‘It’s not a hug and
hope approach!’
Compassion = Empathy + Meaningful & Thoughtful Action
What is
compassionate
leadership?
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The big myths!
I am
OFFICIALLY a
very nice
person
Let’s meet Dev
…apparently, he’s too nice!
Nice v Compassionate
NICE
Focused on being liked & pleasing
others
Weak and inconsistent boundaries
Keen to maintain status quo
More likely to suppress feelings
Less willing to speak up and take a
stand
Worried about upsetting others
Can be passive and indecisive
Tendency to be unforgiving and
resentful towards others
COMPASSIONATE
Focused on being compassionate and
making a difference
Strong and healthy boundaries
Willing to change and disrupt
More honest about feelings
More likely to speak up
Focused on doing the right thing
Focused on action
More likely to be generous and
forgiving towards self and others
Compassion can be fierce
Real Talk
…leadership in action
Compassionate
Leadership
COURAGE
HUMANNESS
We don’t need to ‘act tough’ to have a
tough conversation
We can just keep it real!
Incivility* is also contagious…
*Rude and impolite
behaviour, and language
Rudeness disrupts our cognitive functioning –our
ability to think, reason, learn, remember, solve
problems, make decisions, focus and pay attention….
it interferes with our ability to thrive.
HBR Study
Incivility led to:
• 50% of employees decrease their work effort and
intentionally spend less time at work.
• 38% intentionally decreased the quality of their
work
• 25% of employees who had been treated with
incivility admitted to taking their frustrations out
on customers.
• 12% left their jobs.
Civility matters to us…
What does the research say?
Compassion fuels competitive
advantage
Compassion improves employee
wellbeing, increases productivity and
reduced costs to the business
Compassion drives inclusion
Compassion has been found to reduce
employee turnover
Compassion drives connection and
cooperation – and an increased
willingness to compromise
Compassion drives compassion – when
people experience it, they are more
likely to demonstrate it to others
Empathy & compassion are associated
with ethical practice and ethical
leadership – which has been found to
lead to improved employee performance
Employees that feel cared for report
higher levels of commitment and
wellbeing
Compassion Psychological Safety Trust Learning
Value creation Improvement & Innovation
Conditions for compassion
Organisational Culture
Individual Circumstances
Policy & Procedures
Compassionate
Teams
Compassionate
Leaders
Compassionate
Culture
Compassionate
Hierarchy
Compassionate
Policy &
Procedures
Compassionate
Systems
COMPASSIONATE
WORKPLACE
What are your key
employee experience
touch points?
• How does compassion show up?
• Where are your friends and
enemies of compassion?
Workplace design
Milestones
Celebrations
Policies
Induction
Before first day
Recruitment
Team Meetings
1:2:1s
Performance/annual reviews
Communications
Exit Process
Last Day
Change management
How can we bring it
to life?
360°
of Compassion
Framework & Self
Diagnostic
Over to you…
Please complete your self
diagnostic
What action does it inspire
you take?
Compassion in a VUCA world…
Compassion
Connection
Relationships
COMPASSION CENTERED LEADERSHIP
How to lead with compassion and ensure your people thrive
Keep in touch
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Steve Hargreaves
Founder

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