The document provides an overview of managing conflict using a 5-5-5 framework. It discusses 5 styles of managing conflict - Reactor, Dictator, Negotiator, Hoarder, Avoider - and what activates conflict for each style. It then provides 5 biblical principles for managing conflict, 5 potential setbacks for each style, and 5 solutions tailored for each style. The framework is meant to help understand different conflict styles, potential areas of improvement, and constructive ways to address conflict for each style based on biblical guidance.
1 life after breakup what's next 1 of 3 Emotional recoveryKevin Karlson
Kevin Karlson JD PhD is a counselor who specializes in divorce recovery. This document outlines his approach, which focuses on gaining emotional, personal, relational, financial, and spiritual freedom after divorce. His program includes group sessions that address one type of freedom each week through discussion, journaling, and developing a new vision for the future. The goal is for participants to let go of the past and move forward in recovery with faith, hope, and forgiveness.
Overcoming Strongholds is another struggle Christians go through as they are entangled to the pleasures of the world. Satan brings lies about themselves, about others and about God. Believeing these lies create a stronghold and reinforcing the lie leads them away from God. Real freedom includes overcoming the strongholds in our spiritual life. Be Blessed!
Thoughts helpful in the life of the soul from Book I – The Imitation of Christ.
So long as we live in this world we cannot escape suffering and temptation. Everyone, therefore, must guard against temptation and must watch in prayer lest the devil, who never sleeps but goes about seeking whom he may devour, find occasion to deceive him.
Yet temptations, though troublesome and severe, are often useful to a man, for in them he is humbled, purified, and instructed. Man is never safe from them as long as he lives, for they come from within us—in sin we were born.
This document outlines training topics on anger management techniques presented by Tim Ervin from Counseling for Solutions. It discusses 50 different ways to manage anger, including using clean language, acknowledging psychological contracts, and applying transactional analysis. Specific techniques covered are focusing on the present, choosing battles wisely, being willing to forgive, performing reality checks, setting boundaries, suppressing anger in a healthy way, and knowing when to walk away from conflict. The goal is to provide constructive strategies and skills for dealing with anger in a positive manner.
This document provides guidance on personal transformation through reshaping challenges, releasing what is unnecessary, and embracing change. It discusses (1) transforming challenges by being present and aware of patterns, (2) surrendering to find freedom by releasing people and obligations that hold you back, and (3) choosing change proactively rather than reacting to crises. Key ideas include exploring one's shadow side with acceptance, setting clear boundaries, and holding space for others during their journeys.
Anger is an emotional reaction characterised by antagonism towards something or someone. Anger can be an emotion related to one's psychological interpretation of having been offended, wronged, or denied and a tendency to react through retaliation.
Anger may be a normal healthy response to threat and it can be used for constructive purposes. Anger can be constructive or destructive.
The document discusses biblical prosperity and provides an overview of key concepts. It reviews ancient Hebrew interpretations of prosperity compared to modern Western views. Prosperity requires clarity in communication, managing external influences, and developing skills like decision making and frustration tolerance. True prosperity involves balancing spiritual and practical needs through wisdom, health of soul, and avoiding extremes.
The document discusses the topic of forgiveness from a spiritual perspective. It provides several quotes and perspectives on why forgiveness is important for spiritual progress. Key points include: forgiveness is necessary to be forgiven by God; forgiving others allows one to sleep in peace; true forgiveness means forgetting offenses so that goodwill can prevail; and cultivating forgiveness and humility teaches that only love can save and build up permanently. Forgiveness is presented as key to spiritual and moral advancement.
1 life after breakup what's next 1 of 3 Emotional recoveryKevin Karlson
Kevin Karlson JD PhD is a counselor who specializes in divorce recovery. This document outlines his approach, which focuses on gaining emotional, personal, relational, financial, and spiritual freedom after divorce. His program includes group sessions that address one type of freedom each week through discussion, journaling, and developing a new vision for the future. The goal is for participants to let go of the past and move forward in recovery with faith, hope, and forgiveness.
Overcoming Strongholds is another struggle Christians go through as they are entangled to the pleasures of the world. Satan brings lies about themselves, about others and about God. Believeing these lies create a stronghold and reinforcing the lie leads them away from God. Real freedom includes overcoming the strongholds in our spiritual life. Be Blessed!
Thoughts helpful in the life of the soul from Book I – The Imitation of Christ.
So long as we live in this world we cannot escape suffering and temptation. Everyone, therefore, must guard against temptation and must watch in prayer lest the devil, who never sleeps but goes about seeking whom he may devour, find occasion to deceive him.
Yet temptations, though troublesome and severe, are often useful to a man, for in them he is humbled, purified, and instructed. Man is never safe from them as long as he lives, for they come from within us—in sin we were born.
This document outlines training topics on anger management techniques presented by Tim Ervin from Counseling for Solutions. It discusses 50 different ways to manage anger, including using clean language, acknowledging psychological contracts, and applying transactional analysis. Specific techniques covered are focusing on the present, choosing battles wisely, being willing to forgive, performing reality checks, setting boundaries, suppressing anger in a healthy way, and knowing when to walk away from conflict. The goal is to provide constructive strategies and skills for dealing with anger in a positive manner.
