1. STRESS
AND
ART
OF
LOVING
DR.
SHRINIWAS
KASHALIKAR

2. Most of us believe that love is spontaneous. There is no
volition. There is no effort. There is not intention and
motive. Hence this title; “How to love?” may sound
absurd to many of us.
But actually love is an extremely familiar yet obscure and
occult phenomenon; in view of its oceanic dimensions! In
the process of trying to understand what love is; we get
drowned, absorbed and dissolved in love!
But roughly speaking; love evolves within us, through all
shades; ranging from passionate fixation, to free and
sublime bond! It ranges from; interpersonal liking,
caring bond between a pet and owner, and specific
attraction for an object; to deep silent feeling of global
benevolence irrespective of any thing and any particular
individual.
One of the worst effects of mismanaged STESS is
“degradation, degeneration and desiccation” of love! In
other words; we can say that the quality and intensity of
LOVE is directly related to the degree of success in Total
Stress Management (the core of which is
NAMSMARAN! If we are able to “feel” and be with this

3. evolution, through active participation in Total Stress
Management (the core of which is NAMASMARAN);
then we can learn “the art of loving”!
One feature of love is; vacillation between likes and
dislikes and between attraction and repulsion. It
vacillates between favors and vengeance.
This is because of the typical character of “unevolved
love” that emerges and is driven by physical needs,
instincts, emotions and thoughts. It is controlled by
hormones, autonomic nervous system and central
nervous system. In other words; it is the product of our
ego or subjectivity. We become strongly attached or
united when our wants are satisfied and strongly
dispersed and divided; when our wants are unsatisfied.
Just as “unevolved love” leads to vacillations between
attachment and detachment; it also leads to subjective
preferences and favors and prejudices and vengeance.
These get added up and multiplied so as to determine
sociopolitical scenario on local, national and global
platforms!

4. Naturally the antidote for this phenomenon is
conquering, controlling, harmonizing and synchronizing;
the physical, instinctual, emotional and intellectual
subjectivity; by objective and silent global benevolence!
There are several ways described for this. In traditional
parlance; they are called SADHANA.
The study and practice of Total Stress Management
reveals that the most rewarding way of learning the “art
of loving” (i.e. expediting smooth evolution of objective
and global benevolence or true love) is NAMASMARAN,
which is a uniting, emancipating and organizing
phenomenon; on universal canvas! This is because;
1. Just as disruptive influences add up and get stronger,
the practice of NAMASMARAN; by billions of people
also gets added up and yields the result of global love
and emancipation.
2. The unique feature of NAMASMARAN is that, unlike
most other activities; it can never yield retrogressive or
mere individualistic or sectarian gains, benefits or
profits.

5. 3. NAMASMARAN is always universally blossoming.
This is because NAMASMARAN revitalizes that core of
an individual which is inseparable; from that of every
other element in the universe.
4. NAMASMARAN may be (though not completely
satisfactorily) compared with proper control/rectification
of the individual and cosmic homeostasis, which is vital
for the health or disease of every cell in the body; and
every being in the universe.
5. We can appropriately pardon, absolve, provide
PRAYASHCHITTAs or punishment; and thus avail
justice, for ourselves or others; through the practice of
NAMASMARAN, as a main remedy; and other actions
or activities; as supportive or adjuvant measures.
6. NAMASMARAN is comparable to an upward and
correct step taken by the mountaineers; who are tied
together by a rope (bond of true or objective love),
climbing uphill. Each upward step; i.e.
NAMASMARAN; helps every other person, while
opposite of this; causes downfall of every one.

6. 7. The property of objective love of NAMASMARAN is
unknown to; and unrealized clearly and convincingly by
most people; including even those; who practice
NAMASMARAN, and hence their conviction in
itspractice and propagation is feeble.
8. Our core is linked with the core of even the worst
criminals in the society and even the smallest animal in
the universe. In as much as we are affected by and are
responsible for (though not apparently) the crime, we can
affect and be responsible for the chastisement or
emancipation of the criminals (though not apparently);
through NAMASMARAN!
The secret link between the cores of the crores of
individuals; of objective or cosmic love; becomes overt
and manifest, (in the form of simultaneous blossoming of
an individual and the universe) through Total Stress
Management (the core of which is NAMASMRAN)!
Sadguru Shri Brahmachaitanya Gondavalekar Maharaj
reiterated that; name of God (NAMA) received,
remembered and recited; as a bounty and benevolence
from guru; would emancipate the whole universe!