This document discusses guilt and provides interventions to help people deal with guilt. It defines guilt and explores its impacts. It identifies sources of guilt such as childhood experiences, religious teachings, and existential issues. The document provides activities people can do to address guilt, such as writing guilt slips, keeping a guilt journal, reframing situations, and using affirmations. It emphasizes that identifying sources of guilt is the first step and that holding onto guilt weighs people down.
21 Warning Signs of Unhealthy Intimate RelationshipMoshe Ratson
Here are 21 warning signs of unhealthy dynamics in intimate relationships that can’t be ignored. It is not easy to accept the difficulties in your relationship, but the sooner you face reality, the sooner you can move forward and build healthy fulfilling and lasting relationship.
Mrs. Z displays characteristics of a psychopath, manipulating and sowing seeds of conflict between her husband and his family. She is socially irresponsible, unable to distinguish right from wrong, and shows no remorse or empathy. Her unpredictable and abusive behavior creates tension for her husband, who becomes diabetic from the stress. A psychopath is defined as having antisocial personality disorder, shown through manipulation and violation of others, lack of empathy, and disregard for rules/safety of others. Psychopathy is diagnosed by evaluating thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and relationships for patterns of aggression, opposition, and risk-taking. Female psychopaths seek attention and play the victim while undermining others through lies, bullying, and destroying reputations.
The document provides an overview of the Enneagram of Personality. It describes the Enneagram as a method for understanding personality types and facilitating self-development. There are 9 main personality types in the Enneagram system. Each type is associated with a core fear, desire, and unhealthy/healthy characteristics. The document also briefly outlines some of the key aspects of a few of the personality types.
Overcoming Shame By Mr. Nilesh Mandlecha
Overcoming Shame
When Socially unacceptable thing has happened with you and people look down at you- How you can deal with this situation is explained in this video.
For info log on to www.healthlibrary.com.
The document discusses negative habits and addictions to negativity. It states that negativity pollutes both the person exhibiting it and those around them over extended periods of time. Negativity becomes a habit that seeps into all aspects of one's interactions and begins to define them to others. The document advises seeking feedback from loving people in one's life to identify any negative attributes and vowing to change bad habits that need improvement. It concludes by stating that individually and collectively, changing oneself by developing good habits can change the world and make it more loving.
The document describes the nine personality types of the Enneagram system. It provides details about the core traits and motivations of Type One (The Perfectionist), Type Two (The Helper), and Type Three (The Achiever). For each type, it discusses what they typically like and find difficult about their personality, how they often were as children, how they tend to be as parents, and tips for getting along with them.
This document discusses guilt and provides interventions to help people deal with guilt. It defines guilt and explores its impacts. It identifies sources of guilt such as childhood experiences, religious teachings, and existential issues. The document provides activities people can do to address guilt, such as writing guilt slips, keeping a guilt journal, reframing situations, and using affirmations. It emphasizes that identifying sources of guilt is the first step and that holding onto guilt weighs people down.
21 Warning Signs of Unhealthy Intimate RelationshipMoshe Ratson
Here are 21 warning signs of unhealthy dynamics in intimate relationships that can’t be ignored. It is not easy to accept the difficulties in your relationship, but the sooner you face reality, the sooner you can move forward and build healthy fulfilling and lasting relationship.
Mrs. Z displays characteristics of a psychopath, manipulating and sowing seeds of conflict between her husband and his family. She is socially irresponsible, unable to distinguish right from wrong, and shows no remorse or empathy. Her unpredictable and abusive behavior creates tension for her husband, who becomes diabetic from the stress. A psychopath is defined as having antisocial personality disorder, shown through manipulation and violation of others, lack of empathy, and disregard for rules/safety of others. Psychopathy is diagnosed by evaluating thoughts, feelings, behaviors, and relationships for patterns of aggression, opposition, and risk-taking. Female psychopaths seek attention and play the victim while undermining others through lies, bullying, and destroying reputations.
The document provides an overview of the Enneagram of Personality. It describes the Enneagram as a method for understanding personality types and facilitating self-development. There are 9 main personality types in the Enneagram system. Each type is associated with a core fear, desire, and unhealthy/healthy characteristics. The document also briefly outlines some of the key aspects of a few of the personality types.
Overcoming Shame By Mr. Nilesh Mandlecha
Overcoming Shame
When Socially unacceptable thing has happened with you and people look down at you- How you can deal with this situation is explained in this video.
For info log on to www.healthlibrary.com.
The document discusses negative habits and addictions to negativity. It states that negativity pollutes both the person exhibiting it and those around them over extended periods of time. Negativity becomes a habit that seeps into all aspects of one's interactions and begins to define them to others. The document advises seeking feedback from loving people in one's life to identify any negative attributes and vowing to change bad habits that need improvement. It concludes by stating that individually and collectively, changing oneself by developing good habits can change the world and make it more loving.
The document describes the nine personality types of the Enneagram system. It provides details about the core traits and motivations of Type One (The Perfectionist), Type Two (The Helper), and Type Three (The Achiever). For each type, it discusses what they typically like and find difficult about their personality, how they often were as children, how they tend to be as parents, and tips for getting along with them.
Karen Horney agreed with Freud that unconscious motivations and sexuality were important, but believed he overemphasized biology. She saw the Oedipus complex in terms of family dynamics rather than biology. Horney believed neurosis stemmed from a lack of love in childhood rather than the Oedipus complex. She identified defensive strategies people use to cope with not feeling loved, such as moving toward, against, or away from others, which can develop into compliant, aggressive, or detached personality types.