This document provides guidance on personal transformation through reshaping challenges, releasing what is unnecessary, and embracing change. It discusses (1) transforming challenges by being present and aware of patterns, (2) surrendering to find freedom by releasing people and obligations that hold you back, and (3) choosing change proactively rather than reacting to crises. Key ideas include exploring one's shadow side with acceptance, setting clear boundaries, and holding space for others during their journeys.
Anger is an emotional reaction characterised by antagonism towards something or someone. Anger can be an emotion related to one's psychological interpretation of having been offended, wronged, or denied and a tendency to react through retaliation.
Anger may be a normal healthy response to threat and it can be used for constructive purposes. Anger can be constructive or destructive.
The document discusses biblical prosperity and provides an overview of key concepts. It reviews ancient Hebrew interpretations of prosperity compared to modern Western views. Prosperity requires clarity in communication, managing external influences, and developing skills like decision making and frustration tolerance. True prosperity involves balancing spiritual and practical needs through wisdom, health of soul, and avoiding extremes.
The document discusses the topic of forgiveness from a spiritual perspective. It provides several quotes and perspectives on why forgiveness is important for spiritual progress. Key points include: forgiveness is necessary to be forgiven by God; forgiving others allows one to sleep in peace; true forgiveness means forgetting offenses so that goodwill can prevail; and cultivating forgiveness and humility teaches that only love can save and build up permanently. Forgiveness is presented as key to spiritual and moral advancement.
This document provides advice and encouragement for dealing with public speaking fears and developing a healthy self-concept. It discusses how comparing oneself to others or past performances can be unhelpful. Instead, it emphasizes seeing oneself as God sees us - as his creation made in his image, and focusing on spiritual growth rather than outward appearances or comparisons. The overall message is to trust in God's perspective and care for one's abilities rather than being afraid of what others think.
The document outlines keys to strengthening one's will and achieving happiness. It discusses starting with self-improvement, knowing your potentials, and having self-confidence. Conditions of a strong will include being specific about goals, having self-confidence, and being realistic. To strengthen will, one must get rid of weaknesses, lose momentum or excess momentum, and strengthen faith. Keys include persuasion, education, consistency, deprivation of bad habits, and being optimistic.
The document discusses how people's perceptions and interpretations of reality influence their happiness and well-being more than objective circumstances. It argues that focusing on benefits rather than faults can lead to greater well-being, health, and longevity. The document also explores how cultivating gratitude through daily appreciation can create a growth spiral of positivity and increase life satisfaction.
The document outlines a course on emotional intelligence and mastering relationships taught by Joseph Geraghty. It discusses setting goals for the course, developing discriminating emotional intelligence, and exercising choice as critical factors. It addresses common problems, skills for the future, and transforming one's world view through renewing the mind.
The document discusses how God reveals his wrath against sin and human depravity. It notes that rejecting the true God leads people to either create or become their own god. It argues that all problems stem from being not right with God, and that God's righteousness revealed in the gospel will bring revival. The thesis is that problems are due to lack of righteousness before God.
The document discusses worldly and godly conflict from the book of James. It describes how worldly conflict begins with passions, explodes into fighting through speculation and exaggeration, and involves half-truths and gossip. Godly conflict, on the other hand, is marked by humility, drawing near to God, and refraining from judging others. The key to godly conflict is humility, which allows people to see their own sins, listen more than speak, submit to authority, and resist the devil rather than other people.
The document describes the results of a StandOut assessment that identifies an individual's primary and secondary "Roles" based on their talents and how they show up to others. The individual assessed is identified as having a primary Role of "Pioneer" and secondary Role of "Provider." The report then provides detailed descriptions of these Roles, how they combine to reveal the individual's strengths, ideal career paths, and advice on how to maximize their performance and impact based on their Roles.
You Will Learn How To:
1. Gain crystal clear clarity of your own values and desires in the context of relationship
2. The Golden Ratio for maintaining a positive, happy relationships
3. Learn how to decipher your partner's hidden relationship mental programming
4. Learn how to respond to different communication styles
http://www.nlpplanet.com
Greed is an uncontrolled longing for material gain or social status that leads to impatient and unjustified behavior. Experiments show activity in the brain's pleasure centers when making profitable decisions, similar to reactions to drugs, suggesting humans have a biological predisposition toward greed. However, greed is not uniquely human - seeking pleasure and avoiding pain is natural, but under capitalism money becomes associated with pleasure through learning. Greed can stimulate intense feelings of pleasure that compel further pursuit of profit and power despite potential long-term negative consequences. Overcoming greed requires realizing its empty and endless nature, cultivating compassion over selfish desires, and transforming one's mindset about material wants versus needs.
The document discusses tools and strategies for managing stress and navigating life's pressures. It defines stressful events and explores how stress affects people by causing them to lose control, experience negative feelings, see drops in self-esteem, and deteriorating relationships. Biblical principles are presented for managing stress, such as keeping God at the center, praying, and applying grace. Specific strategies are outlined, including thinking positively, doing what is right, and being honest with one's feelings. Building relationships through commitment, communication and conflict resolution is also discussed.
The document summarizes the key principles from Philippians 2:3-4 for how Christians should get along and maintain unity in the church. It outlines four means for doing so: 1) Don't be selfish or promote self-interest, 2) Don't be self-important or seek empty praise and glory, 3) Consider other church members as more important than yourself, 4) Be concerned with others' interests as well as your own. The mindset should be one of humility, regarding others as superior to oneself, and promoting the interests of others over personal desires.
