The document discusses the psychology of love and relationships, noting that while romantic love served an evolutionary purpose in facilitating reproduction, it was not historically the basis for marriage and long-term relationships require more than just chemistry and passion to last. Modern ideals of marrying for love and finding a soulmate are unrealistic, and building a successful relationship takes understanding one's own beliefs, needs, and childhood experiences as well as actively maintaining intimacy, compatibility and commitment over time.
Polyamorous Behaviors of Non-Poly Identified PeoplesLeanna Wolfe
The document summarizes the results of a survey of 716 people about their polyamorous behaviors and relationships. It finds that those who identify as poly-enculturated or bisexual women reported similar levels of jealousy, feelings of compersion, and preferences around disclosure of other relationships. In general, males reported less jealousy than females, and single heterosexuals and gay men reported the highest levels of jealousy and least preference for transparency. A group marriage was a dream for 38-49% but not for the majority.
The document provides an overview of relationships and communication in several areas:
1. It discusses the ABCs of relationships - attraction, building, continuation, deterioration, and ending. Factors that influence each stage are explained.
2. Marriage is examined, including historical reasons for marriage, who people typically marry, clarifying expectations, and factors in marital satisfaction. Extramarital affairs, gender differences, and domestic violence are also covered.
3. Divorce rates over time are reviewed along with reasons for the rise in divorce and the costs of divorce, especially for children. Dating after divorce is briefly addressed.
4. Singlehood as an increasing lifestyle is noted, with contributing factors like postpon
Gender stereotypes and dating scripts shape expectations for men's and women's behavior on first dates. These scripts often place women in subordinate roles and emphasize men's aggression. While persistence and approach behaviors can be seen as flattering during courtship, they may become stalking if unwanted. Domestic violence, which disproportionately impacts women, involves physical, sexual, psychological and economic abuse used to control a partner. Resources for empowerment are available to help address relationship issues.
Negotiating Pairbonding and Romantic Love in Polyamorous RelationshipsLeanna Wolfe
This document summarizes research on polyamorous relationships, including definitions of different types of non-monogamous relationships. It discusses cultural practices and relationship configurations common in polyamorous communities. The research looked at how polyamorous individuals negotiate romantic love, jealousy, and pair bonding with multiple partners. Key findings were that most participants reported increased self-esteem through polyamory, and that factors like independence, compersion, and a busy lifestyle correlated with more success in polyamorous relationships.
Adolescence is a stage of discovery and development where sociability and gender play a role in interactions. It is characterized by contradictory behaviors as teens desire independence but struggle with responsibility. Parents influence their children's relationships through their own models of interaction. Myths around relationships, fueled by media, spread ideas of romantic love and gender norms. As teens begin romantic relationships, they learn to interact with the opposite sex but also face challenges like bullying, cyberbullying, and sexism.
The document discusses relationships and their effect on teens. It explores why the authors wanted to research relationships and how relationships are defined. Research shows that romantic relationships in adolescence can impact self-esteem and values. The majority of teens report having a boyfriend/girlfriend, and many spend significant time with their romantic partner. The document also presents the results of a survey on teen relationships and compares the findings to details in the book "Twisted."
Polyamorous Behaviors of Non-Poly Identified PeoplesLeanna Wolfe
The document summarizes the results of a survey of 716 people about their polyamorous behaviors and relationships. It finds that those who identify as poly-enculturated or bisexual women reported similar levels of jealousy, feelings of compersion, and preferences around disclosure of other relationships. In general, males reported less jealousy than females, and single heterosexuals and gay men reported the highest levels of jealousy and least preference for transparency. A group marriage was a dream for 38-49% but not for the majority.
The document provides an overview of relationships and communication in several areas:
1. It discusses the ABCs of relationships - attraction, building, continuation, deterioration, and ending. Factors that influence each stage are explained.
2. Marriage is examined, including historical reasons for marriage, who people typically marry, clarifying expectations, and factors in marital satisfaction. Extramarital affairs, gender differences, and domestic violence are also covered.
3. Divorce rates over time are reviewed along with reasons for the rise in divorce and the costs of divorce, especially for children. Dating after divorce is briefly addressed.
4. Singlehood as an increasing lifestyle is noted, with contributing factors like postpon
Gender stereotypes and dating scripts shape expectations for men's and women's behavior on first dates. These scripts often place women in subordinate roles and emphasize men's aggression. While persistence and approach behaviors can be seen as flattering during courtship, they may become stalking if unwanted. Domestic violence, which disproportionately impacts women, involves physical, sexual, psychological and economic abuse used to control a partner. Resources for empowerment are available to help address relationship issues.
Negotiating Pairbonding and Romantic Love in Polyamorous RelationshipsLeanna Wolfe
This document summarizes research on polyamorous relationships, including definitions of different types of non-monogamous relationships. It discusses cultural practices and relationship configurations common in polyamorous communities. The research looked at how polyamorous individuals negotiate romantic love, jealousy, and pair bonding with multiple partners. Key findings were that most participants reported increased self-esteem through polyamory, and that factors like independence, compersion, and a busy lifestyle correlated with more success in polyamorous relationships.
Adolescence is a stage of discovery and development where sociability and gender play a role in interactions. It is characterized by contradictory behaviors as teens desire independence but struggle with responsibility. Parents influence their children's relationships through their own models of interaction. Myths around relationships, fueled by media, spread ideas of romantic love and gender norms. As teens begin romantic relationships, they learn to interact with the opposite sex but also face challenges like bullying, cyberbullying, and sexism.
