The document discusses attachment theory and styles in relationships. It provides examples of movies related to attachment and love. It then describes the key features of children's attachment styles, including secure, avoidant, anxious, and ambivalent styles. Next, it outlines the four adult attachment styles - secure, preoccupied, dismissive, and fearful - based on positive or negative models of self and others. For each style, it provides characteristics of their communication and conflict behaviors as well as the reinforcement effect of that style. Finally, it discusses factors that influence the stability and potential change of attachment styles over time.
The aim of this lecture is to introduce and discuss social-psychological aspects of interpersonal relationships and, in particular, attraction, exclusion, and close relationships.
The aim of this lecture is to introduce and discuss social-psychological aspects of interpersonal relationships and, in particular, attraction, exclusion, and close relationships.
Various unconscious factors that set the stage for the unfolding of relational dynamics that can be distressing, emotionally painful, and highly destructive. The narcissist-codependent bond is a good example of this. I have argued that such dynamics are largely pre-determined and out of our control and awareness, which is why so many people become frustrated at identifying and limiting the negative impact of these dynamics on their lives. Consequently, these dynamics overtake our best efforts at living a healthy, productive life, and tend to cause chronic damage in our romantic lives, careers, friendships, and even in relation to our own self-care and self-esteem. In this talk, I present an approach to identifying and taking better control of these dynamics – so that we do not allow them to unfold in their typical insidious fashion. My perspective on interpersonal transformation involves a systematic analysis of what constitutes how we view others and how others view us. I will suggest that how we view and are viewed consist primarily of fabrications that perpetuate a series of emotional and psychological provocations which, ultimately, restrict how we maneuver through and negotiate the social world. How to identify and alter these fabrications is perhaps the most common question that has come up in our groups so far and that is asked by patients who see me individually for psychotherapy.
Inducing and Being Induced: How to Recognize Dysfunctional Relationship DynamicsJames Tobin, Ph.D.
As a species, we are socialized from birth to compromise various aspects of one’s true identity in order to appeal to the primary caregiver. Consequently, we learn how to play roles in relationships very early in development. Yet, role-playing continues into adulthood and even across the lifespan. Every human interaction may be conceptualized from the vantage point of roles, as roles organize emotional experience, the hierarchy of power between individual s and groups, and the execution of tasks. Human relationships, therefore, revolve around inhibitions and resistances to authentic intimacy given that roles provide an architecture of human relatedness and fend off psychological fears and anxieties about closeness. In no other aspect of human life is this most apparent than in romantic relationships. We unconsciously coerce or “induce” others to act in accordance with our role preference, and in turn we are coerced or induced to act in accordance with the role preferences of others. These induced roles quickly set into motion a sequence of interactions that constricts a person’s relational freedom, thus straight jacketing the person into a role that, over time, becomes quite rigid and constraining. Understanding these induction processes, as well as the unconscious longings that generate them, are perhaps the most important keys to having fulfilling, surprising, and viable relationships. In this presentation, I will discuss these induction processes, explain why they are so prevalent, and offer my thoughts on how they may be avoided and/or dissolved.
The Dynamics of Unconscious Communication: Projection, Projective Identificat...James Tobin, Ph.D.
According to Dr. Tobin, communication occurs at an unconscious level and is organized largely around psychological processes that re-create historical events. This talk seeks to clarify how projection and projective identification are relevant in all romantic relationship and engineer patterns of relatedness oriented toward re-traumatization.
Interpersonal Transformation (Part II): Attachment vs. RelatednessJames Tobin, Ph.D.
