The document discusses how the author's upbringing in an alcoholic home led to difficulties with emotional intelligence and feeling like an outsider. Through attending AA meetings and working on emotional skills over the past 5 years, the author's EQ score has improved significantly. The author believes that learning to manage emotions will help in counseling work by allowing better empathy and rapport with clients.
Anger is a basic human emotion that is triggered by feelings of hurt, mistreatment, opposition to one's views, or obstacles preventing goal achievement. It is caused by frustration, powerlessness, hurt, bullying, injustice, exhaustion from stress, unfair demands or criticisms, and threats to loved ones or cherished ideas. Anger should be managed because it destroys relationships, makes one look older, harms health, causes loss of focus, and drives one away from others. Anger management involves understanding what triggers anger, learning to express it appropriately, and using techniques like meditation, deep breathing, drinking water, taking breaks, thinking of happy people or memories, to calm down before anger escalates out of control.
This document discusses anger and conflict management. It recommends being aware of triggers that cause anger and noticing physical cues that anger is rising. Suppressing anger only leads to more intense future conflicts. When upset, one should reassess the situation and whether it is truly angering or annoying. Being open and honest reduces anger. The ABC model helps manage anger by examining the activating event, one's beliefs, and consequences. Communicating better involves using "I" statements, self-disclosing at a steady pace, asking for needs/wants, checking assumptions, and resolving conflicts peacefully.
Anger often considered as a bad emotion is a healthy, human emotion. It helps in reducing stress while balancing your physical and emotional distress but losing control of your actions after getting angry is the stage where things slip out of your hands. Anger management can refer to a psycho-therapeutic program that can help you in anger prevention and control. These slides cover the introduction or definition of anger, causes of anger, anger cycle, the ways to understand your anger, relaxation technique to manage anger, etc. to give you a better understanding of it...
Module II on PFA (Psychological First Aid) | Calming Down and Managing One’s ...paulangelomacaraeg
The document outlines a module on managing emotions and thoughts during difficult times. It describes an activity where participants imagine catching their feelings in a ball while playing catch. They then check which feelings are helpful or unhelpful, and learn to reframe unhelpful thoughts and change negative feelings to positive ones like gratitude, understanding, and contentment through breathing exercises. The goal is to help people cope with stress, anxiety, and difficult emotions during the pandemic by managing feelings and reframing thoughts in a more positive light.
The document provides tips to improve emotional intelligence (EQ) in 5 areas: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship management, and validation. It discusses strategies like self-reflection, managing self-talk, observing social interactions without judgment, and giving constructive feedback. The document emphasizes that developing EQ takes honesty, patience, and small adjustments over time, as emotions can be contagious positively or negatively within teams. Resources for further learning include books on communication, empathy, and emotional intelligence.
This document provides information on anger management and assertive behavior. It defines anger and discusses how anger becomes problematic when not managed in a healthy way. Expressing anger assertively through open communication is presented as the healthiest approach, as opposed to suppressing or aggressively expressing anger. The document also outlines signs of passive-aggressive behavior and provides tips for becoming more assertive, such as using "I" statements and practicing new behaviors. Irrational beliefs that can contribute to anger are defined, and cognitive techniques like thought stopping are presented as ways to challenge irrational thoughts.
This document provides information about anger management from an anger management center. It discusses the emotional and mental aspects of anger, how anger can be beneficial if channeled properly, and different types of expressions and manifestations of anger. It also outlines internal and external consequences of unresolved anger. The document then gives tips for anger management, including prevention, understanding triggers, setting boundaries, and communication skills. Active listening skills that can help with anger management are also outlined, along with harmful listening habits to avoid.
Anger is a basic human emotion that is triggered by feelings of hurt, mistreatment, opposition to one's views, or obstacles preventing goal achievement. It is caused by frustration, powerlessness, hurt, bullying, injustice, exhaustion from stress, unfair demands or criticisms, and threats to loved ones or cherished ideas. Anger should be managed because it destroys relationships, makes one look older, harms health, causes loss of focus, and drives one away from others. Anger management involves understanding what triggers anger, learning to express it appropriately, and using techniques like meditation, deep breathing, drinking water, taking breaks, thinking of happy people or memories, to calm down before anger escalates out of control.
This document discusses anger and conflict management. It recommends being aware of triggers that cause anger and noticing physical cues that anger is rising. Suppressing anger only leads to more intense future conflicts. When upset, one should reassess the situation and whether it is truly angering or annoying. Being open and honest reduces anger. The ABC model helps manage anger by examining the activating event, one's beliefs, and consequences. Communicating better involves using "I" statements, self-disclosing at a steady pace, asking for needs/wants, checking assumptions, and resolving conflicts peacefully.
Anger often considered as a bad emotion is a healthy, human emotion. It helps in reducing stress while balancing your physical and emotional distress but losing control of your actions after getting angry is the stage where things slip out of your hands. Anger management can refer to a psycho-therapeutic program that can help you in anger prevention and control. These slides cover the introduction or definition of anger, causes of anger, anger cycle, the ways to understand your anger, relaxation technique to manage anger, etc. to give you a better understanding of it...
Module II on PFA (Psychological First Aid) | Calming Down and Managing One’s ...paulangelomacaraeg
The document outlines a module on managing emotions and thoughts during difficult times. It describes an activity where participants imagine catching their feelings in a ball while playing catch. They then check which feelings are helpful or unhelpful, and learn to reframe unhelpful thoughts and change negative feelings to positive ones like gratitude, understanding, and contentment through breathing exercises. The goal is to help people cope with stress, anxiety, and difficult emotions during the pandemic by managing feelings and reframing thoughts in a more positive light.
The document provides tips to improve emotional intelligence (EQ) in 5 areas: self-awareness, self-management, social awareness, relationship management, and validation. It discusses strategies like self-reflection, managing self-talk, observing social interactions without judgment, and giving constructive feedback. The document emphasizes that developing EQ takes honesty, patience, and small adjustments over time, as emotions can be contagious positively or negatively within teams. Resources for further learning include books on communication, empathy, and emotional intelligence.
This document provides information on anger management and assertive behavior. It defines anger and discusses how anger becomes problematic when not managed in a healthy way. Expressing anger assertively through open communication is presented as the healthiest approach, as opposed to suppressing or aggressively expressing anger. The document also outlines signs of passive-aggressive behavior and provides tips for becoming more assertive, such as using "I" statements and practicing new behaviors. Irrational beliefs that can contribute to anger are defined, and cognitive techniques like thought stopping are presented as ways to challenge irrational thoughts.