The document describes the results of the StandOut assessment taken by Christina Johanna Marais. The assessment measured how well she matches 9 different roles and identified her primary role of Connector and secondary role of Provider. It provides descriptions of what each role entails and how Christina is likely to be most powerful when capitalizing on bringing people together through her network and sensitivity to others' feelings. The purpose is to help her maximize her strengths by understanding how her top two roles combine and learning ways to accelerate her performance.
The Big Leap Book Exploration by Laurie HawkinsLaurie Hawkins
The document summarizes The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, which explores how people define the limits of their own success due to fears of enjoying greater success and abundance. It discusses Hendricks' concept of an "Upper Limit Problem" where people sabotage themselves due to fear of success. The book identifies four "zones" people can operate in, with the "Zone of Genius" being where one's true potential is realized. It also outlines four "hidden barriers" that hold people back from greater success: feeling fundamentally flawed; fears of disloyalty or abandonment; believing more success means a bigger burden; and fears of "outshining" others. The document provides examples to identify these barriers within oneself. It closes with
Overcoming Discouragement provides keys to overcoming discouragement through application rather than just mental assent. It discusses recognizing and changing negative self-talk, relying on God and welcoming the Holy Spirit for strength, spending time with encouraging Christian communities, and setting goals to develop vision and bring out your potential.
This document provides commentary on James 4:1-10 about avoiding worldliness. It discusses how worldliness affects prayer life and can lead to conflicts. James shows that conflicts arise from selfish cravings, desires, and coveting what others have. Conflicts also stem from prayerlessness and asking God for the wrong reasons, like personal gain. Additionally, being too worldly and "friending" the world rather than God can cause conflicts. To resolve conflicts, one must identify selfishness as the root cause and humble oneself before God by submitting to him, drawing near to him, and getting rid of sin.
This document provides 10 practical clinical solutions for difficult situations: 1) Become rooted in the present moment through mindfulness practices like meditation, deep breathing, yoga, etc. 2) Avoid knee-jerk reactions and fight or flight responses. 3) Gain perspective by seeing issues as a blip in time and detaching from minutiae. Avoid behaviors that add fuel like criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness.
Bringing it all together... week 7 master mind course (final week)andrewconsidine
The document provides guidance on creating a successful life through mind power, imagination, desire, goal setting, decision making, beliefs, gratitude, and bringing it all together. It emphasizes having a burning desire, using imagination to visualize goals, developing an organized plan with specific, timed goals, taking action, and maintaining an attitude of gratitude. Paradigms and beliefs are discussed as potential limitations that must be challenged to achieve full potential and success.
The document outlines plans for a new children's program called CPR at the Lincoln Nazarene Church. It discusses setting up the program to provide childcare so parents can go out, displaying the church as a loving environment, reaching out to families in the community, and hopes for church growth. The program will involve curriculum, volunteers, food, and legal considerations. Spiritual conflict that may arise includes issues brought by families, competition with larger churches, inviting the unknown into the church, and attacks against individuals. Preparing involves educating on what spiritual conflict is from biblical and historical perspectives and relying on prayer.
This document discusses leadership principles from biblical figures like Joshua. It provides examples of how Joshua prepared for leadership by following Moses and learning from him. As a leader, Joshua recognized the importance of God's word, dedicated himself and other leaders to God, rallied his people before battles, gathered intelligence on enemies, ensured spiritual preparation, and was personally committed to God's plan. The document also discusses how confrontational leadership can be effective for solving problems but also risks.
This presentation on "Dealing With Conflict in the Field" was given to Christian International School Chaplains in South Korea, November, 2014. The workshop focused on the positive and negative aspects of conflict and gaining an insight into the patterns of conflict.
Biblical peacemaking is at its core a recognition that even in the midst of an argument where we have a lot to lose and where our opponent may be entrenched in sin the most important thing we can do is to bring glory to God through our conduct.
This document provides advice and encouragement for dealing with public speaking fears and developing a healthy self-concept. It discusses how comparing oneself to others or past performances can be unhelpful. Instead, it emphasizes seeing oneself as God sees us - as his creation made in his image, and focusing on spiritual growth rather than outward appearances or comparisons. The overall message is to trust in God's perspective and care for one's abilities rather than being afraid of what others think.
The document outlines keys to strengthening one's will and achieving happiness. It discusses starting with self-improvement, knowing your potentials, and having self-confidence. Conditions of a strong will include being specific about goals, having self-confidence, and being realistic. To strengthen will, one must get rid of weaknesses, lose momentum or excess momentum, and strengthen faith. Keys include persuasion, education, consistency, deprivation of bad habits, and being optimistic.
The document discusses how people's perceptions and interpretations of reality influence their happiness and well-being more than objective circumstances. It argues that focusing on benefits rather than faults can lead to greater well-being, health, and longevity. The document also explores how cultivating gratitude through daily appreciation can create a growth spiral of positivity and increase life satisfaction.
The document outlines a course on emotional intelligence and mastering relationships taught by Joseph Geraghty. It discusses setting goals for the course, developing discriminating emotional intelligence, and exercising choice as critical factors. It addresses common problems, skills for the future, and transforming one's world view through renewing the mind.
