How to build loyal relationships with your clients
PrecEdinburgh | 93to95hanoverstr
Creating a lasting impression
The web design series
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
08:45 Part 1: Strong Relationships
- What impression do I make?
- How do you relate?
- What does this mean for you?
09:30
Coffee, cigarette, stretch etc.
09:45 Part 2: Attachment & Ruptures
- Attachment
- Ruptures & Disappointments
- Wrap up, questions
10:30
Finish
The order of things
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
Draw, cartoon or badly
sketch
or…
List, write, or even
compose a haiku
or …
What would it be if the
site were a:
- film
- car
- person
What impression does your site make?
Twinning
Mirroring
Idealising
Heniz Kohut SELF PSYCHOLOGY
From work with Narcissists, he moved the discussion away
from Freudian focus on instinctual drives and internal
conflicts, and towards the vicissitudes of relationships
Relating: Making an impression
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
How to Twin
Images
Language
Personality (eg, tone of voice)
Goals, needs, wants
What helps
Staying aligned to your personas
Professional copywriting
Clearly art directed photography
What impression does your site make?
How to Mirror
Express different tones at different
steps to reflect changes in mood
Recognising when there are
problems
Integration of digital with customer
service
Clear advice on how to escalate
What helps
End-to-end processes
Multiple channels for customer
service (email, live chat, phone)
Non-defensiveness - defensiveness
creates a distance
What impression does your site make?
How to be Idealised
Be confident
Be generous
Be different
Be brave
Be bold
Be sexy
Be cute
Be real and personable
What helps
Telling people you’re great
Impressive offers
Impressive service
What impression does your site make?
Twinning
How to you show that
you are interested in
the same things as
your visitors
Mirroring
How do you stay
smoothly attuned to
your visitors?
Idealising
How do you invite your
visitors to think you’re
amazing ?
What impression does your site make?
Worksheet: What impression do you make?
0
1
2
3
4
5
Idealise
TwinMirror
Top 3 ways we Twin
Top 3 ways we Mirror
Top 3 ways we get Idealised
Psychological
connectedness
how realistic is it for
people to feel a real
connection to you?
Relationships: Attachment
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
In love?
Infatuated?
Quite like you?
Taken for granted?
No feeling at all?
Secure
Ambivalent
Avoidant
Disorganised
John Bowlby & Mary Ainsworth ATTACHMENT
From work with children, they found that the caregiver’s
response to their children, especially when in
distress, developed the template for how the child
would form ―lasting psychological connectedness‖ —
relationships
Relationships: Attachment
@precedentcomms #PrecSem see: http://psychology.about.com/library/quiz/bl-attachment-quiz.htm
Disorganised
Always difficult – quick to rage – best handled in person
Avoidant
Be strong – won’t ask for help
Ambivalent
Teenagery – clingy, floods of tears/brave little boy
Relationships: Ruptures and Repairs
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
Secure
The reasonable customer
Keep them securely attached and the relationship will
grow
deepen
become more resilient
Relationships: Ruptures and Repairs
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
Love (Borderline process)
Abandonment Engulfment
We never talk Spamming me
You don’t care You’re never satisfied
Relationships: What people need
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
Safety (Control) (Obsessive compulsive process)
Abandonment Engulfment
Control & regulate it Control & regulate it
Relationships: What people need
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
(Obsessive compulsive process)
Safety (Low Risk) (Schizoid process)
Abandonment Engulfment
Too little Too much
Relationships: What people need
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
(Schizoid process)
Admiration (Narcissistic process)
Humiliation Admiration
The very worst The very greatest
Relationships: What people need
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
And so …
there are real limits to what relationship you can have despite:
Personalisation
Behaviour targeting
Persuasion architectures
Relationships: Ruptures and Repairs
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
Offer a range of options to suite
different people
 Email (don’t want to be engulfed)
 Clear Process (want predictable safety)
 Live Chat (want to be loved)
 Phone (don’t you know who I am)
Relationships: Ruptures and Repairs
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
Building brand awareness 2013
low identified fan
medium identified fan
highly identified fan
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
Think of you
users as Fans
Building brand awareness 2013
Consider the whole lifecycle of the relationship
Simple
Book Count
Down
Journey Arrive Experience Leave
Inspire
Dream Remember
Excite First Aid
Hit the Ground
Running
Journal
Go with
the Breeze
Laters
Connect
Explore
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
Building brand awareness 2013
Explore
Simple
Book Count
Down
Journey Arrive Experience Leave
Inspire
Dream Remember
Excite First Aid
Hit the Ground
Running
Journal
Go with
the Breeze
Laters
Connect
Inspiration Looking After RetainOrganise
Orientate EngageCross Sell
Focus &
Magnify
(Co)Plan
Book
Problem
Solve
Activities (Re)Book
Au Revoir Member Reunion
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
And how you respond differently across the lifecycle
Triggering reconnections
Building brand awareness 2013
―Showing personality in your app, website, or
brand can be a very powerful way for your
audience to identify and empathize with you.
