Listening to children is important for communication and development. Parents should make time to listen to their children, whether through daily conversations, reading together, or setting aside special listening times. Effective listening involves making eye contact, reflecting back what the child said to confirm understanding, and responding supportively without criticism. It is also important to respect the child's privacy and views. Seeking help from organizations can support parents struggling to communicate with their children.
Your Life Satisfaction Score (beta) is an indicator of how you thrive in your life: it reflects how well you shape your lifestyle, habits and behaviors to maximize your overall life satisfaction along the five following dimensions:
►1. Health & fitness, reflecting your physical well-being and healthy habits;
►2. Positive emotions & gratitude, indicating how well you embrace positive emotions;
►3. Skills & expertise, measuring the ability to grow your expertise and achieve something unique;
►4. Social skills & discovery, assessing the strength of your network and your inclination to discover the world;
►5. Leadership & meaning, gauging your compassion, generosity and how much 'you are living the life of your dream'.
Visit www.Authentic-Happiness.com to check your Life Satisfaction score. Free, no registration required.
Your Life Satisfaction Score (beta) is an indicator of how you thrive in your life: it reflects how well you shape your lifestyle, habits and behaviors to maximize your overall life satisfaction along the five following dimensions:
►1. Health & fitness, reflecting your physical well-being and healthy habits;
►2. Positive emotions & gratitude, indicating how well you embrace positive emotions;
►3. Skills & expertise, measuring the ability to grow your expertise and achieve something unique;
►4. Social skills & discovery, assessing the strength of your network and your inclination to discover the world;
►5. Leadership & meaning, gauging your compassion, generosity and how much 'you are living the life of your dream'.
Visit www.Authentic-Happiness.com to check your Life Satisfaction score. Free, no registration required.
The Eight (8) [plus 1] Psychosocial Stages of Development by Erik EriksonLevy Galorpo
This is the Theory of psychosocial development of a person. Here we can discover also that there are actually 9 stages because the 9th one came from his main collaborator and wife Joan Erikson.
This slide report was made for Continuing Professional Education at Colegio de Santa Teresa de Avila, Zabarte Subdivision, Novaliches, Quezon City
Sex education in India to the organised delivery by Indian governments and non-profits of material regarding sex, sexuality, and pregnancy. The three categories of sex education in India are the sex education courses targeted at adolescents in school, family planning for adults, and HIV/AIDS Prevention Education
A generation gap is widening in the workplace. As baby boomers (ages 51 to 69 or so) express reluctance about retiring, so-called millennials (roughly ages 18 to 34) have become the single largest demographic in the American labor force. Because of this, more older workers have found themselves being hired and managed by people much younger than they are.
The Eight (8) [plus 1] Psychosocial Stages of Development by Erik EriksonLevy Galorpo
This is the Theory of psychosocial development of a person. Here we can discover also that there are actually 9 stages because the 9th one came from his main collaborator and wife Joan Erikson.
This slide report was made for Continuing Professional Education at Colegio de Santa Teresa de Avila, Zabarte Subdivision, Novaliches, Quezon City
Sex education in India to the organised delivery by Indian governments and non-profits of material regarding sex, sexuality, and pregnancy. The three categories of sex education in India are the sex education courses targeted at adolescents in school, family planning for adults, and HIV/AIDS Prevention Education
A generation gap is widening in the workplace. As baby boomers (ages 51 to 69 or so) express reluctance about retiring, so-called millennials (roughly ages 18 to 34) have become the single largest demographic in the American labor force. Because of this, more older workers have found themselves being hired and managed by people much younger than they are.
For most teenagers, puberty comes like a runaway train pulling boxcars of raging hormones creating a powerful combination of physical and mental challenges. The process of teaching the kids about these changes in their bodies and minds can be daunting. However talking to your child about puberty, can definitely help them get through this phase of change. It’s a known fact that during puberty in boys and girls, they worry about being “normal”. Many children are seen to lose their self-esteem, as they enter adolescence much earlier than their friends. Others feel embarrassed when they realize that everyone has gone through it except them. If this is the case, hold on! Try not to dramatize the conversation otherwise, it can make things more awkward and uncomfortable for the teenage mind. The key here is “communication”. Talking to them about what they are going through is very important in helping them understand it’s normal.
