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Contents
1. Basic Communication Principles
2. Communication Trilogy : Giving Good Information,
Gathering Good Information, and Building Mutual
Trust
3. Developing Assertive Communication Skills
4. Seven Positive Principles for Cooperative
Communication
5. Developing Active Listening Skills
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We communicate toā¦ā¦
ā¢ Get information
ā¢ Motivate
ā¢ Cheat
ā¢ Praise
ā¢ Make arrangements
ā¢ Give advice
ā¢ Sell
ā¢ Greet
ā¢ Abuse
ā¢ Etc
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Verbal, vocal and visual
Verbal :
The message that
we deliver
Vocal :
The voice that we
convey
Visual :
Our body language
Communication
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Studies tell 70 % of mistakes in the
workplace are a direct result of poor
communicationā¦..
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Causes of Communication Difficulties:
ā¢ Lack of information and knowledge
ā¢ Not explaining priorities or goals properly
ā¢ Not listening
ā¢ Not understanding fully and fail to ask questions
ā¢ Mind made up, preconceived ideas
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Causes of Communication Difficulties:
ā¢ Not understanding othersā needs
ā¢ Not thinking clearly, jumping to conclusions
ā¢ Bad mood
ā¢ Failure to explore alternatives
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Communication failures can causeā¦..
ā¢ Loss of business
ā¢ Mistakes, inefficiencies
ā¢ Lowered productivity
ā¢ Poor coordination and cooperation
ā¢ Damaged personal or company image
ā¢ Frustration, hostility
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Communication failures can causeā¦..
ā¢ Dissatisfaction with others
ā¢ Lowered morale
ā¢ Loss of team spirit
ā¢ High employee turnover
ā¢ Conflict and arguments
ā¢ Drop in self esteem and confidence
ā¢ Loss of friendship
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ā¢ Premature evaluation
ā¢ Prejudice
ā¢ Inattention
ā¢ Stereotyping
ā¢ Assumption
ā¢ Generalizing
ā¢ Poor listening skills
ā¢ Fixed ideas
ā¢ Preconceptions
ā¢ Ignoring or distorting information contrary to our beliefs
Some Common Communication Filters
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Everything we do is communication
The way we begin our message often determines
the outcome of the communication
The way message is delivered always effects the
way message is received
Basic Communication Principles
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The real communication is the message received,
not the message intended
Communication is two way street ā we have to
give as well as gather
Basic Communication Principles
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Six C of giving good information
Give Good Information
Clear Concise
Courteous
Complete
Correct
Concrete
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Give Good Information
ā¢ Use precise, memorable and powerful words
ā¢ Support your words with visual aids
ā¢ Give demonstration
ā¢ Provide examples/metaphors/analogies
ā¢ Use the other person ālanguageā
When giving informationā¦ā¦ā¦
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7 Positive Principles for
Cooperative Communication
1. Soften the āyouās or change the into āIā to avoid sounding
pushy
ā¢ Instead of : āYouāll have toā¦.ā, say āCould youā¦.ā Or
āWould you be able toā¦.ā
2. Focus on the solution, not the problem
ā¢ Instead of āWeāre out of mildā¦.ā, say āI will pop down
the shop for some milkā.
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7 Positive Principles for
Cooperative Communication
3. Turn canāts into cans
ā¢ Instead of āWe canāt do that until next weekā, say āWeāll
be able to do that next weekā.
4. Take responsibility ā donāt lay blame
ā¢ Instead if āItās not my faultā, say āHereās what I can do to
fox thatā.
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7 Positive Principles for
Cooperative Communication
5. Say what do you want, not what you donāt want
ā¢ Instead of āDonāt; drive too fastā, say āDrive carefullyā
6. Focus on the future, not the past
ā¢ Instead of āIāve told you before not toā¦ā¦, say āFrom
now onā¦ā¦.ā
7. Share information rather than argue or accuse
ā¢ Instead of āNo, youāre wrongā, say āI see it like thisā¦.ā
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Assertive Communication
ā¢ Make statements that are honest, clear,
brief, and to the point
ā¢ Use āIā statement : Iād like, I appreciate,
I think
ā¢ Distinguish between fact and opinion
ā¢ Ask, donāt tell
ā¢ Offer improvement suggestions, not
advice and commands
Verbally,
assertive
people :
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Assertive Communication
Verbally,
assertive
people :
ā¢ Offer constructive criticism, free of blame,
assumptions, and āshouldsā
ā¢ Ask questions to find out the thoughts
and feelings of others
ā¢ Respect the rights of others as well as
their own rights
ā¢ Communicate mutual respect where the
needs of two people conflict, and look for
mutually acceptable solutions
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Manage your body language
ā¢ Sit or stand at right angles and on the same level, and
respect peopleās personal space zones
ā¢ Use open gestures and body language
ā¢ Center your attention exclusively on the other person
ā¢ Lean slightly forward to show interest; a bit further forward
to apply pressure, slightly back to reduce pressure
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Manage your body language
ā¢ Maintain appropriate eye contact while listening to
encourage the speaker; increase eye contact to apply
pressure; reduce it to lower pressure
ā¢ Respond appropriately by basing your responses on what
the other person has just said
ā¢ Be relaxed and balanced to make relaxed and open
communication easier
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Gather Good Information with
your EARs
E ā explore by asking questions
A ā affirm to show youāre listening
R ā reflect your understanding
S ā silence, listen some more
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Exploring Questions
Open
Questions
Open questions yield lots of information
because they allow a person to explain what is
most important or interesting and encourage
elaboration.