This document provides information about anger management from an anger management center. It discusses the emotional and mental aspects of anger, how anger can be beneficial if channeled properly, and different types of expressions and manifestations of anger. It also outlines internal and external consequences of unresolved anger. The document then gives tips for anger management, including prevention, understanding triggers, setting boundaries, and communication skills. Active listening skills that can help with anger management are also outlined, along with harmful listening habits to avoid.
This document discusses managing emotions at work and provides steps for mastering emotions. It notes that people often feel frustrated with bosses, upset with coworkers, and angry with customers. It recommends recognizing emotions, understanding that thoughts precede emotions, and accepting that changing feelings comes after the fact. Possible solutions include reconsidering harmful beliefs, keeping an emotion journal, talking to supportive friends, engaging in self-education, and seeking counseling. A nine-step process is outlined for managing emotions, thoughts, and behaviors through awareness, acceptance, identification, and goal-setting.
How to Control Your Anger: Anger Management Techniques for BeginnersJoan Mullally
Discover what anger management is and how you can use it to prevent your anger from running away with you and causing problems in your career and personal life.
My recent Spiritual Care Volunteer training presentation on "Growing in Emotional Inteligence." This was a spiritual - pastoral care training for new volunteers at UVRMC.
This document discusses anger management and provides 4 keys to managing anger. The first key is to keep an open mind in order to understand different perspectives. The second key is to use positive words to correct beliefs, not behavior. The third key is to practice active listening so you can understand a child's thoughts and feelings. The fourth key is to fill the child's needs, not wants, with an open mind, positive words, and active listening to build understanding and a happy child. Effectively managing one's state requires keeping an open mind, speaking positively, listening actively to discern needs, and fulfilling those needs.
This document discusses anger and anger management. It begins with ground rules for the discussion and objectives to identify anger triggers and styles. It then defines anger as a natural emotion related to feeling offended or wronged. The document differentiates between anger as a feeling and aggression as a behavior. It discusses the most common triggers for anger and asks participants to identify their own triggers and cues for anger. It describes three common anger styles: dumping anger on others, acting out aggressively, and burying anger internally. The document outlines potential consequences of each style and asks participants to identify their own style. It then provides techniques for managing anger effectively such as cooling off, sorting through the problem, channeling energy into positive outlets, and practicing relaxation. The
1) The document discusses managing anger through understanding what causes it and learning positive techniques to control it.
2) It explains that anger is a normal emotion but can have negative health effects if not properly managed. There are different styles of expressing anger.
3) The assertive problem solving style is recommended, which involves awarenss of anger cues, controlling responses, communicating the issue calmly, and resolving problems mutually. Seeking help is advised if anger feels out of control.
Having Compassion is known to be one of the ways to increase your happiness. Let's define compassion as taking action when you see others or yourself hurting. Mindfulness practice is the fast track to expanding compassion. There are tons of mindfulness practices, but no one size fits all practice. Choose a mindfulness practice based on your personality
1) Around 5.5% of elementary school teachers were physically attacked by students in the 1999-2000 school year, and 10% of elementary school expulsions that year were for students bringing firearms to school.
2) Anger management involves using anger constructively rather than eliminating it, and teaches strategies for expressing anger in positive ways and avoiding negative behaviors.
3) Teachers are encouraged to help students identify feelings, cues that indicate anger, and appropriate ways of expressing anger through communication rather than aggression.
The document provides strategies for managing anger and controlling aggression. It begins by explaining that anger is a normal emotion but can be destructive if not controlled. It then outlines 12 strategies for managing anger, such as using relaxation techniques, keeping a hostility log to identify triggers, using empathy, humor, and forgiveness. The strategies are based on understanding what causes anger, interrupting the anger cycle, building trust, listening effectively, and living consciously. The document stresses that the goal is not to eliminate anger but to direct it constructively so it does not damage relationships or health. It provides a test to evaluate one's own anger management skills.
What to do when you are ANGRY!
A practical workshop for kids on managing anger.
Conducted as part of CHAMPS year long programme on Life Skills for 10-12 year kids at Margao, Goa, India.
Covers below Anger-Dousing Methods in detail:
#1 Take a Break
#2 Think Cool Thoughts
#3 Release ANGER Safely
-Active Method: Physical Activity
-Slowing Down Method: Breathe, Stretch
#4 Work It Out or Just Let Go
–Be Flexible
–Compromise
The document provides an overview of anger management. It defines anger, discusses how anger affects the body physically, and explains common signs of anger. It also explores reasons for expressing anger and how anger can negatively impact relationships. Finally, the document outlines steps for effectively dealing with angry feelings, such as relaxation techniques and improving communication skills, and preventing angry outbursts.
The Social Student Volunteers Program aims to introduce a sense of care and compassion in each student for the societal well-being and helping the underprivileged make their lives happier.
This document discusses anger management and provides tips for controlling anger. It defines anger and explains its stages and causes. Some key points include:
- Anger is a natural emotion that signals when something is wrong, but it can reflect internal instability if not managed properly.
- Stages of anger progression include low self-esteem, irritation, hatred, frustration, and eventually verbal or physical aggression.
- Uncontrolled anger can negatively impact physical and mental health by increasing risks of diseases like coronary issues.
- Effective anger management involves understanding your triggers, removing yourself from stressful situations, calming down using techniques like deep breathing, and resolving issues respectfully rather than escalating arguments.
The document provides an introduction to emotional intelligence (EI) in the workplace. It defines EI as the ability to recognize one's own emotions and the emotions of others to motivate oneself and manage emotions. Research shows that IQ accounts for only 20% of success while 80% depends on EQ. The document outlines the importance of EI for organizations and reducing staff turnover. It describes EI as having two components - physiological reactions and psychological states. It then details the four components of EI - self awareness, self management, social awareness, and relationship management.
This document provides tips for anger management skills. It begins by outlining objectives of identifying anger triggers, cues, and style as well as dealing with anger effectively. It describes that everyone experiences anger but how you express it is important. Later sections discuss why we get angry, how to understand triggers, and that thoughts influence our reactions. Positive ways to deal with anger include relaxation techniques, addressing underlying problems, and using counseling resources. The document concludes with 8 anger management tips such as taking deep breaths, counting to 10, visualizing relaxing experiences, and recognizing you are in charge of your own feelings.
