Peace and Autonomy

When two humans show up, they see the world differently. Fundamentally, we disagree.. My view. Your view. All relationship stuff starts here. Just two people, coming together. At some level of detail, we always see the world differently. We even have different definitions for every word. Hello people who like Peaceful relationships. Click Space Bar to go forward. You can also click Forward key. To go back, click Backup key.

This is a big problem! My view. Your view. And I’ve found we have, and display, three choices Most of us seemed trained in early childhood to fear hearing or displaying disagreement.

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk And I’ve found we have, and display, three choices 1

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],If the threat in the MasterTalk is not heeded, if listeners speak up in disagreement, proceed to the next step. A sentence that implies there is a single truth. Only one way is right! ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],1

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk If these threats are not heeded, proceed to the next step. Arguing Interrupting ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],1

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],1

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],1 WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling A second choice that that people display. Hide the Differences One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Silence gives way to slow emergence of passive aggression, talking back and arguing. “ Out of the blue,” violence erupts. Victim defendant. Divorce Suicide Murder Looks like PEACE. But… 1 2 WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling The third Choice. One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Hide the Differences Relax with the Differences ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Use Dialogue P E A C E Use Communologue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],A sentence that implies there are multiple points of view and all are acceptable. Guided and facilitated Dialogue in groups. Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Looks like PEACE. But… Both choices 1 & 2 involve withholding, or suppressing information. This leads to increasing tension about “the unknown.” People have little Predictive Information. Therefore they become tense, and anxious . People relax when they know what is going on and what will happen next. We call this Predictive Information. Culture of deception 1 2 3 Choice 3 involves sharing everything safely and peacefully. How? WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Hide the Differences Relax with the Differences ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Use Dialogue P E A C E Use Communologue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Looks like PEACE. But… Dialogical Both these choices are non-Dialogical "If you are not dialogical at home, and are not guiding, teaching, and promoting dialogue at work, then you are probably part of the problem." 1 2 3 WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Hide the Differences Relax with the Differences ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Use Dialogue P E A C E Use Communologue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Looks like PEACE. But… “ We believe that it is impossible for two people to agree on anything!” the old woman said. 1 2 3 That is the chart. Let’s pause and give some examples, share some implications. WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Hide the Differences Relax with the Differences ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Use Dialogue P E A C E Use Communologue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Looks like PEACE. But… “ If two people are agreeing, you know one thing for sure. At least one of them is lying,” the old man said. 1 2 3 WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Hide the Differences Relax with the Differences ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Use Dialogue P E A C E Use Communologue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Looks like PEACE. But… “ 100% of couples I see are pre-Domestic Violence.” “ 40% of couples I see admit incidents of Domestic Violence.” 1 2 3 WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Hide the Differences Relax with the Differences ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Use Dialogue P E A C E Use Communologue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Looks like PEACE. But… I believe MasterTalk is the primary language of our TV and radio media. MasterTalk is the primary language of our politicians. 1 2 3 WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Hide the Differences Relax with the Differences ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Use Dialogue P E A C E Use Communologue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Looks like PEACE. But… “ Argument is the verbal form of physical battery.” “ Domestic violence is the physical form of arguing.” “ I never saw an incident of DV that was not proceeded by argument.” Stop the trouble one step before it happens. Where? Here! 1 2 3 WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Hide the Differences Relax with the Differences ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Use Dialogue P E A C E Use Communologue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Looks like PEACE. But… Let’s dialogue. 1 2 3 WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Hide the Differences Relax with the Differences ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Use Dialogue P E A C E Use Communologue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Looks like PEACE. But… Al’s Beliefs “ Domestic violence intervention is primarily an educational activity. Law enforcement is part of the process. 1) All who respond to a DV incident should be well trained in being dialogical.” 1 2 3 WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Hide the Differences Relax with the Differences ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Use Dialogue P E A C E Use Communologue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Looks like PEACE. But… 2) All who work with ‘perpetrators’ should be well trained in modeling and teaching dialogue.” 1 2 3 Al’s Beliefs “ Domestic violence intervention is primarily an educational activity. Law enforcement is part of the process. WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Hide the Differences Relax with the Differences ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Use Dialogue P E A C E Use Communologue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Looks like PEACE. But… 3) All involved in the DV incident should go into training: “perpetrator” “victim” “witnesses.” 1 2 3 Al’s Beliefs “ Domestic violence intervention is primarily an educational activity. Law enforcement is part of the process. WAR

My view. Your view. It’s your call! Extinguish the Differences MasterTalk Arguing Interrupting Domestic Violence Social Brawling One person cooperatively is silent. No sharing. Conflict Avoidant Political Correctness Avoids “offending, insulting, upsetting.” Hide the Differences Relax with the Differences ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Use Dialogue P E A C E Use Communologue ,[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],[object Object],Building resentment. A pause before the explosion. Looks like PEACE. But… 1 2 3 WAR

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