1) The document discusses how assumptions can damage marriages by setting couples up for confrontations and blame.
2) It notes that when entering marriage, partners have expectations and assumptions about each other that may not be accurate and could lead to hurt.
3) Assumptions are dangerous because they are often not based in facts and can destroy relationships when people react emotionally without full information. Overcoming assumptions requires communication, understanding different perspectives, and giving partners the benefit of the doubt.
The root of our struggles is found in the struggle with an over-estimation of ourselves. It’s pride.
The Bible says that “Pride only breeds quarrels” (Proverbs 13:10a). If pride is left unchecked, it can eventually lead to an absolute loss of intimacy, communication, and connection between a husband and wife.
A happy wife makes a happy life.
Marriage is a give and give and give and give, sing it with me, relationship.
A successful, godly marriage is not based upon the issue as long as both shall live but as long as both shall give.
Marriage is empowered by the grace of God and sustained by the love of God.
Marriage is probably one of the greatest opportunities to experience the goodness and grace of God in your own personal life and to experience love for each other.
If you can nurture a spirit of “we’re in this together and must find our solutions together” as you navigate this crisis, you’ll be greatly strengthened for the journey. If you can view your spouse as vulnerable, fragile, and in need of your love, you’ll grow in empathy toward each other, creating a powerful bridge.
We say marriages are made in heaven. Truly its a kind of relationship which we want to cherish throughout our lives. It depends upon us how to grow into a relationship. An ideal marriage is based on trust, love and respect towards each other. When these ingredients go missing problem arises. This presentation gives 10 tips on how to keep your marriage going and successful, and most importantly bring happiness to it.
Causes of Third Parties in Our MarriagesKIGUME Karuri
Most times people that intrude in our marriages take the cream of the marriage and leave the couple in problems. They can use the resources the couple has and finally the marriage becomes unstable or can easily break up.
The root of our struggles is found in the struggle with an over-estimation of ourselves. It’s pride.
The Bible says that “Pride only breeds quarrels” (Proverbs 13:10a). If pride is left unchecked, it can eventually lead to an absolute loss of intimacy, communication, and connection between a husband and wife.
A happy wife makes a happy life.
Marriage is a give and give and give and give, sing it with me, relationship.
A successful, godly marriage is not based upon the issue as long as both shall live but as long as both shall give.
Marriage is empowered by the grace of God and sustained by the love of God.
Marriage is probably one of the greatest opportunities to experience the goodness and grace of God in your own personal life and to experience love for each other.
If you can nurture a spirit of “we’re in this together and must find our solutions together” as you navigate this crisis, you’ll be greatly strengthened for the journey. If you can view your spouse as vulnerable, fragile, and in need of your love, you’ll grow in empathy toward each other, creating a powerful bridge.
We say marriages are made in heaven. Truly its a kind of relationship which we want to cherish throughout our lives. It depends upon us how to grow into a relationship. An ideal marriage is based on trust, love and respect towards each other. When these ingredients go missing problem arises. This presentation gives 10 tips on how to keep your marriage going and successful, and most importantly bring happiness to it.
Causes of Third Parties in Our MarriagesKIGUME Karuri
Most times people that intrude in our marriages take the cream of the marriage and leave the couple in problems. They can use the resources the couple has and finally the marriage becomes unstable or can easily break up.
Seek to understand your spouse. The more you do, the more he/she will reciprocate. I always advise that marriage is not a contract or competition but it is a relationship. Relationships are built over time. Spouses have to work out their relationships and built more capacity in their marriages.
In order to sustain the marriage institution, both spouses must work on their marriage. Yes, one can work more than the other, but both must participate.
We must do all that it takes to sustain our marriages. You cannot run away from the marriage simply because there are disagreements. You must work to sustain it.
Successful couples have learned to resist holding grudges and bringing up the past. They remember that they married an imperfect person — and so did their spouse.
You may have been disappointed by some issues in your marriage in the past. You can do nothing about your past as it is history but you can make the necessary amends in 2016.
It a new year to be with your spouse. You need to build on the better part of your marriage in the yester years and make the most of 2016 to excel in your marriage.
Communication in a marriage is extremely important. Without proper understanding and adjustments many marriages will experience great difficulty and possibly split up.
Communication is the key to the success of your marriage!
Of late this subject has bothered me so much after seeing the many marriages that are breaking up. Some of these marriages never went beyond one year. Some have broken up after many years.
A WIFE MUST PUT ALL THE EFFORT TO MAKE HER HUSBAND THE HERO IN HER MARRIAGE.