Anger is a basic human emotion that occurs when something doesn't go as intended or when we feel we have been wronged. It can vary in intensity from mild frustration to rage. Anger arises from how we interpret situations - if we feel in danger, we feel afraid, and if wronged, we feel angry. These feelings then determine our reactions. There are healthy and unhealthy ways to express anger, such as yelling, hitting, or practicing anger management techniques like distraction, assertion, and stress reduction. Anger management aims to help people recognize signs of anger and deal with situations positively.
This document discusses anger management and provides tips for controlling anger. It defines anger as a natural emotion that signals when something has gone wrong. Common causes of anger include trying to change the past, negativity, and unfulfilled desires. The stages of anger are listed as having low self-esteem, irritation, hatred, and frustration. Expressing anger can lead to oral outbursts, aggression, and physical violence. The document recommends acknowledging anger without aggression and provides strategies for dealing with triggers, avoiding arguments, controlling emotional reactions, and resolving conflicts constructively.
This document provides information and tips for managing anger. It begins by explaining that anger is a natural emotion but can be damaging if not controlled. It then lists 10 tips for managing anger, such as taking a timeout, getting exercise, using humor, and practicing relaxation skills. The document recommends seeing a counselor or attending an anger management class if anger feels out of control or is hurting relationships. It closes by noting that unmanaged anger could be a sign of an underlying mental health condition.
Anger management involves learning to control anger rather than suppressing it. The document discusses myths and facts about anger, including that venting anger aggressively does not help and true power comes from respectful communication, not intimidation. It also outlines some positive and negative impacts of anger, such as increased energy but also disruption of thinking. The importance of anger management is discussed in avoiding harm to physical health, career and relationships from uncontrolled anger.
A Course in Empathy, Finding Wisdom: Verbalizing Your Inner Dialogue, Creative Solution Development, Assessment Self-Healing Life Story, Counseling Questionnaire, Your Spirituality Score, Counseling for Depression, Identity Awareness, and much more.
The document discusses several theories of first language acquisition:
1) Behaviourism views language as learned through stimulus-response and imitation, though it does not explain why all humans acquire language while other species do not.
2) The cognitive approach sees innate cognitive abilities as influencing language learning beyond just environmental factors. Piaget's stages of development also related to language acquisition.
3) The nativist approach, proposed by Chomsky, argues humans are born with an innate language acquisition device and universal grammar containing basic language structures. This explains consistent language acquisition across environments.
4) While each theory provides some insights, the document concludes that both innate and environmental factors likely influence language acquisition in a gradual process,
The document provides guidance on writing a response paper, which involves critically analyzing a text by summarizing its key ideas, stating an opinion on part of the text, and supporting that opinion with evidence from the text. It outlines the steps to writing a good response paper, which include reading the text twice to understand the main topic and author's argument, forming opinions on the text's claims and evidence, drafting a summary, and writing a first draft of the response paper expressing agreement, disagreement, or evaluation of the text's strengths and weaknesses. The document also reviews methods for paraphrasing texts, such as changing vocabulary, verb forms, word classes, and synthesizing information.
This document discusses managing emotions at work and provides steps for mastering emotions. It notes that people often feel frustrated with bosses, upset with coworkers, and angry with customers. It recommends recognizing emotions, understanding that thoughts precede emotions, and accepting that changing feelings comes after the fact. Possible solutions include reconsidering harmful beliefs, keeping an emotion journal, talking to supportive friends, engaging in self-education, and seeking counseling. A nine-step process is outlined for managing emotions, thoughts, and behaviors through awareness, acceptance, identification, and goal-setting.
How to Control Your Anger: Anger Management Techniques for BeginnersJoan Mullally
Discover what anger management is and how you can use it to prevent your anger from running away with you and causing problems in your career and personal life.
My recent Spiritual Care Volunteer training presentation on "Growing in Emotional Inteligence." This was a spiritual - pastoral care training for new volunteers at UVRMC.
This document discusses anger management and provides 4 keys to managing anger. The first key is to keep an open mind in order to understand different perspectives. The second key is to use positive words to correct beliefs, not behavior. The third key is to practice active listening so you can understand a child's thoughts and feelings. The fourth key is to fill the child's needs, not wants, with an open mind, positive words, and active listening to build understanding and a happy child. Effectively managing one's state requires keeping an open mind, speaking positively, listening actively to discern needs, and fulfilling those needs.
This document discusses anger and anger management. It begins with ground rules for the discussion and objectives to identify anger triggers and styles. It then defines anger as a natural emotion related to feeling offended or wronged. The document differentiates between anger as a feeling and aggression as a behavior. It discusses the most common triggers for anger and asks participants to identify their own triggers and cues for anger. It describes three common anger styles: dumping anger on others, acting out aggressively, and burying anger internally. The document outlines potential consequences of each style and asks participants to identify their own style. It then provides techniques for managing anger effectively such as cooling off, sorting through the problem, channeling energy into positive outlets, and practicing relaxation. The
1) The document discusses managing anger through understanding what causes it and learning positive techniques to control it.
2) It explains that anger is a normal emotion but can have negative health effects if not properly managed. There are different styles of expressing anger.
3) The assertive problem solving style is recommended, which involves awarenss of anger cues, controlling responses, communicating the issue calmly, and resolving problems mutually. Seeking help is advised if anger feels out of control.
Having Compassion is known to be one of the ways to increase your happiness. Let's define compassion as taking action when you see others or yourself hurting. Mindfulness practice is the fast track to expanding compassion. There are tons of mindfulness practices, but no one size fits all practice. Choose a mindfulness practice based on your personality
1) Around 5.5% of elementary school teachers were physically attacked by students in the 1999-2000 school year, and 10% of elementary school expulsions that year were for students bringing firearms to school.
2) Anger management involves using anger constructively rather than eliminating it, and teaches strategies for expressing anger in positive ways and avoiding negative behaviors.
3) Teachers are encouraged to help students identify feelings, cues that indicate anger, and appropriate ways of expressing anger through communication rather than aggression.
The document provides strategies for managing anger and controlling aggression. It begins by explaining that anger is a normal emotion but can be destructive if not controlled. It then outlines 12 strategies for managing anger, such as using relaxation techniques, keeping a hostility log to identify triggers, using empathy, humor, and forgiveness. The strategies are based on understanding what causes anger, interrupting the anger cycle, building trust, listening effectively, and living consciously. The document stresses that the goal is not to eliminate anger but to direct it constructively so it does not damage relationships or health. It provides a test to evaluate one's own anger management skills.
What to do when you are ANGRY!
A practical workshop for kids on managing anger.
Conducted as part of CHAMPS year long programme on Life Skills for 10-12 year kids at Margao, Goa, India.