The document outlines 10 qualities of trustworthy people: 1) they demonstrate integrity through their actions rather than just words; 2) they prioritize relationships over opportunities for personal gain; 3) they have clear boundaries and priorities to avoid exploiting relationships; 4) they do not harbor resentment or envy towards others; 5) they do not seek validation from others in ways that compromise trust; 6) they are dependable and follow through on commitments; 7) they have self-ownership and do not rely on others for attention; 8) they are loyal but will not enable harmful behavior; 9) they can speak hard truths in a loving way without being brutal; 10) they are physically relaxed in the presence of others, indicating a foundation of
This document provides a collection of quotes from over 12,000 discussions on Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The quotes describe the horrific abuse inflicted by those with NPD, including attempted murder, physical and mental abuse requiring hospitalization, financial ruin, stalking, bullying, sexual abuse, and more. Living with a narcissist is described as being like "hell on earth" or in a "cult". The quotes aim to help victims understand NPD and how to protect themselves from further abuse.
The Imposter Syndrome is a collection of behaviors and negative feelings formed around a pervasive idea and fear that you are not as good as other people think you are. No matter how much praise you receive or what you achieve, this idea does not change.] If you suffer from Imposter Syndrome, you tend to believe that you and what you achieve are never good enough. You also think that you aren't as qualified, as smart, or as talented as others believe, and that you're effectively an "imposter" or a "fake" who hasn't yet been discovered. You don't share your authentic self with others for fear that you will be rejected or devalued in some way. Your energy goes into trying to be perfect lest anyone discover your vulnerabilities or the emotions you perceive as weaknesses.
Jealousy stems from a fear of losing something valuable, like a relationship, and a lack of self-worth. It is often rooted in past rejection or broken trust from an early age. To overcome jealousy, one must identify the triggers, build self-confidence through positive self-talk and comparing oneself less to others, learn to trust by giving others the benefit of the doubt and addressing relationship needs openly, and help others through volunteer work to shift the focus away from oneself. With support, self-examination, willingness to change, and hard work, overcoming jealousy is possible.
this presentation is about Inferiority complex,Inferiority Feelings and Personality. It is based on types of inferiority complex, Causes of inferiority complex,Tests for inferiority complex ,Superiority complex,Causes of superiority complex
Difference between Inferiority & Superiority complex
How to overcome Inferiority complex& how to overcome superiority complex.
The document lists 21 common symptoms of low self-esteem, including indecisive decision making, perfectionism, shame, inability to handle criticism, negative self-talk, constant worrying, lack of care about physical appearance, making excuses, dependence on others acceptance, pessimism, fear of change, and putting others down. It encourages readers to work on improving self-esteem by addressing negative thinking patterns and behaviors.
Early attachment disturbances and trauma can lead to narcissism and addiction as coping mechanisms for emotional needs. Shame, from not having dependency needs met as a child, is a core belief for many addicts. Healthy relationships and intimacy through recovery can help meet needs in a healthy way and reduce shame. Therapists must confront, contain, educate, and work within the relationship to help clients replace addictions with healthy coping skills.
Co-dependents grow up never having learned how to be themselves, or even what their true
identity really is. In adulthood this causes them to become over-identified with other people,
particular roles, jobs or professions. They basically focus on others problems to avoid having to
look at their own stuff. They try to change others – they are those who are heard saying: “I’d be
all right if only everybody else would change”. This talk gets to the heart of what this very
misunderstood process addiction is about.
Is Donald Trump a Narcissist? Learn the signs and you decide.Tracy Malone
Is Donald Trump a Narcissist? A trending question as we will soon have him as our president. never before has a mental illness been on the minds of the people of the world. In this presentation I have put together the behaviors, red flags and the actual symptoms someone must present in order to be diagnosed as a narcissist.
Relationships In and Out of Addiction and Recovery - May 2010Dawn Farm
"Relationships In and Out of Addiction and Recovery and Recovery" was presented by Ed Conlin, BSEd, CAC-R; addiction counselor, Detroit Capuchin Service System; and Janice Firn, LMSW; Clinical Social Worker, University of Michigan Hospital. This program describes the process of self-actualization; the formation of personal bonds; the dynamics of relationships in addiction; how patterns in thought, action and relationships are affected by addiction; and key attitudes and tools for healthy relationships. It is part of the Dawn Farm Education Series, a FREE, annual workshop series developed to provide accurate, helpful, hopeful, practical, current information about chemical dependency, recovery, family and related issues. The Education Series is organized by Dawn Farm, a non-profit community of programs providing a continuum of chemical dependency services. For information, please see http://www.dawnfarm.org/programs/education-series.
Handling rejection causes feelings of loss of self-esteem and identity. While rejection initially causes anger and depression, it can motivate you to take action and aim higher. Rather than viewing rejection as a sign of inadequacy, see it as a mismatch with the situation that allows for growth. When facing rejection, pause to release fantasies, recognize what you really want versus settling for safety, and take action by reaching out more and trying new activities. View rejection as freeing you to pursue opportunities better suited to your talents.
The document discusses several theories of narcissism:
1) Psychoanalytic approaches view narcissism as a normal developmental stage and that narcissists have unresolved issues they need to work through.
2) Trait approaches see narcissism as an extreme form of a trait like low self-monitoring.
3) Biological approaches argue genetics are to blame and treatment is ineffective.
4) Behavioral approaches see narcissism resulting from unhealthy reactions and overcompensation when feeling threatened.
This document provides an introduction to the Enneagram personality typing system presented by Margaret Rahn. It discusses the history and origins of the Enneagram, describes the nine personality types organized into three centers of intelligence (heart, mind, body), explains how to determine one's own type, and provides sources to learn more about the Enneagram.