CHAPTER 10 EMOTIONAL AND SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT IN EARLY CHILDHOODMy.docxrobert345678
CHAPTER 10 EMOTIONAL AND SOCIAL DEVELOPMENT IN EARLY CHILDHOOD
My Family
Kyan Swa Lin, 9 years, MyanmarParental warmth, involvement, and playfulness are linked to children’s emotional and social competence. And as this image makes clear, gender typing is well underway during the preschool years. Chapter 10 considers these and other facets of early childhood emotional and social development.
Reprinted with permission from The International Museum of Children’s Art, Oslo, Norway
WHAT’S AHEAD IN CHAPTER 10
10.1 Self-Understanding
Foundations of Self-Concept • Emergence of Self-Esteem
■ Cultural Influences: Cultural Variations in Personal Storytelling: Implications for Early Self-Concept
10.2 Emotional Development
Understanding Emotion • Emotional Self-Regulation • Self-Conscious Emotions • Empathy and Sympathy
10.3 Peer Relations
Advances in Peer Sociability • First Friendships • Peer Relations and School Readiness • Social Problem Solving • Parental Influences on Early Peer Relations
10.4 Foundations of Morality and Aggression
The Psychoanalytic Perspective • Social Learning Theory • The Cognitive-Developmental Perspective • Development of Aggression
■ Cultural Influences: Ethnic Differences in the Consequences of Physical Punishment
10.5 Gender Typing
Gender-Stereotyped Beliefs and Behaviors • Biological Influences on Gender Typing • Environmental Influences on Gender Typing • Gender Identity • Reducing Gender Stereotyping in Young Children
■ Biology and Environment: Transgender Children
10.6 Child Rearing and Emotional and Social Development
Styles of Child Rearing • What Makes Authoritative Child Rearing Effective? • Cultural Variations • Child Maltreatment
As the children in Leslie’s classroom moved through the preschool years, their personalities took on clearer definition. By age 3, they voiced firm likes and dislikes as well as new ideas about themselves. “Stop bothering me,” Sammy said to Mark, who had reached for Sammy’s beanbag as Sammy aimed it toward the mouth of a large clown face. “See, I’m great at this game,” Sammy announced with confidence, an attitude that kept him trying, even though he missed most of the throws.
The children’s conversations also revealed early notions about morality. Often they combined statements about right and wrong with forceful attempts to defend their own desires. “You’re ‘posed to share,” stated Mark, grabbing the beanbag out of Sammy’s hand.
“I was here first! Gimme it back,” demanded Sammy, pushing Mark. The two boys struggled until Leslie intervened, provided an extra set of beanbags, and showed them how they could both play.
As the interaction between Sammy and Mark reveals, preschoolers quickly become complex social beings. Young children argue, grab, and push, but cooperative exchanges are far more frequent. Between ages 2 and 6, first friendships form, in which children converse, act out complementary roles, and learn that their own desires for companionship and toys are best met when they.
TES and The Communication Trust Supplement 3 September 2012Fiona Salvage
A supplement produced in conjunction with The Communication Trust, and supported by BT. The supplement was published to coincide with the back to school element of the Hello campaign - the national year of communication in the UK.
Respond to the students Do you agree with each learners comment.docxcarlstromcurtis
Respond to the students Do you agree with each learner's comments? Why or why not? What can you add from research you have found or from your own experience?
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Temperament is described as personality, makeup, or disposition of a person or child. This is a way in which a child is unique in their own way but the temperament is strongly influenced by heredity. When a child has positive interaction with their parent or environment they are more prone to develop a positive happy temperament. It was stated that when an infant is born they are born with their own temperament. As they grow their temperament begins to change and is influenced by the stability of their experiences. This is when it develops into nature because they are born with a temperament. They show and develop fears, anger and sadness which is also a part of positive growing (Berk and Meyers 2015).
Nurture from temperament develops when a child has a bond with the primary caregiver. When a child experiences a negative environment they are affected and their temperament changes. After reading the different ways temperament are developed I remembered a student I once had a couple years ago. In the beginning of the school year he was emotional but yet he was shy and quiet. He always stayed to himself and didn't interact with the other children or myself. After a month of being in my classroom his temperament began to change. He would come in the class like all the other children cheerful, laughing and on task.
This child went from being withdrawn to being fearless and more active. He played with the boys and spoke with all the other students. In the text Berk and Meyers (2015), states that a positive environment can be change a child's temperament as they grew. Also, because of my temperament which is active and happy the students were much happier. He had shown some evidence of a temperament change from day one until he left my classroom.