The document discusses how God reveals his wrath against sin and human depravity. It notes that rejecting the true God leads people to either create or become their own god. It argues that all problems stem from being not right with God, and that God's righteousness revealed in the gospel will bring revival. The thesis is that problems are due to lack of righteousness before God.
The document discusses worldly and godly conflict from the book of James. It describes how worldly conflict begins with passions, explodes into fighting through speculation and exaggeration, and involves half-truths and gossip. Godly conflict, on the other hand, is marked by humility, drawing near to God, and refraining from judging others. The key to godly conflict is humility, which allows people to see their own sins, listen more than speak, submit to authority, and resist the devil rather than other people.
The document describes the results of a StandOut assessment that identifies an individual's primary and secondary "Roles" based on their talents and how they show up to others. The individual assessed is identified as having a primary Role of "Pioneer" and secondary Role of "Provider." The report then provides detailed descriptions of these Roles, how they combine to reveal the individual's strengths, ideal career paths, and advice on how to maximize their performance and impact based on their Roles.
You Will Learn How To:
1. Gain crystal clear clarity of your own values and desires in the context of relationship
2. The Golden Ratio for maintaining a positive, happy relationships
3. Learn how to decipher your partner's hidden relationship mental programming
4. Learn how to respond to different communication styles
http://www.nlpplanet.com
Greed is an uncontrolled longing for material gain or social status that leads to impatient and unjustified behavior. Experiments show activity in the brain's pleasure centers when making profitable decisions, similar to reactions to drugs, suggesting humans have a biological predisposition toward greed. However, greed is not uniquely human - seeking pleasure and avoiding pain is natural, but under capitalism money becomes associated with pleasure through learning. Greed can stimulate intense feelings of pleasure that compel further pursuit of profit and power despite potential long-term negative consequences. Overcoming greed requires realizing its empty and endless nature, cultivating compassion over selfish desires, and transforming one's mindset about material wants versus needs.
The document discusses tools and strategies for managing stress and navigating life's pressures. It defines stressful events and explores how stress affects people by causing them to lose control, experience negative feelings, see drops in self-esteem, and deteriorating relationships. Biblical principles are presented for managing stress, such as keeping God at the center, praying, and applying grace. Specific strategies are outlined, including thinking positively, doing what is right, and being honest with one's feelings. Building relationships through commitment, communication and conflict resolution is also discussed.
The document summarizes the key principles from Philippians 2:3-4 for how Christians should get along and maintain unity in the church. It outlines four means for doing so: 1) Don't be selfish or promote self-interest, 2) Don't be self-important or seek empty praise and glory, 3) Consider other church members as more important than yourself, 4) Be concerned with others' interests as well as your own. The mindset should be one of humility, regarding others as superior to oneself, and promoting the interests of others over personal desires.
The document describes the results of the StandOut assessment taken by Christina Johanna Marais. The assessment measured how well she matches 9 different roles and identified her primary role of Connector and secondary role of Provider. It provides descriptions of what each role entails and how Christina is likely to be most powerful when capitalizing on bringing people together through her network and sensitivity to others' feelings. The purpose is to help her maximize her strengths by understanding how her top two roles combine and learning ways to accelerate her performance.
The Big Leap Book Exploration by Laurie HawkinsLaurie Hawkins
The document summarizes The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, which explores how people define the limits of their own success due to fears of enjoying greater success and abundance. It discusses Hendricks' concept of an "Upper Limit Problem" where people sabotage themselves due to fear of success. The book identifies four "zones" people can operate in, with the "Zone of Genius" being where one's true potential is realized. It also outlines four "hidden barriers" that hold people back from greater success: feeling fundamentally flawed; fears of disloyalty or abandonment; believing more success means a bigger burden; and fears of "outshining" others. The document provides examples to identify these barriers within oneself. It closes with
Overcoming Discouragement provides keys to overcoming discouragement through application rather than just mental assent. It discusses recognizing and changing negative self-talk, relying on God and welcoming the Holy Spirit for strength, spending time with encouraging Christian communities, and setting goals to develop vision and bring out your potential.
This document provides commentary on James 4:1-10 about avoiding worldliness. It discusses how worldliness affects prayer life and can lead to conflicts. James shows that conflicts arise from selfish cravings, desires, and coveting what others have. Conflicts also stem from prayerlessness and asking God for the wrong reasons, like personal gain. Additionally, being too worldly and "friending" the world rather than God can cause conflicts. To resolve conflicts, one must identify selfishness as the root cause and humble oneself before God by submitting to him, drawing near to him, and getting rid of sin.
This document provides 10 practical clinical solutions for difficult situations: 1) Become rooted in the present moment through mindfulness practices like meditation, deep breathing, yoga, etc. 2) Avoid knee-jerk reactions and fight or flight responses. 3) Gain perspective by seeing issues as a blip in time and detaching from minutiae. Avoid behaviors that add fuel like criticism, contempt, stonewalling, and defensiveness.
Bringing it all together... week 7 master mind course (final week)andrewconsidine
The document provides guidance on creating a successful life through mind power, imagination, desire, goal setting, decision making, beliefs, gratitude, and bringing it all together. It emphasizes having a burning desire, using imagination to visualize goals, developing an organized plan with specific, timed goals, taking action, and maintaining an attitude of gratitude. Paradigms and beliefs are discussed as potential limitations that must be challenged to achieve full potential and success.