People want to connect with real people and too
often we forget that businesses are just collections
of people. So why not let that shine through?‖
Aarron Walter, Designing for Emotion
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
Building brand awareness 2013
Highly regulated?
Forces | Emergency Services | NHS | Financial Services | Education | Law
Brand is expected to be dehumanised?
Government (Local and Central) | Law | Financial Services
Introvert organisation?
Science & Engineering | Government (Local and Central) | Financial Services
So why not let humanity shine through?
Keep private & work identities separate?
Government (Local and Central) | Financial Services
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
Worksheet: What stops you from having a relationship
0
1
2
3
4
5
Regulation
Introverted
Dehumanised BrandAnon Culture
Not Sure How
Thank you
@precedentcomms #PrecSem
“Edinburgh skyline”: thelittleblackbook.org
The web design series
14 June, part 3
What makes awesome design?
Our creative director Mark will take you
through the fundamental principles of
remarkable web design, exploring what it is
it that makes a website memorable? From
brand and visual hierarchy, to understanding
your audience and creating emotional and
relevant campaigns.

Creating a lasting impression: How to create loyal relationships

  • 1.
    How to buildloyal relationships with your clients PrecEdinburgh | 93to95hanoverstr Creating a lasting impression The web design series @precedentcomms #PrecSem
  • 2.
    08:45 Part 1:Strong Relationships - What impression do I make? - How do you relate? - What does this mean for you? 09:30 Coffee, cigarette, stretch etc. 09:45 Part 2: Attachment & Ruptures - Attachment - Ruptures & Disappointments - Wrap up, questions 10:30 Finish The order of things @precedentcomms #PrecSem
  • 3.
    Draw, cartoon orbadly sketch or… List, write, or even compose a haiku or … What would it be if the site were a: - film - car - person What impression does your site make?
  • 4.
    Twinning Mirroring Idealising Heniz Kohut SELFPSYCHOLOGY From work with Narcissists, he moved the discussion away from Freudian focus on instinctual drives and internal conflicts, and towards the vicissitudes of relationships Relating: Making an impression @precedentcomms #PrecSem
  • 5.
    How to Twin Images Language Personality(eg, tone of voice) Goals, needs, wants What helps Staying aligned to your personas Professional copywriting Clearly art directed photography What impression does your site make?
  • 6.
    How to Mirror Expressdifferent tones at different steps to reflect changes in mood Recognising when there are problems Integration of digital with customer service Clear advice on how to escalate What helps End-to-end processes Multiple channels for customer service (email, live chat, phone) Non-defensiveness - defensiveness creates a distance What impression does your site make?
  • 7.
    How to beIdealised Be confident Be generous Be different Be brave Be bold Be sexy Be cute Be real and personable What helps Telling people you’re great Impressive offers Impressive service What impression does your site make?
  • 8.
    Twinning How to youshow that you are interested in the same things as your visitors Mirroring How do you stay smoothly attuned to your visitors? Idealising How do you invite your visitors to think you’re amazing ? What impression does your site make?
  • 9.
    Worksheet: What impressiondo you make? 0 1 2 3 4 5 Idealise TwinMirror Top 3 ways we Twin Top 3 ways we Mirror Top 3 ways we get Idealised
  • 10.
    Psychological connectedness how realistic isit for people to feel a real connection to you? Relationships: Attachment @precedentcomms #PrecSem In love? Infatuated? Quite like you? Taken for granted? No feeling at all?
  • 11.
    Secure Ambivalent Avoidant Disorganised John Bowlby &Mary Ainsworth ATTACHMENT From work with children, they found that the caregiver’s response to their children, especially when in distress, developed the template for how the child would form ―lasting psychological connectedness‖ — relationships Relationships: Attachment @precedentcomms #PrecSem see: http://psychology.about.com/library/quiz/bl-attachment-quiz.htm
  • 12.
    Disorganised Always difficult –quick to rage – best handled in person Avoidant Be strong – won’t ask for help Ambivalent Teenagery – clingy, floods of tears/brave little boy Relationships: Ruptures and Repairs @precedentcomms #PrecSem
  • 13.
    Secure The reasonable customer Keepthem securely attached and the relationship will grow deepen become more resilient Relationships: Ruptures and Repairs @precedentcomms #PrecSem
  • 14.
    Love (Borderline process) AbandonmentEngulfment We never talk Spamming me You don’t care You’re never satisfied Relationships: What people need @precedentcomms #PrecSem
  • 15.