Covers below Anger-Dousing Methods in detail:
#1 Take a Break
#2 Think Cool Thoughts
#3 Release ANGER Safely
-Active Method: Physical Activity
-Slowing Down Method: Breathe, Stretch
#4 Work It Out or Just Let Go
–Be Flexible
–Compromise
The document provides an overview of anger management. It defines anger, discusses how anger affects the body physically, and explains common signs of anger. It also explores reasons for expressing anger and how anger can negatively impact relationships. Finally, the document outlines steps for effectively dealing with angry feelings, such as relaxation techniques and improving communication skills, and preventing angry outbursts.
The Social Student Volunteers Program aims to introduce a sense of care and compassion in each student for the societal well-being and helping the underprivileged make their lives happier.
This document discusses anger management and provides tips for controlling anger. It defines anger and explains its stages and causes. Some key points include:
- Anger is a natural emotion that signals when something is wrong, but it can reflect internal instability if not managed properly.
- Stages of anger progression include low self-esteem, irritation, hatred, frustration, and eventually verbal or physical aggression.
- Uncontrolled anger can negatively impact physical and mental health by increasing risks of diseases like coronary issues.
- Effective anger management involves understanding your triggers, removing yourself from stressful situations, calming down using techniques like deep breathing, and resolving issues respectfully rather than escalating arguments.
The document provides an introduction to emotional intelligence (EI) in the workplace. It defines EI as the ability to recognize one's own emotions and the emotions of others to motivate oneself and manage emotions. Research shows that IQ accounts for only 20% of success while 80% depends on EQ. The document outlines the importance of EI for organizations and reducing staff turnover. It describes EI as having two components - physiological reactions and psychological states. It then details the four components of EI - self awareness, self management, social awareness, and relationship management.
This document provides tips for anger management skills. It begins by outlining objectives of identifying anger triggers, cues, and style as well as dealing with anger effectively. It describes that everyone experiences anger but how you express it is important. Later sections discuss why we get angry, how to understand triggers, and that thoughts influence our reactions. Positive ways to deal with anger include relaxation techniques, addressing underlying problems, and using counseling resources. The document concludes with 8 anger management tips such as taking deep breaths, counting to 10, visualizing relaxing experiences, and recognizing you are in charge of your own feelings.
Anger is a basic human emotion that occurs when something doesn't go as intended or when we feel we have been wronged. It can vary in intensity from mild frustration to rage. Anger arises from how we interpret situations - if we feel in danger, we feel afraid, and if wronged, we feel angry. These feelings then determine our reactions. There are healthy and unhealthy ways to express anger, such as yelling, hitting, or practicing anger management techniques like distraction, assertion, and stress reduction. Anger management aims to help people recognize signs of anger and deal with situations positively.
This document discusses anger management and provides tips for controlling anger. It defines anger as a natural emotion that signals when something has gone wrong. Common causes of anger include trying to change the past, negativity, and unfulfilled desires. The stages of anger are listed as having low self-esteem, irritation, hatred, and frustration. Expressing anger can lead to oral outbursts, aggression, and physical violence. The document recommends acknowledging anger without aggression and provides strategies for dealing with triggers, avoiding arguments, controlling emotional reactions, and resolving conflicts constructively.
This document provides information and tips for managing anger. It begins by explaining that anger is a natural emotion but can be damaging if not controlled. It then lists 10 tips for managing anger, such as taking a timeout, getting exercise, using humor, and practicing relaxation skills. The document recommends seeing a counselor or attending an anger management class if anger feels out of control or is hurting relationships. It closes by noting that unmanaged anger could be a sign of an underlying mental health condition.
Anger management involves learning to control anger rather than suppressing it. The document discusses myths and facts about anger, including that venting anger aggressively does not help and true power comes from respectful communication, not intimidation. It also outlines some positive and negative impacts of anger, such as increased energy but also disruption of thinking. The importance of anger management is discussed in avoiding harm to physical health, career and relationships from uncontrolled anger.
A Course in Empathy, Finding Wisdom: Verbalizing Your Inner Dialogue, Creative Solution Development, Assessment Self-Healing Life Story, Counseling Questionnaire, Your Spirituality Score, Counseling for Depression, Identity Awareness, and much more.
The document discusses several theories of first language acquisition:
1) Behaviourism views language as learned through stimulus-response and imitation, though it does not explain why all humans acquire language while other species do not.
2) The cognitive approach sees innate cognitive abilities as influencing language learning beyond just environmental factors. Piaget's stages of development also related to language acquisition.
3) The nativist approach, proposed by Chomsky, argues humans are born with an innate language acquisition device and universal grammar containing basic language structures. This explains consistent language acquisition across environments.
4) While each theory provides some insights, the document concludes that both innate and environmental factors likely influence language acquisition in a gradual process,
The document provides guidance on writing a response paper, which involves critically analyzing a text by summarizing its key ideas, stating an opinion on part of the text, and supporting that opinion with evidence from the text. It outlines the steps to writing a good response paper, which include reading the text twice to understand the main topic and author's argument, forming opinions on the text's claims and evidence, drafting a summary, and writing a first draft of the response paper expressing agreement, disagreement, or evaluation of the text's strengths and weaknesses. The document also reviews methods for paraphrasing texts, such as changing vocabulary, verb forms, word classes, and synthesizing information.
This reaction paper analyzes theories of first language acquisition from chapters one and two. It summarizes different approaches from behaviorism, nativism, and functionalism. While each perspective provides insights, the author argues an integrated approach considering psychology, anthropology, and linguistics best explains the complex process of how children acquire language. The paper also discusses implications for teaching English as a second language.
The document discusses technology integration in the classroom. It outlines two learning theories that provide a foundation for integration: directed and constructivist models. It also discusses the Technology Integration Plan (TIP) model for planning effective classroom technology use. The chapter emphasizes that certain conditions must be present for successful integration, including a clear technology vision, policies for safe internet use, technical support, and effective teaching strategies. Overall, the key takeaways are that technology integration requires planning, support structures, and strategies to enhance teaching and learning.
This document discusses how drugs affect consciousness and can lead to addiction. It defines key terms like psychoactive drugs, addiction, dependence, and withdrawal. It categorizes major drug types - depressants like alcohol and opiates that slow the nervous system, stimulants like caffeine, nicotine, cocaine and ecstasy that excite the nervous system, and hallucinogens like LSD and psilocybin mushrooms that distort perceptions. Each drug type is explained in more detail with examples of specific drugs, their effects, and reasons for their use as well as dangers of addiction. The summary concludes with approaches to prevention and treatment of drug abuse.
