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All children misbehave at some stage of their lives. Very often it is minor, as they push the boundaries of what is acceptable, and they usually drop back into being well-adjusted as quickly as they fell out of it.
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Always show your toddler how much you love them, toddlers love the attention lot, lots of hugs and kisses and playtime reassure them how much they are loved. You want the positive attention to way out number the negative attention they get. And praising your toddler for what they do right will usually keep them wanting to follow the rules.
Name___________________________________________
Inappropriate Methods That Deter Cooperation
Method Example
Blaming and
accusing
“Look at the dirty footprints you put on my clean kitchen floor. You never
consider how hard I work.”
Name-calling “You are the sloppiest person, just look at your room!”
Threats “If you don’t start doing your share around here, I’m going to cut your
allowance.”
Commands “Take the garbage out this minute, and no back talk, young man.”
Lecturing and
moralizing
“Now, do you think that was a nice thing to say about your friend? You
should learn to treat your friends the way you want to be treated.”
Warnings “Don’t step off the sidewalk. You’ll get hit by a car.”
Martyrdom “Why are you doing this to me, hard as I work?”
Comparisons “Why can’t you try as hard in school as your sister does?”
Sarcasm “You knew you had to get up early, but you were so smart and stayed up
until midnight.”
Prophecy “If you continue in the same manner, you’ll never amount to anything.”
Skills for Engaging Cooperation
Skill Example
Describe what you
see or the problem
“Your dirty clothes are on the floor in your room.”
Give information “The battery in the flashlight will last longer when you turn it off after each
use.”
Say it with a word. (when milk is left out of the refrigerator) “Susie, the milk.”
Talk about your
feelings
“I am frustrated because you are making so much noise that I can’t hear
your father on the telephone.”
Wrote a note (taped to basket of clean laundry) “Marlin, please fold me.”
Reference: Hamner, T.J. & Turner, P.H. (2001). Parenting in Contemporary Society, 4
th
ed. ____Allyn and Bacon.
Positive Guidance
Children are more likely to respond to positive statements than negative ones. Rewrite each
statement below so it tells the child what he or she is expected to do.
1. “Don’t put the scissors on the floor.”
2. “Don’t spill your milk.”
3. “Don’t walk in front of the slide.”
4. “You’re pouring too fast.”
5. “Don’t walk so slowly.”
6. “Don’t touch all of the muffins.”
Reference: Herr, J. (2008) Working With Young Children; Study Guide. Tinley Park, ILL: Goodheart-Wilcox,
Co. (page 80).
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15 Techniques to use with children which invite cooperation
1. Give children valid, appropriate and limited choices. Limit use of commands. Offering options gives
the child a sense of empowerment. This works especially well with children who are strong willed and
in need of a great deal of control. Giving choices eliminates power struggles and “NO” answers.
ie: Do you want your milk poured into the green cup or the blue cup?
ie: You may walk to get your diaper changed or I can carry you. (either way, the diaper is getting
changed).
ie: Say “It’s naptime” rather than “Do you want to take a nap?” which offers the ch.
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2. What other parents are doing
Spanking
Time Outs
Removing favored objects / activities
Grounding
Go to your room!
Yelling
Ignoring
3. Why don’t these work?
Autism is a neurologically based
developmental disorder.
– Child may not understand the language
– Child may not understand the repercussions
– Child may not be able to ‘think ahead’ to
know when or when not to do something.
– Child may not care / issue has no meaning
– Child may just ignore you
– Child will argue with you till kingdom come
about why you are wrong.
4. Spanking
Hyposensitive child (i.e. won’t feel it won’t
matter anyway) versus the Hypersensitive
child (experiences the pain much
stronger).
Child who is self-injurious may LIKE it,
which is exactly the opposite of what
parents are trying to accomplish with
spanking.
5. Time Out!
Time is an abstract concept. Children on
the spectrum don’t often understand
abstract language or concepts.