This document discusses jealousy and unhealthy behaviors in relationships. It defines jealousy and provides examples of jealous behaviors. It states that jealousy stems from insecurity and has no place in healthy relationships. Red flags of unhealthy jealousy are listed, such as excessive checking in on a partner or not allowing them to talk to others. The document advises listening to common sense and paying attention to feelings that a partner is being too controlling or possessive, as these behaviors can escalate over time. It emphasizes that while each relationship is different, abuse can take non-physical forms through attempts to control a partner. Resources for help or to talk are provided.
Survivor's guilt is a deep feeling of guilt experienced by those who survived a catastrophe that others did not. It stems from feelings of being unworthy compared to those who died. Survivor's guilt is under-recognized, little studied, and rarely discussed as a consequence of survival. It can take both rational and irrational forms and causes people to question why they survived when others did not. While normal and common, intense survivor's guilt may require support to work through grief and come to accept rather than minimize the feeling of guilt.
This document provides an overview of the Enneagram personality types developed by the Ennea Development Group (EDG). It describes three types - Type 1 "The Perfectionist", Type 2 "The Helper", and Type 3 "The Achiever" - and their key attributes. EDG offers online tests and reports to help individuals identify their type and understand their personality strengths and challenges. The full document provides more details on each type's behaviors and communication styles.
This document discusses Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It begins by defining narcissism and outlining the diagnostic criteria according to the DSM, which includes an inflated sense of self-importance, need for admiration, lack of empathy, and arrogance. It discusses research showing that narcissists have positive views of agentic domains like intelligence but negative views of communal domains like relationships. Tests have found that narcissists implicitly have low self-esteem despite outward displays of arrogance. The document concludes that narcissists struggle with intimacy and relationships due to their self-absorption, and there is no certain cure for this personality disorder.
This document discusses leadership challenges in anxious congregations. It notes that chronic anxiety can cause small groups to splinter off or a manipulative power group to form. Differentiation is described as the ability to think clearly, act on principle, define oneself, regulate reactions, and make responsible choices. Undifferentiated leaders focus on others' feelings rather than their own. The document provides strategies for leaders to address anxiety, including recognizing resistance as normal, exercising patience, and managing their own anxiety. It also discusses the importance of boundaries, defining the congregation's mission, and avoiding overfunctioning in pastoral care.
This document discusses concepts related to anxiety, differentiation, and healthy leadership in religious communities. It notes that chronically anxious church families may splinter off or submit to manipulative power groups. Leaders must recognize resistance as normal and let their own values guide decisions rather than emotional bonds. Differentiation involves thinking clearly, acting on principle, regulating reactions, and choosing responsibility. Healthy leaders tolerate pain to use anxious times creatively and manage their own anxiety rather than accommodating the weakest members. Boundaries must be enforced to prevent harm. The immune system analogy applies - leaders provide healthy struggle around mission and accountability.
Self-harm involves intentionally injuring oneself as a way to cope with overwhelming emotions or difficult situations. It is commonly seen in those who have experienced abuse, neglect, or other trauma. While self-harm often arises from deep psychological distress, people who engage in these behaviors are not necessarily suicidal. The document provides an overview of common self-harming behaviors, potential triggers, and strategies for coping and getting support.
Karen Horney agreed with Freud that unconscious motivations and sexuality were important, but believed he overemphasized biology. She saw the Oedipus complex in terms of family dynamics rather than biology. Horney believed neurosis stemmed from a lack of love in childhood rather than the Oedipus complex. She identified defensive strategies people use to cope with not feeling loved, such as moving toward, against, or away from others, which can develop into compliant, aggressive, or detached personality types.
The document outlines 10 qualities of trustworthy people: 1) they demonstrate integrity through their actions rather than just words; 2) they prioritize relationships over opportunities for personal gain; 3) they have clear boundaries and priorities to avoid exploiting relationships; 4) they do not harbor resentment or envy towards others; 5) they do not seek validation from others in ways that compromise trust; 6) they are dependable and follow through on commitments; 7) they have self-ownership and do not rely on others for attention; 8) they are loyal but will not enable harmful behavior; 9) they can speak hard truths in a loving way without being brutal; 10) they are physically relaxed in the presence of others, indicating a foundation of
This document provides a collection of quotes from over 12,000 discussions on Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The quotes describe the horrific abuse inflicted by those with NPD, including attempted murder, physical and mental abuse requiring hospitalization, financial ruin, stalking, bullying, sexual abuse, and more. Living with a narcissist is described as being like "hell on earth" or in a "cult". The quotes aim to help victims understand NPD and how to protect themselves from further abuse.
The Imposter Syndrome is a collection of behaviors and negative feelings formed around a pervasive idea and fear that you are not as good as other people think you are. No matter how much praise you receive or what you achieve, this idea does not change.] If you suffer from Imposter Syndrome, you tend to believe that you and what you achieve are never good enough. You also think that you aren't as qualified, as smart, or as talented as others believe, and that you're effectively an "imposter" or a "fake" who hasn't yet been discovered. You don't share your authentic self with others for fear that you will be rejected or devalued in some way. Your energy goes into trying to be perfect lest anyone discover your vulnerabilities or the emotions you perceive as weaknesses.
Jealousy stems from a fear of losing something valuable, like a relationship, and a lack of self-worth. It is often rooted in past rejection or broken trust from an early age. To overcome jealousy, one must identify the triggers, build self-confidence through positive self-talk and comparing oneself less to others, learn to trust by giving others the benefit of the doubt and addressing relationship needs openly, and help others through volunteer work to shift the focus away from oneself. With support, self-examination, willingness to change, and hard work, overcoming jealousy is possible.
this presentation is about Inferiority complex,Inferiority Feelings and Personality. It is based on types of inferiority complex, Causes of inferiority complex,Tests for inferiority complex ,Superiority complex,Causes of superiority complex
Difference between Inferiority & Superiority complex
How to overcome Inferiority complex& how to overcome superiority complex.