My perspective on interpersonal transformation involves the capacity to recognize how we are coercing our romantic partner, or being coerced by our partner, to perpetuate an unresolved early developmental trauma in our adult life. It is not uncommon for these coercive patterns to play out not only in romantic relationships, but also in our work lives, family lives, even with friends. The main idea I have been discussing in recent group sessions is our need to quickly recognize when we are being drawn into these insidious psychological and emotional provocations so that we can avoid them or act to change them. However, a major concept I have not yet described is the utility of identifying and understanding how our own unique attachment patterns increase our tendency to get drawn into negative relationship dynamics. By the term “attachment” I am referring to innate, unconscious, and highly rigid feelings, emotions, and assumptions about bonding with another that we inherited from childhood. What is problematic is that many people never make a highly significant psychological transition in their adult lives: abandoning these old attachment tendencies for a more mature, healthy, and well-boundaried style of adult relatedness. In this presentation, I describe how relatedness is achieved, what it consists of, and how it can prompt and maintain successful romantic relationships as well as a deeply sensual and erotic connection with our partner.
Various unconscious factors that set the stage for the unfolding of relational dynamics that can be distressing, emotionally painful, and highly destructive. The narcissist-codependent bond is a good example of this. I have argued that such dynamics are largely pre-determined and out of our control and awareness, which is why so many people become frustrated at identifying and limiting the negative impact of these dynamics on their lives. Consequently, these dynamics overtake our best efforts at living a healthy, productive life, and tend to cause chronic damage in our romantic lives, careers, friendships, and even in relation to our own self-care and self-esteem. In this talk, I present an approach to identifying and taking better control of these dynamics – so that we do not allow them to unfold in their typical insidious fashion. My perspective on interpersonal transformation involves a systematic analysis of what constitutes how we view others and how others view us. I will suggest that how we view and are viewed consist primarily of fabrications that perpetuate a series of emotional and psychological provocations which, ultimately, restrict how we maneuver through and negotiate the social world. How to identify and alter these fabrications is perhaps the most common question that has come up in our groups so far and that is asked by patients who see me individually for psychotherapy.
Inducing and Being Induced: How to Recognize Dysfunctional Relationship DynamicsJames Tobin, Ph.D.
As a species, we are socialized from birth to compromise various aspects of one’s true identity in order to appeal to the primary caregiver. Consequently, we learn how to play roles in relationships very early in development. Yet, role-playing continues into adulthood and even across the lifespan. Every human interaction may be conceptualized from the vantage point of roles, as roles organize emotional experience, the hierarchy of power between individual s and groups, and the execution of tasks. Human relationships, therefore, revolve around inhibitions and resistances to authentic intimacy given that roles provide an architecture of human relatedness and fend off psychological fears and anxieties about closeness. In no other aspect of human life is this most apparent than in romantic relationships. We unconsciously coerce or “induce” others to act in accordance with our role preference, and in turn we are coerced or induced to act in accordance with the role preferences of others. These induced roles quickly set into motion a sequence of interactions that constricts a person’s relational freedom, thus straight jacketing the person into a role that, over time, becomes quite rigid and constraining. Understanding these induction processes, as well as the unconscious longings that generate them, are perhaps the most important keys to having fulfilling, surprising, and viable relationships. In this presentation, I will discuss these induction processes, explain why they are so prevalent, and offer my thoughts on how they may be avoided and/or dissolved.
The Dynamics of Unconscious Communication: Projection, Projective Identificat...James Tobin, Ph.D.
According to Dr. Tobin, communication occurs at an unconscious level and is organized largely around psychological processes that re-create historical events. This talk seeks to clarify how projection and projective identification are relevant in all romantic relationship and engineer patterns of relatedness oriented toward re-traumatization.
Interpersonal Transformation (Part II): Attachment vs. RelatednessJames Tobin, Ph.D.
My perspective on interpersonal transformation involves the capacity to recognize how we are coercing our romantic partner, or being coerced by our partner, to perpetuate an unresolved early developmental trauma in our adult life. It is not uncommon for these coercive patterns to play out not only in romantic relationships, but also in our work lives, family lives, even with friends. The main idea I have been discussing in recent group sessions is our need to quickly recognize when we are being drawn into these insidious psychological and emotional provocations so that we can avoid them or act to change them. However, a major concept I have not yet described is the utility of identifying and understanding how our own unique attachment patterns increase our tendency to get drawn into negative relationship dynamics. By the term “attachment” I am referring to innate, unconscious, and highly rigid feelings, emotions, and assumptions about bonding with another that we inherited from childhood. What is problematic is that many people never make a highly significant psychological transition in their adult lives: abandoning these old attachment tendencies for a more mature, healthy, and well-boundaried style of adult relatedness. In this presentation, I describe how relatedness is achieved, what it consists of, and how it can prompt and maintain successful romantic relationships as well as a deeply sensual and erotic connection with our partner.
