Difficult to maintain your relationships with people who have narcissistic personality disorder.  They will often disappoint you by prioritizing their own needs, over yours, and will not apologize for doing so.  You may feel like you are struggling to gain their attention, walking on eggshells in order to avoid offending them or constantly working to avoid being blamed for the negative experiences in their lives.  If so, do your best to take stock of these narcissistic traits.  Being aware of these personalities, and their subtypes may help you create better boundaries between yourself and the people who embody them.

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The Four Types of Narcissist, How to Spot Each
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2. Introduction
 Not every narcissistic personality functions exactly the same
way.
 According to Google Trends, usage of the term “narcissist”
has been on the rise for the past ten years and often gets
used as a casual insult.
 No one likes to be known as a narcissist, or to be called out
on narcissistic behavior
 Even though, to a psychologist, narcissistic needs are both
normal and universal.
 Everyone needs to be praised by parents or caregivers
during childhood, and later in life, to be appreciated by their
friends and significant others.
 This particular type of appreciation — known as validation
— is essential in the development of healthy self-esteem.
 In 1914, Sigmund Freud asserted that all human infants pass
through a stage of “primary narcissism,” a primitive self-
centered frame of mind in which they cannot understand
that other people are fully separate beings.
 This stage, Freud said, was just a stop on the road in the

3. Introduction
 One of Freud’s successors, Karen Horney, believed that these
narcissistic personalities could be caused by a
particular parenting style:
 If parents excessively overvalued or undervalued their children,
she said, they would then grow up perpetually craving abnormal
amounts of praise or validation.
 Another, more recent theorist, Otto Kernberg, sees adult
narcissism as a kind of false front, or a way of protecting
oneself.
 He said that people with narcissistic personalities derive the
validation they need from themselves as much as from
others, propping themselves up artificially, which leaves
them with no effective way to internally support their own
self-esteem.
 And not only is narcissism a normal part of human social and
emotional development, but it’s also not just a unitary concept.

4. Challenges to deal with Narcissistic
Personality Disorder
 Difficult to maintain your relationships with people
who have narcissistic personality disorder.
 They will often disappoint you by prioritizing their own
needs, over yours, and will not apologize for doing
so.
 You may feel like
 you are struggling to gain their attention,
 walking on eggshells in order to avoid offending them or
 constantly working to avoid being blamed for the
negative experiences in their lives.
 If so, do your best to take stock of these narcissistic
traits.
 Being aware of these personalities, and their
subtypes may help you create better boundaries
between yourself and the people who embody
them.

5. Four Types of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
 A fair number of subcategories have been generated, which
serve to shade in the nuances of narcissistic character (both
normal and pathological). Four types are
 1.Positive known as “Prosocial” Narcissism –
 Derive credit from positive accomplishments.
 They strive
 To do good deeds — often in public — and
 To make other people happy with them.
 In this way , they
 Derive the validation that they, too, desperately need. and
 Want to be liked — sometimes, too much.
 Want to be known and appreciated by everyone in their
lives, and their intentions are, overall, quite benign
 Use their empathy to tune in to what pleases you, and in
doing so, they find validation.

6. Four Types of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
 2.Negative types, known as “antisocial” narcissism-
 A quality of being in it for oneself, and often misusing or
exploiting relationships for one’s own benefit.
 Often they expects excessive gratification from others in his or
her life and are,
 An extremely difficult,
 Self-centered individual
 Do not feel limited by the truth, but when they are caught in
a lie, they may become angry or rageful.
 They view the social landscape as something like an
enormous contest, and they will do anything to win it.

7. Four Types of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
 3.Covert or The vulnerable narcissist- the typical grandiose
narcissist who has become such a familiar American trope may
be overshadowing a less well-known, but equally
difficult, personality type:
 These individuals also believe they are superior, but they keep
these beliefs inside.
 They
 Are deeply self-absorbed,
 Maintain an artificially inflated sense of themselves, and
 Believe that they are entitled to more attention than they get.
 Too, lack empathy;
 May be highly sensitive, but their sensitivity does not extend
to the feelings of others.
 They, therefore, feel chronically victimized, as though the
world has failed to recognize their brilliance or
specialness.

8. Four Types of Narcissistic Personality Disorder
 4.A malignant narcissist
 Kernberg first described the malignant narcissist in the late
1980s, noting that it is a blend between the narcissistic
and antisocial personality disorders.
 Doesn’t do anything for other’s benefit.
 Liable to lash out at, or attempt to destroy, other people in
order to prop up his or her fragile sense of self.
 These people can form long-term relationships, but their
behavior is unstable, and
 They can become aggressive if they perceive themselves to
be threatened.
 Internally, they are working hard to protect their grandiose
self-perceptions, and can often be thin-skinned, perceiving
everyday events — such as a casual remark — as
attacks.