1) Dysfunctional families are characterized by members operating out of lies and misconceptions from the past that lead to wrong conclusions and decisions. 2) An example of a dysfunctional family is the "Bottle Family" with members fulfilling stereotypical roles like the addict, co-dependent spouse, hero child, scapegoat child, and lost child. 3) A deosfunctional family, in contrast, is one where the truth of God is present and His meaning guides all members, rather than their past experiences and misunderstandings.

1. Dysfunctional or Deos-functional? Having a meaningful life family

2. What are the characteristics of a dysfunctional family? Crazy Not working Harmful Not successful Not living up to potential A family where members operate out of the lies and misconceptions of the past.

3. Dysfunctional families Our experiences can lead us to wrong conclusions which in turn end up lead us to make wrong decisions.

4. Meaning centered Since we are meaning seeking creatures we look for understanding in everything. Our families are one of the earliest and most powerful influencers of our conclusions about ourselves, about relationships with others, about how to live in the world and about God.

5. The Bottle Family An example of a dysfunctional family.

6. Wino Willie: The Addict

7. Wino Willie: The Addict

8. Wilhelmina: co-dependent

9. Wilhelmina: co-dependent

10. Daryl: The Hero

11. Bubba: The scapegoat

12. Sissy: The lost child

13. Jolly Jerry/Sad Sam

14. Martha: The martyr/doer

15. Camille/Leon

16. Meaning centered living It is not our history that guides are behavior but the conclusions we reach about our past that control us.

17. Common misunderstandings about self Not good enough. Not competent. Dirty or tainted. I must be perfekt. God can not use me. I will not become something.

18. Common misunderstandings about others Relationships will satisfy me. I am alone. There is no one to help. I must do it by myself. I must always show others that I am strong. I must not say how I really feel.

19. Listen to the common beliefs Lies Judgments Exaggerations Wrong meaning discovered Lack of information Misunderstandings Wrong conclusions

20. Common misunderstandings about the world Nothing matters. I should just get out of life what I can. I can control things. Things and money will satisfy me. Power will satisfy me.

21. Common misunderstandings about God He is not there. He does not have my best interest in mind. He should always keep me from pain. He has no power. He does not care. He is distant.

22. What is a deosfunctional family? Deos - God Functional – organized, working A system were the truth of God is present and His meaning is the prime mover for all members.

23. Truth Ourselves Others World God