The document lists "wrong family rules" that were spoken or implied in dysfunctional families, churches, or schools. These rules include not having or expressing feelings, ignoring problems, focusing only on appearances, being perfect, keeping secrets, and not getting help. The document then has prayers to renounce each rule and ask for healing from the effects of growing up with them, such as regaining the ability to trust and have healthy relationships. It encourages forgiving those who wronged you and releasing bitterness.

1. WRONG FAMILY RULES
Inner Healing Journey Series
Teaching Material from Elijah House

2. As you read through this list, put
a check mark by the “rules” that
were spoken or implied in your
family, church or school.

3. WRONG FAMILY RULES
Don’t Have Feelings.
Especially Negative Ones.
Feelings Are Not
Important.
Don’t Cry.
Stay In Control.

4. Let us pray…
Lord Jesus, I renounce
and come out of
agreement with these
wrong family rules.
Feelings ARE important.
Because you gave them to
me. Help me to learn to
express my feelings in
ways that are healthy and
holy.

5. WRONG FAMILY RULES
Ignore
Your Sense That
Something Is Wrong…

6. IGNORE YOUR SENSE THAT
SOMETHING IS WRONG…
I renounce and come out of
agreement with this Wrong
family rule. Thank you for
restoring true discernment
to me. Thank you for giving
me wisdom , understanding
and courage to deal with
issues as they come up, and
for giving me your heart of
justice.

7. WRONG FAMILY RULES
Never Question Your
Parents’ Explanation
Of Reality,
(“That’s The Way It Is
Because I Say So!”)

8. BECAUSE I SAY SO!”
I renounce and come out of
agreement with this wrong
family rule. I renounce all
rebellion against my
parents, and choose to
honor them today, but ask
that you help me to see
things as they truly are.

9. WRONG FAMILY RULES
Image Is Everything.
It Doesn’t Matter
What’s Happening On
The Inside; All That
Matters Is How You
Look
(Always Compete
And Compare)

10. IMAGE IS EVERYTHING. IT DOESN’T MATTER WHAT’S
HAPPENING ON THE INSIDE
I renounce and come out of
agreement with this wrong
family rule, and repent for being
so focused on what I (and my
children/home/portfolio/
grades/car/etc.) look like.
Forgive me for competing with
and comparing myself to others.
I renounce the pride I’ve felt if
I’ve done well, and the shame
I’ve felt when I’ve not
“measured up.”

11. WRONG FAMILY RULES
Be Good
All The Time
(In A Dysfunctional
Family, Good Is
Translated Perfect)

12. BE GOOD ALL THE TIME
I renounce and come out of
agreement with this wrong
family rule. In all my
“goodness” and trying to be
perfect, I lost sight of who I
really am. I’ve tried to be
what I thought people needed
or wanted me to be. I repent
for and renounce my striving,
performance and any
unhealthy need to please
people.

13. WRONG FAMILY RULES
Ignore The Bad
Things That Happen
(Don’t Rock The
Boat)

14. IGNORE THE BAD THINGS THAT HAPPEN
I renounce and come out
of agreement with this
wrong family rule. By
your grace, I will no
longer ignore the bad
things that happen, and
I renounce the fear of
facing the truth and
confronting issues.

15. WRONG FAMILY RULES
Don’t Talk
Don’t Tell
Don’t Feel

16. DON’T TALK. DON’T TELL. DON’T FEEL.
I renounce and come out of
agreement with this wrong
family rule, breaking the
power of it over me. I no
longer have to keep my
family’s secret. I ask for
wisdom and discretion… to
know when and how to
share and who to share
with.

17. DON’T TALK. DON’T TELL. DON’T FEEL.
Help me to share
with the right
motive; never to
embarrass or
humiliate my family,
but to bring healing
and freedom.

18. WRONG FAMILY RULES
Never Get Help

19. NEVER GET HELP.
I renounce and come out of
agreement with this wrong
family rule. I DO need help
Lord Jesus and I ask for
the humility to ask for
others for help when I (or
my family ) need it.

20. WRONG FAMILY RULES
Don’t
Trust
Anyone.

21. DON’T TRUST ANYONE.
I renounce and come
out of agreement
with this wrong
family rule. Help me
to learn to trust, and
give me wisdom who
is trustworthy or not.

22. Be Healed in Jesus Name.
Be healed from
your childhood memories
Be healed in your emotional pain.
Be healed of your
dysfunctional past
Forgive all
the people who have wronged you.

23. Mention their names.
Release forgiveness.
Confess your root of bitterness.
Accept the healing.
Forgive yourself
As you forgive others.
BE HEALED IN JESUS NAME.