Exercise: Consider the questions in the questionnaire and score yourself out of ten for each one (ten being high). Consider your responses and notice areas where you scored 'low'. These are your areas for potential growth and may also indicate your personal vulnerabilities and greatest challenges. Also, notice where you confidently scored 'high' - these areas have the potential to support your challenges.

1. Open To Create . . .
EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE: Personal Review
"Anyone can be angry - that is easy. But to be angry with the right person, to the right degrees
at the right time, for the right purpose, and in the right way—that is not easy." - Aristotle
Exercise: Consider the questions below and score yourself out of ten for each one (ten being high). Consider your responses and notice areas
where you scored 'low'. These are your areas for potential growth and may also indicate your personal vulnerabilities and greatest challenges. Also,
notice where you confidently scored 'high' - these areas have the potential to support your challenges.
Emotional Intelligence Score 10 Notes to self
Emotional Management
If you are sad, grieving or mourning, do you allow yourself to cry? Can you cry openly in
front of others?
Can you express anger freely and non-destructively and then let it go?
Do you quickly let go of grudges and resentment?
When you are afraid, do you let trusted others see your fear?
Are you able to recognise when you need help, then ask for help or support?
Can you receive help, as well as give it?
Can you say ‘no’ without feeling guilty?
Can you strongly protest against mistreatment of self or others?
Do you easily express, as well as receive, tenderness, love, passion?
Can you enjoy your own company yet gladly and comfortably accept intimacy?
Do you listen clearly to yourself and to others?
Can you empathise with the needs and feelings of others, without judgement or
criticism?
Can you motivate others without resorting to fear tactics or manipulation?
Do you allow yourself to frequently experience and enjoy pleasure?

2. Open To Create . . .When necessary, can you contain (rather than repress), your impulses and delay your
gratification, without resorting to guilt, shame, or suppression of your emotions?
Do you allow yourself to experience bliss, ecstasy, excitement, fascination and awe?
Do you often laugh out loud — a deep belly laugh?
Do you sometimes feel moved by the courage or the spirit of others?
Flexibility and balance
Can you focus your energy on work, yet balance this with fun and rest?
Can you accept and even enjoy others who have different needs and world-views?
Do you let yourself be spontaneous, play like a child, be silly?
Are your goals realistic, and does your patience allow you to work towards them
steadily?
Self awareness and positive esteem
Can you forgive yourself your mistakes, and take yourself lightly?
Can you accept your own shortcomings, without feeling ashamed, and remain excited
about learning and growing?
Do you respect your strengths and vulnerabilities, rather than inflate with pride, or
fester with shame?
Would you say you are generally true to yourself without blindly rebelling against, nor
conforming to social expectations?
Can you bear disappointment or frustration, without succumbing to criticism of self or
others?
Are you kind to yourself, do you avoid being hard — even punishing towards yourself?
Adapted from Robin Grille - www.our-emotional-health.com
With thanks to D Barnard in association with www.performancecoachtraining.com © 2008 D Barnard & C Wilson