THE ULTIMATE
SECRETS OF TOTAL
SELF- CONFIDENCE

          By
  DR. ROBERT ANTHONY
• You can’t change the world, but
  you can change yourself.
• “ We know what we are, but not
  what we may be.” W. Shakespeare




21 Days
Secret #1
 DEHYPNOTIZING
 YOURSELF
• WE ARE LIMITED BY
  OUR “MISTAKEN
  CERTAINTIES”
• “Once a person
  believes that
  something is true,
  (whether it is true
  or not) he then acts
  as if it were.”
Secret #2

• DEVELOPING SELF-RELIANCE
• RECOGNIZING AND BREAKING THE
  DEPENDENCY HABIT
• OVERCOMING THE NEED TO
  MANIPULATE
• LEARNING THAT COMPARISON
  BREEDS FEAR
• FREEING YOURSELF FROM OTHERS
Secret #3
THE ART OF SELF-
ACCEPTANCE
• Positive self-esteem
THE MOST COMMON
CHARACTERISTICS OF
LOW SELF-ESTEEM
Emotional  Physical                        Psychological
Aggressive, False      Sloppy              Anxious, Dislikes,
laughter, Boasting,    Appearance,         hates, rejects
Impatient, Tries to    Wilted handshake,   himself. Needs to be
be“better than                             liked and accepted
                       Lackluster eyes,
Others. Competitive,                       by everyone.
Arrogant, People       Grossly             Unsure.Thinks he is a
Pleaser, Name          Overweight,         loser. Ridden with
Dropper, Critical,     Turned down         shame, guilt , blame.
Rebels against         Mouth, Tense and    Needs approval. Must
Authority,                                 be “right” all the
Perfectionist,         Nervous, Weak
                                           time. Needs to win.
Domineering,           voice, Can’t look
                                           Need for money,
Dominates              others in the       prestige, and power.
Conversation, Cannot   eye.                Does what others
admit, Mistakes,                           want him to do. Lives
Drinker, Smoker,                           through his children,
Talker.                                    TV or hero worship.
Secret #4
YOUR
AWARENESS


• YOU ALWAYS DO YOUR
  BEST
• DO NOT VALUE-JUDGE
• UNDERSTAND YOUR
  MOTIVATION
• TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
WISE OR UNWISE?

• Is this a wise or an unwise act?
• Will it contribute to my basic needs?
• Will it harm me or someone else?
• What is the total price I must pay?
• Is it in harmony with Laws of the
  Universe, as I understand them?
• Am I willing and able to pay this
  price and accept the consequences?
POSITIVE HABIT
CONDITIONING PROGRAM

• YOU CANNOT GIVE UP
  ANYTHING YOU REGARD AS
  DESIRABLE
Secret #5
I’M NOT GUILTY,
YOU’RE NOT GUILTY
THE SEVEN MAJOR FORMS OF
  GUILT:
1)PARENT – CHILD GUILT
2)CHILD-PARENT GUILT
3)GUILT THROUGH LOVE
4)SOCIETY-INSPIRED GUILT
5)SEXUAL GUILT
6)RELIGIOUS GUILT
7)SELF-IMPOSED GUILT

• REMEMBER:
~GUILT ALWAYS BRINGS
  PUNISHMENT
~YOU ARE NOT YOUR ACTIONS
MAKE A GUILT DIARY
Secret #6
THE POSITIVE POWER
OF LOVE
• STOP LOOKING
  FOR OTHERS TO
  LOVE YOU
• REMAIN CALM
  AND LOVE
  REGARDLESS OF
  THE
  CIRCUMSTANCES
Secret # 7
MIND - YOUR OWN
BUSINESS
• THE LAW OF MENTAL MAGENTISM




                    •MIND



SUPERCONSCIOUS               SUBCONSCIOUS
                 CONSCIOUS
Secret #8
THE GOLDEN KEY
OF CREATIVE IMAGATION

• IMAGINATION
  CONTROLS THE
  WORLD
• THE CORRECT
  THINKING PROCESS:
1. Go to the
  Superconscious Mind for
  inner guidance.
2. Use the conscious mind
  to program this
  information into the
  subconscious.
3. Command the
  subconscious to carry
  out this information.
HOW TO PROGRAM
 YOUR GENIE

1. VERBALIZING
2. FEELING AND EMOTION
3. VISUALIZATION
Secret #9
CHOOSING YOUR
DESTINATION

• GIVE YOURSELF A FIVE-
  YEAR PLAN FOR
  GROWTH
• START WHERE YOU ARE
• TRUST YOUR INTUITION
• RESPOND TO LIFE WITH
  ACTION
• THE SECRECY
  PRINCIPLE
Look forward to the future with
expectations, and then act
enthusiastic.

