13. Why Conflict Escalates
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Destructive Violence
Power Struggle
Overt Conflict
Latent Tensions
No attention
No limitation
No protection
14. Catching Conflict Before
It Escalates
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Contain
Resolve
Prevent
Power
Struggle
Overt
Conflict
Latent
Tensions
Destructive Violence
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Prevent
Sources of Tension
Frustrated Needs
Poor Skills
Weak Relationships
Ways to Prevent
Clear Expectations
Feedback/Fairness
Open Communications
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Resolve
Sources of Conflict
Conflicting Interests
Disputed Rights
Unequal Power
Injured Relationships
Ways to Resolve
Listening
Empathy
Strategy
17. Why is conflict so
difficult to resolve?
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Stress
Emotion
Provocative Political and Cultural Signals
Fatigue
Apathy
Irrationality
18. There Are Several Approaches
to Resolving Conflict
1. Accommodation – “I lose, you win”
2. Avoidance – “We both lose”
3. Competition – “I win, you lose”
4. Compromise – “We both win or we both lose
5. Collaboration – “I win, you win”
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20. Supervisors Must Be Able
to Resolve Conflicts
What Approach Should You Take?
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21. How important is the relationship?
How important is the outcome?
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4 Accommodate
3 I Lose, You
Win
2 1 Avoid
I Lose, You
Lose
1 2 3 4 5 Collaborate
I Win, You Win
Compromise
We Both Win,
We Both Lose
Compete
I Win, You
Lose
Low Medium High
Importance of outcome
Importance of relationship
Low Medium High
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25. Acknowledge Emotions
Paraphrasing is more than repeating.
Listener must incorporate attitudes and emotion.
55% of a speakers attitudes and feelings is
communicated nonverbally.
Only 7% of feelings are articulated verbally.
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26. Summarizing What the
Speaker Says
Summarizing helps to make
sure what was said. It also
helps the speaker because it
gives them the opportunity to
hear what was said
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Feelings
Facts
27. Use Neutral Language
Statement: “You are so stupid! I hate
it when you don’t listen to me!”
Summary: “You are upset because
you believe I’m not listening to you.”
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28. Some Tips on Handling
Difficult Employees
Separate the behavior from the person.
You can care about someone even if you
disapprove of his or her conduct.
Remember that people usually rationalize
their behavior no matter how bad it is. (“I
was only following orders.”) Do not
challenge, provoke or threaten.
Stay calm. Don’t antagonize or make
matters worse.
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Successful conflict resolution
assumes the parties to the conflict
are acting rationally
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30. A piece of mail promoting bank loans
was sent to 70,000 customers. *
Interest rates were almost the least important factor
in whether people took the offer.
Factors that were considered:
Whether brochure featured an attractive woman
Whether a lottery ticket was offered
Whether the offer had a deadline
*Harvard Magazine, March 2006 Study, Behavioral
Economics
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31. Two-thirds of subjects said they would be happier at a
company where they earned $33,000 while their
colleagues earned $30,000, than a company where
they earned $35,000, while their colleagues earned
$38,000.
56% of participants chose a hypothetical job paying
$50,000 per year while everyone else earned $25,000,
rather than a job paying $100,000 per year others
made $200,000.
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32. POSITIVE DISCIPLINE
Describe inappropriate behavior
Explain negative impact on the workplace
Discuss changes needed
Outline consequences if behavior not
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corrected
Document / follow-up
33. The purpose of discipline is
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to correct
NOT to punish
35. Punishment breeds resentment,
resistance and litigation
An ethical foundation supports
discipline and discharge, when
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necessary
36. Unethical Discipline
(Abuse of Power)
o Power Struggles
o Difficulty in Setting Goals
o Inability to Prioritize
o Lack of Motivation
o Fear, Anxiety and Confusion
o Lack of Empowerment or Feelings of Victimization
o Pessimism
o Conflict
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37. Cross-cultural studies show that
even if people personally disagree
with a result, they will accept it if
they perceive the process as “fair”.
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