PSY 101 The Psychology of Personal DevelopmentSmall Group D.docxamrit47
PSY 101:
The Psychology of Personal Development
Small Group Discussion Agenda:
Check-in
Attraction & Relationships, Part 2
What do we want to know?
Qualities we look for in partners: recap and research
One more model: The love traingle
What do we think about what we want to know: small group discussions
Check-in and announcements
The final SR assignment (#10) is due this Sunday at 11:55 pm. We changed the topic to relationships (you’ll work on your personal development plan for your final PDP).
Remember, you do not receive points for attendance but for participation in in-class activities, so if you leave class before the activity, no points for that day.
Q & A?
SRJ: What have you always wanted to know about attraction & relationships, but haven’t had the chance to ask?
On the provided index card, ask ONE question you’ve always wanted to ask about dating, attraction, etc.
This could be a question you wish you could ask a potential dating partner (e.g., how do I get your attention without seeming pushy?), or
A general questions about relationships (e.g., how can you maintain a friendship after ending a romantic relationship?)
What we look for in our relationshipsQualitiesReasonsConfidence, drive, initiative, ambition, independence
Adventurous
Intelligence, maturity
Humor
Shared or compatible interests, hobbies, views
Physical attractiveness (e.g., nice smile)
Open-mindedness, honesty, trustworthiness, loyalty
Caring, sensitive
Want someone who is able to “kick ass”
Can share adventures
Can relate better, have something to talk about
Have to be able to “get” humor
Relate to each other’s interests, do them together
Visual cues are important; have to have a least some level of attraction
Avoid some conflicts, be able to trust and rely on other
Easier to be open with someone who is caring
Do we look for the same things in friends as in potential romantic partners?
What research says
Top qualities sought by other college students
Do the things we look for change over time or stay the same? What do you think?
What one study shows
Reactions?
Robert Sternberg’s (1988)
Triangle Theory of Love
What do we think about the 10 top questions:
Small group discussions
Each group is assigned a question or two.
Discuss and, as a group, come up with a consensus perspective (dissenting views can be mentioned)We’ll discuss perspectives as a class
PSY 101:
The Psychology of Personal Development
12/2/14 Agenda
Attraction & Relationships
SRJ: What attracts us?
4 Theories of Attraction/Relationships
In-Class Activity
SRJ Exercise: What do we find attractive?
In your Self-Reflection Journal, jot down a list of at least five things you look for in a potential romantic partner (just list the 5 things that first pop into your head).
Looking over your list, identify the 2-3 things you think would be most important to you in choosing a partner.
Why are the features you listed important to you?
What traits/qualities do we find a ...
Alcoholism Within A Multigenerational Traumagenic Family FrameworkRobert Rhoton
This is a presentation that presents the nature of traumagenic family dynamics and how those dynamics support the inter-generational transmission of trauma and addictions
Sex RelationshipChapter 1Role relationship · Casual·.docxbagotjesusa
Sex Relationship
Chapter 1:
Role relationship:
· Casual
· Interchangeable
· Limited behavior interdependence
· No interpersonal relationships
Interpersonal relationship:
1. Mutual influence (Behavior, attitude)
2. Connection at social or emotional level (Support and reciprocity)
3. Unique communication (shared experience, insider jokes, knowledge and disclosure of personal information)
4. Repeated interaction
Close/Intimate Relationship (Include all interpersonal relationship plus)
1. Emotional attachment (Deep emotional connection)
2. Irreplaceability
3. Need fulfillment
· Affection
· social inclusion
· behavior control
Five characteristic of relationship types:
1. Voluntary vs Involuntary (Friends and parents)
2. Genetically related vs nonrelated (Share gene or not)
3. Platonic vs Sexual
4. Romantic vs nonromantic
5. Sex and gender
5 Principle of interpersonal communication:
Principle 1 Exchange of verbal and non-verbal messages between two people
1. Repetition/Reinforcement (Consistent with message the person is making verbally)
2. Contradiction (undermine a message)
3. Substitution (take place of verbal message)
Principle 2 Communication is inevitable
· One must communicate in interpersonal setting
Principle 3 People use interpersonal communication to fulfill goals
1. Self-presentation goals (Convey information)
2. Relational goals (Improve relationship)
3. Instrumental goals (accomplish task, getting things done)
Principle 4 Interpersonal communication varies in effectiveness
1. Effective messages lead to shared meaning between a sender and receiver
2. Effective: A message is received the way it is intended
Principle 5 Every message contains both content and relational information
1. Content: Information at a literal level
2. Relational information: Context for interpreting the message
Chapter 2:
Social scientific theory: A statement that explains and predicts an element of human experience.