The document lists 21 common symptoms of low self-esteem, including indecisive decision making, perfectionism, shame, inability to handle criticism, negative self-talk, constant worrying, lack of care about physical appearance, making excuses, dependence on others acceptance, pessimism, fear of change, and putting others down. It encourages readers to work on improving self-esteem by addressing negative thinking patterns and behaviors.
Early attachment disturbances and trauma can lead to narcissism and addiction as coping mechanisms for emotional needs. Shame, from not having dependency needs met as a child, is a core belief for many addicts. Healthy relationships and intimacy through recovery can help meet needs in a healthy way and reduce shame. Therapists must confront, contain, educate, and work within the relationship to help clients replace addictions with healthy coping skills.
Co-dependents grow up never having learned how to be themselves, or even what their true
identity really is. In adulthood this causes them to become over-identified with other people,
particular roles, jobs or professions. They basically focus on others problems to avoid having to
look at their own stuff. They try to change others – they are those who are heard saying: “I’d be
all right if only everybody else would change”. This talk gets to the heart of what this very
misunderstood process addiction is about.
Is Donald Trump a Narcissist? Learn the signs and you decide.Tracy Malone
Is Donald Trump a Narcissist? A trending question as we will soon have him as our president. never before has a mental illness been on the minds of the people of the world. In this presentation I have put together the behaviors, red flags and the actual symptoms someone must present in order to be diagnosed as a narcissist.
Relationships In and Out of Addiction and Recovery - May 2010Dawn Farm
"Relationships In and Out of Addiction and Recovery and Recovery" was presented by Ed Conlin, BSEd, CAC-R; addiction counselor, Detroit Capuchin Service System; and Janice Firn, LMSW; Clinical Social Worker, University of Michigan Hospital. This program describes the process of self-actualization; the formation of personal bonds; the dynamics of relationships in addiction; how patterns in thought, action and relationships are affected by addiction; and key attitudes and tools for healthy relationships. It is part of the Dawn Farm Education Series, a FREE, annual workshop series developed to provide accurate, helpful, hopeful, practical, current information about chemical dependency, recovery, family and related issues. The Education Series is organized by Dawn Farm, a non-profit community of programs providing a continuum of chemical dependency services. For information, please see http://www.dawnfarm.org/programs/education-series.
Handling rejection causes feelings of loss of self-esteem and identity. While rejection initially causes anger and depression, it can motivate you to take action and aim higher. Rather than viewing rejection as a sign of inadequacy, see it as a mismatch with the situation that allows for growth. When facing rejection, pause to release fantasies, recognize what you really want versus settling for safety, and take action by reaching out more and trying new activities. View rejection as freeing you to pursue opportunities better suited to your talents.
The document discusses several theories of narcissism:
1) Psychoanalytic approaches view narcissism as a normal developmental stage and that narcissists have unresolved issues they need to work through.
2) Trait approaches see narcissism as an extreme form of a trait like low self-monitoring.
3) Biological approaches argue genetics are to blame and treatment is ineffective.
4) Behavioral approaches see narcissism resulting from unhealthy reactions and overcompensation when feeling threatened.
This document provides an introduction to the Enneagram personality typing system presented by Margaret Rahn. It discusses the history and origins of the Enneagram, describes the nine personality types organized into three centers of intelligence (heart, mind, body), explains how to determine one's own type, and provides sources to learn more about the Enneagram.
This document discusses jealousy and unhealthy behaviors in relationships. It defines jealousy and provides examples of jealous behaviors. It states that jealousy stems from insecurity and has no place in healthy relationships. Red flags of unhealthy jealousy are listed, such as excessive checking in on a partner or not allowing them to talk to others. The document advises listening to common sense and paying attention to feelings that a partner is being too controlling or possessive, as these behaviors can escalate over time. It emphasizes that while each relationship is different, abuse can take non-physical forms through attempts to control a partner. Resources for help or to talk are provided.
Survivor's guilt is a deep feeling of guilt experienced by those who survived a catastrophe that others did not. It stems from feelings of being unworthy compared to those who died. Survivor's guilt is under-recognized, little studied, and rarely discussed as a consequence of survival. It can take both rational and irrational forms and causes people to question why they survived when others did not. While normal and common, intense survivor's guilt may require support to work through grief and come to accept rather than minimize the feeling of guilt.
This document provides an overview of the Enneagram personality types developed by the Ennea Development Group (EDG). It describes three types - Type 1 "The Perfectionist", Type 2 "The Helper", and Type 3 "The Achiever" - and their key attributes. EDG offers online tests and reports to help individuals identify their type and understand their personality strengths and challenges. The full document provides more details on each type's behaviors and communication styles.
This document discusses Narcissistic Personality Disorder. It begins by defining narcissism and outlining the diagnostic criteria according to the DSM, which includes an inflated sense of self-importance, need for admiration, lack of empathy, and arrogance. It discusses research showing that narcissists have positive views of agentic domains like intelligence but negative views of communal domains like relationships. Tests have found that narcissists implicitly have low self-esteem despite outward displays of arrogance. The document concludes that narcissists struggle with intimacy and relationships due to their self-absorption, and there is no certain cure for this personality disorder.
This document discusses leadership challenges in anxious congregations. It notes that chronic anxiety can cause small groups to splinter off or a manipulative power group to form. Differentiation is described as the ability to think clearly, act on principle, define oneself, regulate reactions, and make responsible choices. Undifferentiated leaders focus on others' feelings rather than their own. The document provides strategies for leaders to address anxiety, including recognizing resistance as normal, exercising patience, and managing their own anxiety. It also discusses the importance of boundaries, defining the congregation's mission, and avoiding overfunctioning in pastoral care.