    Safety (Control) (Obsessivecompulsive process) Abandonment Engulfment Control & regulate it Control & regulate it Relationships: What people need @precedentcomms #PrecSem (Obsessive compulsive process)
  • 16.
    Safety (Low Risk)(Schizoid process) Abandonment Engulfment Too little Too much Relationships: What people need @precedentcomms #PrecSem (Schizoid process)
  • 17.
    Admiration (Narcissistic process) HumiliationAdmiration The very worst The very greatest Relationships: What people need @precedentcomms #PrecSem
  • 18.
    And so … thereare real limits to what relationship you can have despite: Personalisation Behaviour targeting Persuasion architectures Relationships: Ruptures and Repairs @precedentcomms #PrecSem
  • 19.
    Offer a rangeof options to suite different people  Email (don’t want to be engulfed)  Clear Process (want predictable safety)  Live Chat (want to be loved)  Phone (don’t you know who I am) Relationships: Ruptures and Repairs @precedentcomms #PrecSem
  • 20.
    Building brand awareness2013 low identified fan medium identified fan highly identified fan @precedentcomms #PrecSem Think of you users as Fans
  • 21.
    Building brand awareness2013 Consider the whole lifecycle of the relationship Simple Book Count Down Journey Arrive Experience Leave Inspire Dream Remember Excite First Aid Hit the Ground Running Journal Go with the Breeze Laters Connect Explore @precedentcomms #PrecSem
  • 22.
    Building brand awareness2013 Explore Simple Book Count Down Journey Arrive Experience Leave Inspire Dream Remember Excite First Aid Hit the Ground Running Journal Go with the Breeze Laters Connect Inspiration Looking After RetainOrganise Orientate EngageCross Sell Focus & Magnify (Co)Plan Book Problem Solve Activities (Re)Book Au Revoir Member Reunion @precedentcomms #PrecSem And how you respond differently across the lifecycle
  • 23.
  • 24.
    Building brand awareness2013 ―Showing personality in your app, website, or brand can be a very powerful way for your audience to identify and empathize with you. People want to connect with real people and too often we forget that businesses are just collections of people. So why not let that shine through?‖ Aarron Walter, Designing for Emotion @precedentcomms #PrecSem
  • 25.
    Building brand awareness2013 Highly regulated? Forces | Emergency Services | NHS | Financial Services | Education | Law Brand is expected to be dehumanised? Government (Local and Central) | Law | Financial Services Introvert organisation? Science & Engineering | Government (Local and Central) | Financial Services So why not let humanity shine through? Keep private & work identities separate? Government (Local and Central) | Financial Services @precedentcomms #PrecSem
  • 26.
    Worksheet: What stopsyou from having a relationship 0 1 2 3 4 5 Regulation Introverted Dehumanised BrandAnon Culture Not Sure How
  • 27.
    Thank you @precedentcomms #PrecSem “Edinburghskyline”: thelittleblackbook.org
  • 28.
    The web designseries 14 June, part 3 What makes awesome design? Our creative director Mark will take you through the fundamental principles of remarkable web design, exploring what it is it that makes a website memorable? From brand and visual hierarchy, to understanding your audience and creating emotional and relevant campaigns.

Editor's Notes

  • #5 Twinning – having so much in common, liking the same thingsMirroring – being attuned, walking in the same step, being in syncIdealising – “you’re so great/beautiful/clever/get me/loving/completes me” in whatever characteristic is important to the other
  • #12 Secure – the caregiver is available and responsive to the child > so trusting, good self-esteem, comfortable sharing, seek out supportAmbivalent – the caregiver is inconsistent > clingy, over-dependent, reluctant to be really close, may cling to children, frequent breakupsAvoidant – the caregiver is unavailable and unresponsive > problems with intimacy, little emotion in social or romantic relationships, unable/unwilling to share thoughts and feelingsDisorganised – the caregiver is abusive > lack attachment – often confused or comforted/frightened, abrupt mood shifts or no mood (flat affect) – often with unprocessed trauma
  • #13 Disorganised – the caregiver is abusive > lack attachment – often confused or conflicted/frightened, abrupt mood shifts or no mood (flat affect) – often with unprocessed traumaAvoidant – the caregiver is unavailable and unresponsive > problems with intimacy, little emotion in social or romantic relationships, unable/unwilling to share thoughts and feelingsAmbivalent – the caregiver is inconsistent > clingy, over-dependent, reluctant to be really close, may cling to children, frequent breakups
  • #14 Secure – the caregiver is available and responsive to the child > so trusting, good self-esteem, comfortable sharing, seek out support
  • #25 This is a great point from the writer of Designing for Emotion.Our research pointed out that your customers want to deal with people – they want to see the whites of your eyes
  • #26 Some reasons why organisations might not feel they can let their personality shine through.