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Whenever we’re overwhelmed and seek advice or the opinion of colleagues, friends,
or family, often we get shocked at how insensitive they may be in their analysis.
You invariably get emotionally involved when you are directly involved in any issue,
problem, discussion, or situation. Sometimes heavily emotionally involved,
depending on the subject and what is at stake.
So at this point, you have: subject A + Subject B + Issue/problem + emotions from
both sides.
When you ask someone’s opinion hoping they pick your side, they will not be
directly involved, regardless of the sympathy they have for you; their emotions are
not so mixed up with the equation.
Therefore their analysis may sound light or unfair. And you will say, “but you don’t
understand. And they won’t. Because they don’t have their emotions involved, much
less yours. Their equation at hand is: Subject (views, facts, background) > possible
solution.
Why external opinions bother us
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why external opinons bother us.pdf

  • 1. Whenever we’re overwhelmed and seek advice or the opinion of colleagues, friends, or family, often we get shocked at how insensitive they may be in their analysis. You invariably get emotionally involved when you are directly involved in any issue, problem, discussion, or situation. Sometimes heavily emotionally involved, depending on the subject and what is at stake. So at this point, you have: subject A + Subject B + Issue/problem + emotions from both sides. When you ask someone’s opinion hoping they pick your side, they will not be directly involved, regardless of the sympathy they have for you; their emotions are not so mixed up with the equation. Therefore their analysis may sound light or unfair. And you will say, “but you don’t understand. And they won’t. Because they don’t have their emotions involved, much less yours. Their equation at hand is: Subject (views, facts, background) > possible solution. Why external opinions bother us http://amaroaraujo.com