This document discusses concepts related to anxiety, differentiation, and healthy leadership in religious communities. It notes that chronically anxious church families may splinter off or submit to manipulative power groups. Leaders must recognize resistance as normal and let their own values guide decisions rather than emotional bonds. Differentiation involves thinking clearly, acting on principle, regulating reactions, and choosing responsibility. Healthy leaders tolerate pain to use anxious times creatively and manage their own anxiety rather than accommodating the weakest members. Boundaries must be enforced to prevent harm. The immune system analogy applies - leaders provide healthy struggle around mission and accountability.
Self-harm involves intentionally injuring oneself as a way to cope with overwhelming emotions or difficult situations. It is commonly seen in those who have experienced abuse, neglect, or other trauma. While self-harm often arises from deep psychological distress, people who engage in these behaviors are not necessarily suicidal. The document provides an overview of common self-harming behaviors, potential triggers, and strategies for coping and getting support.
This document provides information about codependency, including what it is, where it comes from, symptoms, and how to overcome it. Codependency is an addictive relationship with other people or things where a person's self-worth depends on being in a relationship. It develops as a coping mechanism for dysfunctional families and can stem from substance abuse, mental illness, abuse or neglect. Symptoms include caretaking, low self-esteem, control issues, and responsibility for others. Overcoming codependency involves self-discovery, setting boundaries, and not basing self-worth on others through counseling or support groups. True intimacy involves each person being responsible for their own feelings.
The document discusses the concepts of self-esteem, including its importance and signs of low self-esteem. It explains that self-esteem develops from childhood experiences and one's inner voice. People with low self-esteem often consider themselves unworthy and seek approval, while those with high self-esteem have confidence and feel deserving. The pillars of self-esteem are self-acceptance, living consciously, taking responsibility, assertiveness, living purposefully, and integrity.
Discovering Trauma Bond Relationships | Solh Wellness.pdfSolh Wellness
Understanding trauma bonding – identifying abusive and distressing relationships and rewarding them with brief positive reinforcement – is critical to understanding why people find it difficult to leave painful relationships. Solh Wellness explains about it's Symptoms and Signs and the Most Effective Way to Break the Bond.
The document discusses signs of healthy and unhealthy relationships. It provides tips for maintaining healthy relationships, including open communication, respect, trust, and balance. Unhealthy relationship signs include criticism, contempt, defensiveness and stonewalling. The document advises being aware of oneself, one's partner, and the relationship to foster balance and make conscious choices.
We’re all capable of abuse when we’re frustrated or hurt. We may be guilty of criticizing, judging, withholding, and controlling, but some abusers, including narcissists, take abuse to a different level.
This document outlines four basic styles of communication: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, and assertive. Passive communication is avoiding expressing opinions and needs, leading to feelings of anxiety and resentment. Aggressive communication violates others' rights through domination and criticism. Passive-aggressive communication involves indirect anger through sabotage while appearing cooperative. Assertive communication clearly states opinions and needs without violating others' rights, allowing individuals to feel in control and connected to others.
The article titled "A Comperehensive Guide to Crush.pdf" provides readers with a detailed exploration of the concept of crushes. It covers various aspects associated with crushes, including the types of crushes, reasons behind them, and the psychology behind them.
The article also delves into the physical and emotional signs of having a crush, as well as tips on how to cope with a crush and move on from one. Additionally, it provides advice on how to handle rejection from a crush and examines the different settings in which crushes can occur.
Furthermore, the article discusses the darker side of crushes, including obsessive behavior and stalking, the dangers of online crushes, and the impact of crushes on mental health.
Overall, this article provides readers with a comprehensive understanding of the complexities of having a crush and how to navigate them effectively. It is a valuable resource for anyone who has ever experienced the rollercoaster of emotions that comes with having a crush.
This document discusses emotional abuse and provides guidance for identifying it. Emotional abuse can be difficult to detect as there are no physical scars. However, some signs are a "haggard" look, confusion, anger without a clear cause, reluctance to communicate with their partner, atypical depression or anxiety without a clear reason, and a lost sense of self. The abuser often blames the abused for problems and does not see their own abusive behaviors as a fault. Therapy is focused on the abused person's problems. Suggestions are provided for helping emotionally abused clients leave abusive situations if they choose and for developing coping skills to deal with the abuse.
This document discusses the final stage of life known as lifespan. It addresses reflection on one's life, attachment styles in older adults and their effects on caregiving, models of grief and dysfunctional grieving, losses that occur with aging including health and functions, and risks of suicide in mature adults. The presentation emphasizes finding wisdom by embracing all parts of one's life, compassion for others, and making the most of one's final years.
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THE LAUNDRY LIST
The Laundry List – 14 Traits of an Adult Child of an Alcoholic
1. We became isolated and afraid of people and authority figures.
2. We became approval seekers and lost our identity in the process.
3. We are frightened by angry people and any personal criticism.
4. We either become alcoholics, marry them or both, or find another compulsive personality such as a workaholic to fulfill our sick abandonment needs.
5. We live life from the viewpoint of victims and we are attracted by that weakness in our love and friendship relationships.
6. We have an overdeveloped sense of responsibility and it is easier for us to be concerned with others rather than ourselves; this enables us not to look too closely at our own faults, etc.
7. We get guilt feelings when we stand up for ourselves instead of giving in to others.
8. We became addicted to excitement.
9. We confuse love and pity and tend to "love" people we can "pity" and "rescue."
10. We have "stuffed" our feelings from our traumatic childhoods and have lost the ability to feel or express our feelings because it hurts so much (Denial).
