This document provides guidance on overcoming shyness and intimidation in 4 parts:
1. Understanding shyness - Shyness often stems from weak self-image, lack of confidence, and being preoccupied with others' opinions. It involves accepting one's shyness and identifying anxiety-inducing triggers.
2. Conquering your mind - Focus on others, visualize success, practice good posture and speaking clearly, and emphasize personal strengths rather than comparing to others.
3. Conquering social situations - Get informed, think of conversations in stages, start conversations, appear approachable through smiles and eye contact.
4. Challenging yourself - Set small daily goals, find
Shyness (also called diffidence) is the feeling of apprehension, lack of comfort, or awkwardness especially when a person is around other people. This commonly occurs in new situations or with unfamiliar people. Shyness can be a characteristic of people who have low self-esteem.
We’ve both experienced different variations of shyness, and through practice and increased awareness we have both overcome this. The following are tips that have helped us overcome this uncomfortable feeling.
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Instructor: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes PhD, LPC-MHSP, LMHC, NCC, SPARC, CDRC
Objectives
Explore the function of anger
Identify the costs and benefits of anger
Identify anger triggers
Rejection/Isolation
Failure
Loss of control
The unknown
Explore multiple skills necessary for Anger Management:
Mindful self-awareness
Distress tolerance
Values clarification/Goal setting
Motivational enhancement skills
Cognitive behavioral skills
Cognitive processing skills
Communication skills
Compassion focused skills
Self-esteem building skills
Wellness skills (Vulnerability identification and prevention)
In the current competitive environment we get hit by pressures from all quarters. Controlling on our anger helps us to build the positive attitude to handle all pressures.
Shyness (also called diffidence) is the feeling of apprehension, lack of comfort, or awkwardness especially when a person is around other people. This commonly occurs in new situations or with unfamiliar people. Shyness can be a characteristic of people who have low self-esteem.
We’ve both experienced different variations of shyness, and through practice and increased awareness we have both overcome this. The following are tips that have helped us overcome this uncomfortable feeling.
The video for this presentation is available on our Youtube channel:
https://youtube.com/allceuseducation A continuing education course for this presentation can be found at https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/index?c=
Continuing education can be purchased for this at https://www.allceus.com/member/cart/index/search?q=anger
Instructor: Dr. Dawn-Elise Snipes PhD, LPC-MHSP, LMHC, NCC, SPARC, CDRC
Objectives
Explore the function of anger
Identify the costs and benefits of anger
Identify anger triggers
Rejection/Isolation
Failure
Loss of control
The unknown
Explore multiple skills necessary for Anger Management:
Mindful self-awareness
Distress tolerance
Values clarification/Goal setting
Motivational enhancement skills
Cognitive behavioral skills
Cognitive processing skills
Communication skills
Compassion focused skills
Self-esteem building skills
Wellness skills (Vulnerability identification and prevention)
In the current competitive environment we get hit by pressures from all quarters. Controlling on our anger helps us to build the positive attitude to handle all pressures.
Shyness is very common in young children and teenagers because those are times when a person goes through many important changes. New and unfamiliar situations can bring out shy feelings — like the first day of school, meeting someone new, or speaking in front of a group for the first time.
Like other emotions, shy feelings can be mild, medium, or intense — depending on the situation and the person. Someone who usually or often feels shy might think of himself or herself as a shy person. People who are shy may need more time to get used to change. They might prefer to stick with what's familiar.
People who are shy often hesitate before trying something new. They often prefer watching others before joining in on a group activity. They usually take longer to warm up to new people and situations.
Sometimes being quiet and introverted is a sign that someone has a naturally shy personality. But that's not always the case. Being quiet is not always the same as being shy.
Knowing your strengths, weaknesses, vulnerabilities, thoughts, and feelings is a big step towards knowing who you really are.
Self-awareness is the key to preventing the emotional drama that guides your reactions to situations and other people.
Shyness is very common in young children and teenagers because those are times when a person goes through many important changes. New and unfamiliar situations can bring out shy feelings — like the first day of school, meeting someone new, or speaking in front of a group for the first time.
Like other emotions, shy feelings can be mild, medium, or intense — depending on the situation and the person. Someone who usually or often feels shy might think of himself or herself as a shy person. People who are shy may need more time to get used to change. They might prefer to stick with what's familiar.