The document outlines plans for a new children's program called CPR at the Lincoln Nazarene Church. It discusses setting up the program to provide childcare so parents can go out, displaying the church as a loving environment, reaching out to families in the community, and hopes for church growth. The program will involve curriculum, volunteers, food, and legal considerations. Spiritual conflict that may arise includes issues brought by families, competition with larger churches, inviting the unknown into the church, and attacks against individuals. Preparing involves educating on what spiritual conflict is from biblical and historical perspectives and relying on prayer.
This document discusses leadership principles from biblical figures like Joshua. It provides examples of how Joshua prepared for leadership by following Moses and learning from him. As a leader, Joshua recognized the importance of God's word, dedicated himself and other leaders to God, rallied his people before battles, gathered intelligence on enemies, ensured spiritual preparation, and was personally committed to God's plan. The document also discusses how confrontational leadership can be effective for solving problems but also risks.
This presentation on "Dealing With Conflict in the Field" was given to Christian International School Chaplains in South Korea, November, 2014. The workshop focused on the positive and negative aspects of conflict and gaining an insight into the patterns of conflict.
Biblical peacemaking is at its core a recognition that even in the midst of an argument where we have a lot to lose and where our opponent may be entrenched in sin the most important thing we can do is to bring glory to God through our conduct.
The document provides guidance on conflict management and resolution. It discusses different types of conflicts that could arise in work scenarios. It also describes different responses to conflict like avoidance, accommodation, competition, compromise and collaboration. The document further elaborates on various conflict engagement styles and strategies for shifting a conflict from positions to interests to find a mutually agreeable solution.
This document provides information on becoming a conflict capable leader. It discusses:
- The objectives of the session which are to help participants better manage conflict, recognize different conflict styles, assess conflict situations, and learn collaborative conflict resolution methods.
- Key themes around conflict including that it is inevitable, people can change their response style, and the goal is to reduce harmful effects and maximize useful ones.
- Different conflict response categories including perspective taking, expressing emotions, avoiding, yielding, and more. It identifies constructive and destructive responses.
- The Thomas-Kilmann conflict mode instrument which assesses a participant's preferred conflict handling style.
- Getting to yes, a principled approach to conflict resolution which
The document discusses several experiments that demonstrate how human decision making is irrational and influenced by emotions and biases. One experiment shows that people are more likely to choose an ordinary chocolate labeled as "free" over a higher quality chocolate for a small cost, due to the power of labeling something as free. Another experiment finds that people are more likely to cheat or report incorrect answers on a simple math test when receiving indirect compensation that does not require proof of correct answers. The document argues that while people see themselves as rational, human decision making is strongly influenced by emotions and the limbic system of the brain, which can override logical thinking.
Conflict Resolution Strategy June 2013- Richard GarrityRichard Garrity
This presentation focuses on conflict resolution and provides guidance on identifying conflicts, changing behaviors, and resolving disputes. It discusses identifying the reasons for conflicts and their effects on others. Key aspects of conflict resolution covered include achieving common ground, understanding the rise of conflicts, and tips for handling workplace conflicts such as approaching them with an open mind and considering what caused the issue. The document provides lists of do's and don'ts for fighting fair and resolving disputes respectfully.
The Thomas-Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument assesses an individual’s typical behavior in conflict situations and describes it along two dimensions: assertiveness and cooperativeness. The model has 5 conflict modes.
This instrument is useful as a conflict resolution tool.
For more information on how to use the TKI with your team, contact the Corporate Learning Institute at 800-203-6734 or at corplearning@corplearning.com
Conflict can be constructive.
Testing ideas by challenging them with alternatives is a useful process. But it can be uncomfortable and confronting for many people.
We value consensus. This is one of the Drupal community's great strengths. However, when consensus can't be reached, valuable time and energy is wasted. Contributions are left to languish forgotten in an issue queue.
This session will outline the types of conflict we encounter in the Drupal community, and explore some techniques for using conflict as a positive force for moving issues forward and avoiding stagnation.
Let's discuss how we can build a culture of respect to embrace the positive aspects of conflict and work together better.
https://amsterdam2014.drupal.org/session/constructive-conflict-resolution
Quicklink: https://joind.in/11977
Detox your team: a low-conflict language for discussin and managing toxic beh...Ken Power
Slide deck from my Agile 2015 session in Washington DC, exploring toxic behaviours. The session takes people through four specific toxins that show up in teams and organisations, and goes on to discuss some ways to detox your team.
Dealing With Difficult People Leadership DayWilliam Chaney
The document provides guidance on handling difficult people by keeping calm and maintaining a healthy attitude. It discusses challenging behaviors like blaming, manipulating, and complaining. The biblical model for conflict involves privately addressing issues before escalating to others. Managing emotions, understanding communication styles, and using conflict management strategies can help deal with difficult situations.
