A long lasting love is just a couple who have made it their goal to go one more day in love and invested the time and effort to pull it off one day at a time.

1. MAKE YOUR
MARRIAGE HAPPY IN
2019
As we come to the end of 2018, you can do a
review of how your marriage has worked. There
must have been good and bad times in the year;
times of happiness and joy and times of pains.
There are areas that we need to improve on not to
hurt our spouses. There are changes that we need
to make to make our marriages happy in 2019
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2. • To make your marriage happy in 2019
• 1. Learn to apologize when you have wronged
your spouse. A simple heart-felt apology works
wonders. It's really nothing short of
miraculous.
• A sincere apology sounds like this; "I'm sorry
for what I did; it was wrong. And I'm really
sorry for hurting you. Will you please forgive
me?"
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3. • 2. Confide in your spouse
Unfortunately, many married people today are
unwilling to be vulnerable with their
spouses. They guard their feelings. This is
always counter- productive to you getting what
you really want.
• To improve your marriage, be honest with your
spouse; share your fears and insecurities.
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4. • Doing this improves understanding,
closeness, and intimacy.
• 3. Learn to listen to your spouse
Listening keeps things running smoothly. So
listen to your spouse and acknowledge their
point of view; this demonstrates love and
respect.
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5. • Listening to your spouse sounds like this: "I
see what you mean - I guess I never looked at
it that way."
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6. • 4. Be responsible for your actions.
When marriage problems arise, BOTH
spouses are usually to blame; so getting
defensive doesn't help. Ideally you might say
something like this: "I shouldn't have done
that. I'm sorry. I understand why you reacted
the way you did."
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7. • 5. Always seek for common ground
Nothing destroys happiness faster than
focusing on your differences. Focus on what
you have in common.
• For instance, if your parenting styles differ,
focus on the fact that you both want healthy
kids.
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8. • 6. Make all the efforts improve your marriage
Stop repeating the same old mistakes –
interrupt unhealthy patterns by replacing
them with healthy behaviors. Improve. Show
your spouse that you're trying to change.
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9. • 7. Mend the relationship not your spouse
Mending a marriage doesn't mean mending
your spouse. Don't even think about
changing your spouse's behavior so you can
be happier.
• Thinking you can change your spouse is an
impossible task to be undertaken.
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10. Be the change agent in your
marriage in 2019
• Change your marriage to be what you want by
practicing the Three C’s:
• 1. COMMUNICATION
Happy couples communicate. Outstanding
communication helps your marriage weather
storms, resolve issues, and stay connected. It
deepens intimacy, creates playfulness and fills
your relationship with warmth.
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11. • Deal with problems while they are small and
easily manageable. Communicate.
• 2. COMMITMENT
Be committed and demonstrate your
commitment. Let your spouse know how
much he or she means to you. How often do
you let them know how glad you are that
they are in your life?
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12. • Creating a safe environment for your spouse
in which they feel loved and cared for goes a
long way to ease the pressures of daily life;
and it keeps you close.
• Never, ever threaten to leave over little
things; and be careful about giving
ultimatums altogether. Threats and
ultimatums diminish trust.
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13. • 3. COMPROMISE
• Compromise. Don’t let your ego rule. Strive
for balance.
• Each of you has wants, hopes and dreams,
and both of you should be allowed to pursue
them and you should support each other in
the pursuit of happiness.
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14. • All times learn to compromise. The key is:
Compromise. Compromise. Compromise
• Love doesn’t seek to coerce, manipulate, or
dominate. It gives, serves, and supports in an
attitude of charity, warmth and kindness.
• Happy couples who have marriages that last
for a lifetime have learned the precious habit
of compromise.
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15. • Communicate, express your commitment,
and be willing and happy to compromise to
have a happy and long lasting marriage.
• Be the change that you want your marriage
to be.
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16. Make great resolutions for your
marriage in 2019
• Be specific and work on attainable
resolutions.
• Some of these may be good to ponder on for
your marriage in 2019:
• 1) I resolve to love my spouse
unconditionally.
• 2) I resolve to not judge my spouse.
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17. • 3) I resolve to catch my spouse doing
something good.
• 4) I resolve to ask my spouse for what I
want/need instead of them reading my
mind.
• 5) I resolve to take a risk and open my
heart completely to my spouse.
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18. • 6) I resolve to give significantly more of my
time & attention to my spouse starting now.
• 7) I resolve to focus on my spouse’s positive
traits and qualities.
• 8) I resolve to be kindest and nicest to my
spouse.
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19. • 9) I resolve to give my spouse the best of
myself.
• 10) I resolve to demonstrate appreciation for
and to my spouse often.
• 11) I resolve to say something nice to my
spouse every day.
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20. • 12) You can make many resolutions but
ensure you can attain them.
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21. • A long lasting love is just a couple who have
made it their goal to go one more day in love
and invested the time and effort to pull it off
one day at a time.
• We must all do something this year in our
marriages. We have no options but to work
at our marriages and make them happier and
better.
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22. • No one else can make the marriage
happy apart from the two of you and
allowing God to be in the center of your
marriage.
HAPPY MARRIAGE 2019
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