Marriages can succeed if trust is part of the precious component that is to be esteemed highly. We can minimize the hurts in marriage by being trustworthy with ourselves, resources and even our relationships.

1. THE PRECIOUS COMPONENT IN
MARRIAGE
We live in a world where the word
‘TRUST’ is a rare commodity and
especially in marriage.
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2. This week alone I have talked to
some 5 spouses that are really
hurting as a result of mistrust in
their marriages. Some of them have
even parted ways and this gave me
a concern.
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3. What happened to two people that
loved each other so much to the
extend of getting married and within
a short spell of time, they cannot
want to be together again.
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4. As I listened to these spouses, I
realized that TRUST in their marriages
had been eroded. They are really
hurting and it is a common saying:
Hurting people hurt people.
The Bible is so clear on the marriage
institution. We have to have total
commitment and trust to each other as
we have become one flesh.
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5. Jesus emphasizes God’s desire
within marriage when he says “For
this reason a man shall leave his
father and mother and be joined to
his wife, and the two shall become
one. So they are no longer two but
one."
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6. Our Lord makes it clear that this
relationship is the highest human
relationship possible in life. Two
unique people with more differences
than similarities begin blending their
lives and becoming one flesh -- that is
what marriage does.
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7. • It is a process, not a single production.
The word is in the future tense … they
are BECOMING one.
• It is a pilgrimage, not a one month
performance.
• It is intended to be a public portrayal, not
a private predicament.
• It is life-long covenant, not a short-time
contract.
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8. Trust is a critical requirement for
any relationship. We learn we can
trust someone, and share our lives
with them, because they do what
they say they are going to do. We
learn to trust someone because
they say what they mean and mean
what they say. They are trustworthy.
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9. Trust is the foundation that holds a
marriage up. If you agree to honor
and respect what is important to
your spouse, he/she will trust you
with his/her feelings and thoughts.
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10. If you don’t seem to understand the
importance of honouring an
agreement, and the importance of
protecting trust with your spouse,
there cannot be a relationship. Your
marriage will not succeed.
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11. Every marriage needs trust
A happy marriage rests
on unquestioned trust. If you want a
fulfilling marriage, you must know
how to create this kind of trust.
Most couples think of trust
exclusively in terms of being
sexually faithful, which is essential,
but there's more to it.
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12. Trust that you will be sexually
faithful.
Without sexual fidelity marriage
becomes unworkable. Keep your
commitment to remain sexually
faithful.
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13. Trust that you will not harm, reject or
control one another.
Trust thrives in an atmosphere of
safety and security. Hurting one
another, either physically or verbally,
and then rejecting one another, creates
fear which undermines trust that leads
to breakup in your marriage.
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14. Trust that you love one another without
ulterior motives.
You and your spouse need to feel sure
you are loved for yourself and not
some ulterior motive. That includes
your looks, your money, your family;
your partner needs someone to feel
superior to or be a buffer against being
alone and lonely.
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15. Trust that you will not abandon one
another in the face of anger, conflict
and disagreements.
Anger, conflict and disagreements
are inevitable. Don’t threaten your
spouse.
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16. Trust that you will keep each other
and your marriage a top priority.
Spouses trust that they mean it
when they promise to love, honour
and cherish one another.
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17. Don't take each other for granted,
neglect your relationship or
consistently give too much time and
energy to other things and people.
You can break that trust.
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18. Remember every day what is really
important in your life. Keep your
priorities clear. Make your spouse and
your marriage a priority.
Do not negate your part in your
marriage.
You are equally needed as you are
very important.
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19. Trust isn't given unconditionally. You
have to be trustworthy to receive
trust.
Trust and truth go hand in hand. That
is why deception of any sort is the
biggest trust killer.
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20. There is no such thing as a white lie.
Being honest with your spouse
includes telling the truth about where
you were, whom you talked to, what
you said and where you spent money.
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21. Many marriages have been saved
because both spouses committed to
being honest, even if it involved
painful truths.
Trust can be built and rebuilt, and
couples can enjoy the intimacy that
comes from being secure in each
other's love.
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22. Marriages can succeed if trust is part
of the precious component that is to
be esteemed highly.
We can minimize the hurts in marriage
by being trustworthy with ourselves,
resources and even our relationships.
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23. We can make a change in our marriages
by being trustworthy and building more
and more trust. Marriage must succeed.
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