Gifted students often struggle with getting their social and emotional needs met. This presentation is for parents of gifted middle school children, about how gifted students can become Social-Emotional ACES (AKA skilled experts) and develop Emotional Core Strength. It includes sections on bullying and suicide prevention.
3. Sharon M. BarnesTherapist For Sensitive and
Gifted
MSSW – Masters of Science in Social Work, SDSU
LCSW – Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Colorado
USA
Local Counseling/Psychotherapy
Online Distance Consultation
Presentations, PlayShops & Retreats
Professional Development
Jungian-oriented depth work to:
Release your Creativity
Heal your Past
Transform your Pain
Become Fully Alive
Find & Fulfill your True Purpose
13. HERE’S THE BIG PICTURE:
A Great Tragedy
o Under –Achievement
o Alienation
o Dumbing down
o Copping out
o Dropping out
o Wasted intelligence
o Wasted talent
o Wasted lives
o Suicides of Gifted & Talented
People
o School Shootings ← GT Students
14. Dumbing Down Wasted Potential
~2005: Gifted Girls start dumbing
themselves down in middle school so
they can be accepted
~2015: Curriculum is now dumbed down
for all students so they can “feel good
about themselves”
~2016 Preschool gifted children dumb
themselves down to be accepted
A Great Tragedy
15. Bullying
A Great Tragedy
• By 8th grade 2/3 of gifted students have
been bullied (Purdue Univ).
• 22 – 49% of other students bullied
• WHY?
• Exceptional school performance/jealousy
• Perceived as Teacher’s pet
• Perceived as a Know-it-all
• Acceleration or Enrichment = special
privilege
• Have different interests (I.e., not football)
• Isolated (group is protection)
• Over-excitabilities/Sensitivities
18. Multiple points of convergence Social awkwardness
Victims of frequent bullying
Left hints of their planned shootings, mostly through social
media
Diagnosed with anxiety or mood disorders; several on
Prozac
Killings were well-planned, sometimes months or years in
advance
Came to the attention of mental health professionals earlier
Very little criminal behavior prior to shootings
Experienced a significant loss (divorce, death, defeat) within
months of the shootings
Engaged in repetitive viewing of violent media and were
obsessed with previous mass shootings
19. Universal Points of
Convergence1. Mid- or late-adolescent males.
2. All either knew their victims or were familiar with the location of
the shootings, although no direct threats were given to victims
prior to the attacks.
3. Shootings were done in retaliation for bullying and/or some
perceived transgression for an injustice they felt.
4. Fixation with death, gore and violence in their writings and/or
actions.
5. Each shooter was noted in early years as ranging from “bright” to
“highly gifted”, although their school records vary in quality.
For years, I have been sitting in my counseling office,
This is due to their unique combination of characteristics …………….do you know of anyone with some or even all of these characteristics? Is there anyone in this room who identifies with some or even all of the these traits?
Many tell me they feel like aliens from a different planet.
listening to, and helping adults, teens and yes, even children who tell me how they feel like MisFits who don’t belong.
This is due to their unique combination of characteristics …………….do you know of anyone with some or even all of these characteristics? Is there anyone in this room who identifies with some or even all of the these traits?
Abraham Attah, Steven Hawking, Graham Moore, Selena Gomez, Temple Grandin, Albert Einstein,
Back to nature ─
Emotions Are Like Ocean Waves
Ever present
Don’t ask our permission
Respond to the weather, moon, earth’s movement
Can be fun; may be dangerous
Learn to respect them & you can be safe
Learn to understand them & you can RIDE them
Doesn’t work well to FIGHT them