The document provides a summary of President Aquino's 2014 State of the Nation Address (SONA). It discusses how the country has progressed since Aquino took office, highlighting achievements like poverty reduction, fiscal management, and infrastructure development. It also shares testimonials from two students who benefited from technical education programs. Aquino emphasizes that prudent governance and anti-corruption efforts have strengthened the economy and improved public services.
This document provides guidance on how to write an effective response paper. A response paper requires analyzing a work and articulating a thoughtful perspective, whether favorable or unfavorable. It should demonstrate understanding of the source material and communicate a personal viewpoint supported by specific examples and details from the source. The paper must have a clear thesis, well-developed body paragraphs using quotes and examples to back up claims, and a conclusion that addresses any criticisms of the perspective presented. Students are advised to focus on articulating their overall impression and the aspects of the work that shaped their response through examples and evidence from the source material.
The document discusses the documentary Bowling for Columbine and its examination of the causes of gun violence in America. It explores how the media drives fear and discrimination in American culture. The film questions who is responsible for gun violence and concludes it is not due to gun ownership but the exploitation of violence through the media and government. Fear is intensified by the media and controlled by the government to manipulate society. While gun ownership is a constitutional right, gun control policy remains controversial as it debates this right versus preventing crime.
Reaction paper in the movie jose rizalAriel Genene
The movie tells the life story of Jose Rizal, the Philippines' national hero, from his childhood through his execution by Spanish forces in the late 19th century. It depicts Rizal as a genius, writer, doctor, artist, lover, brother, son and introduces viewers to the oppression of Filipinos under harsh Spanish colonial rule and the Catholic Church. The film is praised for its unflinching portrayal of the suffering of Filipinos during that time and for ending on a metaphor of Rizal's death igniting the revolution for Philippine independence.
This document is a reaction paper about a civic welfare training program conducted in Northville 7, Bulacan. The author discusses teaching and interacting with 3-5 year old students during the program. Though the students were initially shy or naughty, the author enjoyed guiding them. The author learned that despite challenges in their lives, the students were generally happy and content. Through this experience, the author realized how blessed they are and learned to be content with what they have in life. Overall, the activity was a success as the students learned from the volunteers, and the volunteers learned from the students.
This document discusses various drugs, their effects, and reasons for abuse. It covers common drugs like marijuana, cocaine, heroin, and alcohol. It describes their short term effects like increased heart rate and long term health risks like cancer, memory loss, and liver/lung damage. Each drug is then defined in more detail, explaining how it is produced, administered, and its addictive properties. The document ends by stating some reasons why people use drugs, like stress relief, and providing brief statistics on global drug usage.
The document discusses a reaction paper written in 2070 summarizing a video about the future of mankind and Earth. It emphasizes that while the future is unpredictable, the current actions like overconsumption and lack of environmental education will negatively impact future generations. It highlights some positive programs already in place like banning plastic in Albay province to address waste. It argues leaders should prioritize environmental protection over commercial development. It concludes that if all citizens work to conserve resources, the future will not suffer and the present generation can enjoy a healthier life with clean air and sun.
This reflection essay discusses Kellie Jarvies' experience in her English 2010 class where she chose to write all of her assignments on the topic of prescription drug abuse in order to better understand her own personal journey with the issue. Some of the key lessons she learned include how to discuss a personally charged subject objectively using facts rather than emotions, the value of peer reviews and revisions in improving her writing, and responding critically to an emotionally difficult topic. She found the different assignment genres, including a report, memoir, and collaborative project, helped strengthen her research, analysis, and presentation skills.
Global warming is caused primarily by too much carbon dioxide in the atmosphere from burning fossil fuels and deforestation. During the 20th century, CO2 levels increased from 280 to 383 parts per million. Other greenhouse gases like methane and nitrous oxide have also increased, trapping heat in the atmosphere. While some factors like volcanic eruptions contribute to global warming, human activities are the dominant cause of increased greenhouse gas levels and rising global temperatures according to multiple scientific studies. The document recommends policies like regulating vehicle emissions in California, limiting power plant emissions, establishing a cap and trade system, investing in green infrastructure, and incentivizing sustainable agriculture to address climate change.
El presedente Movie - Summary and Reaction PaperRey Aspacio
The document discusses the 2012 historical film "El Presidente" directed by Mark Meily about Emilio Aguinaldo, the first president of the Philippine Republic. It fought against Spanish colonial rule and the subsequent American occupation. The film uses flashbacks to show Aguinaldo's life from his time as a revolutionary leader to accepting American occupation. It highlights his struggles as a husband, soldier, and politician and explores the issues during his time through sophisticated cinematography. While not perfect, the film is praised for its technical achievements and efforts to promote nationalism.
Reaction paper in President Rodrigo Duterte Administration christopher Geaga
This document provides background information on Rodrigo Duterte and summarizes his presidency so far. It discusses his family history and career prior to becoming president of the Philippines. It then outlines Duterte's presidential powers and responsibilities as defined in the Philippine constitution. Several key points are made about Duterte's controversial drug war policies, including his defense of police actions, invitation for international bodies to investigate the killings, and rejection of the label of "unstatesmanlike" from foreign critics.
The document discusses the effects of bullying. It defines bullying and describes the different types, including emotional, verbal, and physical abuse. It also outlines some of the negative consequences of bullying for both the bully and the victim. Bullies are more likely to engage in criminal behavior later in life, while victims may experience depression, anxiety, and low self-esteem that impacts their school performance. The causes of bullying behavior are complex, but some characteristics of children who bully include a lack of empathy, pushing limits, and an ability to justify their actions.
This document provides a sample literature review from an undergraduate psychology student. The review is marked up with comments from psychology teachers on its format, content, and adherence to APA style. It serves as an example of a literature review for students and is intended to point out areas for improvement through the teacher comments. Copyright and contact information is also provided for the OWL at Purdue website that is hosting the sample paper.
1. Drug education in schools is very variable, with some schools barely addressing drugs and relying totally on external agencies for delivery without school input.
2. PSHE should be a mandatory subject with dedicated government funding to ensure high quality delivery by qualified teachers using up-to-date resources.
3. Common barriers to improving drug education include lack of dedicated time on timetables, inadequate PSHE programs, and untrained tutors delivering drug education.