A HUSBAND MUST PUT ALL THE EFFORT TO ENSURE HIS WIFE IS THE HEROINE IN HIS MARRIAGE
TREASURE EACH OTHER TO BRING A LASTING MARRIAGE THAT BOTH OF YOU WILL ENJOY ALWAYS
Yes you can B.E.T.T.E.R your marriage by Building up and Edifying your spouse. Trust is built over time and maintaining trust is important in marriage because once trust is eroded, it is very costly to recoup it.
Have a spirit of Tolerance in tour marriage and Encourage each other.
Finally build a spirit of Resilience in your marriage.
Marriage must grow to be a happy and healthy one. If your marriage doesn’t grow, there must be something terribly wrong that needs to be sorted out.
You can have a strong marriage that will last if you are willing to grow, develop and work together through God's strength and power and the willingness of your partner.
The choice is yours. You have to have the want to, to make your home and relationship strong enough by the power of God to remain true to Him. The longer you wait the harder the choice.
There are no issues which cannot be handled by an understanding couple. Never procrastinate handling a small misunderstanding. Failure to handle it, may lead to a mountain of the same.
Seek to understand your spouse. The more you do, the more he/she will reciprocate. I always advise that marriage is not a contract or competition but it is a relationship. Relationships are built over time. Spouses have to work out their relationships and built more capacity in their marriages.
In order to sustain the marriage institution, both spouses must work on their marriage. Yes, one can work more than the other, but both must participate.
We must do all that it takes to sustain our marriages. You cannot run away from the marriage simply because there are disagreements. You must work to sustain it.
Successful couples have learned to resist holding grudges and bringing up the past. They remember that they married an imperfect person — and so did their spouse.
You may have been disappointed by some issues in your marriage in the past. You can do nothing about your past as it is history but you can make the necessary amends in 2016.
It a new year to be with your spouse. You need to build on the better part of your marriage in the yester years and make the most of 2016 to excel in your marriage.
Communication in a marriage is extremely important. Without proper understanding and adjustments many marriages will experience great difficulty and possibly split up.
Communication is the key to the success of your marriage!
Of late this subject has bothered me so much after seeing the many marriages that are breaking up. Some of these marriages never went beyond one year. Some have broken up after many years.
A WIFE MUST PUT ALL THE EFFORT TO MAKE HER HUSBAND THE HERO IN HER MARRIAGE.
A HUSBAND MUST PUT ALL THE EFFORT TO ENSURE HIS WIFE IS THE HEROINE IN HIS MARRIAGE
TREASURE EACH OTHER TO BRING A LASTING MARRIAGE THAT BOTH OF YOU WILL ENJOY ALWAYS
Yes you can B.E.T.T.E.R your marriage by Building up and Edifying your spouse. Trust is built over time and maintaining trust is important in marriage because once trust is eroded, it is very costly to recoup it.
Have a spirit of Tolerance in tour marriage and Encourage each other.
Finally build a spirit of Resilience in your marriage.
Marriage must grow to be a happy and healthy one. If your marriage doesn’t grow, there must be something terribly wrong that needs to be sorted out.
You can have a strong marriage that will last if you are willing to grow, develop and work together through God's strength and power and the willingness of your partner.
The choice is yours. You have to have the want to, to make your home and relationship strong enough by the power of God to remain true to Him. The longer you wait the harder the choice.
There are no issues which cannot be handled by an understanding couple. Never procrastinate handling a small misunderstanding. Failure to handle it, may lead to a mountain of the same.
**side note. It says six but there's an extra one couldn't resist adding another.
Here is an amalgamation of what I have learned from my own relationship and also working with other couples.
I would love to year what are your relationship rules?
I read somewhere the other day that there’s 45% chance of first marriages breaking up and a 60% chance of second marriages collapsing. It’s probably an American statistic. I’ve no doubt, however, that South Africa would probably mimic it quite closely.
I reckon that both you and I know of someone who has got divorced recently. And, there’s a good chance, that if you’re reading this that you’ve probably been divorced or have come from a single parent home.
I think my family certainly did its fair share to add to the statistics. My father was divorced four times, my mother twice, my elder brother thrice and my younger brother once. That’s 10 divorces! I think that my family gives credence to the saying that the biggest cause of divorce is marriage.
You’re probably wondering about me. No, I’ve never been married. Of course, at 52 this raises the question of whether or not I have commitment issues. Duh!
Like me, you’ve probably heard one of your friends at one time or another, say something to this effect: “I have problems in my marriage.”
