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Gustaaf Vocking MBA MSc
Ø Econometrics MSc
Ø Bachelor Information Sciences
Ø Psychology and post Doc didactiek
Ø Executive MBA
Ø Entrepreneur from the age of 15
Ø Management Coach/Consultant/Trainer
Ø Leaderschip/Communication/Brain skills
Ø Managers/Professionals/Experts
Ø Europa & USA
Ø Sales > EUR 15 mio
Ø >15.000 people helped
7. A good first impression
1. Smile
2. Hands next to the body
3. Open posture
4. Slightly bent knees
5. Two feeth
6. Hipwidth
7. Be friendly
8. Non-verbal
9. Dynamic
8. Start a conversation with a stranger
Ø Find someone you don’t know
Ø Strike up a conversation
Ø When I give the signal…
Ø Move on to the next new person
9. How to start a conversation with anyone?
Ø Don’t
q Wait.
q Fidget.
q Stare.
Ø Do
q Smile
q Flash your eyebrows
q Tilt head
q Find common ground
q Get & remember their name(s)
Ø Say: ‘Hi!’
Ø Ask: ‘What brought you here?’
Ø Ask some more…
Ø …and move to statements
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Improve your voice: resonance
ü Body = your sound box
ü Volume = breath support & resonance
1. Belly breath to carry your voice
2. Keep your head straight (up)
3. Speak from the front of your mouth
4. Use your whole sound box
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Improve your voice: belly breathing
1. Put hand just below your navel.
2. Breath out actively: contract lower abs.
3. Beath in passively: relax your abs.
Ø First as an exercise in itself.
Ø Then as an exercise during the daily activities.
Ø Then during workouts and sports.
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Improve your voice: projection
ü Appropriate volume (adjustment)
ü Prevent stressing your vocal cords
1. Visualise your voice dropping to
the ground, over the floor up to
the listener(s) ears. (Like a bowling
ball)
2. Check via you audience and via
recording(s).
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Improve your voice: articulation
ü Makes listening easier.
ü Lowers your speech rate.
1. Practice by reading our loud.
2. Train by holding a cork (or similar)
between your teeth.
3. Check via recordings.
15. Keys to making people like you
Make them feel good
Ø Show sincere interest
Ø Connect
Ø ask questions
Ø listen actively
Ø follow up questions
Ø (Empathic) statements
Ø Story tell
16. Keys to making people like you
Make them feel good
Ø Show sincere interest
Ø Connect
Ø ask questions
Ø listen actively
Ø follow up questions
Ø (Empathic) statements
Ø Story tell
19. Beating shyness
1. Find the reason
2. Identify trigger(s)
3. Social situation desensitization
4. Prepare & inform yourself
5. Do make eye contact
6. Do smile
7. Record & celebrate success
8. Be self compassionate
https://youtu.be/XWxfp_GcQ74
20. Shortcuts to Beating shyness
q Affirmations
q Power pose
q Pattern interruption
q Feel the fear… and do it anyway
q Create something stronger
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Empathic statements
Fact + Empathy
Ø You’re from [Country], it must be a challenge
being in a foreign land.
Ø So you like to workout, I don’t know how you
can make the time for that.
Ø You look angry, I can imagine that [situation]
gets to you.
Ø You’re super busy today, I don’t know how you
handle it.
Ø You play the [instrument], it must be
wonderful to express yourself like that/it must
have required a lot of practice.
23. A good first impression
1. Smile
2. Hands next to the body
3. Open posture
4. Slightly bent knees
5. Two feeth
6. Hipwidth
7. Be friendly
8. Non-verbal
9. Dynamic
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Asking the right questions
ü Open question: requires
a long answer, usually
involves someone’s
opinion.
ü Closed question: can be
answered in a brief way,
such as ‘yes’, ‘no’, ’blue’
or ‘high’.
Open questions
Closed
questions
Yes/no
questions
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1. Make your body as big as possible.
2. Take as much space as possible.
3. Stretch out your arms and make
fists.
4. Turn the bottom of your arms up
with clenched fists.
5. Pull your arms to your flanks as
powerful as possible and yell:
'Oeh!'.
Your Power Pose
How to Feel Like Wonder (Wo)man <2 min.
56. Read our blog post and watch this video
http://bit.ly/p2i-bodylanguage
Amy Cuddy: ‘Your
body language shapes
who you are.’