This document discusses healthy ways to cope with anger. It begins by defining anger and discussing "anger buttons," or triggers that cause feelings of anger. It then contrasts good versus poor ways of coping with anger. Good ways include stopping to think, removing yourself from the situation, talking about your feelings, relaxation techniques, and positive self-talk. Poor ways include responding immediately without cooling off, saying mean things, negative self-talk, violence, and not sharing feelings. The document provides examples and discusses how to apply the three anger rules of not hurting yourself, others, or property when coping with anger.

1. Learn all about
anger and
healthy ways
to cope!
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2. • Definition of anger!
• Anger buttons!
• Good vs. Poor ways to cope with anger!
• The 3 anger rules!
What will we talk
about today?

3. What is anger?
Anger is the feeling you get when
someone has done something wrong
to you or when something happens to
you that you don’t like.
Anger Definition

4. Anger
Getting angry isn’t a bad thing. It’s a
natural and normal feeling that everyone
experiences!
The important thing is to learn how to cope
with it in a healthy way so that it doesn’t
hurt you or other people.

5. Anger Buttons
Before we learn about healthy ways to cope with your
anger, let’s talk about anger buttons!
Anger buttons (sometimes called triggers) are
things that happen that cause you to feel angry.

6. Anger Buttons
Raise your handif any of these examples are anger buttons for you!
– Someone takes your things without asking
– You have to wait a long time before it’s your turn
– You get a bad grade on a test or quiz
– You’re not allowed to play with your friends
– Someone calls you or a family member a name
– Someone breaks your things
– You get blamed for something you didn’t do
– A player on the other team is cheating
– You have to clean up a mess you didn’t make
– You have to stop doing an activity you’re enjoying
What are
your top
five anger
buttons?

7. Anger and Our Bodies
When you get angry, you can feel it in your body!
Headache
Face turns red
Palms get sweaty
Clenched
fists
Pace/walk around
Heart beats
faster
Stomachache/nausea
Breathing harder
Tense shoulders

8. Coping with Anger
Coping with anger in a or positive way
means that you respond in a way that helps
you and others feel better about the situation.
Coping with anger in a or negative
way means that you respond in a way that
makes things worse for yourself or others.
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9. Stop and think! Before you respond, give yourself time to think about the best
way to handle the situation. Reacting right away can lead to a poor choice.
Removing yourself from the situation. If you feel that you won’t be able to
remain calm, you can take a break and walk away from the situation if you need.
Telling the other person how they made you feel. Tell them why your feelings
were hurt and what you need them to do differently next time. They might
apologize and try hard not to hurt your feelings in the future.
Talking to someone about what made you angry. Talking about your feelings can
help you to calm down. It can be helpful to hear from others about how they
would handle the situation. Who do you talk to when you’re feeling angry?
Good Ways to Cope
What are Goodways ofcoping with anger?

10. Practicing relaxation to help your body calm down. Think of something calming
while doing some deep breathing. What is something you can think about that
would help you feel relaxed?
Listening to music or watching a movie/show. This can help take your mind off
of what is making you angry. What’s a song or show that makes you feel happy?
Doing something physical. Let out some of your energy by playing a sport or a
game that you enjoy. What is something physical that you would do?
Using positive self-talk. Positive self-talk is when you say or think things to
yourself to help you feel better. What could you tell yourself the next time
you’re feeling angry?
Doing something different. If the way you’ve been coping with anger keeps
getting you in trouble, try to do something completely different just once and
see how it goes!
Good Ways to Cope

11. Responding as soon as you get mad. Responding right away when you get mad
usually leads to a wrong decision. Give yourself time to cool off!
Saying or doing mean things to the other person. Doing this usually makes the
other person angry and only makes the situation worse.
Using negative self-talk. Negative self-talk keeps you angry and can lead you
to making a poor choice. What are some examples of negative self-talk?
Hitting the other person or destroying property. It is NEVER okay to hit
something or someone when you get angry! You could seriously hurt yourself or
the other person or get into BIG trouble.
Not sharing your feelings. When you’re mad, it is helpful to express your
feelings rather than holding it all in. You can share your feelings with the other
person or with a friend or adult.
Poor Ways to Cope
What are Poor ways of coping with anger?

12. Kara and Tina are playing basketball togetherat
thepark. Kara wins thegame and says, “Whoo hoo!
I won! I’m thebest player in theworld!”
This makes Tina angry, so shepunches Kara in the
arm. They start fighting!
Examples
Read the example below and decide whether this person coped
with their anger in a Good or Poor way.
• What was Tina’s anger button?
• Would you have been mad in this situation too?
• Do you think she handled it in a Good or Poor way? Why?
• How could Tina have better coped with her anger?

13. Examples
Zack hears that Lindais calling himnames behind
his back. This makesZack very angry. Whenhe
gets to class, he asksLinda iftheycan talk.
Zack tells Lindathat it hurts his feelingswhenever
shemakesfun of him. Lindaends up apologizingto
Zack and promisesnever todo it again.
• What was Zack’s anger button?
• Would you have been mad in this situation too?
• Do you think he handled it in a Good or Poor way? Why?
• What might have happened if he handled it in a poor way?
Read the example below and decide whether this person coped
with their anger in a Good or Poor way.

14. Examples
Read the example below and decide whether this person coped
with their anger in a Good or Poor way.
Ruth asks hersisterif shecan play with her toys. Her
sister tells her, “No! I don’t want you gettingyour
germsallover mystuff!” Ruth gets really mad.
Shewaitsuntil hersister goes outsideto play,thenshe
goes into herroomand starts todestroyher toys.
• What was Ruth’s anger button?
• Would you have been mad in this situation too?
• Do you think she handled it in a Good or Poor way? Why?
• How could Ruth have better coped with her anger?

15. Anger Rules
Remember, it is okay to get angry! It’s all about how you cope with it.
Before deciding how to handle anger, remember these anger rules.
1. Don’t hurt yourself!
2. Don’t hurt others!
3. Don’t destroy
property!
Use a
coping skill
instead!

16. Activity!
Get together in groups. Come up
with a skit about anger and
present it!
Make sure you show your
characters coping with their
anger in a good way!

17. What did
you learn
today?

18. The
End!