Doesn’t tell the child what TO do.
7. Grounding
The phrase, “You’re grounded” has a
whole different meaning to a literal
thinking child on the spectrum. He / she
is probably thinking something about
electricity when you say this!
Might be too abstract and too long of a
time. If you ground a child for a month,
they’ve forgotten what they did in the first
place.
8. Go To Your Room!
It’s probably what the child wants
anyway!
The room is the safe zone for most kids.
A king in his castle!
It’s more of a reward than a punishment.
9. Yelling
Stop it! Would you quit? Don’t do that!
What were you thinking? What is wrong
with you?
What’s wrong with these phrases?
If you yell, the child will yell. If you curse
when angry, the child will too.
10. Ignoring
Doesn’t solve anything!
Doesn’t model the behavior you want!
Doesn’t teach the child anything at all!
When it might be appropriate is with
repetitive questioning.
11. Modeling
Small steps
Repeat repeat repeat
Sometimes may need to use hand over
hand, or guide the child to what they
should be doing
Role playing / drama / practice
appropriate behavior when NOT angry
12. Use Positive Language
Never say no, don’t, can’t—realistically
speaking of course!
If you have visual rules, make sure you
have the rules for what you CAN do!
Give choices—you can do this or that.
13. I need you to…
The most powerful phrase in the world!
Used in the Child Development Lab at EIU
with enormous success!
Tells the child what you expect of them
and what they should be doing. Not what
they shouldn’t!
14. Make it visual!
When in doubt, write it out! Schedule it!
Describe what they should be doing
Circles Technique / Have Dreams uses
Write a contract—seriously some of our Aspie
kids would find this to be just the right kind of
‘concreteness’ to understand the problem!
Take pictures of the appropriate behavior.
Social stories can work—but leave out the
inappropriate behavior, it just puts ideas in their
head!
15. Find the good
As Georgia Winson (TAP) says, “Catch ‘em being
good!”
Reward good behavior when you see it! Reward
charts are useful but don’t make the child wait
till the end of the week or month for
something—that’s too long and too abstract.
Use praise when you see good behavior! Be
specific in your praise, don’t just say good job.
“I like how you…”
16. Pick your battles
Everything cannot be a struggle, some
things you have to let go.
You cannot win every battle, you cannot
only have your viewpoint. You cannot be
as inflexible as the child with ASD.
Listen to and observe what the child has
problems with and work with that in a
positive way.
17. Consistency
Don’t change the rules mid-game.
Keep with a system that BOTH caregivers
are on board with. If one parent does one
thing and the other parent is drastically
different, the child is simply confused
about what to do!
18. What if nothing is working?
Start at the beginning and think it through
using the frame of autism!
Doesn’t have to be anything as fancy as a
functional analysis, but keep a behavior
diary.
CAT-Kit!
19. What if nothing is working?
Look for other components such as:
Illness
Sensory problems (is this a can’t issue?)
Communication problems (can he / she truly
express the problem or is anger all that comes
out?)
Executive dysfunction playing a role?
Is this an obsession that we can’t control but we
can redirect, shape, and mold to something more
positive?
21. From Blind Children in the Family and Community by
Marietta Spencer
“The question in the art of discipline is really not how and
when to punish a child but rather how to help him be
cooperative, constructive, and responsible. Any parent
tries to teach his child what is expected of him—willingly,
at the right time, and at a reasonable speed. As the
child learns to think and do things for himself, and
becomes willing to assume responsibility for his actions,
parents can relax and begin to relinquish controls.
Turning over controls to the child is naturally a gradual
process. Reminders and words of guidance will still be
needed, even though a child has succeeded in taking
over responsibility for a certain part of his daily routine.
But such reminders can be positive, supportive words
rather than tense, critical, or angry ones. Experience
clearly shows that a thoughtful, firm, and supportive
approach will bring the best results in the long run.”