Norms for WELL 090: Queer, Healthy, Love

1. Queer, Healthy Love
Class NormsFOSTERING MEANINGFUL COMMUNITY &
CREATING BRAVE SPACE TOGETHER

2. Speak for
yourself rather
than for a
group. Use "I"
statements.
NORM #1

3. "I feel ___
when someone
uses language
that ____."
EXAMPLE OF
NORM #1

4. Assume that
everyone has
the best
intentions.
NORM #2

5. Sometimes our words come
across differently than we
intended.
If someone says something that
feels hurtful, ask a clarifying
question and follow-up.
"When you said __, I
heard this ____. Is that
what you
meant to say?"
EXAM
PLE
O
F
NO
RM
#2

6. Intent AND impact:
When you say or do
something hurtful,
acknowledge impact.
NORM #3

7. “I’m sorry what I said was
hurtful. Is anyone able to
share a better way to say
that in the future?”
EXAMPLE OF
NORM #3
We’re all human, and we mess up. When someone shares that we
have said or done something hurtful, we may react with “that
wasn’t my intent,” however it is also important to acknowledge that
even when it wasn’t our intent that the impact was harm.

8. Only
share your
stories when
talking about
our class.
NORM #4

9. Take the stories.
Leave the names.
We can't promise this space will
be confidential. However, we do
ask that you only tell stories that
are yours to tell. Please refrain
from sharing names or
experiences of classmates.

10. Ask compassionate
questions. Inquire with a
spirit of curiosity rather
than defensiveness. Strive
to understand intentions
and motives.
NORM #5

11. NORM #5
EXAMPLE
Rather than "I can't believe you
said that," you might say "can
you tell me more about what you
mean?"

12. Do these
norms work
for you? If so, please sign our class
commitment at
http://bit.ly/QHLForm