Social identity theory:
· Explains that people’s concept of themselves are linked to their membership in social group (Broad or narrow)
· Predict that social group use in-group behavior to create solidary and display their identity to outsiders
· Self-esteem, superior to others
Communication theory:
· Personal frame (An image about ourselves)
· Enactment frame (Identities develop or change through interaction with others)
· Relationship frame (Identity shaped by relationship we have)
· Communal frame (Identity shaped by groups we are part of and the culture in which we live)
Self-expansion theory:
· People are invested in personal growth
· People view close relationship as a means of growth
· People see both material or non-material benefits to relationships (Affection, sex, money, power and so on)
· Partners’ identities merge over time in complementary ways
Principle of identity management:
1. Provide use with hierarchical structure of who we are (Most important attributes will be stable over time)
2. Shaped through interact.
This helps people learn about peer pressure and what it is all about. It also helps people to learn how to control it and also helps people to know that it is possible to get influenced positively.
Operation “Blue Star” is the only event in the history of Independent India where the state went into war with its own people. Even after about 40 years it is not clear if it was culmination of states anger over people of the region, a political game of power or start of dictatorial chapter in the democratic setup.
The people of Punjab felt alienated from main stream due to denial of their just demands during a long democratic struggle since independence. As it happen all over the word, it led to militant struggle with great loss of lives of military, police and civilian personnel. Killing of Indira Gandhi and massacre of innocent Sikhs in Delhi and other India cities was also associated with this movement.
Acetabularia Information For Class 9 .docxvaibhavrinwa19
Acetabularia acetabulum is a single-celled green alga that in its vegetative state is morphologically differentiated into a basal rhizoid and an axially elongated stalk, which bears whorls of branching hairs. The single diploid nucleus resides in the rhizoid.
This slide is special for master students (MIBS & MIFB) in UUM. Also useful for readers who are interested in the topic of contemporary Islamic banking.
A workshop hosted by the South African Journal of Science aimed at postgraduate students and early career researchers with little or no experience in writing and publishing journal articles.
Macroeconomics- Movie Location
This will be used as part of your Personal Professional Portfolio once graded.
Objective:
Prepare a presentation or a paper using research, basic comparative analysis, data organization and application of economic information. You will make an informed assessment of an economic climate outside of the United States to accomplish an entertainment industry objective.
Executive Directors Chat Leveraging AI for Diversity, Equity, and InclusionTechSoup
Let’s explore the intersection of technology and equity in the final session of our DEI series. Discover how AI tools, like ChatGPT, can be used to support and enhance your nonprofit's DEI initiatives. Participants will gain insights into practical AI applications and get tips for leveraging technology to advance their DEI goals.
A review of the growth of the Israel Genealogy Research Association Database Collection for the last 12 months. Our collection is now passed the 3 million mark and still growing. See which archives have contributed the most. See the different types of records we have, and which years have had records added. You can also see what we have for the future.
Read| The latest issue of The Challenger is here! We are thrilled to announce that our school paper has qualified for the NATIONAL SCHOOLS PRESS CONFERENCE (NSPC) 2024. Thank you for your unwavering support and trust. Dive into the stories that made us stand out!
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