Probing
Questions
Probing questions are those that relate to the
topic we want to explore further. They
encourage the speaker to flesh out the details.
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Closed vs. Open Questions
When did that happen? What led up to that?
Was your trip successful? What did you manage to
accomplish on your trip?
Did you like the candidate? In what ways do you think that
candidate meets our need?
Did you have a good meeting? What happened at the meeting?
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Some Probing Questions
ā¢ Can you be more specifics?
ā¢ Can you give me an example of that?
ā¢ What happened then?
ā¢ For instance?
ā¢ How does this affect you?
ā¢ What might cause that, do you think?
ā¢ Can you fill me in on the details?
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Active Listening
Giving undivided attention to a speaker in a
genuine effort to understand the speaker's
point of view.
This involves giving them your full attention
and the use of verbal encouragers such as
āYesā, āAhaā and āMmmā.
It also includes non-verbal acknowledgements
such as nodding, smiling and body language.
Active
Listening
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Benefits of Active Listening
1. It forces people to listen attentively to others
2. It avoids misunderstandings, as people have to
confirm that they do really understand what another
person has said
3. It tends to open people up, to get them to say more
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5 Active Listening Skills
ā¢ Paraphrasing meanings: Translate into your own words
what the speaker has said
ā¢ Reflecting feelings: when someone is expressing emotion
or feelings or looks emotional (upset, angry, excited),
convey your empathy and encourage the speaker to
continue
ā¢ Reflecting facts: briefly summarize the content, or factual
aspects, of what the speaker has said.
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5 Active Listening Skills
ā¢ Synthesizing: blend several ideas of the speaker into one
theme or idea.
ā¢ Imagining out loud: imagine what it must be like to be in
the speakerās place
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To listen more effectivelyā¦..
Attend physically ā the right body language helps us to
focus on the speaker and encourages the speaker to give
us more information.
Attend mentally ā follow the speakerās flow of thought,
listen to understand, not evaluate; listen first, then assess
Check it verbally ā paraphrase, clarify, probe further,
summarize your understanding
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Bad Habits of Poor Listeners
ā¢ Interrupting
ā¢ Jumping to conclusions
ā¢ Finishing othersā sentences for them
ā¢ Frequently (and often abruptly) changing the subject
ā¢ Inattentive body language
ā¢ Not responding to what others have said
ā¢ Failing to ask questions and give feedback
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Good Habits of Effective Listeners
ā¢ Looking at the speaker in order to observe body language and
pick up subtle nuances of speech
ā¢ Asking questions
ā¢ Giving speakers time to articulate their thoughts
ā¢ Letting people finish what they are saying before giving their
opinion
ā¢ Remaining poised, calm, and emotionally controlled
ā¢ Looking alert and interested
ā¢ Responding with nods and āuh-uhmsā.
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When receiving/listening feedback
ā¢ Listen, donāt resist
ā¢ Keep calm and keep breathing
ā¢ Let your body language show you are
receptive
ā¢ Ask questions to make sure youāve
understood
ā¢ Donāt be overly sensitive, self
protective or cavalier
Receiving
feedback
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When receiving/listening feedback
Receiving
feedback
ā¢ Does the person offering feedback
know what theyāre talking about?
ā¢ What other information do you have
that supports the feedback?
ā¢ If youāre tempted to ignore it, do you
have evidence that contradicts the
feedback?
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When receiving/listening criticism
ā¢ Make sure your self image stays positive.
ā¢ Mentally examine your criticās intentions so you will know how
best to deal with the information.
ā¢ Filter the criticism. Strain out emotion and find the facts. Then
you can respond to the useful information.
ā¢ Ask questions until you understand what the speaker is trying to
tell you.
ā¢ Donāt make excuse. Listen to understand.
ā¢ Focus on the future : what can you do to improve?
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Recommended Further Readings:
1. Kris Cole, Crystal Clear Communication : Skills for Understanding and
Being Understood, Synergy Books International
2. David A. Whetten and Kim S. Cameron, Developing Management Skills,
Harpers Collins Publisher.