11. We judge ourselves harshly and have a very low sense of self-esteem.
12. We are dependent personalities who are terrified of abandonment and will do anything to hold on to a relationship in order not to experience painful abandonment feelings, which we received from living with sick people who were never there emotionally for us.
13. Alcoholism is a family disease; and we became para-alcoholics and took on the characteristics of that disease even though we did not pick up the drink.
14. Para-alcoholics are reactors rather than actors.
Tony A., 1978
Note: The Laundry List serves as the basis for The Problem statement.
The Flip Side of The Laundry List
1. We move out of isolation and are not unrealistically afraid of other people, even authority
figures.
2. We do not depend on others to tell us who we are.
3. We are not automatically frightened by angry people and no longer regard personal criticism as a threat.
4. We do not have a compulsive need to recreate abandonment.
5. We stop living life from the standpoint of victims and are not attracted by this trait in our important relationships.
6. We do not use enabling as a way to avoid looking at our own shortcomings.
7. We do not feel guilty when we stand up for ourselves.
8. We avoid emotional intoxication and choose workable relationships instead of constant
upset.
9. We are able to distinguish love from pity, and do not think “rescuing” people we “pity” is an act of love.
10. We come out of denial about our traumatic childhoods and regain the ability to feel and express our emotions.
11. We stop judging and condemning ourselves and discover a sense of self-worth.
12. We grow in independence and are no longer terrified of abandonment. We have interdependent relationships with healthy people, not dependent relationships with people who are emotionally unavailable.
13. The characteristics of alcohol ...
Inferiority complex destroys many precious moments of your life. It is really sad that some people feel that they are not up to standards in any group or class. In this presentation we have shown how to get over inferiority complex?
The document summarizes The Arbinger Institute's book "Leadership and Self-Deception" which discusses how people have a tendency to view others as objects rather than fully as people ("in the box") and how this hinders collaboration and productivity. It notes that getting "in the box" involves betraying one's own sense of how one should treat others and then justifying this irrational behavior. Addressing this issue can help improve discretionary behavior, collaboration, creativity, innovation and leadership within teams.
Fear of being judged is a common insecurity that plagues many individuals, hindering their personal growth and preventing them from fully embracing their true selves.
Whether it stems from past experiences, societal pressures, or a deep- rooted need for acceptance, this fear can be suffocating and hold us back from flourishing in various aspects of life.
However, there is hope!
In this exploration of overcoming the fear of being judged, we will delve into the origins of this fear, its impact on our lives, and most importantly, unveil empowering strategies and mindset shifts that can help us break free from its shackles.
So, if you have ever felt the weight of judgment crushing your spirit and yearned for the courage to rise above it, join us in this enlightening journey towards embracing authenticity and reclaiming our lives.
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Exploring Life Traps - Growth & Healing
1. Exploring The
Life Traps That
Prevent Us From
Living In The
Fullness of Christ
By: Kelly Johnson, MA, LPC
www.centerforhealingandchange.com
2. Scriptural Truths / Realities - Those in Messiah
John 1:12 I am God's child.
John 15:15
As a disciple, I am a friend of
Jesus Christ.
Romans 5:1 I have been justified.
1 Corinthians 6:17
I am united with the Lord, and I
am one with Him in spirit.
1 Corinthians 6:19-20
I have been bought with a price
and I belong to God.
1 Corinthians 12:27 I am a member of Christ's body.
Ephesians 1:3-8
I have been chosen by God and
adopted as His child.
Ephesians 3:12
I may approach God with freedom
and confidence.
Philippians 4:13 I can do all things through Christ,
3. Our Identity is in Christ…
! However, often times we struggle with
emotions such as inadequacy, shame, self
hatred, loneliness, abandonment, fear,
etc. Where is the JOY, CONTENTMENT,
SECURITY?
4. Wounds and Life Traps
! When our needs in childhood are not met, we
don’t thrive as children and we develop life
traps that hinder us from functioning in a
healthy manner.
! The reality is everybody has life traps and there
are no perfect parents either! ☺
! Eliminate ALL or NOTHING thinking in your
perspective of your parents and also of
yourself as a parent!
5. Basic Needs of a Child
! Security and Safety
! Connection to Others
! Independent Functioning
! Self Esteem
! Self Expression
! Limit Setting
6. Life Traps 101
! When our basic needs are not met in
childhood we develop a life trap.
! Life Traps are patterns that start in
childhood and recreate themselves
through out our whole lives.
! life traps are very resistant to change and
we view the world through our Life Traps
7. THE ELEVEN LIFE TRAPS
Basic Safety
1. abandonment
2. mistrust and abuse
Connection to others
3. Emotional Deprivation
4. Social Exclusion
Autonomy
5. Dependence
6. Vulnerability to harm or illness
9. ABANDONMENT / INSTABILITY
The perceived unreliability of those available for support and connection. Involves
the sense that significant others will not be able to continue providing emotional
support, connection, strength, or practical protection because they are
emotionally unstable and unpredictable (e.g., angry outbursts), unreliable, or
erratically present; because they will die imminently; or because they will abandon
the patient in favor of someone better.
MISTRUST / ABUSE
The expectation that others will hurt, abuse, humiliate, cheat, lie, manipulate, or
take advantage. Usually involves the perception that the harm is intentional or
the result of unjustified and extreme negligence. May include the sense that one
always ends up being cheated relative to others or "getting the short end of the
stick.
10. EMOTIONAL DEPRIVATION
Expectation that one's desire for a normal degree of emotional support will not
be adequately met by others. The three major forms of deprivation are:
A. Deprivation of Nurturance: Absence of attention, affection, warmth, or
companionship.
B. Deprivation of Empathy: Absence of understanding, listening, self-
disclosure, or mutual sharing of feelings from others.
