1. INFATUATION
Is the state of
being
completely
carried away by
unreasoning
desire
LOVE
A decision to commit
oneself to another
and to work through
conflicts instead of
giving up
A deeper
understanding or
care
3. Selfish uncontrollable
desire
Physical desire
Crush or lust
Hormonal activity
Addictive chemical
reactions in the brain
Urgency
Intensity
Sexual desire
Decision to devote oneself to
another person for better or worse
Intimacy
Commitment
Security
Faithfulness
Confidence
Willingness to make
sacrifices for another
4. Anxiety
High risk choices
Reckless abandonment of what was
once valued
All consuming euphoria similar to
recreational drug use (addictive
chemical reactions in the brain)
Stupidity (cupidity)
Can risk everything for the next hit
or adrenalin
Reckless commitment to satisfy
one’s all consuming lust
Working at settling differences
Able to compromise so that either both
win or at least give the other person’s
opinion a chance
A deep affection
Contentment
Confidence
Partners communicate and negotiate
appropriate expectations
Requires a lot of selflessness and polite
assertiveness
Commitment to another
5. Being controlled by brain chemistry
Loss of ability to make rational
evaluations of what is true, valuable,
and worthy of pursuit
Emptiness
Consequences of choices made while
under the influence of mind numbing
lust
Cannot be sustained without some
portion of love and physical attraction
Always desire to be close to that
person at any cost
Steadfast decision to commit oneself
to another person
Security
Peace
A solid partnership which can provide
the ideal atmosphere to raise
confident secure children
A more stable society
Radical decrease in the need for
welfare, jails, lawyers, and mental
health counsellors
partnership
6. Takes off fast and furious like a
spark in dry grass
Burns out quickly and can leave
feelings of emptiness
Long term offering of companionship
8. ATTRACTION
Is admiration for someone that may
include the desire to get to know that
person better.
It takes place in the form of
infatuation or crush.
9. LOVE
Is a deep affection for someone and is based on
true desire for the other person’s best interest.
In healthy relationship, the other person shares
and responds with the same kind of love.
Learning to develop, nurture, and even deal with
the loss of these relationships are important ways
to prepare for adult relationship
10. COURTSHIP
Is a stage of not simply knowing
the person but also a test of
compatibility between the two
persons.
It is also an opportunity to know
the background of each other,
including the family where each
other one belongs.
12. ILOCOS AND TAGALOG
REGION
SERENADING is known as tapat, “to be in
front of the woman’s house” likely the same
as harana and also the balagtasan of the
Tagalogs.
The suitor begins singing a romantic song,
and then the courted lady responds by
singing, too.
13. ROOSTER COURTSHIP is a form
of courting in Luzon. The
rooster is assigned to be the
“negotiator”, wherein the male
chicken is left at the house of
the courted lady to crow every
morning for the admired lady’s
family.
14. BULACAN
NANINILONG-”serenading from
under the house”.
At midnight, the suitor goes
beneath the nipa hut, a house that
is elevated by bamboo poles, and
then pricks the admired woman by
15. using a pointed object to catch
the attention of the sleeping lady,
after which they converse in
whispers
16. BATANGAS
Manifest their sincerity and loyalty
to the women they are courting
through gestures and actions.
Women are serenaded with Tagalog
songs which are accompanied by
the playing of a guitar.
Men serve the family and relatives
17. of the women being courted by doing
household chores such as chopping
woods, fetching water, cleaning the
surroundings, etc.
Suitor is obliged to pay respect to the
parents by saying “Mano Po”
In visiting, they are seated with proper
distance, not too close to each other
since they are being watched by the
woman’s parents.
18. PANGASINAN
TAGA-AMO-”tamer”, a form of love
potion or charm which can be rubbed
on the skin of the admired.
PALABAS-”show or drama”-woman
succumbs to revealing her love to her
suitor, who on the other hand pretends
to commit suicide if the lady does not
confess her true feelings
19. KALINGA
CA-I-SING or EBGAN to Kalingas
PANGIS-Tingguians
-where a man and a woman are
separated into “houses”
ATO-house for males
OLOG or AGAMANG- house for females
20. The man visits the woman’s house to sing
romantic songs and the woman replies to
these songs also through singing.
23. LEYTE
PANGAGAD or PANINILBIHAN
The service normally lasts for
approximately a year before the man
and woman can get married.
SUBOK-a trial or test period for the
the serving suitor
24. MINDANAO
PALABAS, SARAKAHAN TUPUL, or
MAGPASUMBAHI-Tausugs
A suitor would threaten to stab his heart
while in front of the courted woman’s
father.
If the father refuses to give her daughter’s
hand to the suitor, the suitor is smitten by
a knife.
25. BAGOBOS
Send a knife or a spear as a gift to
the home of the courted woman for
inspection. Accepting the weapon is
equivalent to accepting the man’s
romantic intention and advances.