Where do you want to take your marriage to in 2017? This cannot be possible without setting goals for your marriage. Goals are steps that you are going to follow in order to reach your marriage vision.

1. Have you set your Marriage goals in 2017?
Where do you want to take your marriage to
in 2017?
This cannot be possible without setting goals
for your marriage.
Goals are steps that you are going to follow in
order to reach your marriage vision.
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2. • What, specifically, would you like to see
accomplished together in 2017?
• 1 Cor. 13:4-8
• 4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not
envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.
• 5 It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not
easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.
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3. • 6 Love does not delight in evil but rejoices
with the truth.
• 7 It always protects, always trusts, always
hopes, always perseveres.
• 8 Love never fails. But where there are
prophecies, they will cease; where there are
tongues, they will be stilled; where there is
knowledge, it will pass away. NIV
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4. • Goals are simply a set of specific steps to
achieve the vision. “Goals are dreams with a
date.” One vision produces many goals.
Goals are shorter-term measurements of
whether we’re reaching our vision together
in our marriage.
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5. • Deliberately and intentionally invest in
your marriage in 2017 just as much as you
invest in other areas of your life. And that
means setting tangible goals in 2017.
• What, specifically, would you like to
accomplish together in 2017?
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6. • Having a vision is good but it is not enough.
There must be goals to put it into action. Goals
are simply a set of specific steps to achieve the
vision. Someone else has said, “Goals are
dreams with a date.”
• Goals provide:
i. Direction
ii. Motivation
iii. Measurement
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7. • "What you get by achieving your goals is not
as important as what you become by
achieving your goals .“ Henry David Thoreau.
• Setting goals early in your marriage and
constantly reviewing them is very important.
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8. • When your goals are clear, you know what
you're trying to achieve. You can also
measure results accurately, and you know
which behaviors to reward to your spouse.
• This is important for both of you.
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9. • It is important to set goals both as an
individual and as a couple. In other words,
you should have your own set of goals as well
as goals as a couple in order to thrive in a
relationship. A marriage without goals/a
common vision is subject entirely to external
influences, regardless of whether they are
desirable or not.
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10. • Setting goals for yourself defines your
identity, gives you a sense of purpose, gives
you a sense of self-worth and esteem, puts
you in the driver's seat of your life and makes
you a better person overall.
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11. • Setting goals as a couple ensures that you
always have something common to work
towards. This common goal and vision may
be the glue that binds you together in times
of hardships.
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12. The Benefits of setting Marriage
Goals
• 1) Pursuing your vision
• What is important to you as a couple? E.g.
– security, happiness, peace of mind, team
work etc.
• It is more important that you have similar
vision and values.
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13. • 2) Have a weekly schedule that you are
comfortable with.
• This facilitates reviewing/working out your
short-term goals.
• 3) Keep the goal setting process as simple as
possible.
• Being too elaborate makes it difficult to
review and update your goals.
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14. • 4) Write down the goals for 2017.
• You may type your goals out in a word
document and keep a copy for both of you to
refer to.
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15. • Every couple that marries has various
reasons and motives for becoming
husband and wife.
• These reasons must prevail while
looking at your marriage goals in 2017.
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16. You need to have :
• 1. Spiritual goals .
• Your spiritual relationship with each other is
truly the core of your marriage and it enables
all other areas of your relationship to work
well.
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17. • 2. Verbal goals
• To experience true friendship and
companionship within your marriage you
must be able to talk to each other. You must
have the freedom to communicate your
thoughts and ideas without the fear of
ridicule or reprisals.
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18. • a.) Attitudes: Do you have an arrogant or
condemning attitude when you talk to your
spouse? Does your attitude communicate
bitterness or irritation?
• b.) Words: Are your words harsh and
aggressive? Do you lie or use evasive words
to avoid telling the truth?
• c.) Actions: When you communicate do you
interrupt your mate or regularly finish his or
her sentences?
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19. • Do you try and dominate the conversation by
your many words, or do you use the silent
treatment to control your spouse? Are you
good at blame-shifting when your spouse
brings up one of your faults?
• This is major goal that needs to be set by
every couple.
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20. • 3. Emotional goals.
• In addition to spiritual and verbal goals, you
must be able to connect emotionally with
your loved each other. Can you share your
deepest emotions with your spouse, or are
you afraid to reveal how you feel to each
other?
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21. • 4. Recreational goals.
• Having fun together is an essential element
of good relationship. You’ve probably heard
the saying, “The family that prays together
stays together.”
• “The family that plays together stays
together.” Identify how you can improve your
times of recreation together in 2017
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22. • 5. Sexual goals
• To ever hope to enjoy the true sexual
relationship God intends for your marriage, you
must establish and maintain relationship in all
of the above areas.
• If you have little relationship spiritually, don’t
connect emotionally, or find it difficult to talk or
have fun together, it will be very difficult to
enjoy a satisfying sexual relationship with each
other.
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23. • Finally in 2017
• When You Are Married, Act Married!
• if you are gone all the time from your spouse,
someone else may be giving your spouse
attention. Do not allow the “little foxes”
spoil the vine. Being gone from your spouse
may send a message that you prefer to spend
more time with others than with them.
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24. Enjoy your marriage relationship
in 2017 and at the end of the year
carry out an evaluation of the
goals you set for the year.
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