C. Deprivation of Protection: Absence of strength, direction, or guidance
from others.
DEFECTIVENESS / SHAME
The feeling that one is defective, bad, unwanted, inferior, or that one would be
unlovable to significant others if exposed. May involve hypersensitivity to
criticism, rejection, and blame; self-consciousness, comparisons, and insecurity
around others; or a sense of shame regarding one's perceived flaws
11. SOCIAL EXCLUSION
The feeling that one is isolated from the rest of the world, different from other
people, and/or not part of any group or community.
DEPENDENCE / INCOMPETENCE
Belief that one is unable to handle one's everyday responsibilities in a competent
manner, without considerable help from others (e.g., take care of oneself, solve
daily problems, exercise good judgment, tackle new tasks, make good decisions).
VULNERABILITY TO HARM OR ILLNESS
Exaggerated fear that imminent catastrophe will strike at any time and that one
will be unable to prevent it. Fears focus on one or more of the following: (A)
Medical Catastrophes, (B) Emotional Catastrophes: e.g., going crazy; (C):
External Catastrophes: e.g., elevators collapsing, victimized by criminals, airplane
crashes, earthquakes.
12. FAILURE
The belief that one has failed, will inevitably fail, or is fundamentally inadequate
relative to one's peers, in areas of achievement (school, career, sports, etc.).
Often involves beliefs that one is stupid, inept, untalented, ignorant, lower in
status, less successful than others, etc.
ENTITLEMENT / GRANDIOSITY
The belief that one is superior to other people, these people are typically selfish,
narcissistic, struggle with empathy, and resist admitting wrongs or apologizing.
13. SUBJUGATION
Excessive surrendering of control to others because one feels coerced
usually to avoid anger, retaliation, or abandonment. The two major forms of
subjugation are:
A. Subjugation of Needs: Suppression of one's preferences, decisions, and
desires.
B. Subjugation of Emotions: Suppression of emotional expression, especially
anger.
Usually involves the perception that one's own desires, opinions, and feelings
are not valid or important to others. Frequently presents as excessive
compliance, combined with hypersensitivity to feeling trapped.
UNRELENTING STANDARDS / HYPERCRITICALNESS
The underlying belief that one must strive to meet very high internalized
standards of behavior and performance, usually to avoid criticism. Typically
results in feelings of pressure or difficulty slowing down; and in hypocriticalness
toward oneself and others.
14. HEALING THE LIFE TRAP
! 1. Identify your top Life Traps and pick one life trap you would
like to work on.
! 2. Understand the Childhood Origins of Your Life Trap.
! 3. Write letters to the parent, sibling, or peer who helped caused
your life trap. (no need to mail ☺ )
! 4. Examine your life trap pattern in DETAIL in the present!
! 5. Create Flash Cards
! 6. Start Pattern Breaking in your Thoughts and Behaviors
15. Thoughts and Behaviors
! All Behaviors and Thoughts either:
! HEAL THE LIFE TRAP (MAKE IT SMALLER!)
Or
! REINFORCE THE LIFE TRAP (MAKE IT BIGGER!)
! Example- if my life trap is social isolation, the more I isolate from
other people, the more different I feel and my fear of people
grows. When I conquer my fears, connect with others, go to
events, and calm the bully in my head that tells me how
different I am, I am healing my life trap.
! Self awareness is power, be AWARE!
16.
The Healing Journey
! Utilize flash cards to help when life trap gets activated (see
example)
! learn to stop catastrophizing about temporary separation from
others
! use cognitive strategies focus on altering the unrealistic
expectation that others should be endlessly available and
totally consistent
! learn to accept that other people have the right to set limits
and establish separate space
! stop pushing partners away with behaviors that are too jealous,
clinging, angry or controlling
! Gradually learn to tolerate being alone and walk away from
unstable relationships quickly, and become more comfortable
in stable relationships.
17. Rx: Remedies for Lifetraps
(Mistrust and Abuse)
! learn to recognize a spectrum of trustworthiness
! alter your view of worthlessness/self blame—stop making
excuses for the abuser; place blame where it belongs
! venting anger is of primary importance
! gradually learn to trust honest people—share the secrets and
memories with a partner or friend
! join a support group
! choose non-abusive partners—stop mistreating others and set
limits with abusive people
! be less punitive when other people make mistakes
! allow people to get close and get intimate
! stop gathering evidence and keeping score about the things
people have done to hurt you
18. Rx: Remedies for Lifetraps
(Emotional Deprivation)
! antidote to the deprivation is a warm, empathic, and protective
environment where you can get many of your emotional needs
met
! choose good quality partners and friends, identify your own
needs, and ask to have these needs met in appropriate ways
! change exaggerated sense that others are acting selfishly or
depriving you
! choose nurturing partners and friends and actively seek
intimacy
! stop responding with excessive anger to mild levels of
deprivation, or withdrawing or isolating when you feel
neglected by others.
19. Rx: Remedies for Lifetraps
(Defectiveness and Shame)
! highlight your assets and reduce the significance assigned to your flaws
! rather than being inherent, flaws are behaviors learned in childhood that can be
changed or they are not flaws at all, but over-criticalness
! reattribute feelings of defectiveness to the criticalness of significant others
! flash cards listing good qualities are very helpful
! work on choosing others who are supportive rather than critical—select partners
who love and accept you
! learn to stop over-reacting to criticism—when it is valid criticism accept it and try to
change; when it is not valid, simply state your point of view and affirm internally
that the criticism is false
! self-disclose more to significant others whom you trust—the more you share and are
accepted, the more you will overcome your life trap
20. Rx: Remedies for Lifetraps (Social
Exclusion and Isolation)
! group therapy may be useful, especially if you avoid friendships
! you are not as different from other people as you think—you
share many qualities with all people, and some of the qualities
you regard as distinguishing you are in fact universal
! focus on your similarities with other people as well as your
differences—learn to identify subgroups of people who are like
you
! challenge automatic negative thoughts that block you from
joining groups and connecting to people
! anxiety management can help you cope with social anxiety
! social skills training can assist you to learn important
interpersonal and group skills.