When we make a statement like this, I think they’ve got it backwards. I think that our problems cause our marriages.
Why do most of us get into relationships and/or marriages? We kid ourselves when we say it’s because of “love”. The real reason, in my opinion, is that we’re getting into relationships to sort out our problems or to fill a void.
We think that by having a partner we’re going to fill the void of loneliness, the feeling that we’re being “left on the shelf” or that the other will “complete” us and make us happy.
It’s a myth. We need to face the fact that a marriage can never fix what’s “wrong” inside of us. Only we can do that. The other can never fix that void that sits in us.
So, if you’re still married, don’t look for the problems in your relationships, look for the problems in yourself and get to work, otherwise you’ll just become another statistic.
And, if you’re thinking about getting married, pause. Just make sure that you’re doing it for the right reasons and not because you think it’s going to solve your problems.
You’re smart and you know this to be true: Nobody else can make you happy. Only you can make you happy.
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As someone who was once in a frustrating, painful marriage, I know how it is to feel rejected. I know what it's like to feel fear and anxiety over not knowing what the future holds. I know what it's like to have a spouse who isn't interested in working things out, and is already looking toward "greener pastures".
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Christian accountability-discussion-guideKen Gosnell
A great guide for accountability. Questions and personal evaluations that should be shared with a friend that will keep you on the right path towards top performance.
Make 2018 an Exemplary Year in Your MarriageKIGUME Karuri
MAKE YOUR MARRIAGE GREAT THIS YEAR.
Build trust in God and with your spouse. Don’t allow your past hurt to influence marriage decisions in 2018. This is the year of KINGDOM MANIFESTATION AND PARTICULARLY IN OUR MARRIAGES.
The only thing that’s keeping you from getting what you want
is the story you keep telling yourself. –Tony Robbins
This booklet discusses limiting beliefs in Health, Relationships and Careers.
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Are you getting everything you want out of life?
Most of us can’t honestly answer that we are.
Most of us have dreams that have so far gone unfulfilled, or goals that we haven’t quite yet managed to accomplish
Many of us might feel that we’re somewhat in a rut, or we might have days were our moods just aren’t good.
Maybe your physique isn’t what it should be
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What Does This Come Down To?
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But this isn’t how change happens.
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The most successful and happy people in the world are the ones with an internal focus of control. That means that they understand they have the power to change their fortunes and they actually go about doing so – rather than pointing to other things.
Your Mindset is Where Everything Starts
Your mindset is where everything starts
It’s how you set goals. It’s what gives you the strength to go after them.
It’s what makes you confident and daring. It’s what makes you creative and focused.
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8 toxic activities that you really should get rid of for improve your quality...Doni Ariyanto
I set up a routine in the morning, began meditating, regularly went to the gym and read at least one book a week.
And, I didn't feel happier, more fulfilled, or stronger one year later.
And I didn't understand why, even though I had developed all these modern, strong habits, my life did not change.
10 Things Couples Who Are In Healthy Successful Relationships Do RegularlyC Mellie Smith
What do successful couples do differently that keeps their love alive despite challenges? What's their formula for making things work? This presentation shares the top ten 10 habits of couples that remain together and staying in love with each other.
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Change never seems natural. We naturally repel it and often want to retreat back into our comfort zone. There is all the resistance to change. When then there is a crisis you must equip yourself for change or be overcome by the change. Every man must prepare himself to handle crisis.
You Must Make Important Changes in Your LifeKIGUME Karuri
Making important changes in your life can be stressful but if done for the right reasons, it will be very rewarding once completed. By making some adjustments here and there, you can move closer toward your goals in life with greater passion and confidence.
What lessons have we learnt from the pandemic? We need to adjust in such a way as to get our feet back on track. There is always hope. Never give up. There are many things we were doing that were draining our resources and not adding value to our lives. Make an about turn and seek to look for opportunities that will change your life and those that are close to you. You are important and that you will make it. The key word is ADJUST.
Marriage is the joining together of a man and a woman in a very special way, and if it is done in the way God designed and planned it, it opens the way for prosperity and blessings both in the natural and in the supernatural or spiritual realm.
Life is full of opportunities and challenges. We can meet these challenges and still live life abundantly. Tough times never last, but tough people do. Tough people who survive do so because they have learnt to reach positively to their predicaments.
If you are not prioritizing, then you are not thinking ahead of where you currently are and this means that you also probably don’t have a handle on where you are in relation to your overall vision.