The document discusses relationships and their effect on teens. It explores why the authors wanted to research relationships and how relationships are defined. Research shows that romantic relationships in adolescence can impact self-esteem and values. The majority of teens report having a boyfriend/girlfriend, and many spend significant time with their romantic partner. The document also presents the results of a survey on teen relationships and compares the findings to details in the book "Twisted."
Romantic relationships are a form of interpersonal relationship between two people based on attraction. Key aspects of romantic relationships include physical and sexual passion between partners, emotional intimacy, and a commitment to a long-term bond. Trust, honesty, and shared interests are important foundations for maintaining a successful romantic partnership over time.
The document discusses relationships in early and middle adulthood. It covers the three basic components of love: passion, intimacy, and commitment. It also discusses falling in love, cohabitation, violence in relationships, lifestyles of being single or married, and divorce and remarriage.
Love and courtship on Gender and Development Course Lovelyn Garcia
The document discusses theories of relationship development and maintenance between men and women. Evolutionary theory suggests men value youth and attractiveness in mates as indicators of fertility, while women prefer mates with resources to help offspring survive. Social role theory links mate preferences to societal gender roles. Both genders desire support, companionship, honesty and kindness in relationships. Physical attractiveness holds more reward value for men. Relationship initiation is traditionally male-led but is becoming more equal. Intimacy, love and sexuality play roles in romantic relationships between all genders and orientations. Maintenance strategies include cognitive biases, accommodation, emotion skills and sexual activity.
Dating violence is physical, sexual, or psychological abuse within a dating relationship. Approximately one in three adolescent girls in the US experiences abuse from a dating partner. As school counselors, we need to educate students about healthy relationships, provide resources for victims and abusers, and implement prevention programs to address the issue.
The document discusses various types of relationships between boys and girls as they develop through different stages of life. It defines infantile love between children and parents, filial love between children and their mother, peer love among adolescents, and mature love between adults. It also distinguishes between love, which develops slowly through compatibility and sacrifice, and infatuation, which forms quickly based on insecurity and fading feelings. Finally, it outlines different types of casual, serious, and blind dating as well as traditional and modern courtship practices between young people.
Dating violence refers to a pattern of abusive behaviors used to control a dating partner. There are four main types of dating violence: emotional/psychological, physical, sexual, and digital. Early warning signs of an abusive relationship include jealousy, temper issues, isolation from friends/family, and possessiveness. Anyone experiencing dating violence should seek help from trusted individuals like parents, teachers, counselors or local hotlines. Safety should be the top priority for victims of teen dating abuse.
This document discusses puberty and boy-girl relationships during adolescence. It describes the physical, emotional, and social changes that occur during puberty, such as growth spurts and developing secondary sex characteristics. Relationships with friends and seeking independence increase as relationships with parents become more strained. Boy-girl relationships are not advisable for youth as their bodies and decision-making skills are still maturing, they are prone to risk-taking behaviors, and infatuation is often mistaken for love. True love requires maturity to distinguish from hormones. Teenage parenting is also difficult without full maturity and responsibility.
The document discusses concepts related to courtship, marriage, love, and types of love. It defines marriage as a formal union recognized by law that makes a man and wife. Courtship precedes engagement and marriage and is a special friendship between a man and woman that can lead to love. There are various customs around dowries given from the bride's family to the groom or his family. Love is described as a feeling of warm personal attachment, affection, and wanting to be with someone. There are various components of love including intimacy, passion, and commitment. The document also outlines different types of love such as ludic, pragmatic, erotic, manic, storge, and agape love.
Relationships, sex, and love for all agesClaudia Nunes
The document discusses various topics related to relationships, sex, and love for all ages. It defines sex as an energetic connection between partners that extends beyond the physical act. It notes that spirits have no gender and incarnate as both men and women. The law of attraction states that like energies attract, so it's important to consider what type of people one connects with sexually. Affectionate commitment and family relations that result from sex require balance and consideration for others. Sexual control and abstinence should not be done for selfish reasons but left to individual responsibility and choice.
The document discusses different types of intimate relationships including friends, spouses, family and lovers. It describes the hallmarks of intimate relationships as warmth, affection, trust, self-disclosure and commitment. The document also discusses types of marriages, keys to long-term marriage, family communication, causes of relationship problems such as jealousy and sex-role stereotyping, and ways to improve relationships.
The document discusses intimacy in families and family relationships. It defines intimacy as involving presence, interdependence, and positivity. It examines intimacy in familial dyads and with the family unit as a whole. Key components of intimacy discussed include commitment, self-disclosure, sexuality and communication, as well as barriers like fear, jealousy, and deception. The document also briefly mentions intimacy in long-distance relationships and questions whether long-distance daters truly feel intimate or idealize intimacy through partners' self-disclosure. It closes by questioning how studying married long-distance couples might impact results.
If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, it may explain at least one of their shared beliefs: Men and women can't be real friends. Blame the sexual tension that almost inevitably exists between any red-blooded, heterosexual man and woman. Point to the jealousy that plagues many rational people when a significant other befriends someone of the opposite sex. Boil it down to the inherent differences between the sexes. It just can't be done. Right?
Love is complex with no clear definition. It has three main components - intimacy, passion, and commitment. There are also seven stages of love ranging from initial attraction to obsession to termination. There are five main types of love including eros, philia, agape, storge, and xenia. Relationships also progress through stages from infatuation to understanding to disturbance and potential doubts before reaching a stage of complete trust, if the relationship survives. Falling out of love can be emotionally painful and potentially lead to issues like depression. The dark side of love includes emotions like anger, jealousy, and an unhealthy dependence on others.