This document discusses Cambridgeshire's experience with a community alcohol partnership (CAP) model to reduce underage alcohol abuse through collaboration between local businesses, schools, and other agencies. It provides details on the CAP approach used in St Neots, which focused on partnership, engagement, education, and enforcement. The St Neots pilot was effective in reducing litter, crime and the public's fear of crime while creating a safer and more pleasant community. The document advocates applying the CAP approach more broadly depending on individual community needs and priorities.
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This document contains 12 journal entries written by Mirnell D. Gonzalez for an Emotional Intelligence class. In the entries, Gonzalez discusses her feelings about starting college, managing time, interacting with others, overcoming challenges, and maintaining a positive personal mission. She reflects on adapting to new experiences and improving her study skills through applying techniques learned in the class.
Depression is a common mental health condition that is often hidden by those experiencing it. While outwardly some people with depression may appear normal, internally they are suffering greatly. It is important to learn the signs of depression, such as feelings of sadness, loss of interest, and changes in sleep or appetite. If left untreated, depression can have serious consequences like suicide. Seeking help from friends, focusing on gratitude, spending time with God, and professional treatment can all help manage depression.
The document discusses how to change lifelong self-defeating habits and excuses. It provides a 7-step process to overcome excuses by questioning whether they are true, where they come from, what the payoff is for believing them, envisioning life without excuses, finding rational reasons to change, accessing spiritual help, and continuously reinforcing the new way of being. Some common excuses are addressed and positive affirmations are suggested to replace negative self-talk and excuses.
The document discusses how to change lifelong self-defeating habits and excuses. It provides a 7-step process to overcome excuses by questioning whether they are true, where they come from, what the payoff is for believing them, envisioning life without excuses, finding rational reasons to change, accessing spiritual help, and continuously reinforcing the new way of being. Some common excuses are addressed and positive affirmations are suggested to replace negative self-talk and excuses.
Disability is a natural part of the human experienceLubna Nawaz
When parents learn that their child has a developmental delay or disability, it comes as a tremendous shock and trauma. Common initial reactions include denial, fear for the child's future, guilt, rejection, confusion, and depression. However, seeking support from other parents, communicating with family, learning about the condition, focusing on the child's humanity rather than the disability, and maintaining hope can help parents cope and provide the best support for their child. The key is accepting reality, finding programs and resources, and remembering that the child's worth is not defined by any condition.
The document discusses a concept called 3MEW that was developed from a pamphlet the author received in an anger management class. 3MEW stands for:
E is for any EVENT that happens
3 is the number of viewpoints one must look at to determine truth
M is the manipulator that created the outcome.
W is the WIN the person who won and how they won.
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The document discusses grief and the grieving process, using Job from the Bible as an example. It introduces Kubler-Ross' five stages of grief: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. It analyzes how Job progressed through similar stages after experiencing tremendous losses, beginning with denial and shock, then depression, and ultimately finding acceptance. The document also shares the author's own experience with grief and coming to a point of acceptance after visiting a grave. Overall, it uses Job's story and Kubler-Ross' stages of grief to examine how people have historically processed loss and moved through the grieving process.
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The speak to people who have been through unimaginably painful childhood experiences that create a lot of guilt, anxiety, and depression. I spoke with a woman this week who had been reared by a mother who didn’t have both feet on the ground. The mother divorced the girl’s father and she can still remember sitting on his knee and hearing him say he is leaving.
Please be sure to ask questions and comment on your Anna and Monique.docxcherry686017
Please be sure to ask questions and comment on your Anna and Monique responses, and respond to their questions and comments regarding your own response
Anna Cox
What are your basic assumptions about human nature?
My basic assumption about human nature is that even though none of us are perfect, we all strive for our own idea of perfection. By working too much towards how we think we should be it can cause stress, anxiety, depression and other mental health issues and often these are the root cause of them. Humans are beautifully imperfect and while, yes, oftentimes we all have behaviors to be altered, we need to embrace ourselves with love and kindness. It is easy to give someone else our love, patience and kindness, but if we turn that inward we can be the best version of ourselves, perfect or not.
Which approach to therapy is closest to your beliefs about human nature?
The therapy that is closest to my beliefs about human nature is existential therapy. "Existential therapy focuses on exploring themes such as mortality, meaning, freedom, responsibility, anxiety, and aloneness as these relate to a person’s current struggle." (Corey, 2013). Existential therapy looks at the bigger picture of humanity and encourages celebration and appreciation of our successes rather than focusing on downfalls.
In what ways do you believe that your basic assumptions might determine the procedures that you would use when working with clients?
My basic assumptions will help me to focus on the good in my clients and not the negative that they themselves may focus on. It will give me a better understanding of why people feel their own shortcomings and how to show them that there is good and valuable qualities in everyone.
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When you look into the mirror, you are checking how you appear, and how you feel and whether it matches. Human nature is the sum of our whole species looking in the mirror. Human nature includes 3 core characteristics shared by all individuals; feelings, behaviors, and psychology. Our experiences with humans are different. Some view humans as good or bad or capable of great kindness. These views can be clouded by what our culture tells us and by people's influences in our lives. In western cultures, our discussions usually begin with classical Greece; Aristotle and Plato (Claudia, 2021).
My basic assumptions about human nature is that we can survive from our past and that humans are generally kind creatures and extremely resilient. I believe that humans construct their reality. They do not have to be destined to a certain life based solely on their past circumstances. We have the ability to overcome mountains of challenges with proper thinking and behaviors. We are responsible creatures for our choices and can therefore change and become something. I am proof of these assumptions. My teenage years were so bad that I lost my identity and lacked the proper social developments that most teens have. According to Corey, (2013.
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Sound familiar? Could be your angry son or daughter. Could be a teen, an adult, an addicted loved one. Whoever is spewing, it leaves you feeling like you drank poison and then took a stomach punch from Mike Tyson.
The narrator's wife Molly has Alzheimer's disease. After years of caring for her at home, he made the difficult decision to place her in a memory care facility. He struggled with feelings of guilt over this decision. While caring for Molly at home, he did not prioritize self-care activities. Since placing Molly in the facility, he has more time and energy to engage in self-care like meditation and writing. He works to reduce feelings of shame and continues adjusting to life without Molly at home.
The document is a journal containing 6 entries by a student named Tang Ju Yi discussing various concepts from social psychology. In the entries, Tang provides personal examples of how concepts like confirmation bias, extrinsic/intrinsic motivation, illusion of control, post-decision dissonance, counterfactual thinking, and self-serving bias have influenced her own life experiences and decisions. She reflects on how these biases have impacted her friendships, motivation to study, superstitious beliefs as a child, purchase decisions, thinking about past events, and attributing successes/failures.