People who are shy often hesitate before trying something new. They often prefer watching others before joining in on a group activity. They usually take longer to warm up to new people and situations.
Sometimes being quiet and introverted is a sign that someone has a naturally shy personality. But that's not always the case. Being quiet is not always the same as being shy.
Knowing your strengths, weaknesses, vulnerabilities, thoughts, and feelings is a big step towards knowing who you really are.
Self-awareness is the key to preventing the emotional drama that guides your reactions to situations and other people.
Practical tips on improving your confidence.
There are people who live “normal lives” and appear to be “just fine,” but due to their problems with confidence often stumble over obstacles they should never be stumbling over.
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2. OVERCOMING SHYNESS &
INTIMIDATION
Part 1 : Understanding Your Shyness
Definition:
Shyness is a state of being nervous or timid in the company of people.
1. Think about the root of your shyness:
3. Contd.
Shyness doesn’t necessarily mean being an
introvert or not liking yourself.
It means for some reason you get embarrassed
when the spotlight (attention) is on you.
Roots of Shyness
Shyness is generally symptoms of a larger
problem;
Weak Self-image
Lack of belief in complements
Preoccupied with what people will say about your
performance
You are labelled as shy by others
5. Contd.
The 1st step in overcoming a problem
is accepting that you have a problem
Accept that you are shy & be
comfortable with it
The more you resist it consciously or
unconsciously, the longer it prevails
6. 3. Figure out your triggers
What or which situations triggers your shyness most. Do
you become shy;
In front of new audience?
When learning a new skill?
When venturing into a new situation?
When surrounded by people you know & admire?
When u don’t know anyone somewhere? Etc.
Definitely you do not feel shy in all situations. You may be
okay around family & friends b’cos you know them better.
So try hard to see strangers as family & friends
Meaning it may not be you who is shy but situations make
u shy.
7. 4. Make a list of situations that
make you feel anxious
Anxiety is a feeling of worry,
nervousness, or unease about
something with an uncertain outcome.
List them from the things that make you
feel the least anxious to those that that
cause you the most anxiety
8. Anxiety Situations
For example, ‘talking in front of people’
may be a trigger but u can be more
specific;
Talking in front of those who have
authority
Talking to those u find attractive
Talking to those who are older
Talking to those who are more educated
than you
Talking to ladies/guys, etc.
9. 5. Conquer the list
Once the list is completed, start
working through them.
Start dealing with the easy situations
to boost your confidence
Take it at your own pace, no rush
Try a few times on each one even if
you are successful before you move to
the next on the list
Don’t worry about the setbacks
10. Part 2: Conquering your mind
Always know that your are the ruler of your mind.
Place your attention on others (esp. people you are familiar
with)
- Concentrate on compassion. Felling sympathetic or
even empathetic helps boost your confidence
Visualize success – Keep your focus on the crown, the
praise & recommendations
Practice good posture – It has the tendency to boost your
confidence. Your body emulates your feeling. Research
shows that good posture makes us feel authoritative,
confident & reduces stress.
Practice speaking clearly to yourself – Loving hearing
yourself or your own voice (eg. Record yourself). Practice
makes habits
Don’t compare yourself to others – Develop your own self
esteem
Identify your social values & strengths and take advantage of
them. SWOT
11. Part 3: Conquering Social
Situations
1. Get informed –
- read wide & often
- Ask questions
- Know your environment
12. Contd.
2. Think of conversations in stages
Stage 1: Simple opening line, small talk
at its finest
Stage 2: Introductions. Shd be self
explanatory
Stage 3: Find some common ground, a
topic you can both discuss but
pick your strengths
Stage 4: Closing – summing up &
exchanging information
13. Contd.
3. Start the conversation
4. Look & act approachable
- Keep your smiles visible
- Have a friendly atitude
- Keep your arms uncrossed
- Be polite at all times
5. Smile & make eye contact
14. Part 4: Challenging Yourself
Set goals for yourself
- Focus on small, daily accomplishment
- Gradually become more daring
Find your comfortable zones – place,
topic, environment, etc.
Practice placing yourself in the not-so-
comfortable zones
Introduce yourself to one new person
each day
Put yourself out there