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Temperament is described as “early-appearing, stable individual differences in reactivity and self-regulation” (Laura E. Berk, 2016). In regards to temperament as it relates to the parent and child interaction, there are many factors that rear a child’s behavior. The environment that the child is introduced and raised in plays a major role in their emotional development. Take for instance, an aggressive child, in comparison to an outgoing, welcoming child are more than likely being raised in different environments. The aggressive child may experience aggression at home, where he may be unable to express his emotions or do it in a healthy way. His feelings are dismissed and he is more likely to blow up due to his inability to properly communicate. The friendly child, on the other hand, probably is growing up with supportive parents, who encourage them to express themselves.
One particular experience that comes to mind happened to my five-year-old just this week. She was in her Kindergarten class, rea ...
We all want to be the best parents we can be for our children, but there is often conflicting advice on how to raise a kid who is confident, kind, and successful.
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New Drug Discovery and Development .....NEHA GUPTA
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RESULTS: Overall life span (LS) was 2252.1±1742.5 days and cumulative 5-year survival (5YS) reached 73.2%, 10 years – 64.8%, 20 years – 42.5%. 513 LCP lived more than 5 years (LS=3124.6±1525.6 days), 148 LCP – more than 10 years (LS=5054.4±1504.1 days).199 LCP died because of LC (LS=562.7±374.5 days). 5YS of LCP after bi/lobectomies was significantly superior in comparison with LCP after pneumonectomies (78.1% vs.63.7%, P=0.00001 by log-rank test). AT significantly improved 5YS (66.3% vs. 34.8%) (P=0.00000 by log-rank test) only for LCP with N1-2. Cox modeling displayed that 5YS of LCP significantly depended on: phase transition (PT) early-invasive LC in terms of synergetics, PT N0—N12, cell ratio factors (ratio between cancer cells- CC and blood cells subpopulations), G1-3, histology, glucose, AT, blood cell circuit, prothrombin index, heparin tolerance, recalcification time (P=0.000-0.038). Neural networks, genetic algorithm selection and bootstrap simulation revealed relationships between 5YS and PT early-invasive LC (rank=1), PT N0—N12 (rank=2), thrombocytes/CC (3), erythrocytes/CC (4), eosinophils/CC (5), healthy cells/CC (6), lymphocytes/CC (7), segmented neutrophils/CC (8), stick neutrophils/CC (9), monocytes/CC (10); leucocytes/CC (11). Correct prediction of 5YS was 100% by neural networks computing (area under ROC curve=1.0; error=0.0).
CONCLUSIONS: 5YS of LCP after radical procedures significantly depended on: 1) PT early-invasive cancer; 2) PT N0--N12; 3) cell ratio factors; 4) blood cell circuit; 5) biochemical factors; 6) hemostasis system; 7) AT; 8) LC characteristics; 9) LC cell dynamics; 10) surgery type: lobectomy/pneumonectomy; 11) anthropometric data. Optimal diagnosis and treatment strategies for LC are: 1) screening and early detection of LC; 2) availability of experienced thoracic surgeons because of complexity of radical procedures; 3) aggressive en block surgery and adequate lymph node dissection for completeness; 4) precise prediction; 5) adjuvant chemoimmunoradiotherapy for LCP with unfavorable prognosis.
The prostate is an exocrine gland of the male mammalian reproductive system
It is a walnut-sized gland that forms part of the male reproductive system and is located in front of the rectum and just below the urinary bladder
Function is to store and secrete a clear, slightly alkaline fluid that constitutes 10-30% of the volume of the seminal fluid that along with the spermatozoa, constitutes semen
A healthy human prostate measures (4cm-vertical, by 3cm-horizontal, 2cm ant-post ).
It surrounds the urethra just below the urinary bladder. It has anterior, median, posterior and two lateral lobes
It’s work is regulated by androgens which are responsible for male sex characteristics
Generalised disease of the prostate due to hormonal derangement which leads to non malignant enlargement of the gland (increase in the number of epithelial cells and stromal tissue)to cause compression of the urethra leading to symptoms (LUTS
New Directions in Targeted Therapeutic Approaches for Older Adults With Mantl...i3 Health
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This slide deck presented by Dr. Kami Maddocks, Professor-Clinical in the Division of Hematology and
Associate Division Director for Ambulatory Operations
The Ohio State University Comprehensive Cancer Center, will provide insight into new directions in targeted therapeutic approaches for older adults with mantle cell lymphoma.