Courtship is the period before engagement and marriage where a couple gets to know each other, which may lead to love and marriage. Marriage is a formal union recognized by law that makes a man and wife. A dowry is property or money brought by a bride to her husband on their marriage. There are five types of dowry given in some cultures, such as gifts for the bride's parents. Love can take many forms from intimacy, passion, and commitment between two people to deeper forms of love like agape love which is selfless love for others.
The document provides advice on preparing for marriage and choosing a spouse. It emphasizes the importance of personal development, such as gaining education and developing good character traits, communication skills, and conflict resolution abilities. It also stresses the need to carefully consider compatibility factors like background, beliefs, personality and interests when selecting a partner to avoid issues that could lead to divorce. Overall, the document encourages focusing on self-improvement and choosing a well-suited spouse to help ensure a successful marriage.
The document describes various traditional courtship practices in different regions of the Philippines. These practices include serenading, serving the family of the courted woman, giving gifts, using love potions, dramatic declarations of love or suicide, and exchanging gifts that symbolize acceptance of a suitor. Courtship provides an opportunity for suitors and families to get to know each other and test compatibility before marriage.
What is domestic violence? What are the signs of domestic abuse? How can you get help for spousal abuse in New Jersey? Find out what are crimes of domestic violence and the legal process in NJ. Learn about temporary restraining orders, who can get them, how to get them. Find out why timing is important in getting a final restraining order for a domestic violence matter. Learn how to help yourself or a loved one in this guide for domestic violence victims and their families, from Weinberger Law Group.
In this slideshare, Acknowledging Male Victims of Domestic Violence: Helping male victims of domestic violence get the help, support and protection they deserve - divorce and family law expert Bari Z. Weinberger, Esq discusses why male domestic violence victims avoid getting help and the fears and perceived barriers to getting the support they need.
The Psychology of Relationships by Dr. Kathrine BejanyanMatt Kendall
This document discusses relationship psychology and addresses Cindy's relationship dilemma. It summarizes that while romantic love served an evolutionary purpose for initial attraction and reproduction, it was not meant to last decades with the same person. Modern relationships require developing companionate love through shared values, equity, standards, and connection. The quality of our connections depends on our own emotional well-being, which stems from early childhood relationships.
UNIT -3 INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION Loyola college.pptxbennyisback3
This document summarizes research on interpersonal attraction and the formation of relationships. It discusses internal and external factors that determine attraction, such as proximity, familiarity, physical attractiveness, and similarity. It also examines theories of love, including Sternberg's triangle theory of love consisting of passion, intimacy, and commitment. The document outlines different types of love like passionate love, companionate love, and romantic love. It concludes by describing styles of loving like pragma, mania, agape, eros, ludus, and storge.
Romantic relationships are a form of interpersonal relationship between two people based on attraction. Key aspects of romantic relationships include physical and sexual passion between partners, emotional intimacy, and a commitment to a long-term bond. Trust, honesty, and shared interests are important foundations for maintaining a successful romantic partnership over time.
The document discusses relationships in early and middle adulthood. It covers the three basic components of love: passion, intimacy, and commitment. It also discusses falling in love, cohabitation, violence in relationships, lifestyles of being single or married, and divorce and remarriage.
Love and courtship on Gender and Development Course Lovelyn Garcia
The document discusses theories of relationship development and maintenance between men and women. Evolutionary theory suggests men value youth and attractiveness in mates as indicators of fertility, while women prefer mates with resources to help offspring survive. Social role theory links mate preferences to societal gender roles. Both genders desire support, companionship, honesty and kindness in relationships. Physical attractiveness holds more reward value for men. Relationship initiation is traditionally male-led but is becoming more equal. Intimacy, love and sexuality play roles in romantic relationships between all genders and orientations. Maintenance strategies include cognitive biases, accommodation, emotion skills and sexual activity.
Dating violence is physical, sexual, or psychological abuse within a dating relationship. Approximately one in three adolescent girls in the US experiences abuse from a dating partner. As school counselors, we need to educate students about healthy relationships, provide resources for victims and abusers, and implement prevention programs to address the issue.
The document discusses various types of relationships between boys and girls as they develop through different stages of life. It defines infantile love between children and parents, filial love between children and their mother, peer love among adolescents, and mature love between adults. It also distinguishes between love, which develops slowly through compatibility and sacrifice, and infatuation, which forms quickly based on insecurity and fading feelings. Finally, it outlines different types of casual, serious, and blind dating as well as traditional and modern courtship practices between young people.
Dating violence refers to a pattern of abusive behaviors used to control a dating partner. There are four main types of dating violence: emotional/psychological, physical, sexual, and digital. Early warning signs of an abusive relationship include jealousy, temper issues, isolation from friends/family, and possessiveness. Anyone experiencing dating violence should seek help from trusted individuals like parents, teachers, counselors or local hotlines. Safety should be the top priority for victims of teen dating abuse.
This document discusses puberty and boy-girl relationships during adolescence. It describes the physical, emotional, and social changes that occur during puberty, such as growth spurts and developing secondary sex characteristics. Relationships with friends and seeking independence increase as relationships with parents become more strained. Boy-girl relationships are not advisable for youth as their bodies and decision-making skills are still maturing, they are prone to risk-taking behaviors, and infatuation is often mistaken for love. True love requires maturity to distinguish from hormones. Teenage parenting is also difficult without full maturity and responsibility.