Understanding Conflict Styles - using the Thomas Kilmann Conflict Model ktpworks
A recent presentation on Conflict Management given by Eleanor Yearwood of Key Talent Partners. The presentation reflects on the use of the Thoman Kilmann Conflict Model to help people be more aware of their - and others' - style of conflict handling, and how better awareness might help us adapt our style in order to have more influence. Adapting our style may also make us more effective negotiators, enhance interpersonal group dynamics and is applicable at every level of an organisation. The model also promotes the idea that different strategies work better in different situations, and by being more aware of our 'default' approach, we can learn to choose the most appropriate approach to give us the results we want in a particular context.
Action Learning is more that just learning by doing, though it is certainly that. This presentation introduces the underlying theory behind Action Learning and suggests ways this approach to learning might be used in a higher education environment.
This document discusses conflict styles and provides examples to illustrate them. It begins by defining key concepts like conflict, protagonist, and antagonist. It then introduces five conflict styles: withdrawing, accommodating, compromising, problem-solving, and aggressive. Each style is described and associated with a different animal. Examples are given to demonstrate how each style plays out. The document aims to help students understand different approaches to conflict and identify their own preferred style.
This document discusses sources and types of conflict that can occur in organizations. It identifies several common sources of conflict including incompatible goals between departments, differentiation between employees, interdependence of work, scarce resources, ambiguous rules, and poor communication. It then examines five styles for handling interpersonal conflict: problem-solving, forcing, avoiding, yielding, and compromising. Finally, it encourages considering different conflict styles depending on the situation and viewing conflict as an opportunity rather than just a problem.
The document discusses strategies for dealing with ten different types of difficult people: the Tank, the Know-It-All, the Whiner, the Sniper, the Think They Know It All, the Maybe Person, the Grenade, the Yes Person, the Nothing Person, and the No Person. For each type of difficult person, the document provides tips on how to communicate effectively with them and turn potential conflicts into cooperation. The conclusion states that while we can't change difficult people, we can communicate with them in a way that influences them to change their own behavior for the better.
This document discusses organizational conflict and types of conflict. It defines conflict and describes its sources and different levels within organizations. The document outlines functional and dysfunctional conflict, explaining how functional conflict can benefit an organization through increased creativity and information sharing, while dysfunctional conflict hinders productivity and job satisfaction. Both the positive and negative effects of conflict are provided. The document concludes by describing procedures for resolving conflict, such as diagnosing the issue, using conflict handling modes like mediation, and mutual problem solving.
With the world moving at such a rapid pace, new stuffs are coming out at a speed never before.
Regardless of your age, gender, how educated you are, where you are from, how much money you have or which position you hold in a company, embracing changes and learning new things should have become a way of life.
Otherwise, you’ll soon find yourself becoming obsolete… or even redundant.
Looking back, in a matter of just 10 years, the amount of information and data has increased by 10 folds. That’s a lot!
On the other hand, the amount of time that we have in a single day – 24 hours – is exactly the same as it was 10 years back.
So, that also means with the same amount of time that every one of us has, we now have at least 10x more information to consume and digest, with more coming out every day.
This can be really overwhelming!
Therefore, to keep pace, we all have to learn how to learn faster.
In this deck, I share with you 7 ideas that might help you learn new stuff more efficiently. I hope you find them useful.
Intro to conflict styles presents five styles of dealing with conflict and the value of each in conflict resolution. Suitable for work with Style Matters: The Kraybill Conflict Inventory, the Thomas Kilmann Conflict Mode Instrument, and some other five style inventories.
Conflict is inevitable and complex, involving emotions. It can be a problem if unmanaged, but an opportunity if properly managed through openness, safety, and developing conflict competence. There are two main types of conflict - relationship conflict, which involves negative emotions, and task conflict, which involves positive emotions and robust debate. Differences in personalities, preferences, styles, values, culture, knowledge, needs, and goals can all be sources of conflict. Building trust and psychological safety are important for constructive conflict. Emotions are triggered in the amygdala and modulated in the prefrontal cortex. Cooling down emotions through breathing and reframing is important for managing conflict constructively.
This document discusses the concept of synergy. It begins by explaining synergy as the focus of all habits and how the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. It emphasizes creating value from differences by respecting all and building on strengths. Examples of synergy in nature, families, schools and communications are provided. The importance of open and trusting dialogue is highlighted. Strategies are suggested for overcoming blocks to synergy such as focusing on interests, identifying key issues, finding fully acceptable solutions, and generating new options through creative thinking. Fostering synergy in families by building strong bonds and problem solving with cooperative habits is also addressed.
Learn the Art of Resolving Conflict - The Islamic Wayjkninstitute
In just over 2 HOURS!!! You will learn the art of how to resolve conflicts at home, at work and anywhere else, using four amazing principles taken directly from the Holy Qur’an.
? Do you have problems getting your children to do the things you want them to do
? Do you have regular fall outs with your partner, in-laws, family members, friends or colleagues?
? Are you interested to know how the Qur’an has the solution to any conflict and putting things right between people?
Then you must attend this seminar
The Prophet (saw) said, “Shall I not inform you of something more excellent in degree than (voluntary) fasting, prayer and almsgiving (sadaqah)?” The people replied, “Yes, Prophet of Allah!” He said, “It is putting things right between people. Spoiling relations is the shaver.” (Abu Dawud)
Using four miraculous principles from the Holy Qur’an you can amazingly transform the way you deal with people who disagree with you and resolve conflicts that exist between others!
These amazing four principles will guarantee to resolve any kind of conflict you may have with your children, partner, family members, friends, work colleagues or anyone else.