STATEMENT OF NEED
Mantle cell lymphoma (MCL) is a rare, aggressive B-cell non-Hodgkin lymphoma (NHL) accounting for 5% to 7% of all lymphomas. Its prognosis ranges from indolent disease that does not require treatment for years to very aggressive disease, which is associated with poor survival (Silkenstedt et al, 2021). Typically, MCL is diagnosed at advanced stage and in older patients who cannot tolerate intensive therapy (NCCN, 2022). Although recent advances have slightly increased remission rates, recurrence and relapse remain very common, leading to a median overall survival between 3 and 6 years (LLS, 2021). Though there are several effective options, progress is still needed towards establishing an accepted frontline approach for MCL (Castellino et al, 2022). Treatment selection and management of MCL are complicated by the heterogeneity of prognosis, advanced age and comorbidities of patients, and lack of an established standard approach for treatment, making it vital that clinicians be familiar with the latest research and advances in this area. In this activity chaired by Michael Wang, MD, Professor in the Department of Lymphoma & Myeloma at MD Anderson Cancer Center, expert faculty will discuss prognostic factors informing treatment, the promising results of recent trials in new therapeutic approaches, and the implications of treatment resistance in therapeutic selection for MCL.
Target Audience
Hematology/oncology fellows, attending faculty, and other health care professionals involved in the treatment of patients with mantle cell lymphoma (MCL).
Learning Objectives
1.) Identify clinical and biological prognostic factors that can guide treatment decision making for older adults with MCL
2.) Evaluate emerging data on targeted therapeutic approaches for treatment-naive and relapsed/refractory MCL and their applicability to older adults
3.) Assess mechanisms of resistance to targeted therapies for MCL and their implications for treatment selection
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Tom Selleck Health: A Comprehensive Look at the Iconic Actor’s Wellness Journeygreendigital
Tom Selleck, an enduring figure in Hollywood. has captivated audiences for decades with his rugged charm, iconic moustache. and memorable roles in television and film. From his breakout role as Thomas Magnum in Magnum P.I. to his current portrayal of Frank Reagan in Blue Bloods. Selleck's career has spanned over 50 years. But beyond his professional achievements. fans have often been curious about Tom Selleck Health. especially as he has aged in the public eye.
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Introduction
Many have been interested in Tom Selleck health. not only because of his enduring presence on screen but also because of the challenges. and lifestyle choices he has faced and made over the years. This article delves into the various aspects of Tom Selleck health. exploring his fitness regimen, diet, mental health. and the challenges he has encountered as he ages. We'll look at how he maintains his well-being. the health issues he has faced, and his approach to ageing .
Early Life and Career
Childhood and Athletic Beginnings
Tom Selleck was born on January 29, 1945, in Detroit, Michigan, and grew up in Sherman Oaks, California. From an early age, he was involved in sports, particularly basketball. which played a significant role in his physical development. His athletic pursuits continued into college. where he attended the University of Southern California (USC) on a basketball scholarship. This early involvement in sports laid a strong foundation for his physical health and disciplined lifestyle.
Transition to Acting
Selleck's transition from an athlete to an actor came with its physical demands. His first significant role in "Magnum P.I." required him to perform various stunts and maintain a fit appearance. This role, which he played from 1980 to 1988. necessitated a rigorous fitness routine to meet the show's demands. setting the stage for his long-term commitment to health and wellness.
Fitness Regimen
Workout Routine
Tom Selleck health and fitness regimen has evolved. adapting to his changing roles and age. During his "Magnum, P.I." days. Selleck's workouts were intense and focused on building and maintaining muscle mass. His routine included weightlifting, cardiovascular exercises. and specific training for the stunts he performed on the show.
Selleck adjusted his fitness routine as he aged to suit his body's needs. Today, his workouts focus on maintaining flexibility, strength, and cardiovascular health. He incorporates low-impact exercises such as swimming, walking, and light weightlifting. This balanced approach helps him stay fit without putting undue strain on his joints and muscles.