• THE LAW OF
  EXPECTANCY
“What you expect, that you
  shall find.” Aristotle.

• ENTHUSIASM - God in
  You.
(Greek, ‘en’ meaning ‘in’
  and ‘theos’ meaning
  ‘God’)
Secret #10
YOU DESERVE A BREAK
TODAY
MEDITATION:
(1) Relax and let go.
(2) Reach out and
  listen.
(3) Visualize.


Finally, mentally
  give thanks that
  it is so.
Secret #11
 THE TIME OF YOUR
 LIFE
• Write down the
  six most
  important
  things you want
  to do the next
  day.
• Do the most
  unpleasant
  assignments and
  activities first.
Secret #12
OVERCOMING FEAR AND
WORRY
• DO NOT REHEARSE,
  YOUR FAILURES
• CHANGE COMES
  WITH BEING
  DIFFERENT
Secret #13
MOVE AHEAD THROUGH POSITIVE
COMMUNICATIONS
•   LISTEN
•   TAKE AN INTERST IN OTHER
    PEOPLE
•   HOLD ONLY POSITIVE
    CONVERVATIONS
•   USE PLAIN LANGUAGE
•   LET THE OTHER PERSON
    KNOW THEY ARE IMPRESSING
    YOU GIVE SINCERE
    RECOGNITION
•   WAIT UNTIL THE
    CONVERSATION GETS
    AROUND TO YOU
•   BE ON TIME FOR
    APPOINTMENTS
•   REMEMBER PEOPLE’S NAMES
•   What you are speak so loudly, I
    cannot hear what you are saying. -
    Ralph Waldo Emerson
Secret #14
ACHIEVING TOTAL SELF-
CONFIDENCE THROUGH A POSITIVE
MENTAL ATTITUDE

• POSITIVE
  STATEMENTS
  RELEASE CREATIVE
  POWER
• CONCENTRATE ON
  WHAT’S RIGHT WITH
  YOU
• MOVE AHEAD WITH
  AFFIRMATIVE
  THOUGHTS
THE NEW YOU
As you apply the principles in this book, a
  successful NEW YOU will emerge

