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Habit 5:
Seek First to Understand,
then to Be Understood
By Kacha, Phoom, Wuthipat, Soravas, Norraputt, and
Chayanisa
Habit 5
The key to communication and having power and
influence with people can be summed up in one
sentence:
Seek first to understand, then to be understood.
In other words, listen first, talk second.
Habit 5
The deepest need of human heart is to be understood.
Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who
they are—a unique, one-of-a-kind, never-to-be-cloned
(at least for now) individual.
FIVE POOR LISTENING STYLES
• Spacing out

• Pretend listening

• Selective listening

• Word listening

• Self-centered listening
Spacing Out
When someone is talking to us but we ignore them
because our mind is wandering off in another galaxy.
Pretend Listening
• When we aren’t paying much attention but we
pretend we are by making insightful comments
• such as yeah, cool, sounds great
Selective listening
Where we pay attention only to the part of the
conversation that interests us.
Word listening
When we actually pay attention to what someone is
saying, but we listen only to the words, not to the body
language, the feelings, or the true meaning behind the
words.
Self-centred Listening
When we see everything from our own point of view.
“Instead of standing in another’s shoes, we want them
to stand in ours”
Judging
• Sometimes, as we listen to others, we make
judgments about them and what they’re saying.
• If you are judging people, how will you have a
time to listen?
Advising
• “ This is when we give advice drawn from our
own experience.”
• Instead of listening of what being said, you think
about your own personal experience and give
advice based on that.
Probing
• “ Probing occurs when you try to dig up
emotions before people are ready to share them.”
• Parents probe teenagers all the time.
• People feel like they are being interrogated.
Genuine listening
1. Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears
• 7% of communication is contained in words, 53% is body
language, 40% is tone of voice
• For example, you can change the meaning of a sentence
just by emphasizing different words:
• I didn’t say you had an attitude problem.
• I didn’t say you had an attitude problem
Genuine listening
2. Stand in their shoes
• Take off your shoes and stand in another’s
• “Unless you walk a mile in another man’s moccasins you
can’t imagine the smell” -Robert Byrne
• Many people look at conversations as a competition, it’s
my point of view vs. yours
• Put your’s aside and listen to what they have to say
Genuine Listening
3. Practice Mirroring
• Think like a mirror
• What does a mirror do? It doesn’t judge, it doesn’t give
advice, it reflects
• Repeat back what the other person is saying and feeling
• Phrases: “As I get it, you felt that…”, “So, as I see it…”, “I
can see that you’re feeling”, “You feel that…”
Communicating with Parents
• If you want to improve your relationship with your
parents, try listening to them
• Parents have problems too, worrying about jobs, how they
will pay for your braces, unfulfilled dreams
• They laugh, cry, get their feelings hurt, and don’t always
have it together, just like you and me
Seek first to understand, then to
be understood
• Summary:
• Take the time to really listen to people
• Make sure that you are letting them say what they need to
say, and then you speak
• Make sure that you are willing to listen to everyone that
you talk to, this includes friends, parents, other adults,
etc.
• When you really listen to what people are saying, you can
better understand what is being said
Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood
Thank you

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Habit 5 (Kacha's Group)

  • 1. Habit 5: Seek First to Understand, then to Be Understood By Kacha, Phoom, Wuthipat, Soravas, Norraputt, and Chayanisa
  • 2. Habit 5 The key to communication and having power and influence with people can be summed up in one sentence: Seek first to understand, then to be understood. In other words, listen first, talk second.
  • 3. Habit 5 The deepest need of human heart is to be understood. Everyone wants to be respected and valued for who they are—a unique, one-of-a-kind, never-to-be-cloned (at least for now) individual.
  • 4. FIVE POOR LISTENING STYLES • Spacing out
 • Pretend listening
 • Selective listening
 • Word listening
 • Self-centered listening
  • 5. Spacing Out When someone is talking to us but we ignore them because our mind is wandering off in another galaxy.
  • 6. Pretend Listening • When we aren’t paying much attention but we pretend we are by making insightful comments • such as yeah, cool, sounds great
  • 7. Selective listening Where we pay attention only to the part of the conversation that interests us.
  • 8. Word listening When we actually pay attention to what someone is saying, but we listen only to the words, not to the body language, the feelings, or the true meaning behind the words.
  • 9. Self-centred Listening When we see everything from our own point of view. “Instead of standing in another’s shoes, we want them to stand in ours”
  • 10. Judging • Sometimes, as we listen to others, we make judgments about them and what they’re saying. • If you are judging people, how will you have a time to listen?
  • 11. Advising • “ This is when we give advice drawn from our own experience.” • Instead of listening of what being said, you think about your own personal experience and give advice based on that.
  • 12. Probing • “ Probing occurs when you try to dig up emotions before people are ready to share them.” • Parents probe teenagers all the time. • People feel like they are being interrogated.
  • 13. Genuine listening 1. Listen with your eyes, heart, and ears • 7% of communication is contained in words, 53% is body language, 40% is tone of voice • For example, you can change the meaning of a sentence just by emphasizing different words: • I didn’t say you had an attitude problem. • I didn’t say you had an attitude problem
  • 14. Genuine listening 2. Stand in their shoes • Take off your shoes and stand in another’s • “Unless you walk a mile in another man’s moccasins you can’t imagine the smell” -Robert Byrne • Many people look at conversations as a competition, it’s my point of view vs. yours • Put your’s aside and listen to what they have to say
  • 15. Genuine Listening 3. Practice Mirroring • Think like a mirror • What does a mirror do? It doesn’t judge, it doesn’t give advice, it reflects • Repeat back what the other person is saying and feeling • Phrases: “As I get it, you felt that…”, “So, as I see it…”, “I can see that you’re feeling”, “You feel that…”
  • 16. Communicating with Parents • If you want to improve your relationship with your parents, try listening to them • Parents have problems too, worrying about jobs, how they will pay for your braces, unfulfilled dreams • They laugh, cry, get their feelings hurt, and don’t always have it together, just like you and me
  • 17. Seek first to understand, then to be understood • Summary: • Take the time to really listen to people • Make sure that you are letting them say what they need to say, and then you speak • Make sure that you are willing to listen to everyone that you talk to, this includes friends, parents, other adults, etc. • When you really listen to what people are saying, you can better understand what is being said
  • 18. Habit 5: Seek first to understand, then to be understood Thank you