Importance of Flexibility and Mobility
In recent years, Selleck has emphasized the importance of flexibility and mobility in his fitness regimen. Understanding the natural decline in muscle mass and joint flexibility with age. he includes stretching and yoga in his routine. These practices help prevent injuries, improve posture, and maintain mobilit
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Ethanol (CH3CH2OH), or beverage alcohol, is a two-carbon alcohol
that is rapidly distributed in the body and brain. Ethanol alters many
neurochemical systems and has rewarding and addictive properties. It
is the oldest recreational drug and likely contributes to more morbidity,
mortality, and public health costs than all illicit drugs combined. The
5th edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders
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disorder called alcohol use disorder (AUD), with mild, moderate,
and severe subclassifications (American Psychiatric Association, 2013).
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from mild to severe. A diagnosis of AUD requires that at least two of
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AUD: 2–3 criteria; moderate AUD: 4–5 criteria; severe AUD: 6–11 criteria).
The four main behavioral effects of AUD are impaired control over
drinking, negative social consequences, risky use, and altered physiological
effects (tolerance, withdrawal). This chapter presents an overview
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usually well adjusted and self-confident, while
those whose needs are ignored may be withdrawn or difficult and suffer
from low self-esteem.
Parents who cannot communicate well with their children are more likely to resort
to smacking and hitting in moments of frustration. Communicating with your child
is also vital in preventing child abuse, including providing your child with information
on keeping safe, and being there to offer help and protection.
We’ve collected the best advice
from professionals, as well as some
top tips from parents, to help you
communicate with your child,
whatever their age.
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Did you know?
Your baby can recognise you and
your partner’s voice soon after
birth. This is because, while in
the womb, your baby will have
heard you talking and so your
You can start listening to your
baby from the very beginning.
Tips to help you voices will be familiar as soon as
she is born.
Smiling, stroking, cuddling, cope with crying If you run out of patience, remember
talking to your baby and • Rock your baby in a pram or that being angry with your baby will
only make the crying worse. You don’t
making eye contact are all cradle or try going on a car ride,
need to be ashamed of your feelings
as these can often work like magic.
ways of communicating. – most parents feel angry with their
• Walk up and down with him or try children at some time. Go off and
From the very first day after birth, your carrying him close to you in a sling. cool down, or take your anger out
baby will be listening to you and in a few • Sing or talk gently to him, or try on the cushions or have a good cry
weeks you will be rewarded by smiles playing a tape of womb sounds or yourself. Go back and deal with your
and those first cooing sounds gentle music as this can sometimes baby once you feel calm again.
– your baby is talking to you. help very young babies. If your baby cries persistently, ask
your health visitor for advice or ring
“I’ve read to my baby since he • Some babies find the sound of
Of course, crying is a very important a helpline like Cry-sis.
part of your baby’s language too. If your
was a few months old. He loves white noise, such as a vacuum
baby still cries after you have done all listening to me doing different cleaner or washing machine, soothing.
the obvious checks – for hunger and voices, actions and songs, and • Try swaddling – wrapping your baby
thirst, wind, changing nappies, not being he tries to turn the pages! My very firmly inside a light shawl. This
too hot or too cold, or even just bored gives some babies the secure feeling
with their own company – you might six-year-old is brilliant at reading
of being back in the womb.
begin to feel desperate. but still loves us to read to him.”
• Don’t be too quick to put your baby
Sonia, mum of Louis, 6, and Frankie,
back in his cot if he begins to
Remember 13 months calm down.
• Crying is perfectly normal behaviour • If your baby is very keen on sucking
for a new baby. In the first few and you’re sure he’s not hungry or
Find out more
months of life, a baby spends on thirsty, you may want to try a
average at least two hours in every dummy, but make sure it’s clean,
24-hour period crying. and never dip it into anything sweet.
• Crying is meant to be a sound that
Cry-sis • Cuddling your baby is usually the
parents find difficult to ignore. This
Provides support and advice best tip of all. If you can relax and
is nature’s way of ensuring that your
regarding excessively crying don’t feel too tense, you are the
baby’s needs are met.
or sleepless babies. best comfort your baby can have.
• Crying is neither your fault nor your
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4. right. It is a great confidence-booster make opportunities for conversation,
and praise works better than preferably when your child is not
criticism!” Shobha, mum of Rafi, 3 overtired from a long day at school.