The document discusses concepts related to courtship, marriage, love, and types of love. It defines marriage as a formal union recognized by law that makes a man and wife. Courtship precedes engagement and marriage and is a special friendship between a man and woman that can lead to love. There are various customs around dowries given from the bride's family to the groom or his family. Love is described as a feeling of warm personal attachment, affection, and wanting to be with someone. There are various components of love including intimacy, passion, and commitment. The document also outlines different types of love such as ludic, pragmatic, erotic, manic, storge, and agape love.
Relationships, sex, and love for all agesClaudia Nunes
The document discusses various topics related to relationships, sex, and love for all ages. It defines sex as an energetic connection between partners that extends beyond the physical act. It notes that spirits have no gender and incarnate as both men and women. The law of attraction states that like energies attract, so it's important to consider what type of people one connects with sexually. Affectionate commitment and family relations that result from sex require balance and consideration for others. Sexual control and abstinence should not be done for selfish reasons but left to individual responsibility and choice.
The document discusses different types of intimate relationships including friends, spouses, family and lovers. It describes the hallmarks of intimate relationships as warmth, affection, trust, self-disclosure and commitment. The document also discusses types of marriages, keys to long-term marriage, family communication, causes of relationship problems such as jealousy and sex-role stereotyping, and ways to improve relationships.
The document discusses intimacy in families and family relationships. It defines intimacy as involving presence, interdependence, and positivity. It examines intimacy in familial dyads and with the family unit as a whole. Key components of intimacy discussed include commitment, self-disclosure, sexuality and communication, as well as barriers like fear, jealousy, and deception. The document also briefly mentions intimacy in long-distance relationships and questions whether long-distance daters truly feel intimate or idealize intimacy through partners' self-disclosure. It closes by questioning how studying married long-distance couples might impact results.
If men are from Mars and women are from Venus, it may explain at least one of their shared beliefs: Men and women can't be real friends. Blame the sexual tension that almost inevitably exists between any red-blooded, heterosexual man and woman. Point to the jealousy that plagues many rational people when a significant other befriends someone of the opposite sex. Boil it down to the inherent differences between the sexes. It just can't be done. Right?
Love is complex with no clear definition. It has three main components - intimacy, passion, and commitment. There are also seven stages of love ranging from initial attraction to obsession to termination. There are five main types of love including eros, philia, agape, storge, and xenia. Relationships also progress through stages from infatuation to understanding to disturbance and potential doubts before reaching a stage of complete trust, if the relationship survives. Falling out of love can be emotionally painful and potentially lead to issues like depression. The dark side of love includes emotions like anger, jealousy, and an unhealthy dependence on others.
Courtship is the period before engagement and marriage where a couple gets to know each other, which may lead to love and marriage. Marriage is a formal union recognized by law that makes a man and wife. A dowry is property or money brought by a bride to her husband on their marriage. There are five types of dowry given in some cultures, such as gifts for the bride's parents. Love can take many forms from intimacy, passion, and commitment between two people to deeper forms of love like agape love which is selfless love for others.
The document provides advice on preparing for marriage and choosing a spouse. It emphasizes the importance of personal development, such as gaining education and developing good character traits, communication skills, and conflict resolution abilities. It also stresses the need to carefully consider compatibility factors like background, beliefs, personality and interests when selecting a partner to avoid issues that could lead to divorce. Overall, the document encourages focusing on self-improvement and choosing a well-suited spouse to help ensure a successful marriage.
The document describes various traditional courtship practices in different regions of the Philippines. These practices include serenading, serving the family of the courted woman, giving gifts, using love potions, dramatic declarations of love or suicide, and exchanging gifts that symbolize acceptance of a suitor. Courtship provides an opportunity for suitors and families to get to know each other and test compatibility before marriage.
What is domestic violence? What are the signs of domestic abuse? How can you get help for spousal abuse in New Jersey? Find out what are crimes of domestic violence and the legal process in NJ. Learn about temporary restraining orders, who can get them, how to get them. Find out why timing is important in getting a final restraining order for a domestic violence matter. Learn how to help yourself or a loved one in this guide for domestic violence victims and their families, from Weinberger Law Group.
In this slideshare, Acknowledging Male Victims of Domestic Violence: Helping male victims of domestic violence get the help, support and protection they deserve - divorce and family law expert Bari Z. Weinberger, Esq discusses why male domestic violence victims avoid getting help and the fears and perceived barriers to getting the support they need.
The Psychology of Relationships by Dr. Kathrine BejanyanMatt Kendall
This document discusses relationship psychology and addresses Cindy's relationship dilemma. It summarizes that while romantic love served an evolutionary purpose for initial attraction and reproduction, it was not meant to last decades with the same person. Modern relationships require developing companionate love through shared values, equity, standards, and connection. The quality of our connections depends on our own emotional well-being, which stems from early childhood relationships.
UNIT -3 INTERPERSONAL ATTRACTION Loyola college.pptxbennyisback3
This document summarizes research on interpersonal attraction and the formation of relationships. It discusses internal and external factors that determine attraction, such as proximity, familiarity, physical attractiveness, and similarity. It also examines theories of love, including Sternberg's triangle theory of love consisting of passion, intimacy, and commitment. The document outlines different types of love like passionate love, companionate love, and romantic love. It concludes by describing styles of loving like pragma, mania, agape, eros, ludus, and storge.
1. The document discusses social and personality development in early adulthood, including topics like intimacy vs isolation, friendship, falling in love, marriage, cohabitation, divorce, parenthood, and careers.
2. It presents theories of temperament, attachment, and love (like Sternberg's triangular theory) and how they relate to adjustment in adulthood.