Marriage is all about love, kindness, patience and staying grounded. These four things promote a healthy relationship by encouraging understanding, keeping the lines of communication open and making sure both spouses feel loved, understood and supported. This is why you need wisdom in marriage.
You can be the man you ought to be in 2019. Make responsible decisions and actions and stand firm for your family. Be there for your family and take the lead in being the man in 2019.
A long lasting love is just a couple who have made it their goal to go one more day in love and invested the time and effort to pull it off one day at a time.
As much as possible work on minimizing debts in your marriage, I personally advise couples to watch on their spending against their income. There are many items that you don’t need.
The choices you make today not only affect you, but also those around you and your descendants! If your choices are good this is good, but if the choices were bad…you have set up a string of negative events with a myriad of consequences!
Commitment allows us to fulfill our most basic needs and achieve our most sought after dreams. It gives us purpose. It’s never too late to learn how to commit.
The father must set the stage by showing love to their mother, his children and the community. He MUST MODEL LOVE. The boys would want to imitate their father.
A good home and a good marriage make life worthy the living. The husband and wife must seek ways and means of making the home a haven. Bring up your children in a good home.
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1. Assumptions can Easily
Drain Your marriage
In order to enjoy life, we have to learn how to get
along with our spouses. Assumptions are
dangerous and we must work on how we can
avoid making assumptions. Assumptions rob us
of living well. Assumptions set us up for
confrontations, and then we blame each other
for the confrontations.
Kigume KaruriWednesday, July 15, 2020 1
2. • This is especially so in marriage. When we
enter in marriage we have our expectations
and assumptions about our spouses. We
assume many things and issues. If we set our
minds on those issues, we may be hurt and
blame our spouses on issues and things that
they are not aware of.
Wednesday, July 15, 2020 Kigume Karuri 2
3. • Assumptions possess the ability to kill and destroy
relationships, friendships, and marriages.
Assumptions happen when someone believes in a
thought or a notion even if it is not factual or true,
they then react and respond emotionally based on
their thoughts. Which in turn causes a lot of
damage to the person on the receiving end.
Negative assumptions derive from our own
personal fears and past experiences.
Wednesday, July 15, 2020 Kigume Karuri 3
4. Lets see how this impacts our lives and how
we can avoid making these assumptions. The
definition of assumption is, “the act of taking
something for granted as true without proof,
reason, or evidence.”
Wednesday, July 15, 2020 Kigume Karuri 4
5. 1. At the root of making assumptions is a
spiritual problem called pride.
• In Hebrews 12:1 it tells us, “1. Therefore we
also, since we are surrounded by so great a
cloud of witnesses, let us lay aside every
weight, and the sin which so easily ensnares
us, and let us run with endurance the race
that is set before us, . . .”
Wednesday, July 15, 2020 Kigume Karuri 5
6. • Pride shows up in various ways in our lives.
Making assumptions is the result of pride. Pride
tells us that we must have things to go the way
we want them to and that others are
unimportant. In order to avoid making
assumptions, we are going to have to see pride as
the root of our problem.
Wednesday, July 15, 2020 Kigume Karuri 6
7. • 2. Making assumptions is the root behind
miscommunications. The reason we do not
want to communicate adequately is that we are
afraid that we will not get what we want. As a
result, we decide to make an assumption rather
than to communicate. Countless arguments,
strife, and unpleasant encounters have
happened in marriages over the years as a result
of incorrect assumptions.
Wednesday, July 15, 2020 Kigume Karuri 7
8. • Sometimes people hear what they want to
hear, and they spread things they want to be
true. If we as Christians made a quality
decision not to make assumptions, we could
avoid many feelings of anger, rejection, and
bitterness. It happens all the time because we
make assumptions based on things that are
not true.
Wednesday, July 15, 2020 Kigume Karuri 8
9. • 3. Making assumptions is the basis for “taking up
a reproach against a spouse.” It means to take
sides in a dispute that we are not actually
involved in. The real problem is that we make an
assumption based on one-sided information, and
then we choose to be angry or disappointed at
someone who has done nothing to us. The
problem with taking up a reproach against a
spouse is that we have assumed we have all the
information, when we rarely do. The root of the
problem is that we have assumed something
when in fact we have no proof, reason, or
evidence. We only have the word of someone
who may or may not be filling in all the details.
Wednesday, July 15, 2020 Kigume Karuri 9
10. • Proverbs 20:18 says, “Plans are established
by counsel; by wise counsel wage war.”
