Before you create a list of ideals your future spouse needs to have for you to even consider marrying them, ask yourself this: would you marry yourself? This isn't a trick a question, but it's highly essential for everyone to ask of themselves before they even consider getting married. In the same way that you would expect certain things in a future husband or wife, they too will have expectations of what they want in you. No one thinks to ask themselves this prior to getting married, but asking this is critical to ensuring you can be the best you can be for a prospective partner. This webinar is for everyone who has countless expectations from their spouse, but has not thought for a moment about taking a long hard look at themselves first, and checking to see if they themselves might need to change. InshAllaah, during this webinar Sister Zohra Sarwari will talk about 3 things in particular: 1. Why would you marry yourself? 2. Why would you not marry yourself? 3. How to change yourself FIRST before looking for the BEST spouse inshAllaah.

1. Would you marry yourself?
Presented By
Sister Zohra Sarwari
www.zohrasarwari.com
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2. Du’AA
In the name of the Allaah, the Most Gracious, the Most
Magnificent. All praise is due to Allaah, Lord of the
universe. We praise Him, and seek His help and His
forgiveness, and we seek His protection from the accursed
Satan. Whomever Allaah guides will never be misguided,
and whomever He allows to be misguided will never be
guided. I bear witness that there is no deity worthy of
worship except Allaah, who is One, alone, and has no
partners. I bear witness that Muhammad is His servant and
messenger. May the blessings of Allaah be upon him and
his family and his companions and the righteous who
follow them until the Day of Judgment.
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3. overview
1. Why would you marry yourself ?
2. Why would you not marry yourself?
3. How to change yourself FIRST before
looking for the BEST spouse inshAllaah.
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4. “What you have to
offerOthers?”
‘Any fool can have a trophy wife.
It takes a real man to have a
trophy marriage.’
Diane Sollee
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5. “To have a good marriage you
must constantly work on YOU!”
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6. The Messenger of Allaah (Sall'Allahu alaihi
wasallam) said
"The best treasure is a tongue that is
busy in the remembrance of Allaah, a
heart that is busy thanking of Allaah,
and a wife who helps him in faith (i.e.
in Imaan and in virtuous deeds)."
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[Ahmad, Tirmidhi, & Ibn Majah]

7. They say it takes a village to
raise a child. That may be the
case, but the truth is that it
takes a lot of solid, stable
marriages to create a village.
Diane Sollee
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8. Marriage is the hardest thing you
will ever do. The secret is
removing divorce as
an option. Anybody who gives
themselves that option will get a
divorce.
Will Smith
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10. Point#2: Whywouldyounot
marryyourself?
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11. Success in marriage does not
come merely through finding the
right mate, but through being the
right mate.
Barnett R. Brickner
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12. Secrets of a Married Couple!
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13. Live so that when your children
think of fairness, caring and
integrity, they think of you.
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H. Jackson Brown, Jr
Umar Ibn Al-Khattab (Radiallahu anhu) said:
"I am surprised at three things:
1. [A] man runs from death while death is inevitable.
2. One sees minor faults in others, yet overlooks his
own major faults.
3. When there is any defect to one's cattle he tries to
cure it, but does not cure his own defects."

14. My wife’s actions are a mirror. The way
that my wife is acting toward me says
more about me than it does about her.
It says something about her too, but if
I can focus on my half of the
equation, I’ll make way more progress
in resolving conflict and building a
healthy relationship.
Newlywed Darrel
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Point#3: HowtoChange
YourselfFirst!
Step1:Awareness

15. Committing to staying calm is
the first key to committing to
staying married.
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H. Jackson Brown, Jr
Step 2: being motivated

16. “...And live with [them] in a beautiful
manner. If you are then displeased
with them, [then know] perhaps you
dislike something which Allaah has
created abundant goodness in it.”
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al-Qur’an 4:19
Step 3: Keep going!

17. TrueStory–Unknown!
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18. Questions
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