3. Factors like education, income, religion, and having children impact divorce rates, which have been decreasing since the 1990s. Work-life balance and dual-earner families are also addressed.
The compleat guide how to have better relationshipAamirkhan522429
This document provides an overview of relationship advice from scientific research. It discusses how to build a strong relationship through commitment, compromise and effort. It then explores topics like love and romance, staying faithful, resolving conflicts, and maintaining a relationship over time. Various studies and surveys are referenced to provide insights into topics like love styles, reigniting passion, the importance of sex, and how relationship factors like sex and intimacy typically change over time in a marriage.
This document summarizes key aspects of social and personality development in early and middle adulthood. In early adulthood, intimacy and relationships are a focus as people seek partners. Happiness comes from independence, competence and relationships. In middle adulthood, generativity vs. stagnation involves guiding younger generations. Marital satisfaction follows a U-shape, declining after marriage but increasing as children leave home. Divorce rates are higher for second marriages. The "sandwich generation" cares for children and aging parents simultaneously.
Lifespan Psychology Module 7 Early Adulthood PowerpointLumen Learning
CC-BY-SA 3.0 Lifespan Psychology Module 7 Early Adulthood Powerpoint by Laura Overstreet: https://drive.google.com/folderview?id=0B9nrmpuRmC4ENjVGdVo3dVh6NzQ&usp=sharing
The document discusses various topics related to love, attraction, and intimate relationships. It defines different types of love, such as passionate love (infatuation), companionate love, and Lee's six styles of loving. It also discusses factors that influence who we fall in love with, such as proximity, similarity, reciprocity, and physical attractiveness from an evolutionary perspective. Additionally, it covers the neurochemical processes involved in attraction and falling in love, and distinguishes between authentic versus inauthentic love in relationships.
The document discusses different types and aspects of love. It defines passionate love as intense feelings including sexual desire and physiological arousal that typically develops rapidly but can fade quickly. Companionate love is described as a deeper attachment based on familiarity and commitment that is less intense but more enduring. The document also references Sternberg's triangular theory of love, which identifies three components - intimacy, passion, and commitment - that combine in varying degrees to define different types of love experiences. It explores factors that can bring people together and keep them together, like proximity, shared interests and values, physical attractiveness, and attachment styles formed in childhood.
Guides well how to have a better relationship Jeffpaul22
This document provides an overview of relationship science and tips for having a healthy relationship. It discusses different types of love, reigniting passion, the importance of communication, and factors that can predict relationship satisfaction and fidelity. Recommendations include understanding each partner's love style, sharing new experiences together, making time for quality sex, and openly discussing desires to strengthen emotional and physical intimacy.
This document discusses various aspects of love from a psychological perspective. It defines love, explores the differences between liking and loving someone, and identifies several types of love including friendship, infatuation, passionate love, and compassionate love. The document also examines whether love is biological or cultural, provides tips for cultivating love in relationships, and discusses some potential pitfalls of love like anxiety, jealousy, and depression.
Is attraction the binding source for love and romanceHina Anjum
Attraction is proposed as the binding force for love and romance. The document discusses various types of relationships including platonic love, friendship, marital love, romantic love, and workplace and internet romance. It explores how attraction can develop between friends and lead to love, how love and relationships change over time, especially after marriage when responsibilities increase. It also notes both benefits and challenges of workplace and internet romance.
This document provides an overview of love and relationships. It discusses what love is, different types of love according to psychologists' theories including passionate love and companionate love. It also covers liking versus loving, interpersonal attraction factors, relationship development theories, and types of relationships like family, friendship, and interpersonal relationships. The document was submitted by a group for a class on the topics of love and relationships. It contains 18 sections that will analyze these subjects in more depth.
Difference between Compassionate and Passionate Love.pptxCHELOM LEAVITT
Is the passionate style of love different from compassionate love? How are they different? Well! We all have experienced it in our lives, yet, it requires to be defined more precisely for common understanding.
This document summarizes research on factors that influence romantic relationships and sexual behavior. It discusses how cultural norms, nonverbal cues, attachment styles, threats, competition, and resources impact attraction, commitment, and relationship stability. Key points include that cultural norms strongly influence sexual behaviors; nonverbal cues like smiles and hair flips signal attraction; insecure attachment styles make intimacy difficult; threats increase bonding; intrasexual competition differs by gender; and access to resources and status influence mate selection.
QUARTER 2- Personal Development and Relationships.pptxGladysMaeCiscar
This document provides an overview of personal relationships including family relationships, friendships, and romantic relationships. It discusses key aspects of healthy relationships like mutual respect, compassion, empathy, understanding, acceptance, honesty, trust, good communication, consideration, compatibility, mutual enjoyment, personal integrity, and vulnerability. The document also covers different types of love according to ancient Greek philosophy including philia (affectionate love), pragma (enduring love), storge (familiar love), eros (romantic love), ludus (playful love), mania (obsessive love), philautia (self-love), and agape (selfless love). Finally, it discusses the 5 love languages according to relationship expert Gary Chapman: words
The document discusses love addiction in women. It describes how women are socialized from a young age through fairy tales and media to seek romantic love. Love addiction develops as an attempt to heal past emotional trauma, but becomes an obsessive cycle of intense passion turning quickly to destruction. Love addicts experience low self-esteem and make themselves completely reliant on relationships for identity and worth. Their love relationships are characterized by chaos, high-risk behaviors, and desperation to avoid abandonment at all costs. Love addiction is rooted in dysfunctional family experiences like neglect, abuse, or addiction in the home as a child. Treatment requires controlling the addictive disorder, cognitive therapy, medication if depressed, addressing family of
This document discusses the different types and elements of love. It defines love as a positive feeling toward another person that includes kindness, sacrifice, and understanding. There are several kinds of love described, including puppy love, infatuation, romantic love, conjugal love between spouses, and parental and filial love between family members. True love is said to be patient, unselfish, and understanding. It respects others and aims to create a sacred marital bond. Mature love faces challenges together and lasts infinitely. The document also explores the relationship between love and sex, defining them as distinct but parallel instincts that ideally fuse into a single impulse with maturity.