Learn…
the root causes of conflict
how you can change a destructive conflict to one that is constructive and beneficial
the four common approaches to handling conflict and which approach you tend to use
how you can mould your conflict handling approach to that which the Holy Qur’an relates
MORE IMPORTANTLY…how you can revive the Sunnah of the Messenger of Allah (saw) in dealing with conflicts
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2. BIBLICAL PRINCIPLE
22Put off your old self, which belongs to your
former manner of life and is corrupt through
deceitful desires, 23 and be renewed in the spirit of
your minds, 24 and put on the new self, created
after the likeness of God in true righteousness and
holiness. 25 Therefore, having put away falsehood,
let each one of you speak the truth with his
neighbor, for we are members one of another. 26Be
angry and do not sin, do not let the sun go down
on your anger, 27 and give no opportunity to the
devil.
Ephesians 4:22-27 (ESV)
3. 5 STYLES
19 My dear brothers and sisters, take
note of this: Everyone should be quick
to listen, slow to speak and slow to
become angry, 20 because human anger
does not produce the righteousness
that God desires.
James 1:19-20 (NIV)
IDENTIFYING DIFFERENCES
4. 5 STYLES & ACTIVATORS
Activator-the element of ones
personality that when missing or
triggered, causes an unhealthy response
Reactor Anger
Dictator Authority
Negotiator Alignment
Hoarder Assurance
Avoider Acceptance
6. DICTATOR
Activator-Authority
• Tells You How It Is
• Close Minded
• Always Right
• My Way or The
Highway
• Emotionless
• Hard/Cold/Distant
• Defensive
• Relentless
• Controlling
18. REACTOR
• ACTIVATOR
-Anger
• COPES BY
-Venting
• Biblical Principle for Change:
Fools vent their anger, but the wise quietly
hold it back.
Proverbs 29:11 (NLT)
19. DICTATOR
• ACTIVATOR
-Authority
• COPES BY
–Implementing rules
• Biblical Principle for Change:
25 ”You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord
it over them, and their great ones exercise
authority over them. 26 It shall not be so
among you. But whoever would be great
among you must be your servant...”
Matthew 20:25-26 (ESV)
20. NEGOTIATOR
• ACTIVATOR
- Alignment
• COPES BY
–Verbal Manipulation
• Biblical Principle for Change:
3 Do nothing from rivalry or conceit, but in
humility count others more significant than
yourselves. 4 Let each of you look not only to
his own interests, but also to the interests of
others.
Philippians 2:3-4 (ESV)
21. HOARDER
• ACTIVATOR
- Assurance
• COPES BY
–Internal Dialogue
• Biblical Principle for Change:
“Judge not others, and you will not be
judged. Do not condemn others, or it will
come back against you. Forgive others,
and you will be forgiven.”
Luke 6:37 (NLT)
22. AVOIDER
• ACTIVATOR
- -Acceptance
• COPES BY
–Deflection
• Biblical Principle for Change:
6Don’t worry about anything; instead, pray
about everything. Tell God what you need,
and thank him for all he has done. 7Then you
will experience God’s peace, which exceeds
anything we can understand.
Philippians 4:6-7 (NLT)
23. FIND YOUR PEOPLE
DESCRIPTORS OF YOUR STYLE
WHAT IS NEEDED IN MIDST OF CONFLICT
GREATEST STRENGTHS
BREAKOUT GROUPS
24. 5 SETBACKS
Do not let any unwholesome talk come
out of your mouths, but only what is
helpful for building others up
according to their needs, that it may
benefit those who listen.
Ephesians 4:29 (NIV)
EMBRACING WEAKNESSES
26. SEEDS OF SETBACKS
• Basic Wiring
• Past Hurts
• Family System
• Current Ongoing Sin
• Ignorance/Arrogance = PRIDE
• Status Quo (Fear, Doubt, or Pain)
• Selfish or Self-Centered Desires
28. • Does not think things through
• Feelings ARE reality
• No rational thought
• Uncontrolled anger
• No filter
–Dumps/Spews whatever they are
feeling
29. • They are right and you are wrong
• Takes control of situation and people
• Decides what's right/wrong based on
their opinions
• Opinions are fact
30. NEGOTIATOR SETBACKS
• Believes they are right
• Persuades others to believe like
they do
• Appears engaged
• Shame based speech
31. HOARDER SETBACKS
• Stuffs feelings
• Keeps a list of wrongs
–Charges interest on your behavior
• Non-emotional then lets you have it all
• Unloads emotions in intense manner
• Extremes
32. AVOIDER SETBACKS
• Avoids conflict at all costs
• Holds opinions and feelings to keep
peace
• Assumes the worst reaction from
others
• Plays the role of martyr
34. BIBLICAL PRINCIPLE
22Put off your old self, which belongs to your
former manner of life and is corrupt through
deceitful desires, 23 and be renewed in the spirit of
your minds, 24 and put on the new self, created
after the likeness of God in true righteousness and
holiness. 25 Therefore, having put away falsehood,
let each one of you speak the truth with his
neighbor, for we are members one of another. 26Be
angry and do not sin, do not let the sun go down
on your anger, 27 and give no opportunity to the
devil.
Ephesians 4:22-27 (ESV)
35. 5 SOLUTIONS
A gentle answer turns away wrath,
but a harsh word stirs up anger.