This document contains the individual journal of Tang Ju Yi, a student with student ID 0317735 studying psychology in the Foundation in Natural and Built Environment program in February 2014. Over the course of 10 journal entries, Tang Ju Yi reflects on various cognitive biases and psychological phenomena discussed in class, relating them to personal experiences from their childhood, schooling, and group projects. Examples discussed include confirmation bias, extrinsic/intrinsic motivation, illusion of control, post-decision dissonance, counterfactual thinking, self-serving bias, optimistic bias, self-efficacy, halo effect, and observational learning.
The document is a journal containing 6 entries by a student named Tang Ju Yi discussing various concepts from social psychology. In the entries, Tang provides personal examples of how concepts like confirmation bias, extrinsic/intrinsic motivation, illusion of control, post-decision dissonance, counterfactual thinking, and self-serving bias have influenced her own life experiences and decisions. She reflects on how these biases have impacted her friendships, motivation to study, superstitious beliefs as a child, purchase decisions, thinking about past events, and attributing successes/failures.
This document contains the individual journal of Tang Ju Yi, a student with student ID 0317735 studying psychology in the Foundation in Natural and Built Environment program in February 2014. Over the course of 10 journal entries, Tang Ju Yi reflects on various cognitive biases and psychological phenomena discussed in class, relating them to personal experiences from their childhood, schooling, and group projects. Examples discussed include confirmation bias, extrinsic/intrinsic motivation, illusion of control, post-decision dissonance, counterfactual thinking, self-serving bias, optimistic bias, self-efficacy, halo effect, and observational learning.
The document is a journal containing 6 entries by a student named Tang Ju Yi discussing various concepts from social psychology like confirmation bias, extrinsic/intrinsic motivation, illusion of control, post-decision dissonance, counterfactual thinking, and self-serving bias. In each entry, Tang provides examples from their own life experiences to illustrate how these concepts have influenced their thoughts and behaviors.
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PGx Analysis in VarSeq: A User’s PerspectiveGolden Helix
Since our release of the PGx capabilities in VarSeq, we’ve had a few months to gather some insights from various use cases. Some users approach PGx workflows by means of array genotyping or what seems to be a growing trend of adding the star allele calling to the existing NGS pipeline for whole genome data. Luckily, both approaches are supported with the VarSeq software platform. The genotyping method being used will also dictate what the scope of the tertiary analysis will be. For example, are your PGx reports a standalone pipeline or would your lab’s goal be to handle a dual-purpose workflow and report on PGx + Diagnostic findings.
The purpose of this webcast is to:
Discuss and demonstrate the approaches with array and NGS genotyping methods for star allele calling to prep for downstream analysis.
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1. Michelle DeVore
3/1/06
COUN 225
Emotional Intelligence, EQ, certainly helps explain a lot of the problems I have
faced and have seen people with substance abuse problems face. I have spent most of my
life feeling like an outsider, like I didn’t quite fit in. In school I was always picked last for
teams, I was teased relentlessly, and was not one of the popular. I finally found a place
where I felt ‘normal’ when I started attending AA meetings. I have tried to explain to
friends, family, co-workers, and anyone that was interested what it is like to be an alcoholic
and or drug addict, but unless you have been one it is very difficult to understand this social
and emotional tightrope I have always felt I was about to tumble off. Especially if they
have been raised with emotional balance. I, being raised in an extremely dysfunctional
alcoholic home, had no basis to determine if my behavior was what was acceptable or not
because for me everyday what was acceptable changed.
My boss for example is always asking me what caused me to become alcoholic, and
how it feels and all kinds of questions like that. I try to explain it but he still looks at me
with that deer in the headlights look. Like Goleman (1997) says, “Every strong emotion
has at its root an impulse to action; managing those impulses is basic to emotional
intelligence” (p. 143). So basically my alcoholism doesn’t have a reason behind it other
then that I felt different and drinking, at first, helped break down that barrier and made me
feel like I fit in. So I used as an impulse reaction to emotions I could not understand within
myself and for me AA has helped me manage those impulses and recognize the emotions.
I took an EQ test online after I read this book and I scored 75 out of 100. Twenty years ago
I would have been surprised to score 30 on that test. I just wasn’t very in tune with myself
or others.
However my upbringing has given me some positives. I am very capable of
motivating myself in many difficult situations, I have total impulse control and am able to
delay gratification and am able to regulate my moods and usually can control my thinking.
This did not come easily and it did not come fast. I had to spend the last five years
working on these areas. When I was using or drinking everything was a difficult situation
and there was no control over impulse or thought. If I wanted to do something I did it
regardless of the consequences. I was very self-absorbed, self-centered and thought
everything bad that happened was someone else’s fault. I have learned through AA that
what I have been through has been a life lesson to better prepare me for helping others with
substance abuse problems. I have learned to have balance. I recognize today that I can
have feelings and accept their significance but I don’t necessarily have to act right away on
them. I can use my rational thought to counter balance the impulsive thought processes I
have, which are usually wrong.
I have to change my thinking in order to deal with life and all its little upsets. The
things that most people take for granted I usually have to consciously think about the
alternative outcomes and use rationality to decide the right choice. It gets easier but
sometimes it is still a struggle. What is considered by most people to be right is dependent
on whether it is felt in the heart or the head and most people can figure that out fairly
easily. I however seem to have to try to figure it out, it take’s me longer I think because I
didn’t have it as a child. I believe this will help me in counseling because I know what
many of my clients are feeling, like the misfit. It should help me to better empathize with
them and better able to help them take responsibility and be accountable for their actions. I
will be able to build a better rapport with the clients.
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2. Michelle DeVore
3/1/06
COUN 225
I have a very keen ability to read non-verbal’s, always have when someone is not
feeling right, and this should give me the ability to be better in tune with my clients, to
better understand what they are really trying to say not so much by what they are saying
but how they are saying it.. I learned that at a very early age it was not what my father
yelled or said but the tone of his voice, the look in his eyes or the way he was holding his
hands that told me what was going on.
According to Goleman the factors of EQ are:
1. Self awareness—knowing and recognizing your own emotions as they happen.
2. Mood management—handling these feelings in the appropriate context of the
situation.
3. Self-motivation—using these feelings to attain a goal.
4. Empathy—the ability to recognize feelings in other people.
5. Managing relationships—ability to handle these feelings as they occur in
relationships and conflict (p. 43).
I am better able to do all these things since I stopped drinking and became affiliated with
AA.
Erikson’s theory contends that having a negative outcome in any one of the stages
has a profound effect on all subsequent stages. However he thinks that one can overcome
the negative later in life and be productive. Goleman also believes this to be true as do I.