• Try to answer all of your • Spend some time reading
child’s questions with your child
As your child listens to you and looks This helps improve both her listening
to you, they build up a picture of and her language skills, and will give
themselves. “I used to tell my son ‘not you both a starting point to talk about
now’ or ‘go away’ when I was too tired your child’s thoughts and feelings.
to answer his questions, then I realised
that I wasn’t helping him to learn. • Set aside some special
choices to listening time
Give children
Reminding myself of this now makes
el listened it easier to cope and my son remembers “If you’re busy or too tired, it can be
help them fe all of my answers!” Nicola, mum of
want to hard to make time to listen to your
to: “Do you Kieron, 8 child. You might find it easier to set
e or pink
wear the blu • Look out for warning signs
aside a special part of the day, such
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socks today If your child seems unhappy or
as just before your child goes to
bed. You need to be flexible though.
reluctant to talk, it might be a sign
Listening as
Sometimes small children just can’t
that something is wrong. It might be wait to talk about something that is
that she feels you are not interested important to them.”
in what she is saying, or wants Eileen Hayes,
to tell you something that she finds NSPCC parenting advisor
your child grows up
difficult to explain. Ensure that you
Visit your local library
Reading out aloud is great
for your relationship with
your child. Why not try
Children learn to talk by listening • Fit listening easily into your visiting your local library
to adults speaking directly to daily routine and choosing some books
Talk about the things you see when
them. By the time your child is you are on the bus, walking to the that you and your child
three or four and has mastered shops, at the supermarket or during can read together?
quite a lot of language, she will bath time. You could sing or recite
a nursery rhyme to your baby when
want to practise it as much as changing her nappy, or read a
possible, and will use it to learn book together.
about the rest of her world. This • Give plenty of encouragement
may mean endless chattering When your child is learning to talk,
and “why?” questions. Try to they will probably use funny words
of their own and are bound to get
listen and answer as patiently some words mixed up. “I shower Rafi
as you can. with praise whenever he gets words
5. Listening to
• Get help if you need it
If you are worried that your child has
a particular problem – for example
problems at school or with friends,
older children
such as bullying, relationships, being
the victim of racist attitudes, or a
problem with drugs or alcohol – you
may need to get professional advice.
Some of the organisations listed in
the section on special difficulties in
this booklet might be able to help.
Most of the tips about listening
to younger children apply to
older children too, but older
children also have their own
different needs. their parents, but they still need you.
However independent your children
Being a parent to teenagers can be a seem, let them know that you’ll
challenging, worrying and sometimes always be there to offer comfort
distressing time. While your teenager is and support.
pushing for independence, you can feel
rejected, criticised and confused. Here • Remember what it’s like
are some tips to help you through. to be a teenager
The teen years can be a trying time,
• Make it clear that you want
both for parents and for children.
to be involved Teenagers may behave like an adult
If you find that your child never one minute and like a toddler the next.
wants to talk to you about anything,
you may need to work really hard at • Respect your child’s privacy
it. A good start is to make it clear Older children particularly need
that you are interested in them and privacy. They need their own space,
in what they do. time to themselves, and the right not
to communicate about certain areas
• Respect your child’s views of their lives, for example their
Don’t expect him to like everything personal relationships. If you respect
you like or agree with everything you their privacy, they are more likely to
say. The teenage years are a time confide in you.
of testing out opinions and people,
including parents. Your teenage child • Don’t impose your ideas
is more likely to respect your views if It is fine to state that you have different
you respect his views too. views, and your teenager still needs you
to when
• Let your child know you’re
to be clear about acceptable limits to
“Think back
enager.
you were a te ou
their behaviour. However, imposing all
there for them your attitudes, or trying to force him to lp y
Older children need to learn how to agree with your point of view, will only That can he
d’s point
live without the constant support of make things worse. see your chil
of view.”
6. Parents ta lk about listening
Top NSPCC parenting advisor
Eileen Hayes responds with advice
for three parents talking about
communicating with their children.
Even when parents are ready to talk and
listen to their children, there can still be problems. It’s not
always easy to understand what children are trying to tell us.
Interruptions Whining
“My daughter always interrupts when “I don’t feel I have any choice about
I’m talking to her dad. What can I do?” listening. My son whines all the time.
Liz, mum of Rebecca, 5 I just want to switch off.” Dai, dad of
Owen, 7
Eileen “Her interruptions may be a
way of trying to get your attention. Eileen “Perhaps you need to make
However, if you do make a time to listen time to sit quietly with him and respond
to her, explain that you also need time carefully to what he is saying. Once he
to discuss things together as parents. realises there are special times when he
Young children often demand immediate has all your positive attention, perhaps
Find out more
attention and will interrupt. As they he won’t need to whine. Try to avoid
grow older they will realise that they can getting into the habit of only responding
remember to say things later and will when he whines loudly. This negative
interrupt less often.” attention will only make things worse.”