Love, Creativity and Quest for human happiness. akhilapanda79
Dr Akhila Kumar Pan presented on the topics of love, creativity, and human happiness. Some key points included:
1. Love is a complex phenomenon that is difficult to define but involves emotions like attachment, commitment, intimacy, passion, and jealousy.
2. There are different types of love, including romantic love, maternal love, and eternal love. Romantic love was further broken down into types like eros (passionate love), ludus (game-playing love), and storge (friendship love).
3. The neurobiology of love was discussed, noting the brain areas involved like the insula, cingulate cortex, hippocampus, and nucleus accumbens which are part
This document discusses various topics related to relationships, dating, marriage and singlehood. It provides theories on mate selection and what attracts people to each other. It discusses the importance of physical appearance in relationships. It also covers predictors of relationship success and divorce. Additional topics include dating stages, initiating dates, breaking up, cohabitation, myths about singlehood, and ways to build intimacy and make marriages last.
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Remove negative memories Manchester OctoberMatt Kendall
The document discusses techniques for modifying and improving memories. It explains that memories can be categorized as either implicit, semantic, or episodic. Traumatic memories differ from normal memories in that they may lack context of time and feel ongoing. The document proposes that negative memories can be addressed by changing their sensory components, adding context of time stamps, and reprocessing them with techniques like IEMT. Exercises are presented to practice assessing memory components and exploring how changing elements like visual perspective can impact the emotional response.
The document discusses the six pillars of happiness: 1) Responsibility, 2) Routine and Planning, 3) New Experiences, 4) Self Care, 5) Investment, and 6) Being of Service. It provides tips and action items for each pillar, such as taking responsibility for your own happiness, planning your time, trying new activities and foods, practicing self care through healthy habits, investing in your professional and personal development, and being of service to others. The overall message is that pursuing these six pillars through small daily actions can lead to greater happiness and well-being over time.
Remove negative memories updated july 2019 bristolMatt Kendall
The document provides an overview of a personal development session on memory and techniques like IEMT (Indirect Eye Movement Technique). It discusses:
1) The different types of memory including sensory, short-term, long-term implicit/explicit, and how the amygdala and hippocampus are involved.
2) How early experiences can form belief systems and problematic memories in the present.
3) Techniques to work with memories like changing submodalities (visual properties) to reduce the emotional impact.
4) The session will cover reducing troublesome memories, resolving ruminating issues, reprocessing upsetting memories, and reducing unwanted emotions.
The document provides information about a personal development talk on techniques for improving memory and managing difficult emotions. Some key points:
- It discusses different types of memory including sensory, short-term, and long-term memory. Traumatic memories may not be properly processed or stored.
- Various memory techniques are demonstrated, like changing submodalities of memories to reduce their emotional impact, and adding a timeline to ruminating memories to provide resolution.
- Panic attacks are explained as being caused by worrying about the future. Breathing and grounding techniques can help reduce panic.
- Integral Eye Movement Therapy (IEMT) is introduced as a method for changing one's perspective of negative memories from the
The document discusses the benefits of exercise for mental health. Regular physical activity can help reduce anxiety and depression and improve mood and cognitive functioning. Exercise causes chemical changes in the brain that may help protect against mental illness and improve symptoms.
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PSYCHOLOGY OF
CRAZY STUPID LOVE
Dr Kathrine Bejanyan
LOVE
Anna’s Relationship Dilemma:
I’ve been dating this guy for a while now, over 6 months.
He’s a nice guy and fits the qualities I want in a husband.
However, I don’t feel a spark. He kind of looks and dresses
in a different way from what I find attractive.
He’s also not romantic likeother boyfriends have been in
the past. The chemistry is missingand “I just don’t love
him”. I’m wondering if I should stay in the relationship and
keep giving it a chance or just end it?
■ When you stop looking for love, it’llfind you
■ A relationship with the right person should feel easy
■ If you really love each other, you can overcome any
obstacle
■ Love with the right person will last
■ You either have chemistry with the right person or
you don’t
The Power of Beliefs Dr. KathrineBejanyan
Dating andRelationship
Consulting
v Psychology PhD
o Research Focus– Romantic
relationshipscross-culturally
v Counselling Psychology MA
o Accredited member ofthe British
Association for Counsellingand
Psychotherapy
o Licensed Marriage Family Therapist
(California,USA)
kathrinebejanyan.com
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What We’ll BeCovering
1. Beliefs and expectations around love
2. Biology and neuroscience of love
3. The emotions and psychology of love
Beliefs about Love
How important is love in a relationship?
If a man or woman had all the other qualities
you desired, would you marry this person if
you were not in love with him or her?
Modern LoveandMarriage
• To consider other things than love is in bad taste
“I love you. Let’s get married.”
“Let’s get married. I will loveyou. ”
The Golden Ageof Marriage
In the mid-1960 a study by Kepart (1967)
asked over a 1,000 students “If a boy or girl
had all the other qualities you desired, would
you marry this person if you were not in love
with him or her?”
