  At the end of the conversation, even though you may not fully absorb the words spoken by that person, your visualization will enormously help you to receive the objective of the message.  For example, somebody is talking about the news of a road accident at the highway. When you try to envisage the actual scene of the news when you friend is sharing, you may not be able to grasp the actual details, such as the actual accident dates and time, but perhaps you may have absorbed the underlying cue of the message, thus you will become more careful when driving on the road. TRY TO VISUALIZE THE MESSAGE
  • 5.  In order to be a more effective listener , you have to stay away from prejudices to the speaking party. In another words, you have to empty your cup. Just imagine if you have bias against somebody and feel like whatever said by that particular person are just valueless, do you think you will fully display your willingness and ability to listen to that person ?  The fact is, in any prejudice, whether it is valid or not, it tends to obscure the message. After overcoming the bias, your next step to obtaining the traits of a good listener is to suspend judgment during the immediate experience of listening.  You are encouraged to accept what is being said during the conversation. In this case, by being a pure listener doesn't mean you wholly agree with what is being said.  Instead you are simply acknowledging exactly what the speaker is saying, despite whether it'S true or false and good or bad. After the conversation, you may analyze and 'filter' the contents of the conversation With your own sanity. KNOW HOW TO AVOID PREJUDICES
  • 6.  Please don't interrupt when one is talking. Sometimes we may get impetuous to trigger rebuttal when we hear something which we strongly disagree.  Most of us have our spontaneous inclination to resist any new information that contradicts what we believe In this case, bear in mind, you can always rebut later to stay away from pre-judgment that forbids you from absorbing the whole message.  Try to imagine someone who is trying to interrupt your talk. Then you will get to realize it is such a nuisance when someone is chipping in your talk inadvertently without your permission. HINDER THE TEMPTATION TO REBUT
  • 7.  First and foremost, a proper eye contact to the other person when talking is indicative of your respect and concentration towards the speaker.  Poor listeners are normally distracted by interruptions and distractions.  When you are looking at the other person who is talking, you are more likely to absorb his or her message better, simply because you know the speaker is also observing you.  So you are less likely to let your mind straying from the topic being discussed. CREATE EYE CONTACT
  • 8.  When you are trying to jot down some notes when someone is talking, the more focused you are on writing down what is being said, the more likely you are going to miss the nuance of the conversation.  You are advisable to write down the keywords only and immediately fill in whatever you remember after the conversation.  Remember you have to do it right way after the conversation or talk.  If not, you will tend to forget its content. TAKE NOTES SPARINGLY
  • 9.  Not everyone is great communicator who can spellbind you with compelling speech contents.  Sometimes we may get frustrated when someone speaks haltingly with an irritating or monotonous voice.  As good listener, we have to go beyond someone's delivery style and try to unveil the underlying meaning of the message.  You can always be a better listener if you listener 'if you listen properly'.  Have You possessed those valuable trait? If not start cultivating them now! RESPECT THE SPEAKER
  • 10. Listening is so important that many top employers provide listening skills training for their employees. This is not surprising when you consider that good listening skills can lead to better customer satisfaction, greater productivity with fewer mistakes, and increased sharing of information that in turn can lead to more creative and innovative work. Many successful leaders and entrepreneurs credit their success to effective listening skills. Conclusion