Before we make an assumption that
someone is wrong, we should take the time
to gather all the facts and realize that any
dispute is rarely one-sided.
Wednesday, July 15, 2020 Kigume Karuri 10
11. • Marriages ended by someone that set out to
divide and destroy beforehand. All it takes is
one or more people willing to make an
incorrect assumption. Proverbs 18:2 says, “ A
fool has no delight in understanding, but in
expressing his own heart.” Instead of living a
life making assumptions, choose to live a life
with understanding, sharing, and complete
communication. Making false assumptions can
lead us to choose the wrong priorities.
Wednesday, July 15, 2020 Kigume Karuri 11
12. .
Friday, May 22, 2020 12Kigume Karuri
• Killing assumption may require us to do the
following:
1. Understand the root of assumption
• It is important to know and identify the root cause of
your assumptions, so that you know how to work on
it. You can’t work on something or make changes in
your life, if you don’t even know what you are
working on or changing. When those assumption
triggers go off, pause and ask yourself “why am I
feeling this way? Where does the fear come from?”
Identify your assumption triggers!
PURPOSE TO KILL ALL ASSUMPTIONS
13. • 2. Forgive, let go, and let God
• Once you know and understand the root of
your assumptions, decide to forgive the past
offense, decide to let it go, decide that you
will no longer let it control you and negatively
affect those around you. The great news is
that we can come to God with our concerns,
because He wants to heal us, He wants to
replace our fears with His promises and with
His truth. He wants us to be whole and
thriving in our marriages.
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14. • 3. Retrain your brain
• Once you have a fair understanding on the root
of your assumptions, and you have chosen to
forgive and move forward from the past. You will
now have to go on a journey of retraining your
brain to think in a different way. Instead of
always fearing the worst, and allowing your mind
to go down that harmful road, you will now have
to train your brain to think in a more positive
manner. This will take time, but if you commit to
it, both yourself and your spouse will benefit
from it long-term.
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15. • 4. Do it together
• Marriage is a partnership, you do things together,
and you experience the ups and the downs
together. Therefore it is important to encourage
and to be patient with your spouse especially if
they are working on this vulnerable area. When
you decided to marry your spouse, you decided
to have the good and the bad, the sweet, the not
so sweet parts of your spouse. There is nothing
more beautiful or rewarding when watching your
spouse grow in all areas, because you did it
together!
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16. • 5. Believe the best
• Start to believe in the very best of your spouse!
Do not allow your mind to drift into assuming the
worst of him/her, before speaking to them.
Therefore that means we need to give each other
the benefit of the doubt! This is not always easy
to do, as it requires us to have faith and to trust in
him/her!
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17. • The assumptions we have acquired over the
years aren’t neutral; they shape the way we
live in the present, both positively and
negatively. We tend to demand our
expectations of normal should be everyone's
default position.
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18. • A lot of times false assumptions about marriage
can keep a person from having the best
relationship with a spouse. And marriage is not
an exception. Also, given the amount of free
advice available everywhere, people end up
making assumptions about marriage, which has
the potential to cause irreparable damage to
the relationship
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19. Finally
• 1. Marriage is all about compromise
A lot of people mistake adjustments for
compromise and end up believing marriage is all
about compromise, whether it’s about their
identity or their lifestyle choices. But to make a
marriage work, a couple needs to make
adjustments, which should not come at the cost
of their happiness or self-esteem.
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20. • 2. You always have to be in love with each other
This is a bitter pill that most people will find it
difficult to swallow. Yes, there might come a
time in your marriage when you might fall out
of love with your spouse. But that does not
mean that is the end of your relationship. All
relationships, including marriage, evolve with
time. And so does the feelings of the spouses
for each other. So, when such a moment arrives,
it means a person needs to work to keep his
marriage alive.
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21. • 3. Marriage means more responsibilities and it
can be a burden
•
It’s true that marriage means more
responsibilities, but that does not mean it is a
burden. Also, what most people tend to forget is
all the responsibilities that come after marriage
are shared by two people and there is a sense of
togetherness in doing so. And this can bring two
individuals closer instead of making marriage feel
like a burden.
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22. • 4. Marriage can change a person
There is an old adage that says, “The tragedy
of marriage is that while all women marry
thinking that their man will change, all men
marry believing their wife will never change.”
This is one misconception that most people
have that marriage can change a person for
better or for worse.
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23. • If we can be open to each other and
not assume that all is well, I believe we
can have better marriages and avoid
this killer that drains marriages.
STOP ASSUMPTIONS !!!!
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