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The Golden Ageof Marriage
■ 35% of men and 76% of women said they would
marry someone they did not love
■ Men considered passion or love to be more
essential
■ Women were less romantic in their beliefs and said
the absence of love would not necessarily deter
them from considering marriage
SoWhat’s LoveGot toDowithIt?
• Before the 1700 no society ever really equated
romantic or passionate love with marriage
• Marriage was based on economic necessity, political
gains and social cohesion
• Marriage fulfilled the needs of the larger group
So What’s Love Got to Do with It?
■ Marriage was a coalition between two families
(i.e. corporate mergers, military alliances,
political moves)
■ Marriage was not about:
– two people involved
– feelings
– sentimentality
– emotional fulfilment
Romantic love was considered to beimpractical
and unnecessary, and often dangerous in society
■ Ancient Greeks viewed lovesickness as a form
of insanity
■ French in the Middle Ages characterised love as
‘derangement of the mind’
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• Most stories, songs or plays connected dark
endings to lovers who acted upon their love
o Passionate love was depicted
as either unrequited, never
consummated, creating family
tragedies, breaking up
alliances or ending in suicide
or death for the lovers
• For thousands of years marriage was about
politics and property
• Romantic love had very little place in proper
society, certainly no place in marital decisions
and alliances
The Revolution of Love in Marriage
Modern Western Marriages
Marriages begins with love and ends when love dies
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Modern Western Marriages
■Love is viewed as the primary prerequisite for marriage,
often considered the most important factor
■Falling in love and selecting a potential mate is considered
a normal developmental task for most late adolescents and
young adults
■Love is no longer a by-product of marriage, but the
foundation for it
The same question asked in recent research “If a
boy or girl had all the other qualities you desired,
would you marry this person if you were not in love
with him or her?” (Allgeier & Wiederman, 1991)
• Only 14% of men and 9% of women said they would
marry without love
• Romantic love is now so important that, men and
women claim that if they fell out of love, they would
not consider staying married
• Men and women nowadays value and expect love in
their relationships
Marrying for love does not determine what happens
to a couple after their marriage. Couples still
continue to face common marital challenges like
managing other familial relationships, coping with
conflicts over sexuality, fidelity, roles and
responsibilities . Thus, the normativity of marrying for
love is seldom complete or unproblematic.
Modern Loves, edited byJennifer Hirsch and Holly Wardlow
■ There is considerable evidence that romantic love
is a cultural-universal and has evolutionary basis
• Whenever a trait or quality helps solve an organism’s
survival and reproductive problems, it gets passed
down to future generations
What is the nature of love?
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What’s been the purpose of romantic love in our
evolutionary past?
• Helped facilitate reproduction and
attachment/connection between people
• Romantic love is an important factor in drawing two
people together; intensifying their passionate and
sexual desire for each other, culminating in offspring.
What is the nature of love?
• It’s nature’s way of making sure we don’t get too
busy with life, forget to do the deed and die out.
• Romantic love increases our feelings of euphoria,
infatuation, passion and erotic desire for one
another.
In short, it makes us feel great and prevents the
human race from extinction!
The Brain in Love
■ Overdose on a cocktail of hormones
– Dopamine, phenylethylamine (PEA), testosterone,
estragon, serotonin and dehydroepiandrosterone
(DHEA), oxytocin
■ Intense romantic love activates the striatum (“pleasure
centre”)
– One of the parts of the brain which is most heavily
affected by addictive drugs like cocaine and heroin
The result on your emotions and behaviour:
■ Intense sense of connection and attachment to the
person
■ Excitement and euphoria about your partner and life
■ A deep sense of interdepedence is created between
another
■ A sense of certainty that this is “the one”
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• Overwhelmingly powerful
• Lose control
• Obsessiveness
• Loss of interest in many things and people in
our life
• Lose of sleep and/or appetite
• Intrusive/disruptive thoughts
• Emotional yearning/craving
• Similar to addiction
Drawbacks of romantic love
■ When you are caught in this state of love:
• You are blind a person’s flaws
• You miss or minimise the red flags
• Overlook issues of incompatibility (i.e. opposites
attract)
Drawbacks of romantic love
It’s not meant to last!
1. Making a baby doesn’t take very long
2. To stay in this state of bliss means nothing would get
done (intrusive thinking, near obsession)
3. Our ancestors did not survivefor very long
4. It’s not in our genetic interest to reproduce with the
same person over and over again, decreased genetic
diversity
Drawbacks of romantic love Romantic love is transient (Helen Fisher, 2004)
Our ancestors were primed to fall passionately, sexually
in love for about 4 years – enough time to come
together, conceive a child and take care of it through its
infancy stage, increasing its survival rate
o In tribal societies by the age offour, children are
generally self-sufficient and prefer to spend most of their
time playing with other children
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‘The Happily Ever After’ is a Myth
The truth is we are simply not hard-wired
to keep romantic-love passionate and
alive decades to come with the same
person. We are wired for shorter-term
love, long enough to come together and
procreate.
If romantic love is not meant to last -
1. what happens to the relationship if the love fizzles
out?
2. how are you suppose to sustain a happy and
fulfilling relationship over the long-run?