Goleman quotes Stern, “An imbalance at one point can be corrected later; it’s an ongoing,
lifelong process” (p. 101). This is referring to the way an infant learns not to rely on its
caregiver, to not trust as Erikson would put it. But I think even in this first stage if trust is
not established it can be repaired later in the life process. For example, I did not develop a
trusting relationship with either of my parents. My mother worked and my father drank.
So in my household dysfunction was the norm. I stuffed emotions so as not to draw
attention to myself and become the target of my father, my mother also did this to try to
keep the peace and my brother did as well for the same reasons. Not developing trust early
in my childhood did hinder many relationships I have had over the years but now I can
look back and realize that in some ways not developing that trust actually helped me
survive. It kept me from trusting people who would have hurt me, I intuitively knew not
all people were kind or helpful and could protect myself.
In response to EQ being able to be learned well I would say definitely yes it can. I
am a prime example. I have experienced first hand the problems of not being emotionally
in tune with others and yourself. It has destroyed the life I thought and dreamed I would
have, but learning to be more emotionally in tune has given me another life, another dream.
I very much liked the concept of ‘flow’. I have experienced this many times. It is
like floating without a care in the world and being in total focus. The concentration is
palpable. Other people tell me that when I am playing pool sometimes it is like I am in a
trance, they try to talk to me but I don’t hear them. I rarely miss when in this zone. But it
is like Goleman talks about, “a state of self-forgetfullness” because I often forget I am in
public (p. 91). I talk to myself out loud and don’t realize it until I get back to my
teammates and they ask me what I said and I usually can’t tell them because I don’t
remember.
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3. Michelle DeVore
3/1/06
COUN 225
I used to have a lot of negative self-talk, but learned in undergraduate how to use
positive self talk to help me attain a goal. I was in speech class and had to give a speech. I
had never done this before and was terrified, but the instructor gave me a book about
positive self talk and I read it and figured I could do that. Goleman talks about this when
he talks about optimism and hope being abilities that can be learned (p. 89). You are onto
this same thing in your self-efficacy study. I used the positive self talk to develop my
competence for talking in front of people and now it doesn’t usually bother me at all. I
have often thought that in school (kindergarten thru 12th) we should be taught not only the
basic skills of reading writing and arithmetic but also the basics of living--how to deal with
our emotions, rationally so they don’t control us.
I used to worry about everything, the bills, a paper I had to write, my car, my
daughter, the cat and on and on. I would keep myself up at night trying to figure out how
to deal with this problem or that one and all it did was make me tired and less able to deal
with what I had to deal with. It is like a vicious circle, worry; once you start it can cascade
into a spiraling tunnel out of which it is hard to escape. I ended up with depression, mild,
but had to take medication for a few months to get out of it. It was like a self-fulfilling
prophecy that Goleman discusses, “Rumination can also make the depression stronger by
creating conditions that are, well, more depressing” (p. 71). If I worried about it long
enough it would happen. Well of course it did because I was too tired and brain frazzled to
stop it from happening. If I worried about forgetting to pay a bill I would be tired and
forget to mail the bill with the check in it then I’d get a disconnect notice and ta-da my
worries were founded.
Anxiety can produce positive and negative outcomes for me. In high school
because of all the tensions at home and my inability to handle my emotions, relationships,
etc., I did not do well academically. I had the capability to be an A student I just didn’t
have the energy. All my time was spent trying to walk on eggshells, not get into too much
trouble a school or dad would find out and that would not be good. But once I was out of
that environment and on my own I could harness the anxiety over a paper or a test to help
me to motivate myself to study. Now I sort of like the anxiety that comes with school
work. Anger also seems to have the same effect on me. When I first stopped drinking I did
it because people said I couldn’t-so just to show them I stayed sober. This is an example of
how anger or anxiety can motivate someone to do something and make it positive from a
negative situation.
This also helps in the area of delayed gratification. Goleman talks about a study that
suggests, “The ability to delay gratification contributes powerfully to intellectual
potential…IQ cannot be changed…ample evidence that emotional skills…can be learned”
(p. 83). I always want what I want and right now, but through learning to regulate my
emotions and have patience I have learned that sometimes patience means a better pay off
then immediate satisfaction. In my schooling this is especially helpful. I am able to break
projects down into manageable pieces so I don’t get overwhelmed. I am able to pace
myself and complete tasks on time. I believe this will help me in counseling because in that
field a counselor needs to work independently and meet deadlines. I think this will help me
with clients because in this field one doesn’t always see the results right away. Some
clients take more motivating and need more assistance so patience and tenacity are helpful
qualities.
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4. Michelle DeVore
3/1/06
COUN 225
Being in touch with my own emotions was a huge hurdle for me once I got sober. I
was usually able to figure out what other people were feeling because of my upbringing. In
my house if dad was happy we all had to be happy if he wasn’t you learned to be in
whatever mood he was in for survival. So learning to be in touch with my emotions was
difficult. I also liked Golemans statements about health being tied to emotional balance. I
knew I was not good at relationships so I would avoid getting close to people. Well all that
did was isolate me and I would get sick, physically. In my first three years of sobriety I
was at the doctors probably 10 times for bronchitis. In my next three years of sobriety,
after I started AA and got into the fellowship and developed some friendships, I have only
been to the doctors twice and neither time was for bronchitis. I definitely believe in the
whole body approach to health, it is not just mental or physical or emotional. I think it is
all inclusive, body, mind, spirit, emotions, and outside and internal.
I understand the books intention of wanting to teach children to deal with emotions
and not let them rule you, but I am not quite sure how to teach that when a child is in a
situation like mine. I mean I am much better now but I am not sure it can realistically be
taught in a classroom, it may be something that has to be learned in the world as I learned
it. If the home life is dysfunctional how will you get the parents involved? Perhaps helping
the child deal with their emotions will help, but it will still be hard to overcome those
negatives. Teachers and the faculty at schools can only do so much. Other relatives are
usually so confused with the situation they may not be much help. I think this is a great
idea just a little too utopian in the real world. Golemans says, “Emotional lessons—even
the most deeply implanted habits of the heart learned in childhood—can be reshaped.
Emotional learning is lifelong” (p.214). I think he is conveying the same sentiment, that
this is a great idea but may need to be taught through life’s lessons rather then a schools
curriculum. But I liked the book and that is one of the reasons I am going into this
profession, to help as much as I can; so I think I will incorporate some of the ideas from
this book into my work with clients.
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