Proverbs 15:1 (NIV)
KNOWING WHAT THEY NEED
36. REACTOR SOLUTIONS
• Build Safe Environment
• Respond to Person—Not Reaction
• Connect to Their Heart
• Do Not “Trap” Them
• Give Them Space
• Maintain Relationship
37. DICTATOR SOLUTIONS
• Be Brief, Direct, and to the POINT
• Share Facts….not FEELINGS
• Focus on Solutions
• Never Generalize or Ramble
• Have Your, “Ducks in a Row”
• Ask “What”… Not “How”
38. NEGOTIATOR SOLUTIONS
• Acknowledge their position
• Listen to their feelings, ideas, and
thoughts, without interruption
• Share opposing ideas, feelings and
thoughts without attacking theirs
• Share your perspective/heart….
not just facts
• Work together toward common goal
• Ask “How”…Not “Why”
39. HOARDER SOLUTIONS
• Do not accuse the person
• Present facts without communicating
their intent or heart
• Share your part of conflict
• Equally share responsibility
• Leave room for, “The Rest of the Story”
• Ask, “Why”…Not “How”
40. AVOIDER SOLUTIONS
• Encourage communication
• Let them talk without Verbal or Non-verbal
Response
• Listen attentively
• Give permission to disagree
• Do not be demanding
• Assure follow up (Who does, What
by When)
42. SOLUTION TOOLS
1. Hold Your Thoughts Captive
2. Survey the Situation
3. Careful Consideration
4. BLESS
5. Feedback
43. HOLD THOUGHTS CAPTIVE
We demolish arguments and every
pretension that sets itself up against
the knowledge of God, and we take
captive every thought to make it
obedient to Christ.
2 Corinthians 10:5 (NIV)
44. HOLD THOUGHTS CAPTIVEBe Ye Transformed, Nancy Missler
• Chain Reaction
Thought Emotion Desire Action
• Evaluation of an incoming thought, prevents an
unwanted action and leads to a renewed mind.
Do not conform to the pattern of this
world, but be transformed by the
renewing of your mind. Then you will be
able to test and approve what God’s will
is-his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Romans 12:2 (NIV)
45. SURVEY THE SITUATION
Crucial Conversations, Kerry Patterson
• Content
–The content of a problem typically deals
with a single event
• Pattern
–The history of a problem makes the issue
more significant
• Relationship
–The string of disappointments causes
loss of trust in the other person
46. FORMULATE A PLAN
CAREFUL CONSIDERATION
BEFORE YOU SPEAK :
1. Determine their Style
2. Consider their Fear
3. Recognize their Desire
4. Acknowledge their Setbacks
5. Seek their Solutions
47. BLESS
• Biblical Principle
8 Finally, all of you should be of one mind.
Sympathize with each other. Love each
other as brothers and sisters. Be
tenderhearted, and keep a humble attitude.
9 Don’t repay evil for evil. Don’t retaliate
with insults when people insult you.
Instead, pay them back with a blessing.
That is what God has called you to do, and
he will bless you for it.
1 Peter 3:8-9 (NLT)
48. BLESSING PRINCIPLE
•B- Begin With Your Observation
•L- Let Them Hear Your Perspective
•E- Encourage Them to Share
•S-Speak With Humility
•S-Seek Common Ground
49. BLESS
• B: Begin With Your Observations
–Observations are a safe beginning
–Avoid conclusions
–Observations of what we saw
• L: Let Them Hear Your Perception
–Sharing how we interpreted what
has occurred
–This is our interpretation about
what we observed
50. BLESS
• E: Encourage Them To Share
– Invite others to share their perception
– Am I willing to learn from this person?
– Be willing to modify and change your
interpretation based this new information
– As they share, the amount of information
increases and we gain new understanding
51. BLESS
• S: Speak with Humility
–Not stated as a fact
–Share in a way that express confidence and
humility
–Helps decrease defensiveness
–Use “I” and not “YOU” statements
–“I am beginning to wonder if...”
–“In my opinion...”
• S: Seek Common Ground
–Be willing to hear all the ideas even if they differ
–Disagree with your own point view
–Ask for opposing and controversial views
52. FEEDBACK
Summarize Dialogue Without Commentary
• Examples
-”I appreciate…”
-”I accept…”
-”I understand…”
• Questions to Consider
- Am I being unreasonable?
- Is it a major or a minor?
- Am I lying to myself?
55. REFLECTIVE LISTENING
DELIVERER
B- Begin With Your
Observation
L- Let Them Hear Your
Perspective
E- Encourage Them to
Share
S- Speak With Humility
S- Seek Common
Ground
RECEIVER
• Summarize
• Feedback Their Words
• DO NOT Editorialize
• Ask, “Is That Correct?”
IF NO: Repeat Key Points
IF YES: FEEDBACK
• “I Accept…”
• “I Appreciate…”
• “I Understand…”
56. HARMONY
4 Such things were written in the
Scriptures long ago to teach us. And
the Scriptures give us hope and
encouragement as we wait patiently for
God’s promises to be fulfilled. 5 May
God, who gives this patience and
encouragement, help you live in
complete harmony with each other as is
fitting for followers of Christ Jesus.
Romans 15:4-5 (NLT)