The ultimate

  • 1.
    THE ULTIMATE SECRETS OFTOTAL SELF- CONFIDENCE By DR. ROBERT ANTHONY
  • 2.
    • You can’tchange the world, but you can change yourself. • “ We know what we are, but not what we may be.” W. Shakespeare 21 Days
  • 3.
    Secret #1 DEHYPNOTIZING YOURSELF • WE ARE LIMITED BY OUR “MISTAKEN CERTAINTIES” • “Once a person believes that something is true, (whether it is true or not) he then acts as if it were.”
  • 4.
    Secret #2 • DEVELOPINGSELF-RELIANCE • RECOGNIZING AND BREAKING THE DEPENDENCY HABIT • OVERCOMING THE NEED TO MANIPULATE • LEARNING THAT COMPARISON BREEDS FEAR • FREEING YOURSELF FROM OTHERS
  • 5.
    Secret #3 THE ARTOF SELF- ACCEPTANCE • Positive self-esteem
  • 6.
    THE MOST COMMON CHARACTERISTICSOF LOW SELF-ESTEEM Emotional Physical Psychological Aggressive, False Sloppy Anxious, Dislikes, laughter, Boasting, Appearance, hates, rejects Impatient, Tries to Wilted handshake, himself. Needs to be be“better than liked and accepted Lackluster eyes, Others. Competitive, by everyone. Arrogant, People Grossly Unsure.Thinks he is a Pleaser, Name Overweight, loser. Ridden with Dropper, Critical, Turned down shame, guilt , blame. Rebels against Mouth, Tense and Needs approval. Must Authority, be “right” all the Perfectionist, Nervous, Weak time. Needs to win. Domineering, voice, Can’t look Need for money, Dominates others in the prestige, and power. Conversation, Cannot eye. Does what others admit, Mistakes, want him to do. Lives Drinker, Smoker, through his children, Talker. TV or hero worship.
  • 7.
    Secret #4 YOUR AWARENESS • YOUALWAYS DO YOUR BEST • DO NOT VALUE-JUDGE • UNDERSTAND YOUR MOTIVATION • TAKE RESPONSIBILITY
  • 8.
    WISE OR UNWISE? •Is this a wise or an unwise act? • Will it contribute to my basic needs? • Will it harm me or someone else? • What is the total price I must pay? • Is it in harmony with Laws of the Universe, as I understand them? • Am I willing and able to pay this price and accept the consequences?
  • 9.
    POSITIVE HABIT CONDITIONING PROGRAM •YOU CANNOT GIVE UP ANYTHING YOU REGARD AS DESIRABLE
  • 10.
    Secret #5 I’M NOTGUILTY, YOU’RE NOT GUILTY THE SEVEN MAJOR FORMS OF GUILT: 1)PARENT – CHILD GUILT 2)CHILD-PARENT GUILT 3)GUILT THROUGH LOVE 4)SOCIETY-INSPIRED GUILT 5)SEXUAL GUILT 6)RELIGIOUS GUILT 7)SELF-IMPOSED GUILT • REMEMBER: ~GUILT ALWAYS BRINGS PUNISHMENT ~YOU ARE NOT YOUR ACTIONS MAKE A GUILT DIARY
  • 11.
    Secret #6 THE POSITIVEPOWER OF LOVE • STOP LOOKING FOR OTHERS TO LOVE YOU • REMAIN CALM AND LOVE REGARDLESS OF THE CIRCUMSTANCES
  • 12.
    Secret # 7 MIND- YOUR OWN BUSINESS • THE LAW OF MENTAL MAGENTISM •MIND SUPERCONSCIOUS SUBCONSCIOUS CONSCIOUS
  • 13.
    Secret #8 THE GOLDENKEY OF CREATIVE IMAGATION • IMAGINATION CONTROLS THE WORLD • THE CORRECT THINKING PROCESS: 1. Go to the Superconscious Mind for inner guidance. 2. Use the conscious mind to program this information into the subconscious. 3. Command the subconscious to carry out this information.
  • 14.
    HOW TO PROGRAM YOUR GENIE 1. VERBALIZING 2. FEELING AND EMOTION 3. VISUALIZATION
  • 15.
    Secret #9 CHOOSING YOUR DESTINATION •GIVE YOURSELF A FIVE- YEAR PLAN FOR GROWTH • START WHERE YOU ARE • TRUST YOUR INTUITION • RESPOND TO LIFE WITH ACTION • THE SECRECY PRINCIPLE
  • 16.
    Look forward tothe future with expectations, and then act enthusiastic. • THE LAW OF EXPECTANCY “What you expect, that you shall find.” Aristotle. • ENTHUSIASM - God in You. (Greek, ‘en’ meaning ‘in’ and ‘theos’ meaning ‘God’)
  • 17.
    Secret #10 YOU DESERVEA BREAK TODAY MEDITATION: (1) Relax and let go. (2) Reach out and listen. (3) Visualize. Finally, mentally give thanks that it is so.
  • 18.
    Secret #11 THETIME OF YOUR LIFE • Write down the six most important things you want to do the next day. • Do the most unpleasant assignments and activities first.
  • 19.
    Secret #12 OVERCOMING FEARAND WORRY • DO NOT REHEARSE, YOUR FAILURES • CHANGE COMES WITH BEING DIFFERENT
  • 20.
    Secret #13 MOVE AHEADTHROUGH POSITIVE COMMUNICATIONS • LISTEN • TAKE AN INTERST IN OTHER PEOPLE • HOLD ONLY POSITIVE CONVERVATIONS • USE PLAIN LANGUAGE • LET THE OTHER PERSON KNOW THEY ARE IMPRESSING YOU GIVE SINCERE RECOGNITION • WAIT UNTIL THE CONVERSATION GETS AROUND TO YOU • BE ON TIME FOR APPOINTMENTS • REMEMBER PEOPLE’S NAMES • What you are speak so loudly, I cannot hear what you are saying. - Ralph Waldo Emerson
  • 21.
    Secret #14 ACHIEVING TOTALSELF- CONFIDENCE THROUGH A POSITIVE MENTAL ATTITUDE • POSITIVE STATEMENTS RELEASE CREATIVE POWER • CONCENTRATE ON WHAT’S RIGHT WITH YOU • MOVE AHEAD WITH AFFIRMATIVE THOUGHTS
  • 22.
    THE NEW YOU Asyou apply the principles in this book, a successful NEW YOU will emerge