Parents Advice Centre Gotateenager
(Northern Ireland) www.gotateenager.org.uk
Pressure to deliver www.parentsadvicecentre.org
0808 8010 722
(Provided by Parentline Plus)
“I try to listen to my son’s needs, but I can’t always be expected to meet them.” ParentsCentre online
Raymond, dad of Adam, 3 Parentline Plus www.parentscentre.gov.uk
www.parentlineplus.org.uk
Your Family
Eileen “Listening is not the same as always giving in. For example, if your toddler 0808 800 2222
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you’ve listened by saying something like ‘I know you’re cross that you can’t have www.yourfamily.org.uk
any sweets’.”
7. Some talking and
Remember
It’s important to listen to
yourself and how you are
feeling. Watch out for early
listening tips
warning signs of stress, such
as headaches or tiredness,
and take steps to improve
things if you need to.
Once you’ve got into the habit • Involve your children in
of making time to talk and family discussions
Depending on their age, allow your
listen to your children, you children opportunities to have a say,
might find these tips useful. such as on changes to routines and
where to go for holidays.
• Give your full attention • Don’t be too critical talk about this but explain that it isn’t
If your child wants to tell you • Respect your child Try not to put your child off talking their fault. Don’t expect them to offer
something, try to stop what you’re Remember that your child’s idea to you, for example by saying things you emotional support.
doing so that you can listen carefully. of what is important may be very like “That was stupid,” “Why can’t
If that’s not practical, explain that you different from yours. Try to remember you be more sensible,” or “Grow up.” • Don’t brush problems aside
need to finish what you’re doing, and this when they want to tell you Hurtful words can damage If you encourage your children to talk,
then you’ll be able to listen properly. something urgently, even if you self-esteem. Try to make positive you are bound to hear things that
are busy. remarks instead. might disappoint or upset you.
• Let them speak first Don’t brush problems aside. Find
Look directly at your child while she • Don’t shout or nag ways of coping with them, and get
is talking. For small children this Children soon learn to ignore nagging. help if necessary.
means getting down to their level. Only shout if you need to warn your
Don’t rush to respond. Otherwise you child urgently. Then it will have the If you have more than one child, it
won’t really hear what is being said. right effect. can be especially hard to give your
children the listening time they need.
• Practise reflective listening • Reassure your child’s worries Try to work out a way of giving
with small children If your children seem worried or upset each child some special time. But
This means checking that you have by your problems, such as money or remember to set aside some time
understood what your child has said, relationship difficulties, it is best to for yourself too.
by using phrases like “So do you
mean that…?” in order to clarify things.
“The hardest thing is giving each child enough attention. After school
• Let your child know that you each boy is eager to talk about their day and I make a conscious effort
understand how he feels to listen to everybody. They get quality time from each other too,
Sometimes it helps to say something making camps, creating imaginary worlds… Occasionally someone
like “I know you’re feeling sad,” or
“You must be feeling very angry to
says, ‘Four children – are you mad?’, but a big family is so much fun.
say something like that.” Never Their social skills are great and there’s always someone to play with.”
dismiss your child’s feelings. James, dad of Jack, 10, Scott, 8, Will, 5, and Henry, 2.
8. Some s pecial difficulties Death Teasing and bullying
If someone you and your child love Let your child know that you
There can be many reasons has died, let him talk about it and understand how she feels. Talk about
why parents and children find be sad. Don’t hide the fact that you what happens, and together try to find
it hard to communicate. These are grieving too. This will help him to ways of coping. Help her to learn how
learn that it’s OK to cry and feel sad to show bullies that she won’t put up
pages give some examples of when someone close to you dies, with it. If the problem occurs at school
difficult areas and suggestions but that sooner or later, life goes on. and is serious, you must involve a
You may need to prepare yourself to teacher. Never ignore bullying or hope
for dealing with them, along with answer questions about the nature it will just go away.
details of other organisations of death.
Kidscape
that may be able to help. Cruse Bereavement Care Provides information on bullying and
www.crusebereavementcare.org.uk keeping children safe.
