I look up to the mountains—
does my help come from there?
My help comes from the LORD,
who made heaven and earth!
Someone once said,
The brain is a wonderful thing.
It never stops working from
the time you are born until the
moment you get up to speak.
First Speech Jitters are Over
Even though you planned well and practiced
Still had a sick feeling
Heart was beating so loud, you thought your
neighbor heard it
Legs felt like Jell-o
Felt like words were tripping you up
"Get up and get dressed. Go
out, and tell them whatever I
tell you to say. Do not be afraid
Fearful of Speaking in Public?
Join the club!
Veteran speakers suffer the same fate
“I still have butterflies in my stomach;
I just make them fly in formation.”
Proper perspective on actual speaking
A bad speech is not the end of the
Other’s opinions do not change who
Get the Right Perspective
Many 8th Graders worry about:
On page 21 (or on a sheet of paper)
List at least10 adjectives to describe you
Can describe social, physical,
psychological, or spiritual characteristics
View or idea you have of yourself
(not to be confused with self-
esteem: Feeling good about
yourself in spite of what you do or
who you are)
Stuck on Labels
Will remain with you unless you
Changing your view of yourself
The World’s View (Secular)
about developing self-concept
Social Comparison Theory
Reflected Appraisal Theory
Social Comparison Theory
Compare ourselves to others
Compare how we used to be
Compare how we want to be
Constantly analyzing how we are
socially, academically, physically, &
Social Dynamics Change Situations
but I Remain the Same
Comparing yourself to others does
not change your abilities
Joining an advanced math program
puts you at the bottom of the class
A new student on the team puts you
on the 2nd string
Comparing the Past You
Before you were angered easily
You learned to “control” your anger better
Today you consider yourself patient and
Comparing What I Would
Someday Like to Be
You have grand expectations for your
Have your reached those expectations?
Does that mean failure?
Valid evaluation of you?
Comparisons on First Speech
Compare yourself to others?
Compared how you did in previous grades
in presenting to a class?
Compared to how you thought you would
Any of these types of comparisons are
2 Corinthians 10:12
Oh, don't worry; I wouldn't dare say that I am as
wonderful as these other men who tell you how
important they are! But they are only comparing
themselves with each other, and measuring
themselves by themselves. What foolishness!
God & His Word will show the truth
Reflected Appraisal Theory
You believe what you think others think about
Do you really know what other people think?
Could it be a person could be self-absorbed?
A scowl or strange look from someone in the
class may not be directed towards you
If someone does not applaud, does that mean
“No one hates his own body but lovingly cares for it…”
Justification: You just failed a math test, but you justify
the “F,” because “everyone else did bad on the test too.”
Protecting our self-concept: Choose what we want to
believe and throw out the rest
The Bible gives us the way He
“So God created people in his own image; God patterned
them after himself; male and female he created them.”
“When Adam sinned, sin entered the entire human race.
Adam's sin brought death, so death spread to everyone,
for everyone sinned.” Romans 5:12
God knows we are sinners in need of a Savior.
God made a way for the
atonement of our sins!
But God showed his great love for us by
sending Christ to die for us while we were still
sinners. And since we have been made right in
God's sight by the blood of Christ, he will
certainly save us from God's judgment.
Trust Jesus with your talents &
abilities. He will take care of it all.
But God has chosen the foolish things of the world to
put to shame the wise, and God has chosen the weak
things of the world to put to shame the things which
are mighty; and the base things of the world and the
things which are despised God has chosen, and the
things which are not, to bring to nothing the things that
are, that no flesh should glory in His presence.
1 Corinthians 1:27
Knowing what the Lord thinks of
what His creation must go through…
But this precious treasure--this light and power that now shine
within us--is held in perishable containers, that is, in our weak
bodies. So everyone can see that our glorious power is from
God and is not our own. We are pressed on every side by
troubles, but we are not crushed and broken. We are perplexed,
but we don't give up and quit. We are hunted down, but God
never abandons us. We get knocked down, but we get up again
and keep going. Through suffering, these bodies of ours
constantly share in the death of Jesus so that the life of Jesus
may also be seen in our bodies.
2 Corinthians 4:7-10
Why talk about Self-Concept?
To separate “YOU” from the comments
made about your speeches
Comments designed to perfect your speaking
Take the critique to help you improve
View comments with right perspective
We Need to Value the Way God
Don't be concerned about the outward beauty that
depends on fancy hairstyles, expensive jewelry, or
You should be known for the beauty that comes
from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and
quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.
1 Peter 3:3-4