The document discusses 'racket feelings,' which are learned emotional responses from childhood that become maladaptive in adulthood. It outlines how these feelings influence behavior and communication, leading to manipulation of social interactions to meet emotional needs. Additionally, it distinguishes between authentic feelings and racket feelings, highlighting their impact on personal scripts and problem-solving.

2. MEET THE RACKET FEELINGS

3. A familiar emotion, learned
and encouraged in
childhood, experienced in
many different stress
situations, and maladaptive
as an adult means of
problem-solving.
Racket feeling:
(Stewart, Joines : TA Today)

4. 1. Present, inner awareness
2. Demonstration or
expression by appearance,
behavior or words
3. Action directed at
someone or something
Perception and feeling in grown person

5. Perception and feeling in young child
3 & 2. Action directed at someone or
something WHILE expressing him/herself
1. Inner awareness
-sadly, not there yet.

6. Others decide what is allowed
The child learns early in life:
- What to feel
- What to be aware of and
what to ignore
- What is rewarded with
strokes
- What is discounted

7. So, how to tell authentic feelings from rackets?
I’m Angry : I’m solving a problem in the present
I’m Sad : I’m dealing with loss in the past
I’m Scared : I’m helping solve a problem in the future
I’m Glad : No change needed

8. Rackets lead into games
1. Extra emphasis on racket
feelings
2. Broken record effect
3. Expanding the social scope
4. Seeking to transact with
others
the Game is on !

9. Rackets feed the script
Any time you experience a racket feeling, you are in script.
• The child uses the racket feelings to get
his/her needs met. The script beliefs set in
• The adult is attempting to manipulate the
environment so as to gain the parental
support one gained in childhood by
experiencing and showing the racket
feelings.

11. Thank You !
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