21. Rx: Remedies for Lifetraps
(Dependence/Incompetance)
! there is a need to alter the view that you need constant
assistance to function
! use flash cards, problem solving to make decisions and
challenge negative thoughts
! explore the view that depending on others is a desirable
way to live
! excessive dependence on others has a cost i.e.,
unfulfilled autonomy and self-expression
! learn relaxation, meditation, or other anxiety-reducing
techniques
! there is need to confront anxiety-arousing situations via
graded tasks e.g., rehearsals, rewards.
22. Rx: Remedies for Lifetraps
(Vulnerability to harm or illness)
! stay focused on the long-term consequence of living a phobic
lifestyle, such as lost opportunities for fun and self-exploration
! focus on the positive benefits of moving more freely in the world,
such as a richer, fuller life
! overcoming anxiety and avoidance are a central focus of
treatment
! lower your estimation of the probability of catastrophic events &
raise your estimation of your capacity to cope
! de-catastrophising helps you to manage anxiety symptoms and
panic attacks
! develop strategies to help give up magical rituals and safety signals,
and face situations you fear
! explore non-phobic ways of viewing and handling acceptable
levels of risk.
23. Rx: Remedies for Lifetraps
(Failure)
! challenge the view that you are inherently inept and reattribute
failure to inadvertently acting to defeat your attempts to
succeed (it is the lifetrap that has caused the failure)
! highlight your success and skills, and do not ignore your
accomplishments and accentuate the failures (Success Journal)
! set realistic, long-term goals—lower any unrealistically high
expectations
! Its healthy to express you anger at others for not recognizing
and accepting your strengths and limitations. This is an
important part of the process of letting go emotionally of this
lifetrap ( this can be done with letter writing or in person if the
person is trustworthy)
24. Rx: Remedies for Lifetraps
(Entitlement/Narcissism)
! remind yourself what the consequences will be if you’re not willing to
change your sense of entitlement
! working on your interpersonal relationships is very important—you
need to develop empathy and concern for others.
! Work on your defensiveness, listen to people when their talking or
upset with you.
! Apologize when you have done wrong, instead of manipulating
situations so you are never at fault.
! Admit your Flaws in the moment, everybody has them.
! you may have spent your life selectively focusing on your assets and
minimizing flaws and may not have a realistic view of your strengths
and weaknesses, so there is a need to develop a more realistically
balanced view of yourself
! you have to follow the same rules as everyone else—you do not
have special rights
25. Rx: Remedies for Lifetraps
(Unrelenting Standards)
! learn to view performance as lying on a spectrum from “poor to
perfect,” with many gradations in between rather than as an all-or-
nothing phenomenon
! explore the advantages of lowering your standards—the benefits
that would accrue to you health and happiness, all the ways you
are suffering as a result of unrelenting standards, and the ways the
lifetrap is damaging your enjoyment of life and relationships with
others
! the cost of the lifetrap is greater than the benefits—this conclusion is
the leverage that can motivate you to change
! reduce the perceived risks of imperfection—imperfection is not a
crime—making mistakes does not have the extreme negative
consequences you anticipate design experiments to help rein in the
perfectionism—to do less and to do it less well—schedule how much
time you are going to spend working versus doing other things, such
as playing or connecting to others,
26. Rx: Remedies for Lifetraps
(Subjugation)
! Realize your negative expectations about the
consequences of expressing your needs and feelings to
significant others are exaggerated—you need to learn
that you are acting in a healthy manner when you
express your needs and feelings appropriately
! it is vital to select relatively non-controlling partners and
friends
! assertiveness techniques can help you learn to assert
your needs and feelings with others—you can work to
individuate from others
! you need to identify your natural inclinations and
practice acting on them—use imagery and role-play,
and then express these preferences for real as a
homework assignment.
27. Relationships and Life traps
! Life traps cause significant miscommunication
and misunderstanding in relationships.
! Identify when your life traps are being activated
vs. taking it out on your significant other. Also
realize that your partners reaction might be
based off of you activating their life trap.
! Bring defenses down, take feedback and
criticism with grace and love when an individual
is speaking truth.
! Participate in active listening
28. Healing our Life Traps
! When we heal our life traps, we can start to believe the
truth about who we are in Messiah.
! We are his daughter
! We are his beloved
! We sin, we fall short, and we need him. (for the
entitlement folks!)
! We are worthy
! We are valuable, our weaknesses make us need him,
they do not make us inadequate.
! We belong
! We are enough
“And The Truth Came to Set You Free!”
God really does LOVE us as much as he says he does!
29. Favorite Quotes!
“fail your way to success. Failure is not
about failing, failure is when we fail and we
don’t get back up again afterwards”
“Healing is all about taking two steps back
and one step forward, but the goal is we are
still taking steps moving forward!”
Grace, grace, grace!
30. Resources/Works Cited
! Reinventing Your Life: How to Break Free from Negative Life Patterns
and Feel Good Again. Author: Jeffrey Young
! www.schematherapy.org (summaries)
! http://www.johnbarletta.com (remedies)
! Online Test to identify your schema’s/life traps.
www.lifetraptest.com
Therapy Referrals for further exploration of issues if needed ☺
! Redimere Group-DTC
303-713-1001
! Front Range Counseling Center
303.933.5800
! Center for Healing and Change (my practice ☺)
720-204-8747