The Problem:
1. We think long-term love is suppose to come
naturally
2. And it depends on finding the “right person”
• Just because you can fall in love doesn't mean
you know how to maintain love and build a
successful relationship
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The Problem:
3. There is one form to love –
o one of the biggest misconceptions about love is that it is
one-dimensional
■ What we think of love is in fact only the first stage of
love – the initial attraction and infatuation phase
(limerence)
Romantic Love
In this state love looks (movie love):
– Intense
– High sexual desire
– Attachment and connection
– Obsession with our partner
– Magical experience
– Euphoric
■ While this state is amasing, it’s also
largely biological
Genuine lasting relationships requires three basic
elements:
•Chemistry
•Compatibility
•Commitment
•Modern love is largely concerned with the first
factor
•Relationship ideals are organised around falling in
love, not staying in love
•Movies and songs overemphasis the initial
stages of love, rarely depicting the process
of creating lasting love
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• Marriages that begin with high intensity romantic
love and build the basis of the relationship on
this state are more susceptible to conflict and
problems in later stages of the relationship
• Unrealistic expectations
• Emotional intensity/passion
How can a relationship survive beyond
romantic love?
• Successful couples don’t consider the weaning of
infatuation as a letdown or disappointment but as
transition to the next phase of their relationship
• Similar patterns of behaviour between
satisfied couples
• After romantic love subsides a more substantial
foundation is necessary to sustain a long-term
successful relationship
■This love is less intense in degree compared to
romantic love but it’s based on feelings of deep
connection, bonding and affection
■Two people have to be actively engaged in the
process of building this kind of love. Unlike romantic
love, it doesn’t just happen reflexively
■Takes skill, awareness and intentionality to develop
Companionate love – Another Phase of Love
Two steps to long-term love:
1. Finding the right person
2. Actively sustaining the love throughout the
relationship
How much effort do you put into each category?
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Long-term, authentic love requires:
• Skill and knowledge
• Understanding of the self
• Awareness of your partner
Where to get started?
•If you want lasting love in your relationship, then
you must start the process of finding out what it is
•You can’t create something you don’t
understand
•The gap between misinformed ideals and reality
is often a major problem
Where to get started?
There is a difference between wanting something
and being ready to have it
Working with clients:
•What is their understanding of love and lasting
relationship?
•What does a successful relationship look like for
them?
•How much do they believe in “happily ever after” or
destiny?
Emotions Require Action
•Love is an emotional experience
•Emotional experiences can only be sustained
through action
•What actions are required to help you
transition from the excitement of romantic love
to the subsistence of long-term love?
• There will be a gradual change in needs and
expectations over time as the relationship
grows
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If we are wired for love, what determines how or who we
fall in love with?
■ You can’t just make it work with anybody
■ Love and relationships are a subjective experience
You and WhoYou Choose
• It’s not about how lucky or
fortunate you are, it’s about
who you are
• Who we are attracted to, how
we relate to others and how we
give and receive love will
depend on who we are
You and WhoYou Choose
■ Early childhood experiences shape our brain and create a
blueprint of our beliefs
■ This blueprint holds beliefs about
– who we are, what the world is like and what others mean to us
and
– Seeks to confirm them as we go through life
You and WhoYou Choose
The brain
■ is not collecting data and then analaysing it through an objective
lens, but through our lens
■ it’s filling in the gaps of the present using the past
■ creating coherent narrative, in a way that makes sense to the
person, which may not necessarily be objectively true
You and WhoYou Choose
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You and WhoYou Choose You and WhoYou Choose
When it comes to relationships…
■ What we have experienced in the past gives meaning
and creates a framework to current experiences
You meet a guy/girl on a night out, you spend the evening
chatting and hanging out. He/she takes your number,
promising to call to arrange a date. It’s been a week and
you haven’t heard anything from yet
What is your interpretation of the situation?
You and WhoYou Choose
■ Men/women are liars and game players
■ He/she was only after one thing
■ You can’t trust people to keep their word, they always let you
down
■ I must've said something wrong, done something wrong, what’s
wrong with me
■ He/she must've only pretended to like me (found someone
else better, was bored that night)
■ He/she is just busy and hasn't gotten around to calling
■ Something else must've come up
You and WhoYou Choose
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You and WhoYou Choose
■ Present relationships are seen through the lens of the
past
■ Chemistry and attraction are created towards those who
help us recreate past dynamics and relationship
patterns which are familiar and known to us
■ Example: Anna’s dilemma
You and WhoYou Choose
■ A healthy, symbiotic relationship between parent and child
helps acknowledge and validate the development of the self
and affirm that the world is a safe place
■ When a child’s needs go unmet, as adults, to counteract the
distress they still feel inside:
1. Crave, highlydependent and obsessive on human contact
2. Become overlyself-sufficient, little feelings or need for others
Working only in the present:
■ Denies the effects of childhood experiences
■ Limits our understanding of the framework within which
we operate
■ Limits the understanding of the systems we employ to
cope with present conflicts
You and WhoYou Choose
Meaning is embedded in our earliest experiences and needs to
be decoded starting there
We need to be able to tease apart our adult experiences and
understand them from there roots and original source
You and WhoYou Choose
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■ Long-term love is not all about happiness
• Soulmates are meant to challenge and help us grow
beyond our norms and comfort
• How do you measure the success of your relationship?
You and Who You Choose
■ Initial romantic attraction is natural to humans
but maintaining love over time isn’t
■ You can’t rely on romantic love to instinctively
give you long-term success and happiness
– Don’t buy into the “love is natural or happily ever
after myth”
To Recap – The Challenge
■ Accepting that there is nothing normal about
long-term love, can help you realise that you
have much more control over the development
and maintenance of your love life than you
think
■ You are not helpless in the pursuit of love,
some people aren’t just more lucky than
others, you are in control
To Recap – The Good News
■ Learn about your partner and yourself
o Better partner selection
o Better interactions in a relationship
■ Learn how healthy relationships work
o Read books, model other healthy relationships, get
support from “experts”
To Recap – The Good News