This workshop was presented to parents. These are quick tips to help parents get past common struggles

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Struggle Bus
Getting off the Parenting Struggle Bus with
Dr. Angela Searcy:
A Model for Positive Parenting
708-845-2343 asearcya@aol.com @angelassimplesolutions
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Research Shows Challenging Behaviors Are COMMON Among
Young Children

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Children have a hard time:
Waiting, sharing, knowing how long something will take, talking about emotions, buttoning,
following directions, going to sleep, waking up, etc.
They get hungry, and tire easily.
Prevention is the BEST intervention! Positive
Parenting is all about being proactive!
Knowing It Takes 25 YEARS to fully develop Social
Skills Helps you PREDICT and PLAN

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Move past the What to the WHY! Make
Sure Your Child Can HEAR and SEE! Make
Sure the is no medical reason for behavior
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I won’t go to bed
Consult your doctor

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I am scarred of Monsters! I won’t wake up
Are YOU disciplined? We put our children back in their own beds until they gave up on
sleeping in ours

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Avoid cereal if possible-try eggs, fruit,
oatmeal—find what works for you!
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Make Sure there is NO medical
reason but a child has to try a new
food 7-15 times!

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I won’t eat! WHY? I don’t know what this IS!!!!
Make Your “Expectations” Clear
• Tell your child what to do instead of what not to
do. 3 more swings and we will leave. 2 more
bites, 5 more mintues, etc.
• Clearly and simply state what you expect your
child to do.
• Have age-appropriate expectations.
• Use age-appropriate language. Young children
have difficulty with contractions (two words that
are combined to form one, such as “don’t” and
“can’t”).
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Say the DO instead of the Don’t
• Stop yelling!
• Don’t throw your toys!
• Stop bothering your sister!
• Cut it out.
• Use your inside voice
• Your toys go here or you need a
ball
• Use kind words
• Try to use kind words and hands
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I like to bite things that aren’t food
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Move past WHAT to WHY! I have a sensory
need!
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Sensory need, anxious, etc.
Get some chewlery from
https://www.especialneeds.com
Get some gum!
Why? Few words!
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Why? I am Hungry!
Why? I am Bored!
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Why? I Want Something I Cannot
Have
Why? I am Frustrated!
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Turtle Technique at
www.vanderbilt.edu/practicalstrategies
Recognize
that you
feel angry.
“Think”
Stop.
Go into shell.
Take 3 deep
breathes.
And think
calm, coping
thoughts.
Come out
of shell
when calm
and think of
a solution.
Use Tools to Help Me
Calm Down…
Calm down

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I won’t clean up!
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Why? I don’t know the steps to cleaning

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I don’t know what “tidy” looks like
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I won’t do my homework!

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I am cranky! WHY I am a little kid!!!

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When You child Flips OUT! FLIP the Script
• Find out the reason if there is a medical cause –hearing,vision, reflux
• Let it take time to work! You are in it for the long haul
• Inform your self about your child’s stage of development
• Pick your battles! As long as you are safe
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