0844 477 9400 www.kidscape.org.uk
Children with serious illness Relationship difficulties
Young person’s helpline 020 7730 3300
or disability If you have serious problems in your
relationship with your partner, your 0808 808 1677 YoungMinds
If your child has a serious illness or
a disability, communication children may well suffer, and you Cruse Bereavement Care Scotland Promotes the mental health of
may be more difficult. You may probably won’t have the time or www.crusescotland.org.uk children and young people.
need to consider other ways of energy to listen to them. If you become 01738 444178 www.youngminds.org.uk
communicating with her and enabling separated or divorced, reassure your 0800 018 2138
her to communicate with others, such child that it is not her fault that your
as through learning sign language if relationship with your partner failed,
she is deaf or hard-of-hearing. and that you both love her as much
as ever.
Contact a Family
Provides advice and support to One Parent Families/Gingerbread
parents of disabled children. www.oneparentfamilies.org.uk
0800 018 5026
www.cafamily.org.uk
0808 808 3555 Relate
A confidential counselling service for
Capability Scotland
relationship problems of any kind.
Provides ASCS
(Advice Service Capability Scotland), www.relate.org.uk
a national disability advice and 0300 100 1234
information service. Relationships Scotland
www.capability-scotland.org.uk Relationship counselling, mediation
0131 313 5510 and family support across Scotland. is different.
“Every child
Textphone 0131 346 2529 www.relationships-scotland.org.uk e special
0845 119 2020 Appreciate th child”
our
qualities of y
9. Racism
If your children tell you that other
Additional resources
children or adults are being racist to
them, explain that racism is totally Use these handy resources with your child:
unfair, and is based on ignorance and
insecurity. If the problem persists and
occurs at school, you will need to In the know
involve a teacher. Aimed at children aged eight to 11, this booklet helps
children to understand the problems faced by those who
If your child expresses racist views, are abused and advises them how to keep safe.
you should explain why such attitudes Download from www.nspcc.org.uk/publications
are unacceptable, and why there
are differences between people.
Remember that children will copy Worried? Need to talk?
you, so be careful not to show them Aimed at young people aged 11 to 18,
unfair prejudices. this booklet provides information about
Equality and Human Rights
Alcohol and drugs ChildLine and other services that are
there to help. Download from
Commission If you suspect your teenager is
www.nspcc.org.uk/publications
www.equalityhumanrights.com drinking heavily, think why it may be
Helpline for England: 0845 604 6610 happening, and encourage them to
Helpline for Wales: 0845 604 8810 think about it too. Beat exam stress
Helpline for Scotland: 0845 604 5510 If your child has been experimenting This booklet for children and young people
with drugs, let her know that you are provides guidance on coping with exams and
Northern Ireland Human Rights the stress they can cause, plus tips on how
Commission confident that she can stop, and
that you will offer her any support to get support. Download from
www.nihrc.org • 028 9024 3987 www.nspcc.org.uk/publications
you can.
Drinkline Scotland
Feel safe at home
Sexism A 24-hour helpline providing support
and advice on any alcohol concerns. Aimed at children aged seven to 12, this
Don’t stereotype your child by booklet uses straightforward language
expecting boys and girls to behave in 0800 7314 314 to explain what domestic violence is,
certain ways and enjoy certain things. FRANK how it can make children feel, and how
Encourage them to do what they Provides advice to anyone affected and where they can get help.
want, regardless of what others think, by drugs. Download from
and make sure they know that their www.nspcc.org.uk/publications
www.talktofrank.com
choice of subjects, jobs and hobbies
0800 776600
does not depend on their sex.
SAFE: personal safety skills for deaf children
Designed for group work use, this DVD-Rom
helps give deaf children and young people
Talking about difficult subjects the knowledge, awareness and language they
Some parents find it difficult to discuss certain topics, such as sex. It is important need to stay safe and make better informed
to give your child clear, honest answers to his questions. Obviously, the answers life choices. For further information and to
will depend on the age of your child and your own values and beliefs. Keep purchase, visit www.nspcc.org.uk/safe
answers simple for very young children.
10. Children and young people
when something’s
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it out of my
up with me, to get
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system and becaus
talk about listening
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I’m going through
and come up
with a solution – so
metimes I just
want to get it out,
not solve it like
I’m a problem.” A
le, 16
“I like my mum and dad to say
they’re listening, and then actually
listen to me and not start doing
something else, or start talking to
someone else because when they
do that, it makes you feel invisible.”
Joss, 13
mum comes
“I like it when my
at school to
into my classroom
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look at my work an
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teachers. She know
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friends are and I te
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I’ve done each day.
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